Due August 2023?

[AnnieApple123]

It still feels very early but I’m taking a leap of faith and starting a thread here.

Just found out yesterday that I’m due at the very start of August.

Anybody else yet?

Hey, lovelies.

So I had my booking appointment this week, and I have booked an early scan next week. I will be just gone 6 weeks, but I just want to confirm a single pregnancy and a heart beat at this stage. I am still breastfeeding my 2 year old and it apparently increases the risk of twins.. I am feeling more sick this pregnancy than with my son, so I really need that reassurance of it being a single pregnancy!

@TheBirdintheCave same, with DS I was always measuring 5-6 days behind from the word go due to late ovulation.

@TheBirdintheCave what a dream child!

@UsernameNotPresent It's funny that at my 12 week scan (12+5 by LMP) he had caught that missing week up and was measuring at my LMP dates. It was very strange! He did arrive five days 'late' though so bang on the 40 weeks from my O dates and was still a tiny 6lb 9oz.

Did yours catch up?

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Re the early scan convo, the other question I think that you need to ask is 'How will I feel if I get to my 12 week scan they say that I've had a MMC and the baby stopped growing a while ago?'

For me, I know I'd want to be aware of it as soon as possible rather than go another five weeks say being blissfully unaware. I'd want to be able to deal with the situation and get back to trying as quickly as possible as I'm 36 and don't have any time to waste.

@Chocolotandtea His eating could do with some work though 😅 Has got a lot better recently but still leaves a lot to be desired.

@ChloeN they must have so many scans like that, it would be awful. I think not having that feeling is a good sign for sure. I don’t have that feeling this time either which I’m thankful for. My husband is happy to do whatever and said it’s not like we can change anything so if we go after Christmas we can be blissfully unaware. But I don’t know if that’ll make me worse waiting even longer not knowing and then being anxious waiting on the date coming.

@TheBirdintheCave I think I agree with you too. My early scan was fine, and I didn’t find out until my ‘12 week scan’ 3 weeks later (I knew I was too early for that due to tracking). And it felt awful knowing id been walking around for a week not knowing there was no heartbeat. I had bad cramps one evening, and a shooting pain whilst walking, and was too scared to move from the sofa and I feel like that’s when it happened, but they went away and I never had any bleeding, so I think I convinced myself all was hopefully fine.
once id found out I was too scared to go far from my house in the fear that id start bleeding, but it never happened. That’s why I went for surgical management as it was just mentally destroying me.

i do have to say, that as awful as it all was, the one positive I’ve taken from all this is my experience and ability to share and help others. A girl from work told me she was pregnant straight away (didn’t tell others) and I was able to help her through a bad scan, and then give her all the detail of the surgery to help her make the decision and she was so grateful. It’s so lonely otherwise!

@PumpkinEverything Yeah I remember not going to my work spring party in case I started bleeding 😥

@PumpkinEverything With the MMC that was I mean between finding out at week seven and them confirming what we already knew at week nine.

It's odd what people say about feelings but I had a bad feeling from the start with the MMC. I definitely just knew.

@TheBirdintheCave it’s so awful feeling trapped like that. I definitely knew for sure something was wrong. Just the moment seeing the positive test I wasn’t as happy or excited as you’d expect. I only told my husband and one best friend and I felt like they were both happy and excited, whereas I was worried and anxious the whole time. And then I’ll never forget seeing my husbands happy face at that first scan as he was happy to see the heartbeat, whereas I just didn’t feel any better at all, and I think his happiness somehow made me feel worse as I knew it was going to be taken away!

I told my mum straight away with my daughter and I’ve told her again this morning as this was the first chance I got. Having to tell her I was pregnant and lost it in one go was awful, and now I fully appreciate the support you need. I’m going to tell my other best friend and then I need to figure out whether to tell the rest of my family. I want to, but then feel maybe obligated to tell my in laws 🙈🙈 which is awful! But I don’t want them texting me loads 😂😂

@TheBirdintheCave yes that’s my only fear but it still doesn’t help me make my mind up🫣

@PumpkinEverything I will definitely wait till after Christmas if I do have one, I’m so busy before so think I can get through the next few weeks without one

