Right side pain very worried now

[Scorpio8]

I am 7 weeks and panicked soon a I found I am pregnant. I had two scan first they saw sac and second the heartbeat.
I been worried a lot about this pregnancy and every time something happens have to Google old threads on here. I had several things happen. Last night fell asleep woke up bursting for a wee so think I held my bladder. I have right side pain and got up from bed really bad right side pain. Something not right at all.
Very scared at the moment.

@PMAmostofthetime Trying to be positive but don't feel positive today.
I just don't feel pregnant at all even though trying my best to plod on like everything okay. I do hope I am wrong.

My OH and I walked past a baby shop and my OH said you will be coming here I ignored him. Then I am saying to him can't plan nothing yet until after scan. I said several times he ignored me.

Once I have the private scan go from there. Feeling quite all over the place at the moment. Not sure if normal pregnancy hormones. I have been very in the mood if you know what I mean like I use to before my period.
The way I feel is like when I am due in my period.

I am prepared though for worst but good news too.
I decided if bad will just have a good drink and if all okay carry on.. obviously not sure what I will need to be done.
Cross that bridge when it's needed. If all okay I will obviously think get extra support for my anxiety.
But feel quite down and no one really knows right now.
I haven't told my parents and at this point really glad I haven't said nothing. No point delivering good news then we get bad. Although I had stillbirth already. I actually didn't realize how much pregnancy can be so stressful. My son 15 and he was quite soon after that and didn't feel this anxious don't remember at all.
I really just cling to hope I am wrong in this feeling that something wrong. Feel like we going to get a shock. Good or bad.
Normally when I have that feeling on something I am right. My friends don't like me for this. They think I am witch lol.

Thanks for sharing your experience hopefully my scan will be positive.

@Scorpio8 I think it's the hormones, some days I'm happy and excited other days I feel doomed and think it's all over.

We haven't told anyone yet and don't plan too until at least after 12 week scan if not longer.

My scan isn't until 30th and then I'll be 8+6 as I had ivf I asked for an earlier one but they don't recommend them before 7 so I'll wait.

It's perfectly normal to be scared and sometimes cautiously optimistic.

X

@PMAmostofthetime
@ShaneTwane

I need advice on private scan. Not done it before unfortunately haven't done it yet. Financially really don't have but wondering do you have to pay deposit? I am hoping to book on 14th of after.
I can't remember my last day of period. This week makes me 12 weeks but don't have my scan until 24 August.
I really don't think I can wait for much longer and they say 2 weeks between scans.
Well I haven't had one I 4-5 weeks seems so long.
The more and more days go on just feel annoyed with EPU. I am so angry don't really want to go into another rant.
Do you know if they will still scan me on 24 August if I say I been for private scan. Going to call my midwife she back the 11th. She said she refer me back if anything but no bleeding. EPU seems to think women don't have miscarriage without bleeding.
I wondering what to do as not sure I can hang on until 24th August. My thinking is if something wrong then what happens next although really hoping all okay. I am going away from 27 August to see family.
If all okay then happy but don't want me stuck at home on my own as my partner got plans too. My son won't be here just worried if the worst. This why I just want this scan asap. Any advice

Sorry I am 11 weeks this week

@PMAmostofthetime
@ShaneTwane

I know my partner would be upset. I realized last night he a big worried too.
So he wouldn't leave me.

I am literally carrying on like pregnant don't feel it. It's because I stopped sex with OH but had such a high drive I'm like too late now. Just getting on with this why he said to me hope we haven't hurt the baby. At this point I was like no guarantee everything okay with baby anyway.
Not going to lie think even something bad happened or if good we going to find out something else. Got that feeling don't know why. I still double over in bad cramps but for me like too late now..
I really have gone on would appreciate advice.

My advice if you cannot afford the scan is to wait till 24th August, if it’s going to put you into debt.

I say this gently: whatever is happening, nothing will change the outcome. If an early scan is going to cost you more than you can afford to pay, and it’s not good news, has that money been spent well or is it going to be another thing to worry about?

EPUs have strict criteria because they cannot scan everyone who gets odd intermittent pains in early pregnancy. Because for most women those early pains are normal and for many women who go on to miscarry early they never get any pains until they start bleeding, and many women have these early pains, a heartbeat is seen and then they miscarry later totally unrelated. If you are in severe constant pain or have symptoms of an ectopic they will scan you (or they generally should do). There are some units that will do a ‘reassurance’ scan at 8 weeks in some circumstances. But the pathway for women who’ve had a still birth will often kick in later in pregnancy because the things they look for to prevent that happening again are totally different to what you see/can look for in early pregnancy.

Sorry to hear your history and good luck whatever you decide. You will still have your NHS scan even if you have been for a private reassurance scan. So don’t worry about that. And you will have your second NHS scan at 20 weeks. You could always call the scan department and see if they can bring your 12 week scan forward if you think you are already 12 weeks, see if they have any cancellations?

