Due July 2022 (Thread 7)

[Lianna93]

New thread for the last of our July babies that are due 🥺💛

@CaptainCarp another cow's milk allergy here. I've been dairy free for three weeks now and her poos, skin and sleep are so much better. I think there was a definite improvement after a week. I also feel bad that I missed it. I'm really hoping she grows out of it as we're not vegan and it's in so many things.

Ben and Jerry's do a great chocolate and honeycomb vegan ice cream. It's really good. Am actually enjoying oat milk so much I might not go back!

@ChinChilly we have been aiming for at least 1 nap a day in the Moses basket or cot which has worked some days but some not. He'll only do max 40 mins in it for a nap though and 2 hrs in carrier! I'm trying to aim for naps in different places with ds, I would like him to sleep in as many different places as possible so car seat, pram, carrier, cot so that we don't have to stay in for naps! With dd she would only do long naps in the cot so that really tied us to staying at home.. I found not feeding to sleep and using the dummy at sleep time has helped!

@ChinChilly mine will nap in the moses basket on and off throughout the day, sometimes she is asleep for an hour but generally she will have shorter 40-45 minute naps, usually she falls asleep in her bouncer first and then I transfer her into the moses often with a dummy in her mouth and rocking her for a bit. She also falls asleep as soon as we go out in the car and every time she is in the pram/car seat so if she has been awake too long I go for a walk or a drive. It's great when I want to do a bit of shopping as she sleeps through the whole thing, which always amazes me!

@ChinChilly I thought to myself a couple days ago "this time last year I was just about conceiving my little alien" 👀 what a difference a year makes!

@kiwi17 that’s a good point actually about them sleeping in different places! My LG doesn’t really go any longer in the carrier.

@ShellUK09 I’ve managed to put her down twice ‘drowsy’ and she slept for about 40 mins. She doesn’t really sleep in the pushchair and occasionally in the car seat. I usually just leave her asleep on me because she only naps for about 45 mins aswell so I could spend more time settling her than what she’ll sleep but she’s getting heavy and my arm is suffering 😂 also I don’t really want to make it a habit.

@missv556 crazy isn’t it, I’ve got a feeling the next year will go just as quickly 🙈

Has anybody got much of a routine going on? My LG has pretty much naturally got herself in a feeding and bedtime routine it’s just day time sleep that is a bit all over the place! I’m not going to worry about it now and maybe start putting something in place in the new year as I think we may be hitting that 4 month sleep regression, she’s been up in the night for the last 2 nights and last night it was every 2 hours but she did settle very quickly, dummy in, pat on the tummy and she was out again

@ChinChilly I completely understand about not wanting to medicate. If your little one is doing fine without, then definitely avoid that route! We didn't end up with much of an option as it began affecting her weight and she dropped a couple of centiles. However now she is putting on more weight so fingers crossed!! 😀

Our little one is in a kind of routine. The feeding is a bit more hit and miss. Sometimes she will take two small feeds, other times one big feed. Can't ever really predict. But the day naps are almost like clockwork. I didn't think there was a pattern until I wrote a daily timeline. Eg woke 7.30. Fed 8am. Play until 9.30 then nap. Turned out she was awake 90 mins to 2 hours at a time. More often then not 2 hours. Now I can predict almost to the minute when she will need a nap and get things ready.
This week she has been falling asleep on her playmat! It's cushioned and a safe space. As she can't fall from there or get into any difficulty I leave her to nap ( keeping a close eye on her). Usually for 45 mins. Though her lunch time nap can be for up to 2 hours.
She also falls asleep in the buggy or car seat, even if she is not due a nap! So I try to time walks for when she's sleepy or she ends up sleeping too much. I have her in the chair rather than the carry cot as she was getting frustrated not being able to see out. The health visitor said it was fine as she's got good head control.
Sorry for the long post everyone. My little one is fast asleep and I have ten mins to myself 😲
I've eaten, had a brew, used the loo and don't know what to do with myself 🤣

