Due July 2022 (Thread 7)

[Lianna93]

New thread for the last of our July babies that are due 🥺💛

@KizboBaggins yes same here, had a lovely quiet night so far and we got to enjoy a takeaway in peace while she has been asleep all evening, but I'm dreading later!

@ShellUK09 fever broke naturally & although I had a a fairly sleepy baby we had a 2 3hr stints of sleep last night.
She's back to her "chatty" self this morning ☺

@CaptainCarp aah good 😌 haha I know what you mean, we have some good little conversations now too!

Anyone who was impressed with my nights sleep on Thursday night well this was last night. 😳🥴😩

@ChinChilly that really is a bad night! Hopefully you get a better one tonight.
Did you manage to get a nap today?

So I’ve spent a small fortune on clothes with strategic zips for boob access. I didn’t buy any last time thinking I wouldn’t get much use out of them but given I’m still feeding the older one it felt like time for some new threads 😅
I’m so glad I got them! I can actually look nice and not just be in a vest top all the time (I mean I will be a lot of the time I expect but it’s nice to have the option to dress up slightly nice!)

@SamanthaVimes about 30 mins this afternoon 😩😩 if Tonight is the same as last night I may just curl into a ball and cry myself 😂

@ChinChilly can your DH/DP help? I’m no stranger to broken sleep but you definitely need more than 2 hours total to function.
Might be worth making sure there aren’t any pillows or blankets near you when you’re up with baby tonight just in case you accidentally fall asleep without meaning to!

@SamanthaVimes he Normally does and we take the feeds in turns but he’s up at 5 for work for a few days so feels abit unfair. Tbh I tend to bring her downstairs to change and feed then take her back up and pop her straight into the next to me. I don’t tend to bring her into the bed for that reason incase I drop off

@ChinChilly how was you evening?

We have had bad unsettled times with feeds but it's not consistent so unsure if we should carry on the gaviscon - tempted to stop it and try the new milk we have on prescription coming
DR has recommended aptamil pep 1 ?
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@strawberrysummer19 loads better thank you! Back to 11-4 then 5-7.30 had a feed and back to sleep 😂 lazy mare.

it’s really hard having a fussy baby and not being able to do anything for them, I do really recommend the co lactase drops they break down the lactose in the milk as some baby’s find it hard to digest while their digestive system is still immature. If you haven’t tried them it could be worth a go, but go with your gut and if it’s telling you to try the new milk go for it, you know her best as her mom.

@ChinChilly maybe I should try that first before the milk change - guess that's less drastic ?

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@ChinChilly and that's great to hear!! Xx

Please help - I don't want to come across like I'm being mean...but!

My mother in law who I must add is lovely and we are a close knit family but since baby has been born she's become intense

What my question is how do I address this? Wa it's getting me down a bit

To summarise what has happened -

• spent 6 days with us after baby was born including Turning up at the house which I found hard after giving birth and having a traumatic one at that

( we had to say we needed some time to adjust as a family which she did then do) it was covered with I'll just drop some bits off for you ( including chocolate, flowers and treats for me which was lovely but then it was like would you like a cup of tea ? Oh yes pls and then would stay)

• says things like ' I'm obsessed, can't think of anyone else' but the baby ! I love him so much but on repeat

• texts me daily asking how baby is - which I'm finding intense even though we texted a lot before I suppose it's no change but just find it overwhelming because of everything else she's doing I guess

• has told my husband she feels lost when she doesn't see the baby and misses him so much

( which is nice but it's alllll the time and she repeats herself) which I find is a guilt trip implying she doesn't see him enough but I'm still recovering after a traumatic time - have another daughter and just want some space

• when she is here she can't hold a conversation with me so she will ask me a question and when I answer she stares at the baby and says sorry what? Having to repeat is exhausting - when baby is in her cot making noise she stands over the cot and asked is he ok? And then sits down and then gets up and then sits down and gets up repeating that

• she has bought everything for baby at hers so baby can stay over but I'm not ready to leave him yet, anytime soon really - she says things like ' I'm here to baby sit when ever you like but you may not get him back! When she's over she says she's trying to work out a way to kidnap the baby when I'm not looking!

