Babies Due April 2023 thread 5

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Thought I'd make a new thread seen as last one is full already! 😊

Congratulations, @CinderellaFant and @EMcG3 - such wonderful news! Must feel amazing to have the 12 weeks reassurance! X

laid wide awake again 🙄
cannot sleep for more than an hour at a time anymore and it’s so frustrating, but one thing ive noticed is my boobs are the sorest through the night now! they used to hurt all day but now it’s on a night and they absolutely kill!

Catching up! @mummatara so sorry to hear your news. I hope you are okay, and that you get some answers soon. Sending love 💐

@LauraA31 I’m also wide awake. I don’t think I’ve slept for longer than 3 hours since falling pregnant. I’m an exhausted wreck! Most of the time I wake up to be sick but then want to brush my teeth and go to the loo and by that point I’m wide awake. Gah…

Is anyone else with sickness finding it quite hard to get excited about their pregnancy? I feel a bit guilty admitting it, but I don’t feel that excited just yet. I have the odd moment but most of the time I just feel too unwell

Hoping the 12 week scan will be a nice moment that will help me to bond. DH feels the same he said, it’s hard to think past this stage at the moment.

I’m also struggling with whether to book the NIPT, we can’t really afford it at the moment and DH’s view is just to wait to see how the NHS testing comes out and decide then. However I have a friend whose baby’s diagnosis was missed by NHS testing so I feel I want that certainty of knowing what to expect.

@CinderellaFant lovely news about the scan! That’s the first big hurdle over for you! I remember being asked to jump around the room at DD’s scan to get her to move so they could take the measurements 😂

I swear pregnancy insomnia will be the death of me. I woke up every hour at around the half past mark and then gave up at 4am. We fly today too so I could have really done with the sleep as it's a long day of travel. It's a cruel trick of nature to deprive us of sleep before the baby is here.

I've been the exact same!! I've been soooo tired but waking up at the crack of dawn and it just makes things worse, always feel my nausea is worse too when tired.

Just quickly on the subject of sex when pregnant, has anyone tried and felt like it was quite sore/uncomfortable? I don't know if it's in my head or if things are maybe changing/a bit swollen down there but I tried and found it a little sore. My husband said it felt different too, not sure if it was my cervix he was "feeling" but not sure if this is just in our heads 😂

I used to sleep like a baby every night without exception - not waking up once during the night, always same hours, always 8 hour nights. We don't have children yet, so been very spoiled! But since this pregnancy it's been a total mess, not a single good night of sleep. Last night I also woke up pretty much every hour and end up disturbing DH too!

Congrats @EMcG3 and @CinderellaFant ! Wonderful news 🥰

I'm also waking up a lot in the night. I feel so achey! Hard to get comfy. And DD shuffles around and wakes me up too,but when she's in her own room I still wake so don't think it's her fault really.

@SavedByGraceAlone that term "sleep like a baby" is very misleading you'll find once baby is here 😂 they don't sleep 8 hours in a row at all! Well most don't 😂😂 but I know what you mean.

I've been worrying a little about traveling this Sunday. We are going to Spain, I think a 4 hour flight. I'll be 11+6 when we fly ... It's fine right? Just feeling a bit nervous it could be bad for the pregnancy

@Skylark1990, 😂😂😂😂😅

@DBS94 re the sex the first time we did after finding out which was like a week or 2 it was sore and tender again I think it's my cervix but since has been fine and no problem

I think it's fine to fly in the first trimester I'm not due to go away until January and I'll be 25 weeks but as I've had pre-eclampsia in both my other pregnancies the midwife is seeing my the week before and I'll need a fit to fly of my bp is up I won't be allowed to fly but I think if you have no complication in your pregnancy you can fly up to 30 weeks without a fit to fly with most airlines

@Skylark1990 you'll be fine! I was worried I would get spotting from flying as I've had it when I haven't been pregnant but I had nothing. I think I was 5 weeks and 6 weeks. Going away next week too at 14 weeks as I couldn't leave the hotel room last time 😂

I did fly when I was waiting to pass a miscarriage too (twice) and I didn't pass it then either, so it does nothing

@Wouldloveanother I'm not particularly excited either. I was excited when I got the first positive test, so happy, but since that moment it's been full on anxiety, not getting hopes up, and weeks of illness. I think because I feel ill, all I can think of are the negative things. I know I enjoyed my first pregnancy once I got over the sickness, and I loved having a newborn but it feels impossible at the moment. I can't imagine getting through the third trimester, the birth, the sleep deprivation, the cluster feeding...
I'm sure once I feel better and get through the 12 week screening I will be more excited. Even with my first pregnancy I didn't buy anything or feel really excited until after the 20 week scan, just in case.

I’ve felt the same excitement wise - between totally worry and sickness, I just haven’t had that joy this time round…yet.

My scan is tomorrow, meant to be 12 week dating scan but I know the dates are off and I’m only 8 + 4. 12 weeks still seems a lifetime away right now but we’ll all get there x

@Wouldloveanother @Gilm0reGirl @DBS94

it’s horrible isn’t it! i sleep from around 10-1ish and then up every few hours but stay awake for an hour or so each time. I was sat awake when boyfriend woke up for work at 0500 by that point id been awake three hours!
I just want to sleep for longer than a few hours haha, im lucky to not have sickness yet just feel nauseous but im waking up so much to go to the toilet 🤦🏼‍♀️
Hope that we are all feeling better this morning!

