Minster's 8th Side Car - Best not let the men see our post-partum bodies eh?!

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Didn't you say before that DH cleans when he's stressed @bez91 so maybe he's just finding it all a bit tricky and this is how he's dealing with it? Maybe worth a calm chat when you can find the time about priorities (aka the children!!)

Productive day @Juno231! Similar scenario here with abroad grandparents - I've told my parents not to come until the second half of Sept as I don't know when baby will arrive and we have a weekend planned for MIL's 70th mid Sept. Oh, and they're not welcome to stay here! It's a shame they can't come sooner to meet the baby for a couple of days or something but I'm not the one that moved to the other side of the world so I'm not going to worry feeling bad about it!

hi everyone, still here, still pregnant 🙃 39 weeks today, hoping to get things moving next week. have been drinking the raspberry leaf tea, eating dates, walking as much as my pgp will allow. guess I need to up the 🍆 sessions though!

@paintfairy if you're worried about using fabric softener, you can use plain white vinegar, it does the same thing, is much better for the clothing and for your washing machine (promise if won't make your clothes smell like vinegar).

@Lexber I'm sorry to hear you've been having a rough go, definitely frustrating with everything that you've got on that DH isn't being more supportive. Has he changed his ways at all?

@2under2in2022 hope the appointment in Oxford goes well!

@Juno231 shit that's a productive day! have you had any more blood? I definitely think it's worth mentioning to your MW team, do you have an appointment coming up? Also, I feel you with your MIL, I had to have the same convo with my parents. I had to work quite hard to convince my mother that she should come two weeks after my due date as I'm most likely going to go over and the last thing I'd want is for her to be around when I'm a million weeks pregnant and feel like a watched pot. It's hard when family is far away but it's also such a huge time for us in that it's our first baby and our transition into becoming a family and I want to protect that time as much as possible (especially right at the beginning!) is your OH being helpful with that convo or do we need to add him to this ever-growing patio pit?

@InkyPaper whoooo on meeting the deadlines but boooo on the gingivitis. Is there something you need to do to treat that?

Thank you so much for the love and support ladies. It means a lot and just getting it off my chest and out my mind helped and stopped me smothering him with a pillow!

Things have improved, I think he realised I was struggling and running on empty. This morning I had a lay in then went to get my nails done. He even told me to go out and have a day for myself but I politely declined as I didn't want to not need to.
When I returned from nails I found he and eldest (15) cleaning the house! She had seen I was in a good mood this morning (post sleep!) and wanted to keep me in one as I'm happier and nicer lol so that's loads less to do today and OH is cooking tea.
Went back to SW yesterday morning and the reception I received was so lovely by everyone, all cooing over babies and telling me how amazing I was and looked so that felt nice when I'd felt so shitty - plus a 20.5lb loss was nice 🤣🤣🤣
Picking up my new converse from next so having a cheeky costa whilst here as babies are both asleep, OH and eldest are in shops nearby.
Here's hoping the new jeans (that will hopefully fit as i ordered a few different in different sizes to stop me feeling rubbish if non fit) help me to feel better as my maternity ones are ready to go in the bin and my maternity leggings are falling down now...

@Juno231 oh no I wouldn't want in laws to travel over like that so soon after baby arrives. Thankfully mines stayed away for a good week or so until we invited them to see him. They probably would have tried to come sooner if I haven't been in hospital for 4 nights and having blood transfusions though. Also the second time they came MIL said the first time she saw me after he was born I looked like I wasn't well which was a bit of an insult as I was actually absolutely fine and just hadn't put make up on as I was focusing entirely on Matthew 😂 the cheek. My husband still bugs me as when they visit now he allows their wine drinking etc and caters for them whereas my mum and dad just have a cuppa and bring us some snacks and stuff they very much see it as a quick visit and try to be helpful rather than turn up expecting to be provided with drinks like it's a celebration every time 🙄 you sound very organised! I'm sure the spotting is nothing to worry about.

