Minsters Side Car - Thread 7 - annoying neighbours, second hand bargains and how many sleep suits should we buy again?!

[larrythelizard]

Babies due in 2022

@Lexber 20 April 💜💙
@DKDK123 12 May 💜
@bez91 14 May 💛
@Minster2012 22 May 💜 (C-section the week before)
@whatwonder 5 June 💛
@feliznavidad2 5 July 💜
@SWAttempting 23 July (will be delivered in June). 💜
@paintfairy 24 July 💜
@Vil10 1 August 💛
@Juno231 11 August 💜
@kaylsd 15 August 💛
@larrythelizard 18 August 💛

@Kirky658 11 August 2021 💜
@Kate105 14 October 2021 💙
@Justanothercyster 10 November 2021 💜
@2020Mission 27 December 2021 💙
@blackcurrantqueen 17 January 2022 💜
@Crazydoglady123 29 January 💜
@Haiyaa 1 February 💙
@becarefuloutthere 26 February 💜

Ah yes the clocks change, the time every parent hates @larrythelizard 😂I'm pleased (is that right?!) that it's not slapped cheek but not so on the vomiting 🤮 but well done DS for keeping it out of bed!

@feliznavidad2 that's not great it's rife atm, I'm kinda thinking it's only a matter of time before it gets us too 😬

Oh and we expect a full report on Mr @Kate105! Enjoy the wedding 💒

@Juno231 i did wonder where you went! Knew it wasn't holiday time yet. Ah OK. God. Well the reason I asked is because my initial thought was to get some MAM bottles because then I don't need a steriliser. But then if they won't fit on any pump and I also then need a steriliser anyway for other stuff, then it seems pointless? 🤷‍♀️ I don't understand sterilisers either. 🤣 @bez91
@Minster2012 a bit sad about mothers day but definitely make the most of it! It'll be the last one you get that's peaceful for a good while I expect! And yes expect the boobs to get bigger. Although mine seem to have levelled off and don't hurt now? Only nipples hurt.
@Kate105 I hope PTSD enjoys his wedding! Is he taking a potty with him? 🤭
@feliznavidad2 sorry about poorly DS. I hope its not covid.

Oh god, clocks. Had forgotten about that! Great.
So I have another stupid question. 🤣 If you express milk and then give it from a bottle - I assume you warm this up? 🤔 And how long does the expressed milk even last? Do you just put it in the fridge? So many questions! I'm guessing this only matters later though- but if you express (for pain reasons or whatever) and you aren't bottle feeding yet as baby is still too young and getting used to one thing, do you just throw that milk away? 🤔

@paintfairy www.nhs.uk/conditions/baby/breastfeeding-and-bottle-feeding/breastfeeding/expressing-breast-milk/ see the screenshot below.

The difficulty I found last time was, once it's 'warmed' I don't think it can be used again so would suggest freezing in small amounts (like 100-150ml) at a time as to prevent wasting unnecessarily. As it's soul destroying when you defrost 300ml and then they only have half of it.

Just realised it says that about storing it at the bottom of that screenshot. 🤦‍♀️

@feliznavidad2 🤣 yeah, makes sense though. God. So I still don't know what I'm buying. Its hard as I plan to BF but I kind of feel I need to be prepared in case that doesn't go to plan. And don't want a starving baby in the mean time.
Should have just got another dog. 🐕🤣

Ultimately, as long as you don't live a million miles from the shops, you'll be ok. As if you choose not to buy formula and things aren't going well, you can always send OH out for it.

I was adamant we weren't buying formula and ended up weeping and sending OH to the shop after another sleepless night as I sat with my hungry yellow dinky baby.

For us, I wish I'd just been a bit more open minded and despite going to try to BF again this time; I will make sure I have a few boxes of pre made formula to take to hospital with me. Having a smallish (DS dropped to 6lb in the end before we introduced formula, and was born 6lb 10oz) potentially dehydrated yellow babe was bad enough, let alone in the heat of the summer.

(Full disclosure; the majority of experiences aren't like mine, and most women can BF successfully, but I wish I hadn't seen formula as an absolute no-go, as it really was to mine and DS' detriment.)

Argh @feliznavidad2 - apparently vomit is a symptom in little kids so need to try and LFT him today, so far trying bribery you get him to do it willingly.

@paintfairy DS' preference was always for room temp milk which was a bit of a pain if any was stored in the fridge!

Agreed about BF being seen as 'bad' @feliznavidad2 - it failing caused me a huge amount of angst for a long time which I can now see was a bit silly.

More 🤮 here, last couple have caught both DS and I by surprise so sofa and rug now covered in towels. Illness is so annoying!