@Alpacabag22 I've booked an early scan privately for Monday. I think I'll be 6+4 or there abouts. I have an NHS reassurance scan booked for 15th Dec also. The reason I booked this early scan was my anxiety around viability. They suspected ectopic with my last pregnancy which ended in a natural miscarriage and couldn't wait until the 15th. But that's just my own anxieties. If that hadn't have happened, I would have just waited for the 15th. Another reason was if it was ectopic, I'm going out of the country for near 2 weeks on the 18th Dec and at least I could get it sorted before I go. It's probably all okay but I am a worrier 😂 the private clinic called me yesterday and said that if I was sure I wanted to see a heartbeat, it would be best to go around 7 weeks, but I said for this scan, I just wanted to make sure baby was growing in the right place and then I'll use
My NHS scan to look about the heartbeat. I should be over 7 weeks, when I have my NHS scan.
I would recommend if you are going for a private scan to book it when you are between 7-8 weeks, prob more so 8 weeks to ensure that you definitely see baby's heartbeat ☺️

@Alpacabag22 I had early scans at 7w with both my previous pregnancies and they definitely helped me. I've booked another one for 7w this time. The thought of waiting until 12w to just be told it was never a viable pregnancy or something just doesn't bear thinking about. I need to know that at least there's something there. It's totally personal preference though, you need to do whatever is right for you

@ChloeN its so hard isn’t it! I have plenty to keep me busy too, but I feel like I’m already starting to get impatient 🙈 and then the other thing sort of tempting me is that my sister is coming home for Christmas (she lives in England and I’m in NI), so I could actually tell her and some of my other family in person then and it would be nice to have a scan to show 😂🙈

@PumpkinEverything yes that would be so lovely!☺️ I think I’m just going to hold off for now and see how I feel after Christmas, I will probably be impatient by then too!

I had an IUI procedure completed on the 21st of November. My official test date is not until Thursday, but I caved and done a digital test this morning and it was my BFP can't believe it! Looking at an estimated due date it should be in August also!

Congrats @TTCE 😁😁 so exciting!

@TTCE Congratulations! :D

Thank you! It’s strange I feel like the tests are wrong. I suppose it will feel like this until the first scan.

It’s amazing you got your positive so far in advance of your official test date @TTCE it gets a bit addictive testing 😂 I did another this morning just for the sake of it 🙈🙈

Welcome @Rowanandremy ! Do you know how many follicles you had?

You must be desperate to tell your husband now @somuchtolearnabout . Bring on Sunday and you’ll have to tell us all about it!

@UsernameNotPresent I’m also still breastfeeding my 2.5 year-old and am aware of that statistic too. It does make me a bit nervous. Not sure how long we’ll go on feeding now. I’m open to tandem feeding but we’ll see what happens.

May I join you all? Got my BFP yesterday - my little girl turned 1 this week. Psyching myself up for all of the first trimester worries now but feeling very very grateful!

Welcome @TTCE !

@Mulner88 and @Alpacabag22 I’ve been told the same about waiting until 7 weeks for an early scan if you want to see a heartbeat. I’ve therefore booked for 7 weeks to the day.

Thanks to those who wished me luck on the hospital tour. I felt like a bit of an impostor as everyone else there was very obviously pregnant. One of the midwives teasingly asked whether I was a spy!

I’m feeling really torn now between booking there, or trying for a homebirth but risking a transfer to our local hospital which I have negative associations with. Theoretically I could book both and see how this pregnancy progresses before making a final decision (e.g. if complications advised later on which meant a homebirth wasn’t advised) but this seems messy and complicated.

Of course @Surprised90 ! Welcome! First trimester worries sounds about right.

@sinloutox hormones are a wonderful but weird thing when it comes to pregnancy 😂 I had another bad night with some truly horrendous dreams. Wonder if/when they'll settle down? Haha we are quite keen to find out too! She's absolutely adamant about it and with how I'm feeling I can't discount it, either that or it's a boy!

@PumpkinEverything thank you for the welcome 😀 Ill update here when we know whether it's twins or not, if DD is right I don't think she'll ever live it down 😂 that's so fascinating, I wonder how many old wives tales are accurate? Oh god the tiredness! I was wondering too if it's because this time I'm also looking after dd, mornings are kind of awful getting out of bed at the minute but she's like the energiser bunny 🤣

@AnnieApple123 thank you for the welcome 😀 we ended up with one follicle that was dominant so if it is twins they'd be identical... Which does actually run in my family. Ironically my mum and my sister wanted twins, my BIL wanted my DD to be twins (think he's realised the scope of that now he's got a baby of his own 🤣), neither of us have ever expressly wished for twins - though I'd love 3 children, DW is happy with 2 but of course we are just thrilled to be pregnant and are overjoyed at one or two babies, we just want to know!!