Due April/May after MC 🌈

[BellaBella38]

Hi everyone, I know this is might be a bit early to start a thread but after more than 2 1/2 years of trying the overwhelming excitement is real!

Me and my husband lost out first at 10 weeks back in December 2020 and to be honest had kind of given up. I only peed on a stick at 16DPO because a banana repulsed me to the point of spitting it out! Trying not to be too excited or paranoid, but we'll see how that goes. 🤣

I've ordered the Pregnancy after Loss book by Zoe Coates Clark in an attempt to keep my sanity, but the going to the loo fear of seeing blood is real. And I've booked an apt to talk to my GP on Thursday at 5+3 to talk about whether or not progesterone would be appropriate.

Thankfully my husband is level headed and reminds me not to get too ahead of myself yet, but it would be great to meet others in the same boat for a hand hold.

@MO22 It is most likely just irritation of your cervix which has caused the little tinge of blood rather than anything else ❤️🤞🏻

I have my 9 week scan on Thursday. I’ve got awful nausea and sickness that lasts 24/7. I wouldn’t say it’s HG but it’s massively been taking over my life for the last month.

@mo22 I completely understand - I had spotting on Saturday and was freaking out. Most spotting after sex is cervical irritation as I'm sure you know. I'd recommend waiting and seeing if the spotting goes away and then if not contact EPU. Either way, might be worth booking a scan for 8 weeks as I know 12 weeks is unbelievably long to wait xx

Thanks @Essexgalhere @IWillBeWaxingAnOwl I am properly freaking out now as feel like my boobs are less sore too. The EPU is only walk-in until 11am and I'm on a course tomorrow morning and then fly for a short holiday in the afternoon. I wonder if I just bite the bullet and go now and at least I know...

@IWillBeWaxingAnOwl did your spotting stop? Sorry you were going through it too!

@MO22 yes, only lasted an hour or so but I was on a plane to holiday at the time so freaking out! If you are about to be away and have the time to go today, I'd go today. Maybe also mention that you have a history of loss and that's why you are especially concerned

@MO22 I'm not sure if you decided to go or not, but fx for good news if you did (and fx the spotting stops either way!)

You can often see something at 6w, but if you don't it's not necessarily bad news. It seems pretty clear that your spotting is from the sex, but at least if you get the scan you know everything is in the right place. Also, there is evidence that progesterone pessaries can help prevent miscarriage in women with 1+ MCs and spotting, so they might prescribe it (if that's something you were interested in). It's not a big impact until 3+ MCs, but I thought it was worthwhile.

I had red spotting at 6w and took myself straight to Urgent Care, then brown spotting that has come and gone ever since (now 9+2). Had another scan last week (8+3) and everything was still looking OK at that point despite the spotting.

I've also found that 'straining' (iykwim) can also cause a bit of brown spotting...

@Melusina123 thank you for the crossed fingers - they worked!

Miraculously was seen straight away at the EPU, there was no one else there (unheard of in London!) and everything is ok - measuring 6w2 like I thought and a heart beat! I am SO relieved.

I know a heartbeat doesn't always mean no miscarriage - I saw one last time at 9 weeks and miscarried at 12, but at least it's some reassurance for now.

Thank you all for letting me have a bit of a freak out, I feel totally exhausted from all the adrenaline!

Nurse also said bleeding so common, it's just hard to remember when brown spotting led to my miscarriage last time!

@MO22 ahh I'm so glad!! 💙💙💙

@MO22 bleeding is so common my EPU literally gave me a handout on it when I presented. 🤣 But I think given the risk of ectopic, if you have any bleeding it's just better to get scanned. I also wanted the progesterone prescription.

And that's why I love this thread - full of people who understand that things just hit different when you've had an experience of loss. 💙

Got my call from the midwife for the booking appointment yesterday, that will be on the 27th when I'm 9+5 so a bit later than last time, and annoyingly it seems my trust don't give you early scans unless you have had 3+ miscarriages (or if any concerning symptoms crop up).

We've got things on for the next few weekends so I've gone and booked a private one this weekend for when I'm exactly 7 weeks.

It's a touch earlier than I'd like and I'm quite nervous. Ugh. I feel like I need to brace myself for bad news again even though I've got no reason to think there's any issue.

It's probably not helping that I don't have a whole lot of symptoms - I didn't last time, and mum said her pregnancies were pretty straightforward without any nausea or anything so I may just be "lucky" in that sense - but then it kinda contributes to the whole I don't feel especially pregnant, so I can't help but worry they're going to scan me and go 'um we can't see anything' like they did last time.

Hugs to you all. We've all got our own mental hurdles don't we!?

@MO22 you and I have a very similar history - for me perfect scan with heartbeat and waving at 10 weeks, miscarriage at 12. So glad all is okay!