They are all questions I have as well @paintfairy but I bet I will forget the answer 😂

@paintfairy you just have to remember the number 6 for breast milk usage...

6 hours for freshly expressed
6 days for refrigerated
6 months for frozen

I've never frozen any as I always use up refrigerated bags within the 6 days easily. With refrigerated milk I will either take it out for a bit before it's being used to let it come to room temperature or I'll run the bottle under warm water for a few minutes to take the chill away. I've given Matthew varied temperature milks from the fridge and he's never bothered. As long as it's not ice cold or too hot, it's fine 😅

@2020mission ah yes, that's triggered my nct course memory now! I'm forever getting Dh to check google and he's reading the American stuff from the cdc instead of the nhs guidelines.

Anyone seen this thread yet? 😂 🐴

Someone has parked… www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/4513752-Someone-has-parked

@becarefuloutthere can't believe they have drawn a diagram 😆

@paintfairy oh also I had to top up Matthew with a bottle from day 3 in hospital and have given him at least one bottle top up every day since and he's absolutely fine switching between the bottle and the breast directly! So there's not always a need to wait until 6 weeks to offer a bottle. In fact I'm sure my mum said with me she breast fed directly for 6 weeks then offered a bottle and I refused it as I was too used to the breast 😆 we did the same with the pacifier and waited until 6 weeks to offer it after the health visitor insisted we don't offer it earlier as it would disrupt breastfeeding but what happened was he just refused the pacifier so we can't get him to take a dummy ever. It's quite nice letting OH give baby a feed with a bottle too from early on.

@bez91 it was maybe your recommendation that made me get the book then as it was sitting in my wishlist on audiobooks but I was listening to another breastfeeding book and decided I'd be better with a hard copy of any future ones so I can easily dip back in and out of the bits I need. So thanks for the recommendation it really was a good book!

@Juno231 glad go hear the cervix scan went well, one less thing to worry about. Hope you had a good time visiting the parents

@franklydear glad to hear she's back home, hope you're all having a great trip away for the weekend.

@minster2012 you may be kept in for a couple of days post section so I'd have a few PJs packed just incase. The hospital wards are sickly hot from what I remember and DS was born in October but I had to send DH for lightweight clothes not the autumn ones I'd packed for me, so I hate to think how sweaty I'm going to feel in May!
Hope you're enjoying the peace and quiet while you can, tho we always want a minute to ourselves then as soon as our children are away you end up missing them, we can't win 😂

@Kate105 don't worry about it, it will be the first head bump of many and you'll probably feel the mum guilt about most of them 🙈 Well done on the pronation catching tho 🥳

@larrythelizard @feliznavidad2 it's not fun when they're being ill no matter what the cause. Hope both your LOs are feeling better soon ☹️

I've just done another washing load of baby clothes & blankets, may as well prep while the weather is nice. But now I'm debating whether to hang it out or not. My next door neighbour had a wee girl last week, DH saw them bring baby home in the car when he was outside last week. Being stuck at home with DS all week I've noticed that I saw the midwife go to her home the first two days after they got back (she's one of my midwives so I recognised her), but since then nothing, I've seen her and her DH leave the house at various times but not with baby and not happy looking. She hangs a washing out every day but only one day last week were there baby gros then no baby clothes at all since then. No visitors with gifts arriving or anything. I'm now worried that her wee one has been taken back into hospital (or worse but I don't want to think that)! We say hi in passing and make small talk but we're not close at all that I could go knock on her door check she's ok. I now am debating whether to hang my baby washing out or if it'll be insensitive if something has happened to hers. Especially as it's baby girl clothes I'll be hanging up and as soon as shes cooking in her kitchen she'll be able to see my washing line and I dont want to upset or trigger her.
(I realise I sound like I sit by the window being nosey but it's not that, we have a massive livingroom window so see everything going on and our back gardens are both on slopes so despite both having fences as soon as you stand in your own kitchen or come out your back door you see right into each others gardens, Im not a curtain twitcher honest 😂)

@DKDK123 yeah I'm thinking I will have to be in for 48 hours after section anyway cos of my cortisol so prob need couple of pairs, they are very lightweight & one shorts set so hopefully ok. I'm a cold person so was saying to my friend the other day I shall take a blanket in 😂. On the baby stuff & next door is just hanging it out. It might stimulate a conversation

@2020mission I can't believe @paintfairy didn't remember where she parked her horse 🐴 😂

Well I've just bought a set of cheap Primark nursing bras to wear to bed. Not quite sure how they work but I'm sure it'll work out 😂

Haha I saw about that horse @becarefuloutthere made me laugh - how are you feeling?

Oh that's tough @DKDK123 maybe it's just all a bit harder than expected, and maybe they're the type to not want any visitors at all for the first two weeks?

