When do you consider yourself a Mum?

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Just that really.
Ive considered myself a Mummy since I got my positive pregnancy test - she's been a long time in the making though so whether that has influenced me personally I don't really know, however a friend didn't consider herself a Mum until baby was in her arms.
There obviously isn't a right way for this but I'm interested in how others felt?
I'm a first time Mum.

As soon as baby was born I became a mum.

I thought a lot about being a mum when I was pregnant. The logical part of me said I was a mum when my baby was handed to me but I truly felt like ‘Mummy’ about a week after she was born.

My kid's 18 and I'm still struggling to get the mum feeling 😂
Apparently, according to DS, I'm quite good at this mumming lark though 🤷🏼‍♀️

If you feel like a mum now, embrace it 😊

Into the third trimester and definitely don’t feel like a mum, the idea is daft to me. But I also have a feeling it’s going to take me a long time to adjust even when he’s safely here.

The second they enter the would is when I became a mam

This. I do think there has to be a person outside you for to be a mum to. Until then you are a mum to be.

I don't think you start 'parenting' really until they are born so I would say I became a mum once they were born.
If you feel like a mummy when pregnant that's really ok too though!

I don't think it's a black and white thing. I was a mum in the sense that I was already making sacrifices and considering my child's wellbeing from the moment I had my positive test, but I didn't really feel a bond till the sort of 12-16 week mark, and with my first I wasn't hands on till she was born, obviously. In fact, since DD1 stayed in hospital for three weeks after birth and a lot of the decisions were made by her doctors and nurses, I didn't really become fully responsible for her care till she was home.

You’re pregnant (or a mum-to-be if you prefer) until your child is born. Once the baby is born, you become a mum. Not before.

For me it once I passed the 'baby could survive' point of my pregnancy. Until then I knew baby wouldn't survive if it was born, so tried not to let myself get too attached.

When the baby is born. You’re a mum to be before then.

When the baby is born but even then it felt weird and with my first I'd have moments where I'd be like "Wow, I'm actually someone's mother. I have a son". And I'd be taken aback at the thought. But as soon as I found out I was pregnant with each of them I'd feel their little soul keeping me company and know that I was the only person who could protect them.

After I had given birth the nurse was by my bed, she moved my bag & said I'll just put mums bag over here. I was thinking why does she think that's my mums bag then I realised she meant me & I was the mum.

Like you OP, I considered myself a mummy as soon as I found out I was expecting 💙 my little boy sadly passed away while I was pregnant at 33 weeks, but I'm still a mummy 💙

I realised I was a mum when I asked my 14yr old niece to wash her hands before she held DS who was 6 hours old. I would never have dreamt of being so bossy until then.
When your baby is born it’s like switch flips, I remember talking to my DSis about it, she smiled and said she knew exactly what I meant but had been unable to explain the feeling to me before I was a mum.

I considered myself a mum when my DD was like 3 months old😂 up until then I just felt like I was babysitting this baby but didn’t actually register she was my daughter.
I remember when I was 7 months pregnant with DD and I was getting ‘happy Mother’s Day’ messages and I was like why are you sending that to me I’m not even a mum yet haha

I still feel shocked sometimes that I'm someone's mum. Two people's mum, in fact!

I've been one for 13 years so really should be used to it now!

Sometimes I wonder who on earth in The Authorities allowed this to happen ...

I was a mum when my baby was born, I felt like a mum a few weeks after when my baby smiled at me for the first time

Definately not until baby is born

I’ve lost two babies and this makes me feel really sad. I understand what you’re all saying.

Never part of the mum club

Yes you are ❤

I don't know, I still find it surreal to think I'm a mum and DS is now at school! I think though that there is more to being a mum than a baby in arms. I lost twins before having DS and I will always be their mum even though at the time I didn't necessarily actively think of myself as such.

As soon as you get the positive test you're a mum and your baby is on its way!

Without question, and a very special mummy at that. He'll always be with you 💙

You're still a mum even if your baby didn't quite make it. I'm so sorry for your loss, but never doubt your mum-ness, your little one was and is a huge part of your life. 💐