@Ejb505 Ahh that’s good! I would definitely medicate her if she needed it but I think she’s doing ok! She did drop a few centiles but she was a big baby so I didn’t think she would stay at 98. She is really hit a miss with her sickness, sometimes there is none other times quite abit but never a full feed. You’ve eaten, had a brew and been to the loo 😯 that’s the dream right there! I’m used to coffee being Luke warm by the time I get to it 😂 I really wish my little madam would sleep in the pushchair she’s far too nosey for her own good

Mine won’t sleep in the pushchair either, so annoying! Sling or car seat only, my back is breaking

Hoping once I swap him to the chair bit in a few weeks he will get the idea

@SamanthaVimes same! I think I’m going to end up with one muscly arm at this rate 😂

I’m glad I’m not the only one not enjoying independent naps at the minute I was starting to worry I had spoilt her with all those newborn cuddle snooze’s. We’ve got OHs family visiting from abroad next week so not much point changing anything atm after that I might start working on getting her down in her Moses basket or next to me

@Mattieandmummy I know I couldn't believe it when i saw it in pringles! I'm thankful that supermarket bread seems to have turned vegan as I know that a lot of it used to have milk in!
I'm not 100% convinced she has CMPA as she's gaining weight really well & not had any other symptoms. But I've booked to see the GP early next week to discuss it.

@ChinChilly baby had stopped sleeping in the moses basket & I almost put it up for sale but she's started napping in it again this last week. Not consistent but for 20-60mins so I've been able to have food / tidy up a bit! 😲

We get good sleeps in the car seat so that's a bonus.

Pram is a bit hit & miss but she'll usually sleep if in it for more than 30 minutes

Has anyone been successfully leaving their baby with their other half or family for a few hours? (Sorry for the long msg ahead)

I've popped out for dog walks, shopping etc before and he's always been absolutely fine. That's always been during the day though. He's generally fussier in the evenings.

He's been taking a bottle from DH every few evenings with a little reluctance, but he's drank it once hungry enough. But the past two Thursday evenings I've gone off to play a sport (only for 2.5 hours) and last week I got back and LO was quite upset and refusing the bottle, but we tried again when I got home and he took it.

However I went again last night and he was absolutely hysterical. Apparently he was fine for about an hour and a half but I called DH on the way home and could hear him screaming and DH said he was making himself choke he was crying so hard. By the time I'd got in, his eyes were bright red and he was screaming in a way I never want to hear ever again. It was so traumatic. Any tips? Maybe he's just not ready yet? I feel absolutely awful... is 3 months about the time they start becoming more aware of who is around them? The mum guilt is real today 😞

@KizboBaggins don’t feel guilty! It’s hard when they’re this little and so unpredictable but I’m sure baby will get used to it if it’s a regular thing. Your DH will find a way to settle him.

I’m very jealous as there’s no way my DH would cope with both of ours at bedtime for an evening to give me a night off as our first is still a bit full on at that time of day but if yours is willing I’d keep it up.

I can do a couple of hours in the day but not much more than that as little one won’t do bottles (and frankly I don’t have anywhere to go often enough to make it worth the effort of persevering!) so need to come back to feed him.

@SamanthaVimes by the look on DHs face when I got back I don't think he'll be volunteering to do it again any time soon 😂 I can't imagine he'd cope if we had another child too! Bad enough with the dog lol

The time of day isn't ideal, fussy baby + DH just walked in from work, so I'll just leave it for now. We'll persevere with bottles if we can, but it's like the older he gets the more he realises that he prefers the boob, which is absolutely fine.

I suppose as they get older they'll go longer between feeds so we'll get a little freedom back! It's not forever anyway and I'm sure we'll miss it once it's done

@KizboBaggins honestly it won’t be long until they’re much easier to leave or more predictable so you can do bedtime and then sneak out after!

@CaptainCarp ahh hopefully she will start napping in there at some point then. I’m not sure she’s been in the pushchair for anymore than 20 mins so maybe she hasn’t been in there long enough to snooze.