There's a 'nursing nightie' I have my eye on on the next website @Minster2012 - I'm also thinking it'll be hot! How's quiet life on your own?

DS bounced back now and bossing DH round the garden - not eating yet but back to being himself so I'm sure he'll give in and eat at some point!

@larrythelizard I looked at nighties, I have one somewhere so will see about sizing on that but I can remember it annoying me with ending up round my boobs 😂glad DS is bouncing back! Quiet weekend is nice, just done the rest of the lawn mowing & now sat outside in the last bit of sun chilling 😊DH sent me some pics of them on go ape 🦍 high wires, can't believe they did it and 3 year olds can go on it! They went round 3 times! I'm so proud, DS went on the huge zip wire on his own!! It makes me think of "an acquaintance" from the surrogacy group I'm in where her girl was born same day as X (so 4 end of July) and she posts pics on Facebook and every time they show a walk it shows her wearing toddler reins, at 4 this year?? Can you imagine? The child seems really mild so I wouldn't have thought a runaway risk, seems really weird! My MIL sent me a video of X & his cousin in the hot tub at 7.30 this morning 😂

Hey guys, managed to finally catch up whilst I had a soak in the bath but had to get out as exhausted.
Last stretch now and really feeling it, feet and legs are so swollen and tight plus add on hips I'm struggling to walk some days. Today wasn't a great day - nearly couldn't get out the bath!

Just wanted to do a quick catch up, still here and still pregnant 🤰 33+3 and both just over 4lbs now, so small but progressing along 3rd/10th centile. Next appointment Monday for blood flow to make sure there's no other reasons for size. So far so good so hopefully 36/37 delivery...
very mardy and heavy now, I swear I'm growing daily still too but then question how that's even possible?!!

Last week at work next week - Wednesday,Thursday and Friday then I have a week al before maternity starts at 36 weeks 😬😳

Been abit quiet ladies and prob likely to continue, feel like death warmed up just worked 38 hours in 3 days & woke up to this beauty this morning.. 😩😩😩 what a Mother's Day treat!

I think I've must have ran myself down at work and this is the result, luckily DH has surprised me this morning with a bunch of flowers from the bump and card 🥺 hoping to feel better soon so I'll check in soon with you guys xxx

@Minster2012 I'm normally always a cold person too so with DS I'd packed big cardis, a blanket and a big thick dressing gown.......didn't touch any of them, DH said its the only time in my life I've constantly complained about being too hot 😂 I suppose they need to crank the temperature up a bit for the babies doing skin to skin etc but definitely not looking forward to the heat if its sunny when we're in! 🥵
I did hang the washing up but she didn't even say hello she went back indoors. I took it in as soon as it was dry again and after playing with DS in the garden for a few hours I went back indoors and she came back out so I stayed in to let her enjoy her garden incase it was me she was avoiding. I remember when she was pregnant with her eldest (he's only just turned one), it was at the time I kept losing mine and it was like a kick in the gut every time I saw her out the window with her bump, so I didnt want her to feel that with mine if her baby is poorly 😔 Really hoping its just been taken back in with a touch of jaundice or something not too extreme 🤞

@lexber glad to hear the little ones are progressing and you're still on track for keeping them cooking a bit longer. I'm well impressed you're still working!

Well Happy Mothers Day to all you Mummy's and Mummy's to be! 😁💐

I feel out with DH last night so not the best mothers day here 🙈 DS is finally allowed out of isolation today after a very looooooong 10 days, so we decided today we'd all go out as a family and do something nice together. Hadn't made exact plans yet as we were waiting to see what the weather was doing but along the lines of picnic at the beach, zoo etc. DH came home from work last night to say the job has over ran and they didnt get it finished in time so they need to go finish it today 🤬 (It was an overtime job for a different client than what they're working on Mon-Fri so they can't just do it on Mon instead.) I'm not even so much raging that he has to work as we do need to save as much money as poss with mat leave coming up so he is taking on any over time going, it was the way he told me he was working like it was no big deal and I've got not reason to be mad. So I launched an angry attack about how I'm on my knees with exhaustion not only about to drop a baby but I've been the one to try entertain a very energetic DS for the past 10days who hasn't been able to get out burn off his energy and my mother's day present is instead of our nice family day out with the workload shared, I'm left to look after him on my own yet again. And because I've got SPD starting I can't walk fast or be on my feet for long as it actually feels like my pelvis is going to split in half at times so I can't even take DS to the Beach or somewhere like that myself anymore because I can't run after him if he takes off or pick him up to bundle him into the car
if he refuses to come back home and has a tantrum so the only place I'll be able to take him on my own today is somewhere enclosed like soft play. Soft play on mothers day........Happy flipping mothers day indeed! 😡 Not only that but as DH had to work this morning he had DS wake me up at 7am (which was really 6am due to the clock change) to give me my card and flowers.........Id only gotten to sleep at 4am as i was so raging last night I couldnt sleep, so shattered today is an understatement. End of hormonal rant 😂

Oh no @kaylsd just saw your post, rest up and hope you don't get too poorly from it.

