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When do you consider yourself a Mum?

89 replies

namechangeanonymous · 28/05/2022 17:08

Just that really.
Ive considered myself a Mummy since I got my positive pregnancy test - she's been a long time in the making though so whether that has influenced me personally I don't really know, however a friend didn't consider herself a Mum until baby was in her arms.
There obviously isn't a right way for this but I'm interested in how others felt?
I'm a first time Mum.

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2pinkginsplease · 28/05/2022 17:11

As soon as baby was born I became a mum.

DoodleBelle · 28/05/2022 17:11

I thought a lot about being a mum when I was pregnant. The logical part of me said I was a mum when my baby was handed to me but I truly felt like ‘Mummy’ about a week after she was born.

YesItsMeIDontCare · 28/05/2022 17:12

My kid's 18 and I'm still struggling to get the mum feeling 😂
Apparently, according to DS, I'm quite good at this mumming lark though 🤷🏼‍♀️

If you feel like a mum now, embrace it 😊

Moancup · 28/05/2022 17:14

Into the third trimester and definitely don’t feel like a mum, the idea is daft to me. But I also have a feeling it’s going to take me a long time to adjust even when he’s safely here.

Bubblesandsqueak1 · 28/05/2022 17:14

The second they enter the would is when I became a mam

Luredbyapomegranate · 28/05/2022 17:15

2pinkginsplease · 28/05/2022 17:11

As soon as baby was born I became a mum.

This. I do think there has to be a person outside you for to be a mum to. Until then you are a mum to be.

wolfstrawb · 28/05/2022 17:17

I don't think you start 'parenting' really until they are born so I would say I became a mum once they were born.
If you feel like a mummy when pregnant that's really ok too though!

CoalCraft · 28/05/2022 17:18

I don't think it's a black and white thing. I was a mum in the sense that I was already making sacrifices and considering my child's wellbeing from the moment I had my positive test, but I didn't really feel a bond till the sort of 12-16 week mark, and with my first I wasn't hands on till she was born, obviously. In fact, since DD1 stayed in hospital for three weeks after birth and a lot of the decisions were made by her doctors and nurses, I didn't really become fully responsible for her care till she was home.

SpiderVersed · 28/05/2022 17:25

You’re pregnant (or a mum-to-be if you prefer) until your child is born. Once the baby is born, you become a mum. Not before.

Mommabear20 · 28/05/2022 17:28

For me it once I passed the 'baby could survive' point of my pregnancy. Until then I knew baby wouldn't survive if it was born, so tried not to let myself get too attached.

lickenchugget · 28/05/2022 17:28

When the baby is born. You’re a mum to be before then.

Furrbabymama87 · 28/05/2022 17:30

When the baby is born but even then it felt weird and with my first I'd have moments where I'd be like "Wow, I'm actually someone's mother. I have a son". And I'd be taken aback at the thought. But as soon as I found out I was pregnant with each of them I'd feel their little soul keeping me company and know that I was the only person who could protect them.

Highlights12 · 28/05/2022 17:46

After I had given birth the nurse was by my bed, she moved my bag & said I'll just put mums bag over here. I was thinking why does she think that's my mums bag then I realised she meant me & I was the mum.

Bubbles021 · 28/05/2022 17:47

Like you OP, I considered myself a mummy as soon as I found out I was expecting 💙 my little boy sadly passed away while I was pregnant at 33 weeks, but I'm still a mummy 💙

Angrymum22 · 28/05/2022 17:52

I realised I was a mum when I asked my 14yr old niece to wash her hands before she held DS who was 6 hours old. I would never have dreamt of being so bossy until then.
When your baby is born it’s like switch flips, I remember talking to my DSis about it, she smiled and said she knew exactly what I meant but had been unable to explain the feeling to me before I was a mum.

pedropony76 · 28/05/2022 17:56

I considered myself a mum when my DD was like 3 months old😂 up until then I just felt like I was babysitting this baby but didn’t actually register she was my daughter.
I remember when I was 7 months pregnant with DD and I was getting ‘happy Mother’s Day’ messages and I was like why are you sending that to me I’m not even a mum yet haha

Bumpsadaisie · 28/05/2022 18:13

I still feel shocked sometimes that I'm someone's mum. Two people's mum, in fact!

I've been one for 13 years so really should be used to it now!

Bumpsadaisie · 28/05/2022 18:14

Bumpsadaisie · 28/05/2022 18:13

I still feel shocked sometimes that I'm someone's mum. Two people's mum, in fact!

I've been one for 13 years so really should be used to it now!

Sometimes I wonder who on earth in The Authorities allowed this to happen ...

humptydumptysatonawall · 28/05/2022 18:56

I was a mum when my baby was born, I felt like a mum a few weeks after when my baby smiled at me for the first time

kitcat15 · 28/05/2022 19:04

Definately not until baby is born

Yutes · 28/05/2022 19:05

I’ve lost two babies and this makes me feel really sad. I understand what you’re all saying.

Never part of the mum club

Dinotour · 28/05/2022 19:06

Bubbles021 · 28/05/2022 17:47

Like you OP, I considered myself a mummy as soon as I found out I was expecting 💙 my little boy sadly passed away while I was pregnant at 33 weeks, but I'm still a mummy 💙

Yes you are ❤

I don't know, I still find it surreal to think I'm a mum and DS is now at school! I think though that there is more to being a mum than a baby in arms. I lost twins before having DS and I will always be their mum even though at the time I didn't necessarily actively think of myself as such.

User3568975431146 · 28/05/2022 19:44

As soon as you get the positive test you're a mum and your baby is on its way!

User3568975431146 · 28/05/2022 19:46

Bubbles021 · 28/05/2022 17:47

Like you OP, I considered myself a mummy as soon as I found out I was expecting 💙 my little boy sadly passed away while I was pregnant at 33 weeks, but I'm still a mummy 💙

Without question, and a very special mummy at that. He'll always be with you 💙

User3568975431146 · 28/05/2022 19:48

Yutes · 28/05/2022 19:05

I’ve lost two babies and this makes me feel really sad. I understand what you’re all saying.

Never part of the mum club

You're still a mum even if your baby didn't quite make it. I'm so sorry for your loss, but never doubt your mum-ness, your little one was and is a huge part of your life. 💐