Is there a 'Due May 2023' thread?

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@Doodle10 @calipoppy I rang this morning as well and they’ve booked me in for an early scan on Friday and told me to call back if the pain gets worse. Glad I rang as feel reassured now that if the pain doesn’t disappear in the next couple of days at least I’m getting it checked out.

@Charl881 oh that’s good news! How far along are you?

Hi all 🙋🏼‍♀️, can I join please!?

I’ve been reading the thread all along the way but haven’t risked posting yet, as we’ve had 3 EMC and many suspected CP (I don’t let myself test till AF is due). Quite anxious!

Journey so far has been 2.5 years and I’m 39 so we’re panicking that we’re running out of time.

Been messed around, overlooked and completely let down by the GP/NHS, regarding referrals for fertility testing, IVF and recurrent miscarriages.
We were just about to start private IVF and then fell pregnant!

I’m 6 weeks and 2 days today, going from my last period but I think I may have ovulated late. Due date 1st May 2023.

At 5 weeks and 4 days, I started with some brown discharge. Managed to get an appointment with EPU for scan.

Gestational sac could be seen but only part of a yolk sac (rather than a full circle).

So we’re still in limbo. It could be that it’s not developing so I’ll miscarry again or it could be that it was an awkward angle (I think I do have a slightly tilted uterus).

They put me on progesterone pessaries (bit messy!) and I’ve got a scan again on Saturday, when I’ll be 6 weeks and 5 days.

No more bleeding since last week 🤞

We had a private scan booked for tomorrow evening which we think we may as well go to, as we’ve already paid for it.

Just hoping it’s safe and ok to have all of these internal scans!

Have lots of symptoms but they come and go, which can be a bit disconcerting!

Before getting pregnant, I was really ill with covid and then shingles so I’m just hoping that hasn’t effected the egg quality.

Anyway, sorry for the essay!!!

How is everyone doing?

Charl881, I’m glad they are seeing you for a scan soon.

@Doodle10 technically seven weeks and two days BUT I didn’t ovulate until like day 22 so fully expecting to be more like six weeks

Feeling super grumpy today, anyone else?

Hey everyone, been a bit quiet, not much to say!

Like lots of you it sounds like, I'm a bit preoccupied with the prospect of ectopic pregnancy right now. I've found I can think myself into having cramps, which isn't good! Also my guts have been a bit bad the last couple of days so I think I've been a bit crampy because of that. No spotting, abdominal tenderness etc so no reason really to worry, but it's hard not to.

But I am just so tired all the time. 😩 And waking up quite early.

My parents are here next week so I just really hope to get few the next few weeks with no worrying symptoms so I can concentrate on spending time with them.

@OrangeTable I've been very grumpy recently and also extremely tired

@Melusina123 I have no logical reason but I'm also scared of an ectopic pregnancy it's the main reason I want an early scan 😩

Yes, I saw my aunt use a tea towel to wipe down the hob and countertop and felt a disproportionate surge of absolute rage.

I had to take a few deep breaths in the garden D then put the tea towel in the washing machine 😅

I think my fuse is generally shorter, but I also have a pretty constant low-level presence of nausea so maybe it's that along with the hormones?

@bossgirl94 I know. I've been trying to resist the temptation of an early scan, but now I slightly wish I'd gone for it just to rule out ectopic before I go to spend 2 wks with my parents and the in laws (we won't be telling them about the pg unless, I guess, something goes wrong).

@OrangeTable and @TheBeesKnee I’ve been feeling quite short-tempered too!!
Luckily I’m home alone today though so can only get ratty with myself!!

@Melusina123 have you got time to squeeze in a scan beforehand? When we booked ours, there were slots available the next day so it may be the case near you too?

@i83 It's a case of stressed if I do; stressed if I don't. 😫

Found out MMC at early scan last time so find the prospect anxiety-provoking generally, and I've read posts from so many people who got early scans around my dates (5+3 today) get really freaked out about the results because of bad visibility, or they're a bit earlier along than expected. It just seems like scans before c. 7wks are such a dice-roll about whether they're reassuring or more stressful.

I've also had a bit of a health anxiety flare-up recently so I'm trying to work on assuming that all is fine, especially since I have no evidence to the contrary so it's mainly my own anxiety/pessimism making me fixate on it.

All of which is to say that I might still crack and try to book an early scan tomorrow/Fri, but my general feeling right now is that it makes more sense not to.

Early pregnancy is fun.

@Melusina123 I totally understand that. I'm exactly 5 weeks and holding out to the 8 week mark I think. Although I feel a bit cautious because we're telling my parents tomorrow (I can't wait any longer) and the in laws at the weekend because we don't see them very often and want to do it in person and the next time we see them will be 16 weeks and I don't want to wait that long 🥺

@Melusina123 that makes perfect sense.