@paintfairy I don't have the schnuggle but I have a nuby bath that's very similar and Matthew likes it he's never been upset anytime I've bathed him in it so your little one might be happy with it! I just kept a wet flannel on his belly to keep him from getting cold as you can't fill it to cover them. There's a maximum line to fill to on ours.

@Soph0105 is it free dental treatment in England too postpartum? I've been for a check up and 2 scale and polishes while the treatment is free 😅 I've also registered Matthew with them too so that's another job ticked off. I'm keen for him to go every 6 months like I always did as it's prevented me from ever needing fillings etc. My husband has had fillings and stuff and he didn't go for regular check ups like i did. His mum also gave his sister and him tea when they were toddlers which still seems mad to me?? 😂

@Lexber sorry I missed your post before I am not surprised you're feeling that way having the twins on top of all the hormones and with OH being a grump in the mornings and not helpful. I've had a number of heated discussions with my husband since Matthew arrived from him being an arse too. He is much less patient than me with all the work involved with Matthew... which in comparison to you is nothing 😅 I'm sure things will get easier for you soon but definitely don't put up with any of that from him!

Also if anyone is interested a while back I mentioned post birth sex wasn't going that well (I had a little episiotomy) and I felt like a virgin again 😂 well just wanted to say all is fine now it just took a couple of times (and maybe a few extra weeks) but now it's back to normal and I don't even feel like anything has changed from before I had him! Just some reassurance for anyone who has the same

@2020mission that's good that you are back to normal & enjoying sex again! I'm now totally scared after what @paintfairy said but DH is being a pest (I think it's partly cos I walk around with my boobs out for Bronte!) but yes also being very complimentary too 😂🤔don't even start me on the whole patience thing. I have to say I'm with DH on the wine drinking thing, but then again my DH's family are big social drinkers & so are we so it comes with the territory (she says with a glass of red in one hand & feeding baby in the other!) so I might say that, but if you've said it makes you uncomfortable he should respect that. Here we get free several for a year I think? Or maybe even til the child is one?? Plus many of my friends give their toddlers tea & I find it a bit weird but then again X has just started drinking hot chocolate but he's nearly 4?

@Lexber awwww that sounds perfect for you I'm so pleased they seem to have realised (happy mum means happy life), how are the jeans? All my maternity leggings are so baggy now but with my scar still hurting I still need to wear them...my injection def set me back as everyone else says they felt totally normal after 4 weeks & im still in pain

@whatwonder you def need to 🍆🍆& try and play "amniotic fluid or sperm?" Yes to the white vinegar, it's great for so many things!! And I often put bicarbonate of soda in the wash too it's great to keep colours bright, stain removal & keep the machine clean! Being a "watched pot" made me laugh, that would be awful I think!!

@bez91 I finally got round to reading that stupid DH thread, that's hilarious!! Also made me laugh the response that said "my DH ran a fertility clinic & my DC told teacher daddy makes ladies pregnant" 😂true dat! Hopefully you've managed to give your DHs head a wobble about the priorities

On the "parents/in laws" coming over obviously mine were at ours looking after X when we had Bronte so they were there straight away, it took all our might to also make sure DH's parents didn't come over that evening, I was like errrrr nope & certainly not in the evening, so it was next day. We saw a lot of ppl those 2 weeks too, it can be very endless but then again I didn't actually mind & made sure I said no to what I didn't want & had a nap at one point too cos I needed it. Def make sure you are assertive & stick to your guns/what you want to happen

@2under2in2022 sorry I missed your post, that seems pretty stressful, but glad they are looking after you, are you all prepared?

@2020mission can confirm I've been having tea since I was just over a year old (I think) admittedly, it was more milk than tea at that age, but my parents gradually made it less and less milky as I got older. It was pretty common in my family. According to the maternity exemption certificate it lasts until a year post-partum, but it only counts if you're at an NHS dentist, otherwise it's business as usual with fees. Can't get on the NHS dentist lists at all where I am, I'm stuck at the private clinic I was at before I moved, which is a right pain but can't be helped.

