TTC GRADUATES! Who's baby will we be welcoming first? Mrs? Seaside? Iampg? Beansprout?

[honeyapple]

Morning all

Dex did another stupendous sleep... had to wake him up to feed him and take DC to school. Fingers crossed this is a pattern he is going to stick to.

Fettle- hope Toby is ok with the jabs... Dex has got his 2nd lot next week. What is the third injection for? Did they do the polio one in his mouth yet? Dex only had 2 jabs first time around. That Messiah was a bit gruesome!

mrs- any action overnight?

Seaside and Iampg- a lot of the lovely ladies on here were early- Bodders you were 38 wks, i think??

Sorry- so excited about the pending births that I cant remember what I was going to say to anyone else!

AAAWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1 Look at all our babies growing up!

Greedy don't worry about the not rolling - I told you bout the 10 month old I met last week who was doing nothing but sitting (intelligent option I say realising that everything is brought to you if you just stay still long enough!!!).

Honey - I'm with the others I don't understand your mortgage company - are they are big company? Everything is going crazy in the mortgage world at the moment, so they're probably worrying about every tiny thing - have you tried asking if they will refund you the solicitor's fees since they are making you change solicitors?

I want to meet up in the park too - we should plan our big London meet up. Once the holidays start, I can come up and stay with my sister. WAs thinking about doing it anyway for a few days and seeing some of the sites, but it will be a challenge having 2 on public transport on my own, but it must be possible.

Seaside - Cassius sounds so adorable! Toby didn't roll until later than "normal", but then he started with earnest and rolled everywhere until he learnt how to commando-style crawl and does that a lightening speed now!

Bodders - great that work is so busy at the moment, but hope you are getting some time to yourself?

Right - will try and upload a recent picture of Toby and then I have to go shopping.

Chooster - you all recovered from your walk by the way?

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Ooh - meant to say to Babylove. Please don't let being on your own make you too worried - having a baby is a wonderful experience (in my opinion!!) and you don't want to spoil it by worrying in advance about it all. Talk to you MW and voice your concerns. My DH was allowed to stay with me pretty late while they were trying to start my labour (I was induced early with both mine). He would have been allowed to stay all night, but we all decided that it would be better for him to go home and get a good's night's sleep as he would be better support for me once my labour actually started. After labour he was allowed to stay for about 4 hours (I gave birth at 10pm and by that time I was shattered and moved onto a ward, so him going wasn't an issue as I just wanted to lie and watch Toby!). He was then allowed back early the next morning, so I wasn't really on my own and allowed to stay all day, so I don't think you'll be on your own that much. But as others have said, the MW-led unit will probably be even more friendly and smaller. I would arrange tours and see how you feel - certainly put my mind at rest once I'd seen where everything was going to take place!

Right I really really need to go shopping now!!!
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Hi Guys,

What a lovely day weather wise! We went to the in-laws and picked up a pram off my sister in law (my mum will be having it for all of her babysitting duties ). Got it home last nite and washed all the covers etc in the machine and hung them out to dry. Scrubbed the whole pram from top to bottom and hosed it off so in order for it to dry, it has to stay outside. Well im at work and altho our garden is secluded, i didnt want to just leave it there so its chained to the guttering lol!

Honeyapple - dont worry about your post. It wasnt arsy. I understand your comments and believe me, i've heard it all my life. Unfortunately im one of these people who was diagnosed with aniexty attacks and mine is brought on by being left alone in a situation im not comfortable in. I've spent 7 years making myself go through with it and work on it and honestly, im 1000% better than i used to be! I just can see myself dreading the rest of my pregnancy, labour and birth. I wish i felt different but i dont and i just dont know what way to turn.

Bodkin - I asked about DP staying and they said no because other women would feel uncomfortable. I spoke to DP about it and he agreed for me to ask if i could have a woman instead (my mum) to see if that made a diff to them. I've already stated i want to be in hosp as little time as is poss and i understand if i have a difficult birth it'll go right out of the window but if i dont, i'll wanna go home! Unfortunately i cant say ive bonded with my midwife. Shes a bit strange and i feel like im just a number to her. I've only seen her twice and both times shes not been very free with her information and generally i just dont feel like im cared for. DP says the same......my Dr bless him is lovely but he just says that its a midwife thing unfortunately. As for the homebirth, im thinking about it but with it being my first, i have this niggley feeling about not being in hospital incase something goes wrong. We're 18 miles from the nearest hospital and it takes 30 mins by car (obv an ambulance wld be quicker) but i think to myself that a lot cld happen within that time.........i dont know.

