Due August 2023 (Thread 2)

[AnnieApple123]

Can’t believe we’re onto a second thread already. Hope this doesn’t put any newbies off, as I don’t think we’re even halfway through possible due dates yet. Anyone welcome to join in.

I wanted to start off by reassuring TheBirdintheCave that I have no nausea either and had none whatsoever all through my last pregnancy. Thinking of you and hoping your current fears turn out to be for nothing. xx

@BCxx Yes I’ve heard that policy in schools too. It can last up to three weeks so there’s not much you can do if it’s your own child. I couldn’t realistically expect family to take him for all that time, especially over Xmas!

Been reading about it though and if he does have it (which he might not), it seems the chances of me getting it aren’t that high and, even if I did, the chances of the baby being affected are fairly low. Still hard not to worry though.

Hi all.

I’m here very unexpectedly and still trying to get my head around everything.

I have a 5 - nearly 6 year old daughter and I recently give birth to my youngest daughter in June this year. She will be 6 months in a few days. This was a complete shock and surprise due to my contraception appointments being cancelled and us not using protection on ONE occasion.

I found out a few days ago and haven’t stopped thinking and stressing. My main worries are the small age gap - my second will be 14 month by the time baby is born and I have a 5 year age gap between first and second so something I’ve not experienced. My eldest is also quite testing at the moment, pushing boundaries at home and school. I’m also worried about practicalities of work and back to back maternity leaves.

We’ve always said we want 3 but I never expected it to be this soon. Sorry for the rant, I’ve not told many people in real life.

My EDD based on NHS calculator is 22nd August. I hope everyone is okay and trying as best as possible to enjoy these early anxiety ridden days.

@BCxx and @AnnieApple123 (think I got the tags right there are so many people on this chat!) I’m a teacher too but it’s my last day tomorrow. I finally admitted it was all too much and handed my notice in back in September. Currently no job to go to but can fall back on supply if needed which I have done a stint of before. Will look seriously in January for a new job but my brain is frazzled and I need a break to think straight before I decide on my next move. Luckily my husband is very supportive. When I had my mmc in July I had a bit of a realisation moment that I couldn’t do it anymore. After 14 years, teaching was definitely not what I saw myself doing. It’s a big (scary) step but no regrets (yet!) It will be hard to say goodbye to my class tomorrow (I’m primary - year 6) but I know it’s the right decision for me.

@LS888 aw wow! Glad I’m not alone! Are you on the exit the classroom and thrive Facebook group? Such a brave step to break away just now, did you hand in your notice a while ago though? My notice period is only 4 weeks but feel a bit like I’m in a bit of a predicament because I’m already off sick and could just spin this out to get another mat leave. I just don’t want the constant anxiety hanging over me of phone calls, doctors appointments etc. I do think supply I could handle much better! Since going back from my last mat leave the realisation of how much parents complain or just get overly involved in the most trivial issues really sunk in and it was the straw that broke the camels back if you like. I felt like I was already drowning and then every time if I’d had a really bad day, I’d have a phone call to deal with from a parent wanting to specify exactly where there child would be sitting the following day and could I just provide him with X, Y and Z, as if there are no other kids in the class. You just feel like saying ‘you come in and f*ing try!!’ but instead I bend over backwards every time and act like it’s fine. At least with supply you can walk out the door and don’t have parents nights, tracking levels etc to deal with. I am very tempted to do the same! Good on you for jumping, it will all work out 🥳

@LS888 *their (sack me now) 🤣

@AnnieApple123 fingers crossed it’s not, yeah you definitely can’t avoid your own child for that long 🤔 I almost feel when it’s so early on that they’re surely bound to be cucooned in there in their own little bubble so the outside world can’t hurt them just now but I know that’s most likely not the case!

@BCxx I won’t tell 😉 I handed my notice in before I got my BFP. Just wasn’t worth hanging in there. I didn’t know how long it would take to get pregnant again after my miscarriage. Don’t think I could face teaching until July. Yes I’m in that Facebook group and know a few teachers making the leap to something new/different this year. After reading some horror stories on the group I realised it wasn’t just my school. Demands are too high and it takes over your life! I would have been leaving for mat leave in January (if my mmc hadn’t of happened) so it didn’t make me feel as guilty to do it mid term. Sometimes you have to prioritise yourself as no one else will!

Congrats and welcome @Sienna9522 ! Similar story here, only not as small of a gap. My DD is 14 months and we’d planned on waiting until next year to try for a second 🙈 I felt very overwhelmed for a few days, but I’ve known for around 2 weeks now and feel like it’s getting a bit easier mentally as time passes and I can get a little bit more excited!

