I have recently discovered that our third and final child is another boy - we already have two, so no daughters for us. We've had multiple miscarriages between our pregnancies so a healthy pregnancy that survived the first trimester was our main priority, but I admit I did have a strong preference for a daughter and felt quite sad when I realised it was a boy, which I think is only natural when it's your final baby and you have the same gender.
Anyway, the thing that is getting me the most is other people's reactions to my news! While I do feel it's acceptable for me to be sad that I'm not going to have a daughter, other people seem to be feeling like this is the very worst thing that could have happened to me and I've had nothing but negative comments and outpourings of sympathy! I am quite sensitive and it's genuinely making me very, very sad, to the point that I've stopped sharing gender with other people and I just feel a little deflated that nobody seems to be happy for me.
Some comments I've received so far:
'Ouch, three boys? I don't envy you there.'
'Oh, another boy? I don't know whether to congratulate you or just say sorry!'.
'Aww, it's not your fault, you couldn't choose. It'll be okay when he's here.' (This was actually one of the nicest comments I've had).
'Oh you'll be the mother-in-law - so no-one at the Christmas table when you're older; there'll be with their wives' families!'.
'Aww, sons are temporary family members - remember: a son's a son til' he takes a wife, but a daughter's a daughter for life'.
'Three boys - you don't even like sports, do you? Poor thing'.
'There's no point trying again, sadly; when you've had three, you'll get another boy don't put yourself through it'.
'Aww, maybe you just can't carry girls - look at all those you lost.'
Not one person has congratulated me and the things they've said have really shocked me and, tbh, upset me! I'm no longer telling people gender because the looks/comments I get are just awful and I admit I'm quite sensitive! My SIL has three girls and while she said she had a few people asking if she'd try once more for a boy, she's had nothing to the length I've had! Why are people so mean about boys?!?! And why do they feel they have the right to make people feel sad at a happy time :(