That's literally the stupidest thing I've ever heard. It's nothing to do with being lazy, it's because baby will want to be close to you, and after multiple, multiple wake ups, it's much better for everyone to do as little moving around as possible so they can get back to sleep quicker.

Trust me he will be begging you for a next2me when you're waking him up in and out of bed and walking across the room every hour.

Not dangerous in the slightest.

Ridiculous.

Let his sister get you a moses basket, you can use it downstairs.

Agree completely with the previous post. We have a Moses basket downstairs and a Next2Me in the bedroom. Not having to get up makes life much easier...it's not lazy! I also find if baby is fussing I can just reach my hand in and soothe her and that often settles her back to sleep without either of us having to physically move. I'd tell my partner that if that's how he felt he could do the entire night feeds and wakes. He'd sharp change his mind!

Yeah I would have the Moses basket for the first 2/3 months in the living room or use the pram for sleeping in the day. You need a next to me or some sort of bedside cot for night time. My next to me ended up lasting until baby was over 7 months old, the Moses basket they will grow out of very quickly. If you wanted one that could do both clair de lune have brought out a big Moses basket that’s the size of a next to me

I would really recommend a next to me crib. Like others have said if baby is unsettled you can put your hand on them to comfort them and say in bed. I feel back to sleep many a night like that. It just sounds like he doesn't want to upset his sister. Like others have said keep the moses basket downstairs x

@Butterflies12 This was so funny I had to giggle. I’m not even surprised that a man said this with no idea of the struggles night feeds will bring.
I would recommend the chicco next2me 1000%. I didn’t have one with my first kids and I was constantly up out of bed checking baby was breathing between feeds. I was exhausted but I just couldn’t settle and kept waking up in a panic. I used the chicco next2me for my last 2 kids and LOVED it. It attaches to your bed and therefore is very safe, even with the side kept down. It’s a life saver if you are having a caesarean, I could barely bend and move after mine. It’s also great if you are planning on giving breastfeeding a try. Cluster feeding can have you awake every couple of hours and sometimes more. Plus if you are a worrier like me, then you may also wake up panicking. Having baby right beside you to check on immediately as you open your eyes is sooooo comforting.
I’m now 26weeks pregnant and have just purchased another chicco next2me magic2 because I love them so much. Not the most aesthetically pleasing compared to others you may find, but they have the largest mattress space which allows baby to sleep beside you for the first 6months very comfortably.
like others have said, I use a Moses basket downstairs. I find they are so narrow that your baby really doesn’t fit in them past 3 or 4 months.

Congratulations on your pregnancy and I hope you get the things you want. Remember that it’s your baby and you will likely be doing the majority of the night feeds. Make it work for you and not other people.

You also don’t need to have the next to me right up against the bed. I had a c section so had it at my husband’s side for the first 2 weeks as it was already near impossible for me to get out of bed without having to negotiate a crib too. After a certain point we moved it over to against the wall in our room. We had the zip down sides but didn’t ever use them, I was always so tired and thought I’d probably fall asleep with it down

I'm sleeping in baby room for first couple of months ...with experience to be fair baby gets up a lot, my partner works I will be on maternity leave, so it's only fair to let him rest. I am 16 weeks pregnant and I got wooden gliding crib but that's for my living room, so I dont have to run up and down during day, just keep baby for day naps downstairs. If you buy any sort of crib, get it second hand as baby uses it max up to 6 months, you can buy them cheaply in great condition.

I guarantee he will be laughing at himself having said this when the baby is here. I did use mine as a separate cot for a while, because I found getting up without dangling my legs awkward but I had my baby in it until 7/8 months as a side cot as loved it so much. Babies just want to be in contact with you all the time and if you are near/ can smell you they will give you more sleep. Well that was my experience, hoping it works again for my next baby. I got it second hand and washed it/bought new mattress, they sell on quite well.

Snuzpod is good.

Anything you can do to conserve energy is good. It's hard. Try to make everything as easy as you can.

We slept with the sides closed for safety. You still need to be good at putting baby back but to be able to do it from sitting is helpful. More so after the first couple of months. In the first couple of months you might wish to stand but to be able to check the baby when you stir a bit at night is helpful. It's reassuring to see everything is ok and get back to sleep quickly

@Butterflies12

My midwife recommended one as you can incline them slightly if the baby has colic or acid reflux.

They are also more convenient for feeding, soothing and changing the baby.

This one can be stand alone and a next to me crib and a very reasonable price

kinderkraft.co.uk/products/baby-cots/co-sleeper-cots/bea

I have it ready for little one to arrive and it's lovely x

Lazy!?! Absolutely not. Baby will want to be as close to you as possible, and you can see or soothe baby quickly in the night. Nothing about it is lazy, though I would say it's still quite hard to lift baby from bed if you're healing, so you might want it on your partner's side at first - then he'll soon change his mind! Moses baskets are good but smaller, we have one downstairs but our two month old has almost outgrown it now.

I have a next to me crib, we don't have the side dropped, and just use as a stand alone crib, but my DD grew out of the moses basket quite quickly, she's 6 1/2 months now and only just starting to get a little big for the next to me, it's been so much better than a moses basket as she's had a lot more room. With the moses basket her arms would hit the sides and she'd wake up when smaller. We just used the moses for naps downstairs.

Oh yes and being able to add easily raise one end when they have a cold, colic or reflux has been brilliant

I had a Moses basket with my first, she was small and grew out of it at 3 months so had no choice but to put her in a cot in her own room which I wasn’t comfortable with. They also always feel a bit rickety.

with my second I had a next to me and they are incredible. She was in until 8.5 months, when she’d wake up I could often settle her my resting my hand on her belly. They are perfectly safe and feel more secure than a Moses basket, baby feels happier being close to you and it’s so much nicer. Tell him to stfu.

the one I had wasn’t flat to the bed, there was a little bit of the side so baby can’t move out of it. He sounds like he’s throwing a bit of a tantrum because you want something else

Your partner has a shock coming when the baby is born 😬
Another vote for Next2Me for the bedroom/night time sleeping. I had a c section and it was wonderful not having to bend/lift in those early healing weeks. Also great for BF (if you choose to go down that route), and settling.
They outgrow moses baskets very quickly. We had one in the living room for daytime naps, but it didn't last very long at all. Next2Me was in use until about 7 months.

I am now 20 weeks pregnant with my second and definitely will be using Next2Me again.

We bought a regular crib (sniglar) and within less then a week after coming home from hospital we had moved it next to our bed for those reasons (soothing the baby without having to get up)!

Loved ours. My eldest had all manner of sleep troubles (severe obstructive sleep apnoea) and having her close to hand was a life saver. Used it again for next baby - I could get both of my twins in it until they were a bit older, and they used it until ready for a bed - one advantage is as they get a bit big they can just stick an arm/leg into the bed so it's wonderfully flexible!

Lazy? Will he be doing at least half of night feeds? And what about while you are recovering from birth? Will he bring you baby for every feed at that stage? Somehow I suspect not.