Navigating pregnancy after loss

[Cruz86]

Just setting this up so we can move all pregnancy-related stuff from the TTC after miscarriage thread.

@aesgriff @speake @Bridgey8 @Prayingformyrainbow93 @mrshodgy21 @Skl2021 @Ganesh2022 @HoneyLemon29 @bunnykins123 @theblueflowers

Please tag anyone else I have missed, this is as much as my brain can handle 😂

@theblueflowers here with a handhold too. Keeping everything crossed for you 🤞💞 keep strong were all here for you xx

Thank you for all the lovely thank yous ♥️♥️♥️

@theblueflowers hand hold ✋ thinking of you xx how many weeks are you? I had bleeding at 3 and then 6 weeks. At 6 weeks it was bright red too xx

I bet the wait was horrible @aesgriff! I'm not bad thank you, still constantly nauseous but can't shake the feeling that something has happened. Thought I'd be okay waiting til the 12 week scan but I know it's going to get harder. How are you?

I actually got my progesterone checked with the gp @calimc83. Was really lucky to be seen by an understanding dr so he sent me for a blood test. I think my level was 86 so no concerns apparently. By lmp I'm 9 weeks but I think I'm more 8+2. Oh no, bloody Covid!! Glad you're feeling okay though. I've got a spaniel so that made me laugh 😂 My boobs have literally been like rocks, but I'm not big busted at all.

I'm so sorry you've had bleeding @theblueflowers. Thinking of you and really hope you're just like the other ladies in here where everything has been fine, despite bleeding 🤞🏻🌈 Take it easy ❤️

A bit of a sensitive question, but how many miscarriages has everyone had prior to this pregnancy? And what gestation was it at? I'm starting to feel anxious that something isn't right 😩

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@Cruz86 ahh sorry your feeling like this 😩 are you ok? Anxiety does take over sometimes and we always think the worst but I'm sure u have nothing to worry about 💞 it was my 1st miscarriage and I miscarried at 13 weeks but baby was measuring 10 xx

@Cruz86 hoping the pregnancy makes the spaniel ear boobs fill out a bit 😆🙈 hope u are ok? I'm anxious already - testing twice a day for line progression ( which I know is nuts 😳)..I've had 2 children, 3rd pregnancy was a MC at 9 weeks xx

@Cruz86 that's good your GP tested your progesterone for u xx

@theblueflowers you can go for private scan with bleeding. I went because nhs scan was more than a week away. They did it abdominally. They told me to keep nhs appt to see what bleeding was about as they only confirmed heartrate, movement and CRL. It's so scary to experience that but lots of women do and continue with a healthy pregnancy. I hope all goes well at your scan.
@Cruz86 I'm sorry you're anxious. I hope it gets better with each day passing. It's horrible feeling so sick but sounds like hormones are doing their job. I had a missed miscarriage, surgery at 11 weeks, no growth past 6w2.

My NHS TV scan measurements were different from the private abdominal one. Has anyone found this. Measured 9 weeks 1 day but was expecting 9w5 from private one. Heartrate was 160. I'm trying not to over think it. It was a relief but obvs I'm still worrying. No cause of spotting was found and it has stopped.
@Skl2021 that's heartbreaking. I'm so sorry that happened to you.

@Cruz86 it's not, I did it for a few weeks. I'm really sorry for your loss.

@Cruz86 I've had two, one was ectopic and I started bleeding at 5+2. My first miscarriage was the day before my 12 week scan at 12+1. I have no idea what gestation the baby got to because I passed it at home.

@Cruz86 so sorry you’re feeling so anxious, I’m not sure hearing anyone else’s stories (especially when some are closer to 12 weeks) are going to make you feel any better my love 🥺 I try to feel reassured by how things looked for us at our 7 week scan but hearing all these slightly later dates kill me and I’m sure they probably do the same to you rather than give any reassurance. Could you book in a private scan to give you peace of mind? Xxx

@aesgriff I'm 9+1 today, so the good thing is I will get a definite answer tomorrow as everything should be clear by now.

