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Hiding pregnancy at a wedding

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itsmyfirst · 07/07/2022 07:56

Hi all,

I'm a guest at a wedding tomorrow. Obviously I won't be drinking (I'm going to drive) but as this is unusual for me, I know that I'll be under suspicion! Any tips on how to deflect attention or any excuses. I really don't want my friends knowing before my parents. I'm only 6 weeks and just found out yesterday that I'm expecting. Thanks so much.

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

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catwomando · 07/07/2022 07:58

Congratulations!

The tried and tested "I'm on antibiotics" usually does the trick.

Have a lovely time

Snowflakes1122 · 07/07/2022 08:01

You are driving
On a health kick
antibiotics

I wouldn’t give it too much thought. I didn’t pay attention to who was drinking and who wasn’t at the last wedding I attended.

Congratulations!

Cockle1234 · 07/07/2022 08:04

Antibiotics is a code word for pregnant imo. Won't the driving cover it? It's a perfectly valid reason by itself

PurpleDaisies · 07/07/2022 08:04

catwomando · 07/07/2022 07:58

Congratulations!

The tried and tested "I'm on antibiotics" usually does the trick.

Have a lovely time

It really doesn’t. It’s the quickest way of telling people you’re pregnant but you don’t want to talk about it yet.

I would just go with “I’m driving”.

Bunce1 · 07/07/2022 08:05

Nurse a glass of something to give the illusion of drinking and then say you’re only having the one as your driving. Do an eye roll and sigh and smile.

congratulations!

1990s · 07/07/2022 08:05

Literally just don’t say anything! Why brink attention to it.

Sip drinks, then leave them places and don’t finish them. If anyone says anything say you’re driving.

stuntbubbles · 07/07/2022 08:06

Hold a drink in your hands at all times! If you’ve got a drink in your hand you must be drinking, right? After the initial milling around bit no one notices who’s drinking what anyway.

Don't say antibiotics; you may as well show them a scan pic.

EllieRosesMammy · 07/07/2022 08:06

Either "I'm driving" or pretend to drink (order non alcohol drinks and pour them into a glass that no one will suspect 👀)

Dietarystuff · 07/07/2022 08:07

Just pour yourself a glass of wine at the table and carry it around. If someone offers to buy you a drink have a soft drink because you’re ‘pacing yourself’.

I didn’t drink for three years because of bladder issue. No-one knew I didn’t drink. People don’t care but as soon as you say ‘antibiotics’ everyone knows.

Pollywoddles · 07/07/2022 08:08

I managed an entire very boozy wedding by not drawing attention to the fact I wasn’t drinking. I had a glass of wine in front of me, my husband would take sips when nobody was looking so it looked like I was drinking. Then after the meal people didn’t even question it what I had in my glass was alcoholic or not.

Driving is a good excuse but in my experience it’s only something that people will notice if you draw attention to it.

PurpleDaisies · 07/07/2022 08:08

If the op is actually driving, why would people be buying her drinks? No need to pace herself if she’s being the wheel.

Babyenroute · 07/07/2022 08:16

It's great that your driving. I did what others did at work socials and things, took a glass of wine and just didn't actually drink it. If you don't, it draws more attention. If DH was there he took sips. If you are driving just say you are allowing your self one glass which you plan to nurse and this means 1) you don't have to draw attention to not wanting it topped up 2) people will think you can't be pregnant since you are willing to have one.

notangelinajolie · 07/07/2022 08:27

If you say you are on antibiotics the only person drawing attention to the fact you aren’t drinking is you.

Have a glass of wine with you at all times. If anyone asks just say no thanks I’ve got one. And get you DH to take a sip every now so the level goes down.

Or just have tonic water with ice - no one will know there is no Gin in it.

PurpleDaisies · 07/07/2022 08:28

Have a glass of wine with you at all times.

Even though she’s driving? That should raise an eyebrow or two.

ronswansonstache · 07/07/2022 08:31

Just pretend to drink! Hold a glass of bubbly throughout the day and get your other half to take sips when there's no one looking. Literally no one will notice. I got through a BFs 40th at 6 weeks this way

Garman · 07/07/2022 08:34

As above antibiotics is obvious code for pregnant. If you were going to be driving anyway just stick with that and nurse one glass of wine early on for a while or whatever you would have had if not pregnant. Or else say you drank too much last night, or that you're trying for a baby so on a health kick if that was something you were comfortable saying if it's family etc. Or get drinks that look alcoholic and say nothing, best way to do it is to never say you're not drinking, just pretend. So a tonic water in a pretty gin glass, a non alcoholic cocktail, etc.

Hugasauras · 07/07/2022 08:39

I went on a night out when I was 38 weeks (so obviously not trying to hide it!) and asked the bar staff to make me something non-alcoholic that looked like a fancy cocktail cos I had FOMO of everyone else drinking their nice drinks. They made me a really lovely mocktail that looked like the real thing in a proper cocktail glass. Perhaps that's an option if it's a bar?

LoudingVoice · 07/07/2022 08:44

Don’t say antibiotics, it’s just obvious then.

I spent an entire weekend getting away with not drinking by carrying around glasses of Prosecco, and accepting drinks if someone offered me one but swapping it for non alcoholic when nobody was looking or just saying ‘oh I’ve already got one thanks’.

Nobody noticed at all, and me not drinking would be really unusual.

AnguaResurgam · 07/07/2022 08:46

If you say 'on antibiotics' you may as well hand a big flashing sign over your head saying 'I'm pregnant' People are likely to have good enough manners to say nothing, but they'll know.

Fake drinking is usually the safer bet. Have one glass and make it last all day - 'I'm driving so don't get me another yet'. And/or have an accomplice who can (with you or for you) get a non-alcoholic version of something that looks like your normal tipple. Or is just the beneficiary of swopping glasses with you, so that the levels in both glasses go down (swop frequently, not all of one before starting on the second) and it looks as if you're drinking as long as you touch it to your lips from time to time.

No-one is going to be looking so closely that they see how much you actually swallow

MaggieFS · 07/07/2022 08:47

Don't say antibiotics.

Is there a good reason to be driving. Then that's reason enough.

Otherwise slowly nurse a drink or have something like soda with lemon so it looks like a G&T.

Also don't make a thing of it. If someone offers you a drink, just say no thanks. You don't have to justify it.

CauliWobble · 07/07/2022 08:49

You're driving, so if anyone asks surely that's enough

CauliWobble · 07/07/2022 08:51

No one should be outright asking you if you are pregnant even if they do have their suspicions.

JLQ1020 · 07/07/2022 08:51

Can you say you signed up to a boot camp exercise class early Sat morning and don't want to be hungover and throw up during it?

PurpleDaisies · 07/07/2022 08:56

JLQ1020 · 07/07/2022 08:51

Can you say you signed up to a boot camp exercise class early Sat morning and don't want to be hungover and throw up during it?

No one will believe that.

Beefcurtains79 · 07/07/2022 08:57

You are driving? What more excuse is needed? Surely your friends wouldn’t expect you to drink and drive.

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