@whatwonder nearly there! Erm, the dentist didn't really say, just to brush my teeth twice a day and floss, so just the usual advice really

@Lexber aww I'm glad everyone is bucking up their act a bit! It's good they're helping out more

On the parents visiting side of things, my parents have said they're going to move in with us for the first fortnight to basically cook and clean for us while we deal with the baby...which I'm OK with 😄

@Juno231 see that's what I'm worried about with fees. If it's more than I'm taking home from work, there's basically no point going back to work, which isn't ideal. Wow you've had a busy day though!! Maybe call the midwives anyway about the spotting, just to put your mind at ease?

@bez91 that is exactly what my DH does sometimes 🙈 instead of cleaning/doing what needs to be done urgently, he'll pick something that can definitely be left because he wants to "get it out the way". It's both helpful and really really not helpful, so I sympathise!

@InkyPaper ohh is your OH ok with your folks living with you for a fortnight? I suppose it could be helpful if you do have the space for them! I love my family but I don't think I'd like them to be around constantly for that long. My dentist has went private recently but you can still get NHS treatment if you are exempt from charges (e.g. pregnant/postpartum and under 16). At least that's the case here in Scotland. I will be moving to a new one when we move later in the year and I'll be back to an NHS one. In Scotland we have free checkups on the NHS - I'm not going to start paying for a checkup unnecessarily 😅 the tea for babies/toddlers surprises me just because of the caffeine and tannins.

@Minster2012 I'm just off drinking unless it's celebrations for now since my milk supply hasn't ever been great and it can negatively impact that... and I just prefer one of us being sober when he's so little just incase anything goes wrong. I'm fine with family drinks here for celebrations but I'm not keen on in laws turning up on a Sunday afternoon just expecting to drink our wine when we're not drinking and they are just over to see Matthew. That's all

@2020mission he's super happy to not do any cleaning for a fortnight, so he's not bothered one bit 😂 on the tea side, it was decaf and like 95% milk when we were really small and then the ratio slowly switched as we got older. Would I do it with my kids in the future? Not sure. I'll cross that bridge when I come to it 😄

@2020mission yeah that makes sense on the afternoon drinking when they are meant to be seeing him

We don't really drink tea in our house so it wouldn't occur to me but lots of ppl I know have got their children "baby chinos" when at coffee shops so I guess that's similar

Tbh I would be ok with my in laws moving in for 2 weeks as they would actually cook & clean. My friend just went to her sisters to do this for 2 weeks as their parents are in Hong Kong, it's usual for them to do it, seems pretty helpful to me @InkyPaper 😊

@Minster2012 here in the south babyccinos are just froth milk
@Juno231 i had that , my bil and back then girlfriend came 1 week post partum, nice to see them but expected out everyday to see the sights, it was a bit tense, not a fond memory, lucky him is my favourite bil by a long mile, we then went at one month old and I went a longer stay for Xmas that year about a month with dh coming for nearly 2 weeks in the middle, I would be a lot less accommodating if there’s a second
@larrythelizard we are the ones who moved to the back of beyond, so normally us going back, plus Spanish families are huge so would be hosting for ever
@Lexber glad you kick his arse in gear, you’ll be a productive member of this family
@everyoneelse i am reading but too much effort to answer to everyone, sorry

dh went to the movies with bestie’s dh, things are not looking good, she says treatment works, she is fine (she looks it) and they are giving her a break, he says she’s really getting worse and he’s afraid the end is near, disclaimer she’s really sick and won’t be getting better, we can only hope for more time, but I saw her the other day and looks her normal self, so I’ll take it

health: I am really improving, oxygen nearly back to normal, hardly in pain now, even dtd yesterday ! (Cd10 so might be useful) X-rays done, results with the doctor on Monday, review after
pestering: I discovered that my surgery are acquiring a women sexual health nurse so I’ll be seeing her

