Navigating pregnancy after loss thread 3

[Cruz86]

New thread before the other one fills up completely! 🥰❤️🌈

@barneymcgroo aww a suprise will be lovely then if your not finding out 🎉 do you have 2 boys already? X

@Srx1 thanks 💕x

@Skl2021 Yes, 2 boys - 4, and 2 this week. They have their moments, but are so sweet and lovely most of the time...

@Srx1 I read the positive birth book by Milli Hill (think that's what it's called). Read it for my second birth during lockdown, as no classes etc, and found it really useful, particularly the bits on labour etc. Also a good section on VBAC, which I was interested in and wanted to read up on.

@barneymcgroo I have 2 boys aswell well 3 now 🙊 mine are 8+6 constantly fighting or footballs being flung around 🤦 would u like a girl? X

@Skl2021 I'll take whatever I get! I know my body knows how to make boys, so am assuming that's what it is, but I've felt sicker this time, so who knows?!

@barneymcgroo I came to that conclusion too 🤣 obviously destined to be a boy mum! I was convinced I was having a girl this time as I had more sickness and everything was different but I was wrong 🤦 x

@Skl2021 One of the loveliest families I know has three boys, so if I can raise three boys to be nearly as great as that, I'll be doing well.

@barneymcgroo aww that's a lovely thing to say 💕 I'm sure u will ☺️ x

@flowergarden16 congratulations! 💙
@barneymcgroo amazing news, glad your scan went well. 💐

Fab news on your scan @scoutcat! It's so surreal seeing them on the screen isn't it 🥰

@Skl2021 how are you doing? Sounds horrible with the constant itching 😩 Hope it's not cholestatis.

@flowergarden16 congratulations! Another 💙 they are taking over on this thread! How old is your other boy?

@sunnyd67 thank goodness for that! I think I felt some strong kicks yesterday but I've not really had much since again 😂

Cor what bargains @aesgriff! I've had a look on eBay and it's rubbish 😩 I'll just keep an eye out I think. Would quite like to sand something down and repaint if I can find second hand! How are you doing?

Is anyone else feeling ridiculously emotional at the moment? I can't stop crying at one born every minute (I need a birthing fix 🤣) and also just random things I see on social media 😩

Xx

Oh and great news on your 20 week scan @barneymcgroo!! 🥰

@Srx1 I'm currently reading the positive birth book by milli hill and I've also got in your own time by Sara wickham, but they're not so much about the different stages of pregnancy, more about birth!

@Cruz86 I'm doing ok but I am in complete panic I really hope it isn't that as everything I read just seems bad. The wait for results isn't helping either 🤦 my itching got so bad I was making myself bleed 😣 just hoping it was something to do with my uti I'm clutching at straws! It's also making my anxiety go up again as I'm constantly thinking something is going to happen 😩 x

Oh @Cruz86 I'm the same! Crying over basically anything haha

Thank you, my son is 2 but will have just turned 3 when baby arrives xx

Glad all was good at scan @barneymcgroo 🎉🌈

This progesterone thing is really giving me hard time. I took my last pessary yesterday morning, so I'm not having any today, I'm having nightmares about bleeding. 😢

Argh someone tell me I did the right thing. I'm meant to be meeting a friend this weekend, we both experienced a miscarriage last year. I'll be 12 weeks when I meet her, and I'm so worried I feel nauseous or can't eat anything on the menu that I felt I needed to tell her. So I sent a WhatsApp basically saying I found out recently I'm pregnant and its totally fine if she wants to cancel this weekend. I know how tough it is after a loss to hang out with people talking about pregnancy, so it's her choice.

That's ok right?

@sunnyd67 are you 16 weeks? I have re read the Tommy's advice and it seems fine to just stop. I think by that stage your womb is very thickened and the placenta is in full swing. I'm stopping next week too and scared but also the research is good that it really will work x

@Tofu35 one of my best friends is infertile and has had IVF etc which has failed. I found it so hard telling her each time I've been pregnant but actually it's better to be told privately as you've done and have some space to deal with it. You've done the right thing. X

Thank you @barneymcgroo and @Cruz86 - I saw that book mentioned a few times so I will check it out :)

@Tofu35 you did the right thing! It gives your friend the opportunity to process her emotions in private and then decide.

@Tofu35 I think you've done the right thing definitely ❤️

I'm feeling quite anxious today as I feel like my symptoms have gone 😞 don't know whether to book a private scan (but I really don't want transvaginal as I don't want to risk any bleeding that will worry me more), call GP or epu, or just try to not think about it. I'm 7+1.

@sunnyd67 I found dropping my progesterone really emotionally hard! But it's been 1.5 weeks since I took my last one now and all good so far. 16 weeks is way longer than needed anyway i think they preacribe it untill then to be cautious so I think you will be fine:) :)

@Arwen7 lovely!! Did you suspect boy or shocked? I have been looking at little boy clothes and omg some are ridiculously cute haha!

@Tofu35 when I was going through infertility I would dread meeting up with friends just incase they sprung it on me that they were preegnant so I would have MUCH preferred a text like yours to let me know ahead of time :)

@sunnyd67 I am weaning off all my medications so I know exactly how you feel. But really they wouldn't tell us to do so unless it was safe. And really life will be much better without those pessaries (they give me terrible constipation 🙈)

@Tofu35 you definitely did the right thing! I would have appreciated that message if I was her.

@Sassy144 your best bet is a private scan if you want that. I had one in a previous pregnancy at 7+2 at a private place and they did an abdominal one and could see the baby. You could call them up to find out before booking. Hope you are well my symptoms were on and off quite often, so difficult to go by them! X

@Annny27 funnily enough I was just SO sure it was a boy! Just felt that energy. In fact when the doctor asked us if we wanted to know my partner said 'we already know, I can see him' 😅🙈 Aww yes tiny clothes are the best 💕

@flowergarden16 @Annny27 @Arwen7 I'm 17 weeks today. My lower abdomen feels funny, like crampy, but maybe it's all the thinking about it that's causing it. Can't believe how addicted you can become to pessaries 🙄

@Arwen7 thank you, I've booked one for Tuesday so I'll be 7+6 by then. I've just got myself worked up so hopefully this will be reassurance 🤞

@Sassy144 my symptoms were really up and down too. Is so whatever you need to get through those early weeks - it's mentally exhausting so if you need a scan, go get a scan. I'm planning on having one every month or so until the end!

Thanks @Arwen7 @Annny27 @Sassy144 @flowergarden16 @Srx1. I remember a friend doing a similar text to me, and I really appreciated it. Better than seeing scan photos on Instagram or bumping into someone with a massive bump in the supermarket.

She replied to my text and said how excited she was for me, and that she was looking forward to our weekend catch up. No more fretting about her reaction now!