@Iwouldlikesomecake

I just need to do the scan now I don't really care about the cost. I get the EPU rule but it's not what I thought they were there for. It's a waste of service if the continually dismiss woman worries. So it forces women to pay privately.
Tbh actually very angry with them because they scanned me 6 weeks oh your fine. The right side cramp was bad and very sore on that side which is still there. They did say I had a cyst that burst which which could mean there was another one. But many woman go for scans probably thinking everything fine because the your not bleeding so all is fine. To find out no heartbeat.
I hope in my case it's not the case and I am just over anxious. It's nothing but haven't felt pregnant at all although feel like put on loads weight to be honest my nipples look big so holding on to hope. I feel tired but could be my Fibromyalgia too.
Thanks for advice

I'm so sorry you're still struggling op. I think only you know if you can scrape together the money for private scan. Have you looked on Wowcher and Groupon to see if anywhere near you has offers? Mine has offers for private scans but they are a bit too far for me.

I have no advice really. My scan is 23rd so 14 days away and it feels like forever, when I think about it i actually get anxious and a bit upset.

Have you got a midwife yet you could call for advice in regards to 2 weeks between scans?

@ShaneTwane
My midwife on leave and back 11th
I may see what she will say. Because I been getting really bad cramp no bleeding. I use to feel bloated and full of gas nothing I put a lot of pregnancy symptoms to they just easier.

I had OH on ban for sex but then because I had been feeling like I just wanted to really bad just thought f it. I mean he was like hope what we are doing is not hurting the baby. But not being funny just thought something already might have happened.

I have just carried on with work other things but this still at back of my head. I actually told another friend I'm pregnant because of feeling stressed.

I will see if I can just get the money together to get scanned. I suppose it be an experience. My OH going away next week so hoping I can do it while he away.

I feel a bit of a fraud even taking frolic acid you know. We were in a restaurant and he said to the guy she pregnant asking what juice I can drink. I felt why you say it's too soon. Then walking past a baby clothes shop he was like you be coming here for your baby stuff totally ignored him.

Good luck with your scan. Thanks for replying

I don't know if this is any help but on Facebook there's a page called ask a midwife hull and they regularly do q and as with midwives I'm not sure how often they run though I'm sure it's regular. Might be worth trying asking on there? For a solid answer.

I’m glad you will be able to get the money together. EPU is for clinically indicated investigations and unfortunately being worried isn’t an indication. I can tell you that not that many women go to their 12 week scan to be told there is no heartbeat. A few yes but as a percentage it’s very low. it sounds like you do still have pregnancy symptoms so really good luck.

FWIW I’ve got more than one friend who had pregnancies diagnosed at over 20 weeks because they didn’t know they were pregnant - no symptoms at all and one of them had 2 kids already! So ‘lack of symptoms’ is not always a bad sign! X

(And embarrassingly one was a midwife)

@Iwouldlikesomecake

I really hope your right and it's just me worrying.
I still think they are a disappointing service. They only checked me because I freaked out thinking pregnancy was ectopic. Because everything was fine then okay to your not bleeding.
Even my midwife was concerned but said your not bleeding if anything will refer you to EPU. To be brutally honest I actually wouldn't be nice if my worst fears were confirmed at EPU.It's best I get private scan. Or wait for my 12 week.
Let's hope I have good news for EPU sake.
If I am wrong hopefully will get help for my anxiety. For me I wouldn't apologize for the way I view EPU.
I don't care how anyone feels on my comments but of how the worry and bad cramps have affected my mental health. But if I had recurring miscarriages I would be seen. It's not enough I had a stillborn.
Even if I am okay I stand by everything I say. Not enough women are taking notice of especially if your first time pregnant. This why they dismiss your concerns.
Some women just know something wrong and know their bodies. It's very sad your treated like that and have to get private scan.

I really don’t mean this to sound harsh @Scorpio8 because I have had a first trimester miscarriage myself and it was a deeply unpleasant experience but I think you’ve got to remember that even if EPU did see everyone who wanted to be seen, regardless of their symptoms, there is practically nothing they can do even if you are miscarrying. You know the pregnancy isn’t ectopic because they’ve scanned you previously so even if you went in, they scanned and found that you had lost the baby, they would only offer you the option of either waiting for a miscarriage to happen naturally or medical management.

I’ve been to EPU twice: the first time because of bleeding, which turned out to be totally fine and the second time with bleeding which turned out to be a miscarriage. They were quite clear both times that the main reason they were scanning me was because they wanted to determine the location of the pregnancy. In your case, you already know this.