Seaside - So you had to stay in after having a ventouse and episiotimy? They didnt tell us that in hospital! As i have mentioned above, i feel the same about having options and the safety net of hospital. The "local" 30 min away one hasnt got good reviews, we're going to see it anyway but we saw one which is 45mins away and that was nice i spose for what they are! Thank you very much for all of the advice, i do appreciate you all taking your time to help me . Im sorry to hear your cottages arent going well, the market at the moment is so messed up! The house next door to ours has been up for sale for 3 months or so with very little interest and the price is now less than we paid for ours and it has a bigger garden! Mind you, we would never have gotten a mortgage now, we're one of those unfortunate people of 100% mortgage........dread to think what will happen in 18 months time when it comes to the end of our fixed rate period.

Greedy - Im glad you didnt feel lonely when you're in hospital. I expect i'll probably be so tired that i'll be glad to get rid of them but i cant see that being the case at the moment! Am i silly to feel like DP and i made this baby together and that them making him leave is wrong? Call me crazy but i think women should have the option of having their partners close. Pregnancy, labour and birth are traumatic in their own right and i feel that almost leaving the mum on their own after the birth is the wrong thing to do if they dont want it. cue people saying im wrong lol. Hmn, pizza eh? I used to love it but since getting pg i cant say i do now! I couldnt work out how to see pics until i had a go and realised it is through clicking your name! Duh! Awww your little ones are so cute! Marcy looks like a cheeky little devil! hehe

Fettle - Yeh we liked the idea of the tours too. The one thats 45 mins away was ok, smallish but ok. Dont know if i fancy being stuck in a car for 45 mins in labour though!!!! Got another tour of a more local one (30 mins) 2morro but i havent met one person yet who enjoyed the experience there so im trying to keep an open mind but easier said than done! Got another on 13th July to have a look around the midwife unit. Although they said you cant have someone stay i figured i'd look round anyway incase i felt settled there or something.

DP has been so good with all this. He told me when i got all upset that he wont leave me there. I said "wot if i give birth at 6pm and you have to go home at 9pm, i'll be so alone" and he said "no you wont, i'll sleep in the waiting room if nec and then you know i'll be there ready for you for 9am the next morning". I told him that it wasnt practical and he said that he didnt care, he didnt want to leave me and i dont want him to go either so hes decided that if i have a hospital birth then thats what he'll do! Obv if im in there after a c-section for example then it'll be a diff story but i thought that was so good of him!

Right, must crack on.

babylove Just saw your name while in the pregnancy topic and I remember you from the ttc boards, not sure if you'll remember me Anyway huge congrats on your pregnancy, hope all goes well

Hi again everyone

Great pics Greedy - she looks sooooo grown up these days and I love her blondie curly locks... will get round to putting a recent one on later - although I don't think Isla has changed since she was about 4 months - still not much in the way of hair, alhtough what little there is is going blonder.

Honey - Dex is just too unbearably gorgeous...you are going to have to take those pics off or you'll make me broody for a boy and I am NOT having any more babies

Fettle - I was talking to Nelly yesterday about who we should invite to Isla's party and she thought for a while and said "Lexi and Toby?" Wasn't that sweet!
I think a trip to London sounds like a great plan - am sure you'll manage on public transport - but would recommend putting Toby in a backpack rather than a buggy - much easier, and he'll love being able to see everything from up there! Like the sound of a London meet up... shall we start planning...

Babylove - yes, I can see an HB might be a little bit daunting for your first time. On the subject of midwives, I have found that the ones that are quite brusque and "cold" during the ante natal care can turn into the most amazing mws during labour - just what you need to get you motivated to find that last extra bit of energy when you think you can't go on any more. So don't worry if you don't bond with her now - there's a pretty good chance you'll be telling her you love her and thinking of naming your first born after her Or is that just me

Firsty - re milk - erm, well i'm also trying to get Isla to cut down a bit in an effort to make her eat a bit more. So now she is having 4 feeds a day (very roughly 4am-ish 7am-ish, 1pm-ish and 7pm-ish) She was having a feed at 11am as well, but I've swapped this for a banana! So we'll see how it goes, but so far so good. I am a bit concerned about her weight though - had her weighed last week and she is still only 17lbs 6oz. Still in a lot of 3-6month clothes too So made an appt with the GP just to put my mind at rest really (generally she is perfectly healthy and developing normally) and she agreed that she was rather teeny and has referred me to a paed. in 2 weeks time. Am sure it will all be fine and she is just a small person, but, well, I'd feel awful if there was something wrong and I'd ignored it.

Ok my little sugar puffs, off to me shed

Fettle - just seen your lovely recent pic too - gorgeous! I think Lexi will be a supermodel when she grows up, with her height and looks!

Have put up the latest one of Isla - not content with walking, she now has her pilot's licence....

