Babies Due April 2023 thread 5

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Thought I'd make a new thread seen as last one is full already! 😊

Lovely scans everyone 😍 mine is Friday (moved from Monday 🙄) so exciting!

@Wouldloveanother will be coming to you for a nub theory guess then! Haha

@mummatara sorry to hear about your news, take care xx

For a few weeks now I’ve been getting some lower abdominal pains if I move too quickly, can be pretty intense and definitely feels muscular as it stops me in my tracks especially if I turn In bed etc. Found it a bit weird as I didn’t think my muscles would
be stretching much yet. Anyone else had this?

@bluebubbles12 I guess girl too, although 12+1 is still early so there is time for it to "rise" and I can see a little bit of what could be stacking?

@Wouldloveanother I've never been wrong either! Haha I got v clued up on it all when I was pregnant with DD. But I do find some pics hard to determine.

I'm excited for my scan as I'll be 13+3 so pretty late on for nubs, so think it'll be reliable

I’ve had those exact pains @Chocolat ! If I stand up or turn over too quickly - like lightning pains across my lower stomach.

Feeling crappy today. DH seems to be withdrawn and down and I can't help feeling like he's resenting having to do so much as I've been so sick especially in the evenings. I did more last night and been trying to do dishes etc as it's my day off with DD today and it just results in me being sick more and feeling awful. It's so tough, I don't want us to start taking it out on eachother. I just wish someone could come and do all th cleaning and child care and help us out a bit haha. I do sometimes wish we lived more in a village setting these days. We are far from any family, and it's hard.

@Skylark1990 💐 are you still working?
I’m still signed off at the moment, gave up even trying to work when I feel this awful 3 weeks ago. My DH is exactly the same - he does it all without complaint but the atmosphere isn’t good, morale is low in the house and if asked he will say he’s very stressed and down. I don’t feel like he resents me, but he’s definitely resenting the circumstances and isn’t excited about the baby yet. Have you tried talking to him? I feel like if we had a date when this would all get better we would cope, it’s the not knowing.

@Skylark1990 I completely understand how you feel, from week 6-9 I was so unwell and couldn't lift my head off the pillow. My husband works long days and I work from home and felt like all I was doing was lying in bed on the laptop and doing nothing to contribute. He would have to spend his evenings after work cleaning or doing the shopping and it just made me feel soooo guilty and paranoid that he'd begin to resent me! Im now getting a lot of good days in between the nausea and trying to do as much as I can whilst I can but it's so important to be kind to yourself and look after yourself, this won't last forever and you can make it up to your husband when you're back on your feet xx

@Wouldloveanother I'm not signed off no, but I'm doing reduced hours ATM so that helps. I've had quite a bit of time off this year due to the miscarriages, so whether rightly or wrongly, I feel bad about getting signed off again. Although I have taken the odd day off and will do again if I have particularly bad day. As sorry as I am to hear you're in a similar boat and your DH feeling low too, it does help to know I'm not alone. ❤️

@DBS94 the guilt is real isn't! And we should definitely try not to feel guilty as we can't help feeling like this, and I'm sure if it was men who went through it they'd handle it even worse 😂 but thank you, it helps to know I'm not alone. It's a trying time. Glad to hear you're feeling a bit better now, how many weeks are you? X

@Wouldloveanother we have sort of talked about it all but just to say we both finding it tough etc, and recently he just seems to have clammed up and doesn't even seem to be receptive to talking about it. I know he doesn't resent me really, as he's a lovely man, but I guess it's just hard to deal with him seeming low and not talking much. And even harder on top of feeling sick, as then I feel like I can't even do anything to "make him feel better" like do the dishes etc (although I did do them! Spewing ensued haha). But I do tend to over think stuff so maybe this is the case. I'm just not sure how to navigate this weird dynamic that has come up lately. Also I guess there is the stress of what if it doesn't work out which we both feel at times I'm sure.

@Longbin thank you for the reassurance about flying! It does seem it'll be ok, but due to previous miscarriages I just worried perhaps it's more risky for me

Definitely feeling the same with my DH, I feel like he's a bit moody and distant and it's because he's having to do most around the house and with the other kids as well as work. When I've spoke to him about it he said he's not, he's just busy trying to get everything done but still feels like he's a bit annoyed with me.
Hopefully we all start feeling a bit better soon.

