Babies Due April 2023 thread 5

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Thought I'd make a new thread seen as last one is full already! 😊

@DBS94 I am not waking super early for the day, but often waking around 3am and staying awake for an hour, last night it was 330-5am I was awake! So annoying. I am going to bed at 7pm though so maybe I'm just not tired enough come early morning 😅 I have to go to bed early as the sickness is so bad in the evenings it's the only way to escape it

@Skylark1990 that's so annoying! My nausea has been so good all week until today, feeling so unwell this morning and been sick for the first time in over a week. This pregnancy malarkey is exhausting 😂

@DBS94, same here! Been wide awake at 6.15am this morning. And also waking up every night for a wee, which almost never happened before pregnancy! Now been on the sofa watching the funeral since 10am.

Sorry for a bit of a TMI question, but anyone had bleeding after sex in pregnancy? I read it can happen and usually nothing serious, but got worried seeing red blood (right after) and now spotting lightly pink... Eeek!

@SavedByGraceAlone yes have also had this. Your cervix is a lot more sensitive and cells more prone to bleeding so usually just this. Only happened to me once around 7-8 weeks (now 11+6 and had a scan at 10 weeks which was normal).
definitely a bit scary when you see bright red blood though!

@DBS94 yeah im struggling so much with tiredness! I work shifts and it’s so hard to stay awake during the late ones!

I have got to a point where I could easily sleep all day 🤦🏼‍♀️ I was awake this morning at 430 and then didn’t fall asleep until 7, luckily boyfriend doesn’t work weekends and had today off so he let me sleep, I got up around 11 and im ready for bed again now!

Hi everyone. Just women from an afternoon nap. 11 weeks today 🎉 but that’s the only thing worth celebrating right now. The nausea and vomiting just will not lift and I’m beginning to feel really down. Have spent most of the BH in bed or lying on the sofa watching DD play but feeling too unwell to join in. It’s beginning to affect my mental health quite badly, I’m certain I couldn’t do this again 😞 have to just keep telling myself that next week I will be a third of the way there (induction at 37 weeks). And take it day by day.

Skylark how are you feeling this evening? Xx

@SavedByGraceAlone sounds quite normal to me, apparently we have a much higher blood volume by this stage so probably just everything being a bit sensitive/swollen down there xx

@Wouldloveanother I've been in bed all day too. Just walking to the toilet sets me off retching 😞
Poor DD keeps coming up to see me for a cuddle.
On the plus side I've been able to eat a bit more so I think some relief must be coming. Maybe. Hopefully.

Its harder work with a toddler but honestly DD is the only thing that makes me smile at the moment. She’s quite concerned about mummy being ‘poorly’, so has been brutally taking my temperature with her toy thermometer and pouring me cups of tea from her tea set 😂 she also saved me some cake from her snack yesterday and brought it over as a squished up ball she had been holding in her hand 😂 they’re so cute! Reminds me why this is all worth it.

Thank you, @Wouldloveanother and @Chocolat, that's so reassuring to hear.

I've also spent all day on the sofa feeling sick and sorry for myself! Have such admiration for you who go through this with children already - I've got no idea how you do this. X

@Wouldloveanother omg that is just so so adorable! Crazy to imagine that hopefully that is what we’ll all have at the end of this journey one day 🥰

12 weeks tomorrow feels like such a milestone 🥳

On the subject of sex...has anyone not had it yet since they've become pregnant? I'm terrified to incase it causes a miscarriage. We've tried a few times and I just can't, and end up crying.

(As a bit of a back story, we were pregnant at the start of the year and were told at the scan that there was no heartbeat. We decided to decline medical intervention and let nature take its course and lose the baby naturally. A few days later we had sex and it seemed to start everything off- when DH pulled out he was covered in blood and I bled heavily all night and passed the baby the next morning.)

Sex is just bringing me right back to that moment and I can not do it, even though I know it's perfectly safe. DH has been lovely about it and has told me to forget sex and we can try again once we have our 12 week scan and everything is ok. My 12 week scan is tomorrow and I still don't feel ready for sex at all. ☹️

@CinderellaFant I’m so sorry you had to go through that. It has understandably traumatised you, so I wouldn’t push yourself until you feel ready. I guess see how you feel after the scan?

I was quite hesitant to dtd as well, despite knowing there’s no links to it and a miscarriage and we do do it a lot less than we used to, but do want to hopefully increase this a little as the second trimester is coming up and hoping to have a bit more energy lol

We don’t have sex at all when I’m pregnant. DH freaks because he worried it’ll harm the baby 🙄 but to be honest I always feel too rough in first trimester anyway, and by second trimester I have a bit of a bump and it puts me off! We do other things.

