Due March 2023 - Thread 7

[TeddyBeans]

Lucky number 7! We were so chatty last thread that no babies arrived! Though we do have 3 on the FB group!

Role call

23/2 - @botleybump💓
24/2 -
25/2 -
26/2 - @TeddyBeans💓
27/2 - @Ubbee💙
28/2 - @BabyNumber3OnTheWay💙
1/3 - @Clarps84 💙
2/3 - @BethBeef 💙, @Cams50 💙
3/3 - @LittleAcorn20💛, @LaForza101 💙, @SammyJay5 💓, @pamplemousse19 💓, @Lauren11x 💙, @Whatsforpud 💛
4/3 - @EastyBaby19 💙, @Cdoc💙, @Katdemar 💙
5/3 - @Babynum2 💙, @hopingforarainbow27 💓
6/3 - @allthingssparkly, @Thirdtimesacharm3 💙
7/3 - @GreenIsle 💓, @Noodle20, @Pickles23 💛
8/3 - @Splashh, @June628 💓, @BabyLimey 💛
9/3 - @Penelope_2023, @91mana
10/3 - @iratepirate 💛, @PeonyPops 💓
11/3 - @Chloe1896
12/3 - @Katlouise24 💓
13/3 - @ToffeeEl 💓, @Franklin321 💓, @paulinesmithson 💓
14/3 - @beatingheartbaby 💓, @rainbowbaby233 💙
15/3 - @Hrf1503 💓, @TTC24 💙
16/3 -
17/3 - @Room4onemore 💓, @Cuppasoupmonster 💙, @broomfig 💙
18/3 - @XjustagirlX 💛, @CristinaNov182 💓, @Shep21 💓
19/3 - @Dreamingof3 💓, @alotoftutus 💙, @AK93 💙, @hellosunshineagainxxx 💙, @Allthegirls3 💓
20/3 -
21/3 - @FirstTimeTryer93, @LifeOfRiley1 💛, @Rose429 💓
22/3 - @mrshenny 💓
23/3 - @Choc2022 💛
24/3 - @whydotheyallhaverubbishwheels 💙, @Charlothevet88 💛, @Mrs2022 💛, @Blocklynn 💛
25/3 - @Whywhwhy 💙, @Missy95 💛
26/3 - @purplerain555
27/3 - @Cats23 💓, @firstlittleone 💓, @dmb91 💛, @AGirlsNameIsAryaStark 💛, @hol92 💙, @Amy1303 💛, @Bobduncan 💛, @OonMP 💛
28/3 -
29/3 - @Perexi 💙, @SenecaFalls1848 💛
30/3 - @ChristmasJumpers 💓, @Moonlighting 💙
31/3 - @Baby2iscooking 💛
1/4 - @diamondbutterfly 💓

@havanamama you seem to be missing off the list!? I'm so sorry I missed you 😱

I figured I'd tag everyone this time so noone gets lost 😊 I'm really sorry if I missed you!

I lost mine two weeks ago. Midwife not concerned at all said to only be concerned if regular painful contractions or waters breaking. They can be lost weeks before labour and if lost early re grow x

Anyone got a date for baby? I’ve been given my date for c section today for 38 weeks. Early due to big baby and slight reduction in growth. All my consent forms for c section scanned so baby will be here in next 2/3 ish weeks at the latest. Crazy. Not ready at all still 😂

Interesting about the mucus plug. Does anything in particular dislodge it? I'm guessing dilation but can it just fall out for any other reason? Mine came out when I had the pessary put in last time so a sweep might shift it too?

Had a BP check up today, all good there and urine dip was fine so still on track for my water birth. The midwife doing the appointment said there's two pools at my hospital and they're rarely used so I stand a good chance of getting one 🥳

@Blondewave oooh exciting! What date did they give you?

@Blondewave ive been given 7th March…4 weeks and counting 😍

So we got given date today for c section in just under 3 weeks time at 38 weeks.
my partner has had a bit of a melt down / freak out saying he doesn’t know how he’s going to cope with sleep deprivation and what can I do to support him. I became defensive and was like erm it’s me birthing a baby and going through all the physical changes and he lost it saying it’s always about you. All the doctors appointments everyone asks how you are no one asks me. I was like no because I’m the pregnant one 🤷🏼‍♀️ Is anyone else’s partner acted like that? Am I unreasonable that I’m pissed off about it. He’s basically said he can’t handle no sleep as his mental health deteriorates. This is stress I don’t need before a baby 😳🥴

@Blondewave as gently as possible and as much as it seems like he's being a dick, PND affects men too so I would be wary of getting too riled up by it. Yes he's making it about him when it literally is all about you and baby but his feelings are important as well. He probably needs to know you've got a little bit of headspace left for him because both of your lives are going to be changing forever

Is this the first time he has brought it up?
Surely you guys talked during the pregnancy, if not earlier about how it will change your lives?

I would leave him to cool down but then have a discussion and a plan of how you will cope if for example you have a difficult recovery, but he's unable to support you due to poor mental health.