I know it's all said in jest and she just loves her grandson but I find it's really grating on me but I think it's because a number of things

I also have another child and she has said 'nanny is obsessed mummy!' So she's picking up on it

Is anyone else's mil like this ? ( my own family mum and sister etc are not) am I being unreasonable as I almost feel like I am however I can't help it grating on me

She wants constant updates and when I've tried to keep the updates short she's asking for details (daily) and i just find it too much

I've spoken to my husband and he does agree it's too much but I've been careful how I word it as it is his mum and I know I'm probably lucky to have her care but I also don't want to upset her so I'm thinking not say anything and hope it will calm down ?

Your thoughts pls lovely mum netters
Apologies if I've come across too harsh x

@weatherchange22 my Dad was a bit like this after my first was born. I dealt with the texts / phone calls by saying that I was exhausted so please excuse me if I forget to reply or don't hear my phone as I'm changing the baby's nappy. It allowed me to reply on my own terms and I also felt massively overwhelmed by the constant contact. In my case my Dad did calm down but my MIL did then go through a phase of trying to control our parenting and in particular my choices over breastfeeding (when to stop) and co-sleeping (which she still does actually although to a lesser extent now).

It's a tough one to navigate, we ended up having quite an argument with my DH's mother over control issues which I wouldn't recommend but I just couldn't bite my tongue any longer 😬.

@Mattieandmummy see I find that I do have to message as with what's app she will see when I'm online ! She doesn't message my husband as she knows I'll reply.
I feel mean 'backing off' but then I'm setting a presidence then aren't I

But it's every morning how was your night and then throughout the day and then the evening
How was your day ?

But maybe I need to not reply as quick

See how I feel awful 😞

@strawberrysummer19 it could be worth a try, it’s so hard to know. OH got ours from boots but I’d try one of the bigger stores if you were to get some our small local one doesn’t stock it

@weatherchange22 Ooo that is a lot, that would drive me mad! My MIL lives abroad so I don’t have this kinda thing. Maybe turn your last seen off on WhatsApp so she can’t tell if you’ve been on there or not, take a while to reply to the next message then just say sorry I can’t reply straight away with a newborn and another child but I’ll get back to you at some point. If that doesn’t work you may have to tell her straight 😑

@ChinChilly I think I'll start with that today
Taking a bit longer to reply and see how that goes. I feel sorry for her but also I don't like how it's making me feel and I suppose if I don't do anything then she will never know x she probably doesn't realise and there's no malice in it
Things is none of my family are like this

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@weatherchange22 I know how you feel. My in laws are a bit like this.

We dealt with it by making DH in charge of all communication. It’s his job to send them pics etc, if they ever say anything I say something about having my hands full with a nappy / cooking for older DD but it didn’t take them long to get used to speaking to their own son!

@SamanthaVimes I can't do that we we had communication before hand so I feel I have no choice but to just put up with it sadly x

Found out today that babies tongue tie has grown back despite having it cut at 1 week old so we're going to have to go through it all again 😫 hoping it won't cost as much this time... but explains why he has been fussing on the boob recently..

@kiwi17 oh no thats a shame, I didn't know it could come back. Its not cheap to correct either! I paid £175. Was there a disclaimer at all to say it could come back? I wasn't told anything at the procedure appointment about that

@kiwi17 @missv556 - my son had a tongue tie cut when a few days old and we were told to massage it with BM after every feed in order to stop it growing back. I know that lots of people aren’t given this advice (annoying) so wanted to share in case it helps you. That said, I know others whose babies’ TT have come back even with the massage so who knows! Sadly my little one still can’t bf even after the TT was fixed, but at least we tried! God, I hate my breast pump though…!

@missv556 yeah we paid £200 and now the person who did it says we have to pay another 50 to have it redone but she's not available until end of Sept and I don't know if we can wait that long as he screams and pulls off every few mouthfuls at every feed and it's hurting me again :( the options seem to be wait, try and go nhs which would mean more waiting but free or pay another £200+ to have it done by someone else...

My daughter had one which we had corrected and it never came back so I wasn't expecting it!

@Fingerscrossedfor2021HK yeah we did the massage and exercises and it still came back- the lactation consultant we saw yesterday said there's no scientific evidence the exercises stop it from reattaching sadly :(