Aw babylove, your DP sounds lovely!!! What a sweetheart . As others have said you'll be so wrapped up in the events that it may not be so bad, but it does sound like you suffer more than the average person about being alone. Could you speak to your Gp to see if there is anything he / she can put in writing just in case it makes a difference? Particularly with the mid-wife led unit where they may have a policy of not letting people stay, but it could be a rule that is bent a little in certain situations. hvae you looked into getting a private room in any of the local hospitals. When I had a tour of the hospital in Middlesex they said I could pay for a private room and DP could stay with me... Although I guess someone would have already suggested this to you. Good idea to see if your mum can stay though!!! That may work. I do agree with you by the way that I think the whole thing should be more accomodating to men. I always remember after Max was born, my DP didn't have a clue what to do once he got home after midnight. He was so wierd after a hugely emotional day that he couldn't sleep. meanwhile I couldn't sleep either staring at this tiny little new human being!!!! It was bizarre - Lovely but bizarre. .

Yup, am all fully recovered after the walk thanks fettle!!! I've been trying to keep up the exercise and the dieting but I seem stuck at 10stone 7 and can't seem to get any lower . I really want to make it to 10stone... dont know whether I lose motivation at this point though because as at least at the moment I can get into all my clothes from pre-babies. How much have you lost in total Greedy??? You're doign well as well aren't you fettle??

So whats the news on the house now Honeyapple!!! Why is it so bloody complicated to buy a house eh .

Sorry to hear about the cottages but at least you have interest in one of them. I guess that the problem with your work, you are so reliant on the economy in some ways. Fingers crossed for you!!!!

Hi Bodkin! Get that window finished!!! We miss you .

Speaking of which where is rainbowy these days??? probably trying to make baby number 4 .

Also has anyone ever heard from babymad?

Ahhhh, run out of time again! All is well here, Theo is doing a little more walking but still not moving that far indenpendantly. I really hope he does for his christening / 1st birthday as he will look so cute! I thought I'd craked it when I ordered that loevly outfit for him until the lady phoned me to day she was actually out of stock and the web site shouldn't have let me order it ... So today I've bought him dungerees from gap and a white linen shirt from next... Not quite the same but I reckon he'll look good - For the first 30 seconds before he either crawls / falls over or eats or drinks.... .

By the way Firsty I've had some awful PMT the last week as well. I've been so grumpy and me and DH have fallen out abadly nearly every day. So much so he thinks we need to go away for a couple of days without the kids as he thinks all we've been doing is bickering. Its not really that bad, but I can see where he's coming from. We've talked about re-visiting some of our old haunts in London for 2 or 3 days, but I'm a little reluctant to be away from the kids. What do you guys think? Would you jump at the chance or not? By the way I totally trust my parents in law with the kids and they all have a great time together. PIL would come and stay in our house so the kids were in their own beds...

One last thing - any more baby talk from you Firsty re: number 2?!

Crossed with you Bodkin!!! Love your stained glass by the way! Thats amazing . Would love to get some for Theo's room...

Wow, look at all these fab pictures of our little ones!!! They are all so gorgeous . I'll update mine as well...

Mmm, ok so another time... Dont remember my MN password

Mmm, ok so another time... Dont remember my MN password

morning

all ok on the home front here- our solicitor has convinced the mortgage peeps that he is ok... so that is a bit of a relief- apparently he has had issues with them before.

Bodders- hope Isla is fine- sure she is- as you say, some kids are just smaller than others. I have a friend at Dex's swim class who has a little girl who will be one next month and she is tiny- but VERY cute and mischiveous (sp??)She probably weighs about the same as Isla- she is definitely smaller than Dex who is turning into a bit of a tubbster.

Right must go check out the latest pics...

Hi to everyone xx

Hi Guys,

Well i got home and the pram was still there, chained to the guttering! Well impressed with my efforts, it scrubbed up quite nicely! My mum came down last nite and i taught her how to use it (shes having this one and im buying my new one) and she liked it so its all good. DP and i couldnt bring ourselves to fold it down and put it up in the nursery so its currently stood in all its glory in the hall!!!! lol. It'll come down tonight. Got our tour of the more local hospital tonight except i dont know if we'll be going. I started off with a sore throat yesterday aft and DP came home with the same. Got worse and worse and both of us had a terrible night with throats and blocked noses. We're both shattered today and feeling a bit shitty! We'll see!

Hi Furryfox!!!!! How are you?!!!!! Yeh of course i remember you from the TTC boards. Wow i cant believe people can remember me from so long ago! Strange eh?! Hope you're doing well too!