No so basically I already have a child who is nearly 12 from another relationship so he says I know what to expect. It’s his first baby and he’s scared now. I had a traumatic birth and subsequently severe post natal depression. So I’m under the mental health team after birth they have asked him to support me as much as possible as I’ll be mobility limited for first few days after c section. He was cool about it all...and we’ve talked about it. He said I’ll look after you and you look after the baby. I said how about you do a feed at 12 and then take the 5am early morning shift and I’ll do all through night. He was cool with it...however he’s suddenly freaked out (upon getting our c section date) and says he won’t be able to cope with no sleep 🥴 think it’s last min nerves. Fingers crossed. But wondered if any other partners are feeling same....

DH has made the odd comment about dreading the lack of sleep (haha) but I give him a look and he doesn’t dare carry on complaining. When DD was born we tag teamed - he would get in from work at about 5.30/6, have a quick coffee and dinner, then take DD and I would go to bed and sleep from 6 or 7 until about midnight. Then swap. Those 5 or 6 hours totally saved my sanity! I’m not sure how it will work with the two kids this time. I’ve just ordered a double bed for her room so DH can sleep in with her and me and the baby will take the main bedroom. I’m thinking we’ll do DD’s tea/bath together, then I’ll get into bed with her to go to sleep at her usual 7.30 and leave baby with DH, then swap at midnight again.

Ahh I see.... no comments, first time parents here.

You never know how it will be though. My nail girl said her baby slept through the night from 8 weeks 🤷‍♀️

@Blondewave I would just turn a blind eye and see how it goes when baby is here. Getting a date for csection has probably really freaked him out.

@havanamama yes every baby is diff my second slept through from 6ish weeks.

Night feeds I'm planning on BF and DP works nights so it's pretty much going to be down to me this time round.

This is very similar to what I did with exDP. I went to bed early, he did a couple of late bottles and then I did the early morning ones. It works much better if you both get a solid block of sleep ime. Not sure how it's going to work in a flat this time round and with DS bopping about too but we'll give it a damn good go!

My friends had this scenario. He packed a whole load of snacks and drinks into a basket on the bedside table before he left for work so she didn't have to get up during the night to get herself anything. Only something little but very thoughtful at the same time 😊

@TeddyBeans aww bless my DP is a angel he's very helpful in many ways. He will come home from work and do school run for me so I won't have to actually get up if I have had a bad night with baby so in a way I prefer he works nights. He will have a sleep and then be up again before kids are home it just works for us plus I can go back to work once I'm more settled and not have to pay for childcare.

@Babynum2 sounds perfect 😊 just goes to show that any circumstances can work if you put your mind to it!

I have a 'just in case' section date but hoping we won't need it.

My partner is awful without plenty of sleep, I gently remind him that I will also have the physical recovery side of things too. We are however going to be taking 'shifts' for the 2 weeks he's at home so that both of us will get a decent block of sleep while we adjust to the madness if 3 kids 😂

My husband is very much it’ll be fine. Unless he’s hiding it very well he thinks it’s going to be far easier than I’m anticipating!
I’m worrying about lack of sleep, I’m terrible if I haven’t had enough and as I’m hoping to breastfeed he won’t be able to help with night feeds 🫣

I feel a bit worried , I think....

on Friday, I went in for my 2nd bout of reduced movement- All was well, I had a growth scan and seen consultant as extra reassurance I guess.
Baby is 4lb but has dropped in measurememts from 3 weeks ago , Im back in for the next 4 X ( not 2x as mentioned friday) Thursdays for growth checks. The consultant did say any more growth drops or staying same, induction brought forward to 37 weeks but Im a bit worried as to the extras on top now, what if the next 2 show little or growth drop, will Induction be brought forward again? im nearly 33 weeks now

He could still bring you the baby or take you once you're done with the feed to burp/ settle to sleep?

I'm not going to lie, sleep deprivation for a few weeks after birth is honestly, I found, the hardest bit. You'd think being #5, I'd have a good plan of action perhaps...., nope! All mine have been different- #1 was in scbu for 13 weeks so sleeping 8-6, #2 loved sleeping and slept through from about 8weeks, 3&4- They were my 'Karma' , didnt sleep through til 9-12 months🤣

I've been the one freaking out about my c section date of late but my husband is being more practical. My Mum has offered to stay with us a few days if we need her and he thinks that is a good idea. First baby so I would prefer to be independent but he's right, we are going to need someone else to help. Especially during the times when baby is crying, I need help getting to the bathroom and the cat is under his feet wanting food – all at the same time.

It's definitely helped my husband to talk it through with other blokes at work who have given him practical advice without frightening him

Morning everyone got my 34 week midwife appointment this morning. And it’s freezing here, would rather be at home all day lol

Whyyy has my sickness come back 😭

@havanamama yes I’m hoping it will work like that sometimes, I’ve always struggled to sleep during the day but if I’m as tired as I’m expecting then hopefully I’ll be able to nap then too.

@Cats23 sorry I’m not sure what they would do, could you ring your midwife/consultant to ask and try to put your mind at rest?

@LaForza101 my husband has quite enjoyed talking baby with people at his work which surprised me, but nice that he has been able to.

@Dreamingof3 I hope it eases soon for you 😞