As you said, this scan is great as well all understand and have many facets of similar experiences!

I have lost my nausea, sickness and sensitive boobs since Saturday so I was convinced it was leading to another mmc. I gave in and booked a private scan for this morning.

There was a little heartbeat. It’s the furthest I’ve got so far. It’s measuring 2 days behind but they also said it can vary. I should be 9 weeks and it’s 8+5. I’m going to take the positive from it, the first time I’ve seen a heartbeat. Also I have a scan picture, last time I regretted not being offered one even though it was bad news. So this time I said can I have a picture regardless.

I have my first midwife appointment on Friday. She tried to change most of it to a telephone appointment to go through medical history on Wednesday with just a very brief in person appointment on Friday, citing covid as the reason. I said I wanted to keep it all to in person and she agreed.

I really don’t want to have any of my appointments by telephone if they should usually be in person.

Women have had a terrible time during covid in relation to pregnancy. I know many people have but I think we need to stand firm against any attempts to erode care.

I think covid is being used as a very convenient excuse.

@Blue2020 great news about your scan. It just goes to show that symptoms don't mean much! I wouldn't worry about 2 days out. My DD was 2 days behind at one point but caught up.

@MO22 great news and well done for getting a scan. I wish our EPUs were walk in. Hope you can now enjoy your holiday.

@Sera123 hope the scan goes well. It's a mixed feeling isn't it?! On the one hand you want to know but on the other, you don't!!!

@Janefx40 thankyou, I know I was at the point of being ready for the bad news. Now I just need to hope it continues for three weeks until the dating scan.

@Singingloudforalltohear I had my midwife booking appointment today, I went in for it. 70-80% of it could have been done on the phone, it made no difference me being there or saying it on the phone. The only things that needed to be in person were blood samples, urine, measurements, blood pressure. Which is a short section of it.

@Blue2020 I know that some of it is a basic exchange of information that in technical terms could be done on the phone but there’s no substitute for an in person meeting.

Bearing in mind this is the first opportunity to identify those who are vulnerable or suffering from DV etc.

It’s a tricky time for women and there’s something very impersonal about a phone call. There’s lots that many women might raise in person but not on the phone.

@Singingloudforalltohear that is a good point about DV. They are questions that come up and having that space is vital. I don’t know if they would save those questions for the in person part or repeat the questions. Hopefully they would do.

I'm 9+3 today (maybe 9+5 as last scan out me a couple of days ahead) and for about an hour this morning the idea of drinking a coffee didn't repulse me. Which on the one hand would be nice because I really miss coffee and haven't had one since wk4 (decaf) but on the other hand freaked me out about loss of symptoms. I think I felt a bit less rotten yesterday, although still very fatigued. Anyway, now I'm back to feeling a bit repulsed by the idea of coffee, which is sad but also I'm a bit relieved...!

@Melusina123 it's mad how our minds panic about this stuff. I go an hour without a "symptom" and am convinced it's all over. I'm actually finding the Pregnancy After Loss book quite good now. Might be worth picking one up. It gives you activities to do every day to stay positive and calm.

I've been panicking because it turns out the steroids I'm on have caused a change to my liver (which is really common and nothing to worry about apparently). BUT now I'm convinced that the nausea I was feeling reassured by is just caused by that and not the pregnancy. There's no end to the panic is there!

@Janefx40 that's a good tip. I've got Expecting Better by Emily Oster, but that's more a general evidence-based pregnancy book.

Sorry you're also having a symptom panic (but glad the liver thing is nothing to worry about)! It's just one thing after another isn't it. 😩

Had a scan today as I've been diagnosed with a bad uti and I'm 6wks not 7 as I thought. There's a yolk sac and a heartbeat was flickering away

@ArrrMeHearties glad to hear you have seen heartbeat!

I’m so nervous about my scan tomorrow, going off my last scan I should be 9 weeks tomorrow. I lost my twins found out at 9 week scan in April so I’m double nervous.

@Essexgalhere we'll be thinking of you. Fingers crossed. 🤞🤞🤞

I had a scan at 8+3, which I booked for then because I learned of my MMC at 8+5 (embryo probably stopped developing around 8+0) and I couldn't face a scan on exactly the same timing - it would even have been the same day of the week! Saw a heartbeat and got put forward to 8+5, meaning this little blob at least outlasted the one I lost. So history doesn't have to repeat itself - and I'm sure you'll have good news tomorrow. ♥️

@ArrrMeHearties great that you saw a heart beat!

@Essexgalhere good luck tomorrow - totally get the anxiety but hopefully all will be fine. Will be thinking of you x

I feel sick but lost my appetite except for very specific things. Spent this evening traipsing round supermarkets looking for quorn peppered steaks which I've never even liked that much! Had a tantrum when no one sold them. Hoping this is a good sign!