Hi ladies!! Not been on in so long things have just been absolutely manic!! We finally signed all contracts and paid the pennies for the house, thought it was so late that the paying of the deposit is literally the last thing you do now, and you can imagine my face the morning of the contract signing when we got through from our solicitor his invoice, stamp duty amount and our deposit, all coming out that day, watching the money coming out the bank was sickening😂 butttt we officially exchanged on Friday and have a move in date of the 9th!! Would've been better if it was next week as I'm off on half term but I shouldn't complain really, however my parents go away on the 10th so the 9th is just going to be a day of me and my mum doing trips back and forth with everything we can fit in cars then OH and his friend will pick up furniture on the Friday, bit nervous though as the van we're using isn't a removals van so hasn't got the straps to strap things in, so I'm petrified the nursery furniture is going to get scratched and scraped😫 got such a busy June coming up too literally got something on every weekend which I can't be arsed with at all to be honest especially the stress of finding outfits!! But thinking having a busy June will make these next 9 weeks fly, even though I already feel like it's gone so so fast!! I just can't wait to be in the house and start decorating the nursery and getting all the clothes washed and hung up, I've forgotten half of what I've bought at this point😂 also need to remember to ring the pram shop and get the pram delivered for the first weekend of July to my mums house (also happens to be my baby shower that weekend🥳)

@Juno231 oh my god, those nursery fees🤢 my Aunty has twins and used to live near central london and the nursery fees were just horrendous!! She's now moved to Hitchin but I'm not sure how much better it is there! Hope there's been no more blood! Did you end up letting your midwife know?

@Lexber sending you hugs!! It sounds like you really are doing everything st the minute, but so glad you managed to get a day in to get your nails done and have a nice day, you deserve it!!

@DKDK123 @Minster2012 so happy to hear your girlies are doing so well💗

@2020mission Matthew is just gorgeous, and yess to normal sex again🍆

On the in laws coming round so early, I don't think I'll have that problem as MIL obviously can't be arsed using a sat nav to come to a scan so she more than likely won't know how to get to our new house🤷🏽‍♀️ and FIL (use that term very loosely) has always been a shit dad to OH, in and out of his life, numerous wives, doesn't see his daughter, but suddenly wants to reconnect, OH has decided to give him a last chance but has warned him if he ever puts a foot wrong with our child then that's it, said he doesn't want our child have the same disappointing grandad as he did for a dad, but he's taking us out for a fancy meal next week with his new fiancé, so we'll see how that goes, and he has been very interested in how we are, how baby is, wanting scan pics etc!

Also who knew that about fabric conditioner??? I always use it and love it, bought some comfort to use for baby stuff🤦🏽‍♀️😂

@Lexber this is so late, but you are doing so so much. You definitely deserve some extra help. Glad to hear that DH and DD have been more helpful. Work is definitely very important, but nothing compares to how important you and your family are.

@InkyPaper glad that the deadlines are met so that you can breathe now! Are you finding out your baby’s gender soon? We’re almost at the point when we can! Think it’ll be about 2 weeks though as we’re away this week.

@Soph0105 hope that you got out!

@paintfairy haha… pregnancy is definitely the joy that keeps on giving! I’m the same as @InkyPaper really need to sort childcare I suppose. Still hoping that my mum will do a few days - she did for my brother. They paid her, but only a small amount.

@Minster2012 oh no! A mixture of toddlers and recovery isn’t a good one, it sounds like. I’m loving all the different baths! Although some sound more stressful than others!

@2020mission definitely reassures me to hear that about sex post partum. Until I came on here, I never really had the chance to talk about it. My closest friends don’t have children yet, so I suppose I’ll be the one sharing with them!

@2under2in2022 ohhhh, how exciting! 30 days! I hope the appointments went well.

@whatwonder 39 weeks… so close!!

@larrythelizard I have the same bath and slippy baby fear. I hope you’ve had a proper rest.

@Juno231 wow! That is productive! I’m sure everything is fine, but just keep a close eye on things. Do you have a midwife you can call? Definitely try and encourage MIL to come a few weeks later if you can.

@bez91 honestly, wtf is it with men being ‘helpful’ and utterly missing the point? I swear women are not like this?

@Franklydear oh no! I’m so so sorry to hear the news about your friend. Definitely enjoy being with her and her seeming well right now though.