Bodkin - hmmmn we'll see about the midwives turning out to be nice.......i suppose if i have some gas and air during the birth it might change my mind . Good idea to have Isla checked out, better to be safe than sorry. Im sure she'll be fine too, my neice is a skinny little thing, she weighs the same as my nephew but she is 1 year older! She took a while to wean but now she eats like a horse, lol. Hope it goes well though

Chooster - No, no one has mentioned about private rooms in hospital. Thanks, i'll mention it tonight! DP has been very good, i cant complain. Will be glad when the footie is over because hes one of those guys who pretends to listen you when the footies on but really he doesnt care what you're saying! A tad annoying! Im glad you agree with the birthing process being a bit more open for men. I spoke to DP about it and he has said himself that he is worried about it because he wants to be able to spend time with the baby like a family and will feel awful being sat at home alone if im in hospital. I guess no one thinks like that though.......Sorry to hear your christening outfit is out of stock, what a pain! Glad you've settled on something different though, im sure he'll look gorgeous in anything you buy! As for you taking some time out, i understand you may find it difficult to part from the kids but i think it'd be really good for you. We all need to put ourselves first once in a while to keep our sanity and i think its a good vibe your DH suggesting it. Obviously he wants to spend some quality time with you which is nice to hear from the hubby. I say go for it, maybe dont go too far away but certainly have some time alone and re-kindle that romance

Honeyapple - well done with the solicitors! Good to hear you had some good news towards it! Lets hope the rest goes well!

Right, best be off! Take care

my god you lot have been chatty! took me ages to catch up!

bodders - i love your windows they are fab. how big are they and how much would someone pay for something like that?

lets do it girls...........lets have a big london meet up! a picnic in the park somewhere.................come on!!!

chooster - i am back to my pre pg weight but i would love to be 1/2 stone lighter. i think when you reach a certain weight ansd clothes fit again it does get really hard to keep motivated. i keep trying to remember how much better i would feel in all my summer clothes if i was 1/2 stone lighter, but its not enough to make me stick to my diet. dh is out tonight watching radiohead so i will no doubt eat loads and loads of crap!!! and drink too much wine!!! i would kill to weigh 10 1/2 stone by the way!!

toby looks cute fettle and nothing like i rem from other pictures. when was the most recent one before you posted this one?

firsty - you ok missy? you sounded down in your post which isnt like you at all. pmt sucks doesnt it? i am much more normal again since i stopped taking my dodgy pills and i am definately not imagining it. marcy has 8 oz milk at 7am, 2.30pm and 7pm.
and huge amounts of food inbetween!

i am so desperate for a wee............this is a real test of my pelvic floor.......

my sister is on day 24 of her cycle again.......i get so nervous/ excited for ehr every month........fingers crossed..

better go and wee and then get me boy from school. i LOVE picking him up! does that make me a weirdo?

Greedy - fingers crossed for your sis this month - did you persuade her to come on to mumsnet in the end? The windows were quite small, about 10" square each, and they are all hand-painted and fired in the kiln. They were £90 each. Have nearly finished the latest batch of work I've had on, including a really nice window a woman commissioned for her husband's 40th... will put a pic up of that when i've finished it. That's sweet about you loving going to pick up Ellis... I'm getting very excited/nervous about Nelly starting school in Sep. we have a few taster sessions over the next couple of weeks, but I think/hope she will enjoy it.

Fettle and Chooster - your 2 big ones are starting this September too aren't they - how are you feeling about it?

Chooster - weekend away without kids sounds bloody marvellous - what are you waiting for Where do you think you'll go?

Honeyapple - good news on the house front!

Did I mention that DP is taking Nelly to Glastonbury this weekend?! What a laugh eh? She is so excited - just got her a sleeping bag today and she has spent the afternoon in the pop up tent pretending she is at Glasto She will no doubt come back completely feral, and the last 4.5 years of my hard graft will be undone....

RE. pmt, I'm dreading the return of my periods, which might happen soon now, as Isla is occasionally sleeping through, so sometimes there is a big gap between feeds. Then I'll really get to see what having a coil is all about! But it's been lovely having a (nearly 2 year) break!

Oh thats so cool that Nelly is going to Glastonbury!! . Thats fab - I can't believe a 4 and a hlf year old is hipper and cooler than most of us, well me anyway . I bet she'll have an excellent time as will your DP. What are you and Isla going to do with yourselves? When is your GP appointment by the way. I probably already mentioned my friend who's DDis really light, 2nd percentile I think. But she is just really petite and a real live wire .

Max isn't starting school this year - he starts next August. He's a May baby and here in Scotland the cut is the end of February so he'll be at the older end of the school year.

Fingers crossed for your sister Greedy!!! It would be so good if she was pregnant again so soon.

Good news with teh house Hoey - all back on track eh! .

Thanks for your feedback on the weekend - we are thinking of London for the weekend as we haven't really been back there without kids since we moved away 5 years ago. It would be nice to be that couple again, even if only for a couple of days .

have put some new photos up too of the kids

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I can see you have a profile page but no access to any pics Firsty

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