Due in June - Thread 13

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Will add tags separately as currently feeding bubba xx

@beansprout55 the first few days are so so hard so you have someone who can watch baby for a couple of hours whilst you sleep as I wouldn’t let anyone have him at first and by day 5 I was delirious and having a breakdown. I don’t know about the mucus my baby didn’t seem to have any am sure it’s normal though as I have heard about it a lot.

@beansprout55 Louie had mucus when he was born they said it was due to quick delivery it did pass in a few days. He is formula fed and the hospital heated my bottles it was the only thing that helped us.

@beansprout55 Lyra had major mucus issues - really interrupted her feeding at the start. One thing that helped was slightly raising the head end of her crib by putting a couple of books under the feet. Otherwise it's just waiting it out - she got over it in a couple of days. Burping her helped her sick up lots, which encouraged it out faster.

@beansprout55 Jesse also had a bit of mucus spit up but because I'd had increased fluid in pregnancy they were worried about his digestive system and he had a tube put through his nose down to his stomach and an X-ray to check it wasn't blocked. I felt it was unnecessary but when a foetal dr tells you they need to do it it's hard to argue. Was all fine and spit up stopped same day

Everyone talking about lazy sleepy babies… dd didn’t get the memo 🙈 6-10 last night she spent 3 hours on the boob, half hour formula feeding and the other half hour we spent changing nappies, pacing, and just getting a bit upset she wasn’t settling.

this morning she’s been awake since 10! I’d be okay if it was too play but it’s too feed and she cries if she’s not getting it. My breasts obviously aren’t supplying demand. 😭😭 17 days in and I’m not sure my breasts will ever make enough milk.

Thanks everyone re the mucus. Glad to know it's not just us, I was in bits overnight. MW hasn't phoned saying when she'll be here. He seems hungry a lot and our latch only lasts a minute before he stops and fake sucks - I know it's still just the colostrum stage but even so it doesn't seem long enough for him to be getting what he needs? He is only 29 hours old. Lots of meconium nappies and he has peed on his dad 😂 hope he's ok. Cries and fusses a lot more than I thought newborns did, suspect due to all this wind and mucus?!
So so tempted to get formula as I hate seeing him upset but I'm equally reluctantly to cave when he's only a day old. Hmmmmm.

@Vimto1991 don't despair! She's just entering growth spurt phase, apparently they have a growth spurt around 3 weeks, so you're in the right territory. I'm 6 weeks today and still have the off day where I don't feel I quite keep up xxx

Aww @beansprout55 hang in there, the first few days are really hard- it gets a lot better! Just keep an eye on wet nappies, we knew Jesse wasn't getting enough food as he didn't have a wet nappy for most of a day. Also his lips were dry. So hard to know if they are getting enough colostrum. Crying doesn't mean he isn't getting enough, newborns cry ALOT. Could be gas or over tiredness as well as hunger

Is anyone else living in post baby chaos? DS is fed, happy, and growing, but the state of my kitchen...

Yes! I've now thrown in having Covid to the mix, so the house is officially a tip 😩

Lovely to read everyone's updates - congratulations to all the new babies!

I have gone from having a sleepy baby I had to wake up to feed to one who totally empties my breasts of milk. So worried I'm going to run out overnight or something - every day a new anxiety it seems!

Sorry can't keep up with the thread but just to say I'm also finding this stage very hard
Baby T is 3 weeks old and me and DH take it in turns overnight to look after him as he only sleeps in the sleepyhead which obviously he isn't supposed to sleep in unsupervised. I'm so drained!! Tried to move away from formula but he gets so annoyed after a few mins at breast that I give in :(
@Vimto1991 and anyone else combi feeding, what do your babies do after a few mins of suckling ? I have now given up and trying to express when I can but I don't seem to get more than 30mLs from both breasts at a time :( sometimes only 10-15! I'm going wrong somewhere and all of this is way harder than I imagined ... sleep deprivation being the main thing that's causing me to be this way I think!

Hi all,
I'm currently on the antenatal ward after starting the induction process with the pessary this morning at 41+4. This baby just doesn't want to come out! I think I'm maybe feeling more tightenings but I'm not really in any pain so I don't think I'm having proper contractions yet...really hoping that tomorrow is my baby's birthday!