@Vil10 wahoooooo! Finally sorted with the house. It’ll be mental and busy, but at least you can start to get sorted soon!

Ladies, I am in Egypt! I was so nervous flying here - never been nervous flying before, but I was just so stressed, somehow because of pregnancy? Weird. And the travel day yesterday was awful! Took ages and the family have 2 under 2! We’re here with my dad, step Mum, brother, 3 girls, wife and my sister… so a huge crew. So nice today though just chilling by the pool with lots of drinks(non alcoholic for me unfortunately!).

@larrythelizard yes possibly because he's stressed, 1 to 2 is definitely harder than 0 to 1 😂 the house is very clean and tidy now but he does need to lower his expectations too. Please you've made it clear they're not welcome to stay at yours 😂
It's tricky as I imagine some parents/in laws would be super helpful with just being there to look after the "new family"!" By cooking, cleaning etc but if people expect to be hosted and think it's their right to take over with the baby it's a no no. Sounds a good set up you’ll have there @InkyPaper with help. Glad I'm not alone with a DH is like mine, eg he had to go and get the car cleaned the morning of my induction 🤷‍♀️

Glad you’re feeling better @Franklydear

Yessss @Vil10 super things are finally coming to and end (or rather a beginning) on the house front, what a relief, seeing the money go is so galling isn’t it 😂 hope FIL doesn’t disappoint but it sounds like it might be expected so good expectations aren’t too high. I think when you have children too it all becomes very clear very quickly those people worth the effort

@BellatrixK hope the weather is good! Enjoy the break and hope the non alcoholic cocktails are ok 🤞🏼

I second @2020mission on the episiotomy I had one first time (2nd degree) and all was fine on the 🍆 front. 3rd degree this time (obvs have a super crap perineum which pre massage did nothing for) and haven’t been there yet as stitches still dissolving but all feels fine 🤞🏼 and Im not leaking anything 😬 I will update at a later date 😂

@whatwonder wow I didn’t realise you were that far, thought you were a couple of weeks away yet! Best of luck bringing labour on, 🍆 as recommended by @minster2012

Glad you’re feeling much brighter @lexber it’s the small things isn’t it when you’re in the midst of body confidence issues and sleep deprivation. I think it comes in waves and spurts, just keep trying to go the little things!

FIL and wife visiting today to meet Z, she has had covid so not been before now as we agreed they’d stay away and DHs grandma who recently emigrated back from Australia so she’s super excited. Whether BIL turns up with them remains to be seen 🙄

Have a lovely Sunday all 🥳

@Minster2012 it's super helpful! Apparently my Grandma did the same for my mum, so she's keen to do it for me. I'm really lucky

@Franklydear so sorry about your bestie, that's not news you ever want to hear. Glad you're feeling better 😊

@Vil10 it's so upsetting when all the money leaves your account isn't it?! Glad you finally have a moving date - super exciting! Perhaps it's worth getting a massive roll of bubble wrap the protect the furniture?!

@BellatrixK we are indeed! We've got the 20-week scan on 13th June, so not too much longer to wait 😄 Egypt! That's so exciting! Glad you made it OK - how long are you there for? I actually started looking at some childcare options today - I've emailed a nursery and seen a childminder that lives walking distance from me who could be a great option if she's got availability. It feels super early to be looking but @paintfairy scared me with stories of childminders having no availability until 2024 🙈

@bez91 it really is, I'm very lucky. I don't know if I'd be as keen if it was anyone else saying they wanted to stay!! Hope the visit today goes well

DH reckons I have an actual bump now, I'm not convinced but I think I've resigned myself to the fact I'll have a B-shaped bump and not a D-shaped one. Such a stupid thing to be self-conscious about but I am 😂 nevermind!