I can’t get excited either, I have little pockets of excitement and then feel guilty for feeling that way. I’m so worried i will get bad news all the time, i try talk myself out of it but don’t want to allow myself to be excited and then be heartbroken.
But then on the same hand im feeling guilty im not excited 🤦🏼‍♀️ got my 12 week scan in 2 weeks, i won’t be 12 weeks but will be 11+2 and I think it will put me at ease 🙂

Might allow myself a mid day nap hahah!

Had my dating scan today 😀 measured 12+1 which is a day behind where I thought but everything looks good

😍😍😍😍 so exciting!! Glad all is well x

@Gingermango exciting!!

I thought I would feel more excited once I hit 12 weeks, but I don't really. April feels incredibly far off at the moment. I just don't enjoy being pregnant as it makes me far too anxious. I also feel like it exposes how little some of my friends and family care, as no one ever checks in on me or anything. I'm always asking pregnant friends how they are doing, even when I was going through infertility myself. My husband's dad didn't even acknowledge I was pregnant when we announced! Does anyone else feel like their relationships change a lot once people know they are pregnant? It's probably just me being difficult 😂

@Longbin this is so rubbish to hear! We've only told my parents and my husbands parents so far, looking to tell the rest of my family this weekend which I'm feeling quite anxious for. I feel like the group is a huge help? Do you have a lot of friends who are pregnant at the moment?

Long story short my sister is law is a few years older than my husband and I. She has always been quite jealous of her little brother (my husband) and puts a dampener on happy occasions and so does my MIL (not as bad though) for example when we got engaged my MIL said to us "oh well that means your sister can't get engaged for a while now" to my husband and it's really stuck in my mind. So I'm really anxious to tell her, I just don't want this occasion to be dampened x

@DBS94 most of my friends haven't started trying yet, although I am mid 30s so that's quite rare. I have quite a few friends with babies my daughters age though, that I made since having her, and they are all lovely and check in. It's just old friends and family that I feel are a bit rubbish! Hopefully she doesn't spoil your news, it's such a let down when someone makes little comments like that

Great news @Gingermango ! ❤️

@Longbin that’s rubbish. It does feel a very long time away doesn’t it. Lean on us if you need - I have found a few people have drifted away since I got hyperemesis (presumably fed up of the vomit talk) or have just sent infuriating messages such as ‘awww will be worth it for your little Angel at the end’. Well yeah it will be but right now it’s 3am and I’m throwing up yet again, exhausted and with stomach ache from retching so much. It just makes me want to punch them! I just want somebody to say, oh that sounds really shit. I don’t need inspirational quotes I need a shoulder to cry on!

@DBS94 bollocks to her! Announce it with a big smile and don’t let her bring you down.

@Gingermango, congratulations, it looks amazing!!!! I can't wait for my 12 week scan - it's two weeks away and currently feels like a lifetime to just hang in there.

On the subject of being excited/enjoying the pregnancy, I'm also too riddled with anxiety and intrusive thoughts to really enjoy it. I'm happy about the fact I'm pregnant and very grateful I made it so far (had 4 miscarriages in the past, all around 5/6 weeks), but can't help but worry about every cramp and twinge! I saw my miscarriage specialist today who told me that after 12 weeks there's only 1-2% chance of anything going wrong, but I think I'll only be able to unclench once I have a healthy child in my arms! At which point I'm sure a whole host of new and bigger worries begins...!

@DBS94 @Longbin
I feel you both - it’s horrible to find some people care so little and dampen the experience.

We told immediate family when we found out the test was positive as we were so so shocked to have fallen naturally. My family reacted well and were delighted for us. His family, however, seemed pleased initially and have since been really really horrible (there’s a lot of history with my husbands son who we don’t see at the moment due to a toxic coparent stopping contact and months and months of solicitors battles to get contact restarted) and they’ve basically insinuated that we’re replacing his son with the new baby, that he’s stopped showing interest in his boy since we found out and just been horrific about it all to the point I’ve stopped communication with them for now as it’s heartbreaking to hear family be so so nasty and accusational.

@SavedByGraceAlone the anxiety doesn't stop once they're here but it's easier in a way because you can see them and check them. I was hallucinating with sleep deprivation the first few weeks and kept waking up to think my baby had disappeared, and I checked their breathing constantly (still do and she's 3!). But it's different to pregnancy anxiety and you can reassure yourself much more easily. Plus you can cuddle them when it all gets too much 😊

About people's reactions to pregnancy - I've had mixed reactions to both my first and this pregnancy. It used to really get to me but after a while I just realised that the only people that matter are me and my DH, other people have their own lives so we can just concentrate on our baby and we have enough joy between us. After that I started to find all the excitement and nosiness of the people who were happy for us to be really annoying 😂

12 week scan went well 🥰 measuring 12+1, so one day back from LMP date - same as @Gingermango!

Nub theory guesses welcome ❤️💙

Congrats @bluebubbles12 great pic! I think that’s a girl - I’m pretty good at nub theory as well, I haven’t actually been wrong yet!

@Wouldloveanother ooh interesting. I've just posted anonymously on a nub Facebook group and had 4 boy guesses so far. I've requested to join another couple of nub groups too, so I'll also post on there.

It's a lovely position to be in this time of genuinely not minding whether they're a boy or girl. With my daughter I desperately needed her to be a girl, so I'd read up on gender disappointment etc to prepare myself. Purely for being able to use my favourite girl's name, it would be great to have another girl. And also to reuse her lovely clothes! But we'd be so lucky to have one of each. I just can't imagine my life with a boy though!