It’s such a fine line isn’t it, as to whether it might help or make things worse.

I thought that a scan would either be:
a) good news, so reassuring, or
b) bad news but at least I’d know what we were facing and could start to process it.

Turns out that’s not the case is it!
We’re just in limbo after our early scan.

@bossgirl94 I think it’s good to tell people early on, as they can help and be supportive if something does happen (we’ve had 3 miscarriages so have experience of this) but I know it’s worrying at the same time.

@i83 it really is. 😩I would really struggle with the limbo aspect, as my mental health is not the best generally atm. Hope your scan on Saturday goes well - at least the bleeding stopping is probably positive, and there's good evidence that progesterone can reduce the risk of miscarriage with bleeding so fingers crossed.

@bossgirl94 yeah it's bittersweet for me because my parents will be here and I'd like to tell them in person (they live in Australia) but I'm also just very much not ready to tell anyone - and also once we tell my parents my OH will want to tell his parents and I am NOT ready for that. So I think we won't end up being able to tell my parents in person. Maybe if the moment arises I'll sneak a word into mum's ear and hope she doesn't give the game away.

Anyone else here with close to zero symptoms? I know this sounds silly but I just cant stop worrying about it as I just dont feel pregnant :(

Oooh @Melusina123 can you have a shopping trip or afternoon tea with not the two of you? Tell her early on so that she can recover and put her poker face on before you go back home?

Hello everyone 👋🏻

Can I join please? I had a positive test at the weekend and the NHS calculator gives a due date of 12th May.

This is my first pregnancy, and I’m filled with anxiety about its viability, but I guess that’s normal. I’ve booked a private scan for 28th (will be 7w5d) - I questioned whether booking so early was tempting fate but what will be will be, regardless of what I’ve booked, and I needed an evening appointment (which seem to fill up).

I’ve been feeling okay apart from some mild tummy ache and feeling sick if I go hungry for a little while, but since Monday I’ve been itching like crazy. My partner bought me Pregnacare and I’m wondering if it’s that, and there have been no changes in diet, laundry products, bathing products etc. Has anyone else experienced this? I want to tear my own skin off, going to stop the Pregnacare and see if any improvement.

I’ve been so hungry today. Had a decent lunch but can’t stop reaching for snacks!

Evening everyone!

It's been almost a week since we found out that we're expecting, I'm currently 5 weeks pregnant and due 10th May 2023.

Looking forward to sharing experiences with everyone 😊

@Melusina123 I know it would be only fair in one way, that your OH’s parents find out just after yours but under the circumstances, surely he’ll understand?

There’s something about a woman’s Mum knowing that her daughter is pregnant and sharing that news together too. She’s your Mum. It’s really important and special.
(I lost my Mum to cancer 20 years ago but if she was here, she’d be the first person I’d have told and I wouldn’t feel guilty about who came afterwards and when!).

If you want to tell your parents when you see them in person, I’d say just go for it and please don’t feel guilty.
Your OH’s parents don’t need to know that you told your parents a few weeks before.

@Flowersflowers121 you probably already have but you could try some lemon juice squeezed into some water for the nausea?
It’s really helped me so far.

@Melusina123 I agree with @i83 , telling your mum is just different, it's not just so they know it's also a support thing too I think! I always tell my mum straight away since my first loss when she hadn't known I was pregnant before that. I've had to tell her over the phone when I had my DD during Covid but it's been so special telling her face to face that I'd also vote to go for it while they're over ❤️❤️

@Melusina123 I echo what @calipoppy and @i83 have said. If you can pull your mum aside or take her out for a few hours then it would be a really nice daughter to daughter moment to tell her

@Melusina123 I agree with the others and think it is a lovely idea to tell your mum in person when you see her. I told my mum around 6 weeks with my first and desperate to tell her again now. I go on holiday in a week and not sure if I'll get a chance to see her before that so might have to be afterwards

@Singingloudforalltohear this was me on Monday. Just couldn't stop eating. Seems to have just been that day though as been normal the past 2 days. Feeling absolutely wiped today though. So tired! Will be glad when I'm finished work today.

@DemiMae that's the same due date as me 🙂

@raffika sorry I've ever had itchiness like that. I'm not sure if vitamins would do that. Hopefully it eases for you. Hopefully an early scan helps your anxiety a bit.

@Charl881 that's good they've booked you in for a scan tomorrow

@i83sounds like you've had quite a tough time. Sorry you were treated so badly by GP/NHS but that's great you fell pregnant naturally. Hoping all goes well with your next scans and it was just an awkward angle