@CinderellaFant I'm so sorry, that sound awful for you both! I can see why you wouldn't want to

We have only done it once since and I bled lightly after it for a couple of days. I didn't enjoy it one bit bit I don't know if that's partly because my body feels so different at the moment? I've got such a big bloat just feels like I'm in someone else's body! Also my boobs are sooooo sore!! When I turn over in the night I wake up because they just feel so heavy and are throbbing

Thanks ladies, we've kissed and cuddled in bed but as soon as things start to escalate it seems I get a mental block and I can't even have him near me. Last time we had sex was when this little one was conceived.

Hopefully all is ok tomorrow at the scan and I can start to relax a bit (although I've already had 3 scans at EPU and they haven't helped me relax at all 🙈)

We are having sex but sort of once in 2 weeks kind of thing. We’re not doing any crazy acrobatics, so I’m not worried about it.
I know those with low lying placenta are advised against it though. But we won’t know until the 20 week scan if that’s an issue.

We haven’t had sex either, we haven’t since we found out.. I just can’t bring myself to do it, i started to consider it and then had spotting and the boyfriend is so freaked out that he will hurt me we just aren’t doing anything… I’m glad it’s not just me 😂😂

@Wouldloveanother so sorry you are feeling awful, it's so so hard isn't it. That is super cute about your DD tho! My DD is similarly adorable about mummy being sick, she often follows me to the bathroom when I go to spew (which I'd rather she didn't but can't really stop her esp if her dad is otherwise engaged) and she rubs my back and says "mummy ok?" And puts her head on my shoulder. It's the sweetest thing!!
I actually had a bit of a better morning today, and afternoon wasn't toooo bad but had a bit of a spew before lunch and then a mega double spew just now, it's nearly my bedtime (7pm) so looking forward to that 😅 I just had a couple crumpets to hopefully settle my tummy after being sick. I know what you mean about it affecting mental health, it's really very hard, and even on better days I am just scared of it being bad later in day or coming back full force next day. Plus I've put had like 2 better days 🥴 but both recently so maybe it's a sign things are slowly improving a little? The sickness definitely peaks bit time for me around 6pm, it's crazy how like clock work it is.

Sorry you're also feeling so bad @ancienthouse ❤️

@CinderellaFant I'm so sorry you went through that with your miscarriage, that sounds awful and really explains why you have trauma associated with sex. If it continues after you've had this baby you could look into some talking therapy which can definitely help, not that having sex right after birth is top on anyone's agenda or anything. But I know that must be really hard. If it helps we haven't had sex since being pregnant either. Well we did when I was about 9dpo and I didn't know yet, and I actually had really intense pain in the night afterwards near mt cervix which worried me (in hindsight may have been implantation cramps!). But tbh it's the last thing on mind, I feel too sick and tired. And also due to previous miscarriages a little nervous, although I know there isn't a link for most women. I'm thinking maybe second trimester it'll be something we do occasionally 😅

Hi ladies, good news for me from my scan today, after a week of being convinced I was going to miscarry any day. On and off spotting all week and feeling faint and exhausted plus this morning weird and scary symptoms where I lost some vision in one eye and my hand went completely numb as well as being confused. But the baby has a heartbeat and has grown, she measured me as a week ahead of where I think I am. It's been an emotional roller coaster this week, I hope I will be able to relax a bit now and enjoy being pregnant again. Those not having sex, it's the last thing on my mind and I'm not allowed on Dr's orders, so all well and good!

Anyone else had a letter following their booking bloods? I got a letter in friday asking me to ring and book back in with the midwife as my ferritin is low to check if I need iron?

@MamaMenna so happy for you glad everything is ok x

@Heath2330 I had to get my ferritin rechecked as they think I'm a possible alpha thalassaemia carrier. Ferritin came back normal, albeit on the low side, so they also got DH checked to see if he is carrier. His results came normal and my results are still none the wiser so been advised to up my greens. I've always been anaemic most of my life and so has my mum and I definitely think it contributes to the tiredness. How have you been feeling? They may put you on iron tablets. Have you been anaemic before? It's so common so don't let it worry you.

@MamaMenna that's fantastic news! So happy to hear that :)

Has anyone had their first midwife appointment and none of their test results have been uploaded to badger net? I had mine two weeks ago and midwife said the results would be up the next day but still nothing. Taking it as a good sign I've not heard anything 😂