@kaylsd oh no. Look after yourself and let DH look after you too.

@DKDK123 that is rubbish. Especially when you had been looking forward to it. Definitely justified hormonal rant! Also, I hope your neighbour is okay.

@Lexber you are doing so so well. Not long to go, although when you’re suffering I bet it feels like so much longer. Hope the last week at work speeds by.

@Minster2012 wow! He sounds like such a daredevil! So cute that he’s chilling in a hot tub too. Glad that you had your nice, relaxing afternoon… hope it continues today. Maybe DH and DS can do a breakfast in bed for Mother’s Day next week, then you don’t miss out?

@larrythelizard glad DS seems better. Hopefully, no sick today for you on Mother’s Day!

@becarefuloutthere haha! I also saw the thread about the horse … brilliant!

I was so tempted to go for an early, 6 week scan yesterday (and today), but I’m better waiting until 8 weeks, right?

@BellatrixK if you can hold out I'd wait till the 8 weeks as they're more likely to be able to see a clear heartbeat then. If they can't detect anything at 6 weeks it might make you panic more and it would be a long TWW till 8 weeks to check again.

Happy Mother's Day all ❤️

@becarefuloutthere the diagram 😆 I was hoping for better photos tbh!

@Minster2012 I remember the birthing unit and ward being very hot end of October, I think you'll be fine without. Wow your DS does sound a daredevil, what a champ! Enjoy the rest of your peace and quiet!

@larrythelizard ooh I'll have a look on next I'm on the search for another. I have one like a shirt style nightie but it's long sleeved so might be a bit warm! Glad DS is feeling better and bonus that it's not you being bossed around the garden ☺️

@Lexber last week at work 💪🏼 you can do it, final stretch and not long to go! I know what you mean about getting bigger daily, I have some real tender spots on my tummy that literally feels like the skin is going to give way 🙈

Argggh @kaylsd rest up and let DH look after you ❤️

@DKDK123 I'd also be annoyed. Can you suggest you move Mother's Day to next weekend so you still get your day?

@BellatrixK I would definitely wait until 8 weeks, less ambiguity that way 😊

DH has done good (he says makes up for him giving me covid for my birthday 😆) and cooked us a breakfast. We're going out for food later. Regretting the 10am eye appointment I booked to change my lenses as literally running an hour behind with the clocks changing 🏃🏼‍♀️ 💨

Happy mother's Day, ladies, @Juno231 pics on Instagram, MN decided I can post pics any more

@feliznavidad2 I think that's it- just being prepared as I don't know which way it'll go. I'm not set on anything. In my mind I know what I'd ideally do but I know it won't work that way so it's just wait and see!
@larrythelizard room temp makes sense as that's probably similar to how it comes out anyway? Good point. Omg couldn't deal with the 🤮 not good at all.
@2020mission 6! Hopefully I can remember that. I do know some people manage to switch between bottles quite early on with no issue. I know they say not to. But it'll be handy if that happens for me! Makes life easier.
@becarefuloutthere I saw that initially but haven't been on to follow it up! 🤣 Wouldn't be great if it ripped the pipe off though. I do know someone that parks hers all over- at coop and everything. 🤭 No cart though and it's not black.
@Minster2012 God I have no pjs. Something else for the list. But yeah I am a cold person too but I find hospitals unbearably hot? When I went for my arm op I thought I was dying. 🤣 No idea why they need to do that. No wonder so many gems spread! But I don't think you'll freeze. I had no idea 3 year olds could do high wires either!
@DKDK123 hmmm that doesn't sound great about your neighbour. 😔 And I would be angry at DH too. Very angry. I'm angry for you! 😡 Bloody men.
@kaylsd oh no! Sorry about covid. Rubbish.
@Lexber I can well imagine how much of a struggle the last bit will be! You can do it! Try to take it easy.
@BellatrixK definitely wait. You can't always see anything at 6 and that'll stress you out.
@bez91 crap about the early appointment. I was meant to have one too but it got cancelled thankfully (she has covid). Not good with the clock change. Excellent about breakfast though!

My baby has been quiet the last few days. You know how we worry. 🤣 But I've also been busier. Last night I got in bed though and she decided to start. 🙄 Apparently laying on my left side is a no go and I ended up having to move! 🙈 Rude. 🤣