Hope it goes well @ChildOfFriday, you got this and you are so close to meeting your baby :)

I had some tightenings last night that were a bit period crampy but they didn't continue so think they were just Braxton Hicks. Got excited that things might finally be kicking off but nothing more today (yet). More spicy food and sex for me then.

@MrsTwentyNine I squeeze my boob into an easier shape for her to latch and make sure her nose isn’t blocked as I find she pulls away if she can’t breath. Sometimes I’m holding my boob down the entire time so she can breath. I’ve also found she will de latch and not want that boob I wonder if she’s got rid of all my milk, so then I change boob.
after both boobs I then top up with formula. In hospital they said 31ml… dd will have 50 ml easily each time. 🙈
don’t be dismayed by how much you express - it’s not a true representation of how much milk baby can get. Max I’ve ever gotten was 30ml, that was 20ml one boob and 10 the other. One of my friends still breastfeeding her 15 month old has never been able to express!
im Finding it hard to find time to express. Baby is really not settling so really do hope it’s a growth spurt! Since 9:45 she’s had three hours sleep. How is that even possible. 😵

Ladies that have had your babies, did you tell family when labour started? I'm really wanting to make sure I stay focused and 'in the zone' during labour so have asked to not be pestered but also know that even if I turn my phone off, I will feel obligation to keep family reassured if they know I am in labour and turning my phone on to a bazillion 'how is it going ' messages afterwards will not be good for the post birth bubble.

But when we've mentioned this to our families they were horrified that they wouldn't know I was in labour and get the 'we just want to know you're ok' guilt trip... which also means that they are also sending messages on whatsapp to 'just check in' all the time which feels like they are trying to test if I am in labour by whether I respond or not

That was more of a rant than I was anticipating 😅

@GrowBabyGrow I was induced and my partner kept our mums and my sister in the loop up until I was on the drip and contractions had started and then we called when Louie arrived.

hope it all goes well for you and baby is here soon.

To those who gave my vaginally - what did you feel like down there in the days following?

Morning I gave birth the rest of the day I was just sore and it stung like a *** to pee!
4 days later it hurts to walk, get up, and feels like a huge weight is pressing down and wanting to fall out my vagina!
I had a MW look today (small 2nd degree tear which required stitches) and she said it's normal and very early - but I'm worried this means a prolapse or something real nasty. Did any of you experience this?? And if so, when does it subside? I don't feel like I can walk much which is really rubbish

@GrowBabyGrow
We told my family, and I told my colleagues at work. As soon as I went to hospital I didn't look at my phone once anyway - DH did to keep family updated, mainly for prayer support as I really needed it, but I had no idea he was texting them as in labour you just don't and had my eyes closed for about 7 hours straight anyway 😂

Gave BIRTH vaginally* 😂

Sorry guys, struggled to keep up with thread but just to respond to @beansprout55 that is totally normal, I felt that too but the heaviness did go in the second week of recovery. I am still sore from my episiotomy though!

@GrowBabyGrow i text to say I was in labour and then said I would get DH to inform them when the baby had arrived and I wouldn’t be looking to do updates while in labour

@GrowBabyGrow oh man I had so many people asking if baby had come yet, I actually stopped responding as it was doing my head in. My fam knew I was being induced but I didn't give many updates- my mum knew as she was looking after my older son but I didn't really look at my phone those 2 limbo days before they broke my water. Do what makes you feel most calm

@beansprout55 I had that was my first birth, took a while to feel normal again down there. I don't know if my tear was 'better' this time or was stiched up better but I'm 2 weeks post birth and feeling almost healed- both were second degree, first tear was described as jagged though 😬 I think this one was cleaner

@Vimto1991 thank you! I also have the same problem. My big boobs squash his tiny face especially one of them. Maybe I was never cut out for EBF for this reason...what an irony that big boobs are inconvenient for BF! At least mine are -.- I am also struggling to find time to express as he doesn't settle. He is on around 100mLs formula 3 hourly with me trying to make sure at least 30mLs of that being breast milk for most feeds but not happening. I have family staying over till I'm nearly 6 weeks then I can try to put him to breast more easily at home without anyone nearby but I fear it may be too late at that point :(