@KizboBaggins I’ve left my LO with my parents for a few hours in the day twice and she’s been fine, however she is fussy on the evenings and I can’t even have a shower without her screaming in OH face so I’m guessing it’s just a time of day thing so I probs wouldn’t risk it on the evenings for now. I dunno about you but sometimes I feel like the dog is the other child 😂😂 we’ve been in and out of the vets with him thinking there is something up with him, now the vet thinks it’s behavioural while he adjusts to the baby 🤦‍♀️

@KizboBaggins I've been looking into this and apparently they begin to have preference for parents around 2 to 4 months. But our little one doesn't seem to mind! She's quite happy with anyone who will play with her and feed her!
We've been having some serious screaming/crying episodes. So bad she chokes as she cries. The only thing that seems to stop the crying is being swung on her tummy ( face down, hand under chest and tummy). We aren't sure why but gp thinks it might be worsening reflux, but we aren't convinced.
The health visitor referred to it as the witching hour (between 5pm and 9pm) where babies are very unsettled.
I'm sorry this isn't very helpful. But for us, it wouldn't matter if it was me or my OH, she would be upset either way. Hoping it's just a stage 🙏

@Ejb505 funnily enough our little girl likes to be held like that too. I think a lot of babies like to be held like that so I’m not sure it’s related to worsening reflux either. She’s always been abit fussy at that time of day tbh it is getting better as she’s getting older. They’re going through so much development at this age it’s hard to know what’s causing fussiness

@KizboBaggins I haven't had to leave her with anyone for a wee while, but in the past week she's started getting upset when being passed to anyone else for a cuddle which never bothered her in the slightest previously. I'll be leaving her with my mum for a couple of hours on Sunday so will see how that goes!

@KizboBaggins I've only left baby with DP for a short while whilst I've popped to the local supermarket. He's not had to feed though as I've always gone just after she's fed.
It feels really really strange going out without her. I really need to wash some bottles & see if she'll take expressed milk..

I get the mum guilt though I feel bad when baby is crying because they are fighting sleep & DP has her. I don't get the guilty feeling if she's screaming in my ear mind 😂

I've only left mine 3 times. Last one was for 2 hours when we left her with my mum. I'm going to see Kevin bridges tonight in Manchester. Kind of wish I wasn't going. Going to be gone for 6 hours! 😫 4 hrs she will be with my OH. The last 2 she will be with my mum whilst OH picks me up.
If I could have cancelled I would, but don't want to let my friend down. I know she'll be fine, but I feel so guilty. I know she's too little to feel abandoned, but that's what I'm imagining! Why do we do this to ourselves?🤣
Also worry that my OH doesn't have as much experience being on his own with her due to him being at work and me always being there. I know he will be fine but I still worry. He's promised me hourly texts 🙈

How did everyone’s little ones get on with the time change?

I actually had to leave my LO for 2days/nights thid week whilst I flew to Spain for a confernce(yes I am still on mat leave!🙈)she got on great with ny husband but was so delighted to get home!We have no passport for her yet and have no family in the UK so we had no other choice but thankfully she is v.chill!

@ChinChilly thankfully okay, she had her last feed a bit later last night and then woke up just a little bit earlier this morning but I managed to hold off her feed until 15 minutes before her usual feed time so we are back on track. I on the other hand didn't feel any benefit from the extra hour as I was awake since 5 anyway! How has your little one been today?

@ShellUK09 sleep has been a funny one for about a week-10 days now so I’m not sure it made much difference, she was up about half hour earlier than usual. We’re having a few wake ups a night, not to feed just a moan then back to sleep, I’ve started leaving her because she isn’t crying just moaning and she settled herself back to sleep a couple of times last night, I suspect we’re going through the sleep regression but we got a nap in the car seat and pushchair yesterday which she doesn’t normally manage

@ChinChilly the time change wasn't a problem really. He woke at 5am which would have been 6am had the clocks not changed which is his regular wake up time. He slept a big chunk of 9-2 so I can forgive the 5am wake up haha