@larrythelizard varicose vein?! Oh no! And the motorbike thing would piss me off. My stepdad used to go to work on his. Only- he worked shifts 6-6, sometimes on days and sometimes on nights. Used to really piss me off- he went out at 5.20am if on days and arrived home at 6.30am if on nights. I moaned about it but no one could see how unreasonable it was (he had a car too) and I can't think the neighbours enjoyed it any more than I did!
@inkypaper I still haven't found a childminder. One said September maybe next year (bit late but I could maybe do that), another said yes she could from May but then never replied when I went back to her. Another said contact me after September this year. 🤷‍♀️ Useless. And a B shaped bump?! What? Mine only really looks like a proper bump now. 🤣
@Minster2012 yes the shnuggle seat thing makes sense. Maybe definitely not good for winter. I only got it as I was less likely to drown the baby. 🤭 Tea seems weird unless it's decaf and maybe not ideal? I remember having an odd ovaltine but I'm not even sure i like it?
@Soph0105 I hope ptsd is feeling better!
@Juno231 would MIL be actually staying with you? I couldn't have that. My own mum said her friend asked if she was moving in for a bit and she said no, being she lives 5 minutes away. I said the only way you are moving in, is if I move out. 🤭 Literally I want no one in my space unless I feel like it and that includes visitors too. If I want to feel tired, look shit, cry, be alone, try to feed a baby and i want to do that alone then tough. I'm not being polite.
What's a bed mat?
@bez91 I get annoyed when dh does jobs that doesn't need doing as urgently as ones that do. But even worse is when he sits on his pc or phone and does none of it. I need to maybe not moan as long as he's doing something. Like now. Cleaning windows. 🤣
@whatwonder 39 weeks?! What? How did that happen? I'm scared of white vinegar. Are you sure? 🤣
@Lexber I'm pleased things are seeming a little better! That's great.
@2020Mission excellent news on the sex.
@Franklydear sorry about your bestie. 😔
@Vil10 Great news on the house! Finally. And I don't think we'll see our inlaws either. His dad can't use a sat nav and his mum lives in another country and would expect us to go there. She's not even managed to message and ask how i am/we are since DH told her we were having a baby.
@BellatrixK my mum will do a few days too, but I still need to sort something for the other days. Egypt sounds amazing! I always find travel stressful.

So- I had boob leakage in the night. Only 1 is doing it though? I woke up wet and just sleepily wiped it away. Then I woke up, went to the bathroom, looked, and it had dried all over me and was weird! Aaarrrgghhh. Bed needed washing anyway luckily. Its been ok today mostly but I've now got pjs on (yes this early) and I've had a boob leak onto my top. I don't want to start wearing bras too bed yet! So it needs to stop.
Still haven't booked a holiday but will this week. Have an issue in that many places would be better if we go on the Monday but I've an online antenatal nhs thing that night and so I think that might be impossible without WiFi. 🤬 Thought about doing it on my phone but it's for 2.5 hours on MS teams and so I'm not sure how much data that uses (get 8gb). Annoying.
Managed to persuade DH for sex this morning. He's not willing as the baby thing puts him off. Reckons we'll hurt it? I must admit I mostly don't feel like it now as she's often pushing around and hurting me. But if she's not, then I'm still up for it. I keep pointing out I have needs! So I seized the moment as I was feeling OK.
Had a really busy day yesterday, sat down and passed out. 🤣 Really dont have the energy I used to.

Still waiting to collect jeans @Minster2012 so still in clothes that don't fit right 😬

I think Elsie may have a milk intolerance which would explain why she is struggling, congested and so fussy. Last night was awful, another 1 hour worth of sleep and it took me nearly 3 hrs to settle her. Poor baby wasn't even doing anything wrong just too so long to feed then wind and was generally trying to settle but couldn't. I could see how tired she was but also how uncomfortable she was. Cue this morning and OH waking half asleep and arsey and me blowing at him! Telling him straight and us sat in silence with a baby each before he took them downstairs so I could sleep.
I wrote out a serious long message making it very clear to him see attached and sent it before climbing into bed at 8am... I then woke at 4pm!! When I went downstairs he was so apologetic and kept hugging me telling me he was sorry and loved me.