Also- just thought I'd add a link to the Facebook group again. I know a lot of people didn't want to join in the early days as felt it was too early.

fb.me/g/p_8RU7Wg6PirijKpHp/BKmJbb4X

@Skylark1990 from LMP im 10+4 but we had an early scan at 8 weeks and were measuring 3 days a head so by that I'm 11 weeks today. We have another scan tomorrow so will know better then! What about you? I definitely saw a change in my nausea when I got past 10 weeks. Still get tough days and still very tired but managing to at least do some tasks throughout the day

@Wouldloveanother nice to know it’s not only me! They feel exactly like that it’s so weird!

I had the harmony results back and all good. They've emailed me the gender but my husband isn't here to open it together! He's at the pub 50 miles away! I just want to know now 😅

What is the harmony test? I don't think we have that in Scotland? The midwife has never mentioned it. Ps you have more control than me I definitely would have opened that by now!!!

So happy to hear about the successful 12 week scans :)

@Longbin oooo this is so exciting! Will you tell us?

It's NIPT, you can pay for it but it's not done as standard on the nhs here before the other testing where you have bloods taken and it gives you a ratio.

I will tell you all yeah!! I'm 99 percent convinced it's a boy (irrationally) if it's not I'm going to go into shock. I don't even mind either way and neither does my husband, so I don't know why I'm so desperate to know.

Congratulations to those who have had scans today! ❤️

Re the pregnancy insomnia - mine is terrible, I'm waking up every 45 mins or so I just can't get a good nights sleep. I have also noticed my boobs hurt way more in the night and don't feel bad at all during the day now. It's weird!

I have my scan on Monday when I'll be 12w4d and I cannot wait to see how everything is going. Praying it's all still going ok. My last scan was 10w4d and all was well

@Wouldloveanother - I am 100% here to tell you that your vomiting situation sounds terrible and regardless of how you feel about having a child (which is amazing but also in the moment of early baby stages a mixed blessing as well), the Right Now still sucks. This is what is great about having a pregnancy group like this - people actually doing the journey with you, day by day, week by week get it, much better than someone not in the trenches with you, even if they care about you enormously.

@CinderellaFant - I just asked to join the FB group. Pic is my upper body, face turned to one side.

Hi all, just checking in. I’ve been absent for a few days as I’ve been absolutely so poorly with a horrible cold, really hit hard by it to be honest and missed being able to attack it with drugs. So sorry to hear so many of you are feeling so shit, it’s so hard when you’re happy you’re pregnant but actually being pregnant is torturous. I’m really hoping it starts to improve a little now.

@Skylark1990 I know not exactly the same but with having this cold I’ve felt the same in terms of not doing my fair share and worrying DH was getting resentful. I think as well when you start to overthink it you see signs in everything they do. I really really really hope things improve in the next few weeks.

@Longbin I relate to not enjoying pregnancy due to the anxiety, it’s really hard.

I’ve just been for another early scan, measuring at 10 weeks 3 days which is actually a bit ahead that I thought. So so so relieved to see soemtning actually resembling a baby, especially as initially you couldn’t see anything as my bladder wasn’t full at all. I’d drank all the water they tell you to drink but I’m wondering if because I’ve been so ill I was dehydrated. Anyway all’s well that ends well, baby had a lovely heartbeat too 💕

Congrats to all of you with those beautiful happy scans :)
Another one over here whose husband is rising to the challenge but feeling the strain of taking over some of my share and me feeling badly about it. I am actually nauseous in this pregnancy, nothing as dramatic as some of you are, but still enough that I just want to lay there feeling sorry for myself. Evenings around dinner time are the worst here too and I'm just so tired come the evenings. I just go to bed once I get my daughter to sleep. Really hoping to avoid the insomnia I had last pregnancy where 2nd trimester onwards I was awake 3 - 6 every single night. I feel for those with insomnia already x

@JanelleMcClintock do they have a strong interest in something? Laminate some pictures of it and stick them up on the wall of the shower so they have to go in if they want to investigate?

Ah it's nice to not feel alone! I am also feeling very nauseous and sleeping badly (which I think ends up making me feel more sick!) When I was pregnant with my first the sickness didn't go until 14 weeks.. praying it doesn't go on that long this time.

Sorry to all the others feeling rubbish. Congrats to all those who have had scans! I'm 9 + 3 weeks so unless I get a private scan there's still a little way to go!

Well here I am again, wide awake 🙄
Just woke up after a random dream in which I was stressfully packing for a skiing trip in limited time. I was going with a nameless, faceless girl who I know nothing about besides the fact her dad allegedly walks his dogs in the park with my dog. But sadly it turned out her dad was terminally ill and I had to break the news to her just as we were leaving for the airport. Wtf?!