@Cockerwalk

I can see what your saying but EPU not what you think. I see no point in it.
Many people I seen have gone at 12 weeks and been told the baby stopped growing at 6 weeks. That person sometimes know something wrong and they carry on because they not bleeding everything is fine. Not every miscarriage is bleeding. It's like because oh it's okay 5 and 6 weeks your fine when genuinely your concerned but you get fobbed off saying it's normal. I have struggled for a few weeks no knowing it's put me in a good place at all. Which it doesn't haven't to be that way for any woman. Some where confirmation needs to down to done.
I would want to experience early miscarriage because bleeding at home is scary. I am sure you wouldn't want to be 8 months feeling unwell going to the hospital to be told the head down and your baby has died.
I don't know what the point of EPU and never will. I actually felt bad and thought let me call EPU to be disappointed by them not seeing me.
That's why my midwife referring to rainbow and think they do regular scans can't remember. I just hope it's not too late because I wasn't listened too.
I had forgotten how pregnancy can be so stressful.
I am very on edge even though I had to paint a smile on my face not knowing if everything okay. Even today seeing pregnant women in front of me.
Sorry if I offended you but you come to my thread the amount of worry, anger people should be understanding.
I get people thinking I am over worrying here brushing my feelings to the side. But I would hate to be right all these weeks. I just hope I am wrong.

@Cockerwalk

I meant down the line something needs to done to help women like myself. You can't be left like that.

In my work today was serving pregnant women it was hard because of the not knowing. I couldn't feel excited but obviously no one knows it's too soon.
So when I saw heavily pregnant women just felt not good. They talking about baby showers and think hopefully everything okay planning mine.
I would of rather known sooner than later if I was miscarrying.

@ShaneTwane

Sorry if you been reading my rants all this waiting seriously has messed with my head. I haven't been coping.

Feel very happy today after my midwife text me. She going to see if they can bring my scan forward as she knows how anxious I am.

I am still trying to cling to hope that everything fine. So happy now and won't go for private scan.

I hope your come and tell me how your scan goes. I will be thinking of your 23rd August. I actually was day after but if next week can hang on as meant to be 12 weeks.

I may just wait now..hope your enjoying the weather thanks for your support.

That's great news about your midwife keep us updated on when it gets moved. 12 more days until mine and I'm feeling stressed. Also my belly has ballooned and it's freaking me out. I had a call from a genticist midwife today and she's referring me to a geneticist because dp has a very rare life threatening hereditary disease so I had a bit of a cry in the toilet at work with the stress of that but I got over it quickly and am feeling ok ish. I had another nightmare last night about loss and blood so I think that spurned on today's freak out. I'm doing better though. Hope your midwife works quickly and you get your scan soon :)

@ShaneTwane

I am really sorry your feeling stressed. That your having bad dreams.

It must be such a worry about your Dp
rare condition and having to be referred to a geneticist. Holding your hand through this.

I have forgotten how stressful pregnancy can be.

My midwife confused me because not sure if she was moving the scan appointment or the appointment with rainbow. But think it's both.

I think private scan is too much money. But if scan being moved forward won't bother now.

Can you text her to clarify what she means? What's rainbow? (Not heard of that sorry.) It's strange to think we have lasted this long but the last 12 and 13 days seems an absolute life time away doesn't it.

@ShaneTwane

Rainbow is for people who has stillbirth/ miscarriage I can't remember.
She said they would be able to support me better. I don't know if they would check me more..I still need to find out.

But think she may of meant she would move forward this appointment plus ask if scan could be moved forward. Rainbow appointment was in January and she said she will get it moved forward because of how anxious I am. So got an appointment text through for September but it's video call.

I will ask her tommorow.

Oh I see September is so much better than January which would be towards the middle)end of pregnancy if your due around early March so thank God for bringing that forward. Hopefully the midwife can bring the scan forward as well and feel free to rant away here whenever you need to.

I don't understand the point of epu and I don't get why people say there's nothing can be done for miscarriage when they have already said progesterone given at the first sign can sometimes save the pregnancy. Why is women's mental health ignored so much in early pregnancy as if it doesn't matter? Early pregnancy sucks.

Any news from your midwife op?

@ShaneTwane
I think she is trying to get my scan moved forward but she said with rainbows they will do extra scans etc.

I need to have blood tests and she asked if monday I could go by 2:30. But I am working and wouldn't be able to make it.
So don't know when I will hear from her again.

I definitely need to go to my GP again think got another Uti.

@ShaneTwane

I hadn't finished and it was sent. I have still this horrible cough from having Covid but got a message saying I was near someone with Covid so hoping I don't get ill again.

I still don't feel right just hoping it's normal. I am very tired today.

How are you doing?

Oh no Hoping you feel better really soon UTI is the worst and feeling rough doesn't help the anxiety at all does it :( I'm glad you will get extra scans with rainbows though. I'm ok at work on this glorious day. Ten more days until the scan and it feels like a life time away.