We have our 6 week check at drs tomorrow morning so I'm going to speak to them elsie as we know there is something and the poor little thing is really struggling now which is starting to effect me and thankfully I am very aware of my mental/emotional state due to severe PND with my first and some wonderful CBT I had after my second so I'm hopeful with more support at home and someone listening to me about Elsie's struggles I can push through without hitting a wall 🤞🏼🤞🏼 but I'm also very aware that if it gets too much I need to ask for help, that's the next step if nothing changes xx

@Lexber here's hoping you find some jeans that make you feel a million 💵 , what monitoring is there for Elsie atm other than just seeing the doctor?
Sounds so tough, I'm really pleased that your OH took the message seriously and I hope he continues to do so. Please keep talking to us

Argh baby shouting

@Minster2012 Elsie is under the paediatrician for her anaemia and placental abruption at the hospital. In fact we have her next check up Tuesday afternoon so if I get no where with the dr I will speak to them about it all. She has just done the biggest smelliest green 💩 so I've taken a picture as that's a common sign of intolerance and it stunk like sewage 🤢
They will most likely weigh her, take a blood sample and check her over generally. I was there twice last week with the twins Wednesday for their hips scans then A for her ASD/ADHD check up Thursday.

It sounds silly but if it was just her as it's been so long I'd think it was normal and she was just a bit windy etc but as I have Theo too the difference is ridiculous as he has started to have more solid (still soft) nice poo and hers are always runnier and more yellow/green and she is much more noticeably unsettled. I've noticed sucking a dummy helps her.
It's def either colic, silent reflux or milk intolerance I'm just hoping it doesn't take us ages to figure out which one!

@whatwonder wow 39 weeks, you're little bundle is so close to coming out to meet you! 😁

@2020mission hooray on the good sex again 🥳 I'm dying to get back to it, especially as Id gotten so big during pregnancy it was impossible. Stilll a long 3 week wait to go till I hit the 6 week mark, and I'm still bleeding so I daren't even risk trying it early an infection is the last thing I need. 🙄

@Minster2012 I'm the same with the needing leggings that come over the scar but maternity leggings aren't quite fitting any more. I got a pair from laurellamama.com and they are so comfy. They come up high enough to skip the scar but also have a bit of support in them so hold your tummy in a bit which makes it all feel extra secure after the section. I totally recommend them, I've just ordered a 2nd pair last night as I feel they are what I might live in for the next month or two. The only come in black tho and I know you love your colour but you could pair it with a nice bright top, definitely worth it for the comfort factor.

@Vil10 exciting times now that you've gotten a moving in date, it's all coming together now 😁

@BellatrixK very jealous of your holiday, enjoy every minute of it and bring the sunshine back with you! 🏖

@Lexber I hope they can find out what's unsettling Elsie quickly so that you can both get a bit of respite. I'm so glad that your DH now finally realises where you're at, hopefully he'll help out more now and be more sensitive to your feelings. I think sometimes men really do need things spelled out to them in black and white before they get it.

I forgot how amazing but tiring the newborn stage can be, I feel like the bags under my eyes have their own bags 😴 Little miss has taken to being extra sleepy during the day no matter how much I try to keep her awake, but party girl by night. Which is OK the days DS is at nursery as I can grab a nap during the day but when he's not at nursery there's no opportunity for sleep so I've literally been surviving on about 2-3hours broken sleep a night and red bull (as I don't like coffee). DS only has 3 weeks left of nursery before he finishes, that's only 9 days of being able nap which gives me the fear on how I'm going to survive 🙈 But then when I've got both my kids cuddled on my knee it makes all the sleep deprivation worth it 🥰

And for those swaying whether to get something to collect let down I definitely recommend it. I know the haakas the go to, but I got the lanisoh one with neck strap which has definitely been a godsend as it means if it falls off the milk doesn't spill (when I remember to wear the strap, I have forgotten once or twice and regretted it 🙈).
But this is how much was collected just watching TV for 15mins, zero effort required just popped on the boob and zone out watching telly after DD had been feed and was sleeping. It might not seem a lot but for no effort when tired, no pumping or hand expressing etc it's definitley worth it.