@PumpkinEverything congratulations. That’s good that you feel better about it all. I’m still having my ups and downs, especially when baby is screaming in the pram at the school gates and the teacher is pulling me over for a chat about my eldest. I just thought to myself ‘how will I do this with 2 babies in the pram’ Hope it gets easier. I just feel riddled with worry and guilt at the moment. X

Hi everyone, got my bfp yesterday bit of a shock but a happy one I'm due 28th August x

@Sienna9522 Hi lovely, congratulations! I totally understand your worry, it’s a lot to process and it’s ok to have all the thoughts.
my son and daughter have a 15 month age gap, and can I say it’s absolutely lovely now, they are 5 and nearly 4. I will be honest the early days are a bit of a blur, it was tough, but I think once you find your rhythm it’s just life! Everything you do for one, you do for the other. They end up being into the same things really after the first year. Mine wake up at the same time, eat, get ready, play, bath, for a while nap!!, and bed at the same time. It’s just a bit extra effort doing it twice but I’ll say while the days are long the years are so so short. I’m actually thinking about doing it again with this baby, having another close after so this one has a little bestie as there will be a 4 year gap between my other youngest.
Don’t feel bad for having all the emotions it is a lot to process. Take each day at a time 🥰

Hoping I don't jinx it but woke up feeling sick again this morning (thrown up the past 4 mornings) but managed to have an easy peel orange then a trek bar whilst sitting bent over a sick bowl, and think it might have passed 😁 feels like a total win, as I HATE being sick 😂

Welcome @Jessica210488 and @Sienna9522 . There was someone from my first antenatal class who got pregnant again with a 15 month gap. I know she was very worried about it at first but all seems to have turned out fine.

@LS888 I’ve done quite a bit of supply work and can honestly say it’s been a mostly very positive experience.

DS’s cheeks seem less red this morning so I’m less concerned. I do wish the snow and ice would melt now so we can start getting out properly again.

@LS888 yes that’s very true! I’m sure having your miscarriage really put things into perspective. You assume the kids will be so thrown by you leaving but they move on so quickly! That Facebook group is the best 😂 Some of the stories are horrific. I think since joining it I’ve properly opened my eyes to how awful it is and just can’t see any other way now other than a career change. 99% of people in my work are completely miserable, often sit crying at lunch, have to leave to have a cry, getting constantly assaulted etc but would never even think of quitting. It’s like because it’s such a specific degree you’ve done at uni they don’t see any other possibility so have to stick it out

@AnnieApple123 that’s good news, hopefully it’s just something else and he’s feeling better soon

@BoodifulGoose the depths pregnancy takes you to 😂😂 at least it worked 🤞🏼 It is definitely a hunger thing, with me anyway. I used to get up in the morning and if I could walk past the bathroom and get to the kitchen I was fine but if I even thought of any possibility of being sick when passing the bathroom I’d need to bolt in and be sick 🙈 how many weeks are you? I’m really dreading it starting, just have the hunger/sicky feeling so far this time

@AnnieApple123 so glad it doesn't seem like SC :D
we've only just got snow for the first time today and I'm desperate to go sledging but partner is having me wrapped in bubble wrap at the moment and won't let us 😭😂

@BCxx I know right 😂 I'm only 8 weeks but have already told him I'm revoking our life plans for 2 kids, I'm only doing this once 😂
I had only been sick water the past few mornings so he said its probably hunger and I didn't believe him as I thought there's no way I could eat feeling like this but the easy peelers seem to get my stomach going perfectly!

will keep my fingers crossed that it passes you by this time! I hadn't experienced it by 7 weeks so I was like "ooh I might be fine", how naïve 😂

@BoodifulGoose I said that too 😂

@Jadeelx Thank you. That’s reassuring and nice to hear a perspective from someone who’s been through it. I think once Christmas is over I will start thinking about the practical side of things.

@TheBirdintheCave as of now my partner is respecting that decision, I told my MIL (who had 2 kids) and she laughed at me 😂
"Yeah we all say that" 😂

Hopefully your oldest will be able to help a little @Sienna9522 😊 there’s a sort of similar age gap between my sisters and I. I was 7 when the first was born, and then there’s a 14 month gap between them. You’ve been through it all before so will already know I’m sure, but I found 6 months a bit tougher navigating weaning and sleep regressions, but then it starts to get a bit easier again! So hopefully it’s not long before that happens and then you’ll have the cosy newborn stage again next year 🥰

Just going to drop the link again for our FB group for all the newcomers 😊 this thread moves fast and I know not everyone will have a chance to check back

www.facebook.com/groups/874969843647403/?ref=share_group_link

@PumpkinEverything I've left the group for now. If I make it to twelve weeks then I'll rejoin.

super nauseous here too. I've only been sick once, but feel like I'm holding it in all day. The feeling only disappears once I have eaten, but eating is the last thing I feel like doing.
6wks +2. Should I be feeling sick all day, everyday?

I really hope to see you back @TheBirdintheCave ♥️♥️

I think that can happen for some people @LBF2020 and some it can last all of pregnancy! Mine is coming and going. I had two nauseous days this week and it was okay yesterday. I think they say eating little and often and always having something to snack on with you is what can help to keep it at bay. I’ve been eating plain digestives 😂