@Cruz86 I totally understand the anxiety but try not too overthink 💕 I had a MMC at 13 weeks but baby was 9 weeks, a CP in December and January both 16dpo not sure of weeks and a MC at 5+1 in February. I'm 6+1 today got my scan Monday and praying so hard that all is ok and baby will make it 🙏🏻🌈

Argh do these look ok?? I don't know how many DPO I am....couldn't turn the pic 😆 but the ones on the right are the earliest ones ( from the 30th -1st) grouped into am and pm cos I'm insane x

@calimc83 look good to me 💞🙌 cheapies do take longer to get darker xx

@Skl2021 the early ones have pretty much vanished 😩 tempted to but some more Frers..not gonna go down the 'weeks route' as that'll 💯 stress me x

@calimc83 try not to stress to much. Yes I kept doing frer until I got a dye stealer then I stopped. Didn't want to do the digitals as like u it would have stressed me out if the numbers didn't change. But if it's causing to much stress then don't do anymore 💞 xx

@calimc83 really obvious progression there!

@theblueflowers 😬 I hope so!! How many weeks are u? @Skl2021 I think I'll take a day off tomorrow and test again Sunday maybe? Does the anxiety ever ease?! 😳x

Thank you all for your kindness. You're right @speake, it hasn't helped me in the slightest and has only made me feel more anxious - what was I thinking?! I'm petrified of getting a private scan because I feel like history will repeat itself. I'm happy to have seen a heartbeat and measuring around 6+3 a couple of weeks ago, we didn't see a heartbeat or measure that far in the previous pregnancy, but it's also still really early so I know anything can happen. Maybe I should just bite the bullet and get a private scan. I just don't want to feel like I'm tempting fate 😞 I was doing so well up until this point and have been so proud of myself for not thinking about things too much xx

@Cruz86 sending you the biggest cuddles, I knew you were looking for reassurance & hope that everyone’s miscarriages would’ve been early ones as I do the same & when I hear the opposite it petrifies me too 🥺💔 I hope you’re ok & have managed to find some positive thoughts / affirmations tonight. I’ve been toying with the idea of another scan too but I think I’ve decided against it as if the worst has happened I don’t want my pregnancy bubble to burst any sooner than it has to, maybe that’s something for you to consider to? It would be amazing if we could guarantee that if we went to a scan it would tide us the reassurance we need. Healthy growing bean until proven otherwise right 🙏🏼💕 Hope you manage to sleep ok tonight & tomorrow is a new day, another one of growing your little bean xxx

@calimc83 they look like mine did!

@Cruz86 sending you a big hug. It's so tough I know. I had a miscarriage at 9 weeks but the baby had never made it from 5 weeks and had reabsorbed (empty sac) - I had surgery to remove everything because my body hadn't got a clue after waiting two weeks to see if anything progressed. This pregnancy has been so different yet sometimes the same... both times I had spotting which led to a scan at 6+5 (was freaking it was the same day) - one showed nothing / the other a heartbeat and lovely baby all ok in there... that said even tho the outcome of that first scan was so different the first loss never leaves you so you are always waiting for something to go wrong. Every scan I've been too I've been crying waiting for them to give me the bad news... and then I'm reassured for a day. I have had to have multiple scans due to bleeding and my blood clot and I must say that that has helped but sadly I don't think I'll ever have full confidence in the pregnancy after what happened before. those who navigate pregnancy after loss are warriors - you are doing amazingly well. Just hold tight xxxxxxx

@Bridgey8 😬 how many DPO did u find out you were pregnant? I have t a clue what I am 😩
@Cruz86 hope u are ok?? I'm feeling all sorts of anxiety at the moment. MC completely messes with your head. I keep contemplating early scans but I can't face being told again and seeing for myself that the baby has died again 😑 xx

@theblueflowers thinking of you for your scan today xx

@Cruz86 every minute of every day is petrifying after a loss. Reading about miscarriage and worries can really send me over the edge so I’ve had to step away from mumsnet and social media to protect my bubble. You have to do what protects your heart ♥️ I know an early scan may seem scary but they’ve been helping me get through the days. Almost a countdown to each one, mini milestones xx

@calimc83 see pic. I think the first was at 14dpo second 15dpo and third 17dpo. That said.... I'm measuring further ahead by a few days on the baby so they might be a couple of days earlier than what I was thinking at the time. All I remember is that at 13dpo I started to bleed so thought it was my period a day early... then it didn't amount to anything so I tested the next day and got the faint line. I was on honeymoon so only had these cheapie sticks and I think it takes ages for them to get dark!

@Bridgey8 oh they do look similar! How many weeks are u now? X