Navigating pregnancy after loss

[Cruz86]

Just setting this up so we can move all pregnancy-related stuff from the TTC after miscarriage thread.

@aesgriff @speake @Bridgey8 @Prayingformyrainbow93 @mrshodgy21 @Skl2021 @Ganesh2022 @HoneyLemon29 @bunnykins123 @theblueflowers

Please tag anyone else I have missed, this is as much as my brain can handle 😂

Ahh imagine that @barneymcgroo!! Can't wait to see what they say on the 21st. How are you feeling? X

@Cruz86 Fine, mostly. Mild nausea, but I didn't have much sickness with the other two. Tired, but I have a pair of dreadful sleepers, so not without good reason!

Can't wait til 21st - slightly worried all they'll find is cake/toast/pasta, but it does feel like something's in there.

Thx for setting up x

@theblueflowers I'm only 4+1 and even that feels like a lifetime 😅 I'm counting down the days EPAU can see me x

@theblueflowers I did get 2-3 on clearblue 2 days ago though so I'm intrigued on my numbers x

Congratulations everyone! Please can I join? Just 4.5 weeks, have a 3 year old but have had 3 miscarriages since then.

This message appeared right when I needed it. I'm 9 weeks after losses in November and December. I don't actually think I'm mentally prepared to be pregnant. I'm so sick and I'm still so angry about losing my baby in December. I've had lots of miscarriages but that was the worst one.

I don't know how to let myself enjoy this pregnancy. I can't keep focusing on what I've lost because it's not helping me but a friend is pregnant and due a week before I would have been and I can't bring myself to talk to her about her baby because I am just SO ANGRY about how unfair life is.

I need to reframe and focus on the baby I have now. This is probably the last time I'll be pregnant because the Hyperemesis is horrific and I'm guaranteed a few more miscarriages if I do try because I'm nearly in double digits already. I don't want to waste it being depressed but I can't shake it. Talking helps a bit and I've asked to be referred to perinatal mental health.

Sorry to be such a downer! I also have a toddler who is wonderful and I know I'll love this baby just as much when it's born I just can't let myself get attached yet.

Congratulations to everyone else. Hope you're all doing well 😊

@ohCARP Sorry to hear about your losses - it's so hard. And difficult to see a friend pregnant - I had a miscarriage before my first, and it suddenly felt like the whole world was pregnant. Found it hard not to take it personally! Totally normal for you to feel ANGRY, it doesn't seem fair.

If you're 9 weeks, let's hope this one sticks. Did you start to feel less sick further on in pregnancy before? 🤞

@Cruz86 sorry was fast asleep early last night just can't stay at awake at the min yes I have my scan Friday anxious about that and what's to come after just have to try and stay positive 🤦🏽‍♀️ x

@speake thanks! It’s gone really quick but at the same time soooo slow haha! How are you getting on?

@Cruz86 I’m feeling okay, lots of nausea and sooo tired. But I’m getting there! My 12 week scan isn’t until the 28th and the closer I get the more nervous I feel! Had a scan at 8 weeks which really reassured me so I’ve told quite a few people now including close family and friends but now I’m nervous in case soemthing has changed at the 12 week scan! It’s a bit of a rollercoaster! How are you?

@JuniperAndTonic my 12 week scan is the 28th too 🤞🙌🙊 xx

@JuniperAndTonic glad you had a positive 8 week scan. If you don’t mind me asking did they manage to do an abdominal ultrasound rather than internal?

I’m ok just anxious, we agreed we were just going to wait for our 12 week scan as with our last mc we had 4 scans by the time we were 10 weeks and they were all internal & bad news. Don’t want to go through that again but likewise would just love some reassurance that things are progressing as they should in there xxx

Hello, I would like to join please. I'm 5 weeks pregnant and had a miscarriage back in August 2020. I'm full of anxiety this time around. I have an 8 week scan booked for end of this month so just waiting for that now. Although I think I'll probably be anxious throughout.

Hi all I'm currently pregnant again after a missed miscarriage and ectopic pregnancy I'm a nervous wreck Wednesday next can't come quick enough not sure how far gone I am heartburn nausea sore boots headaches is this a good sign

Welcome all the newbies on the group x

@Mammygillo25 I am also pregnant after a chemical and an Ectopic x

Back in for a scan this afternoon - already shaking a bit at my desk xx

@Bridgey8 Hope all goes well for you.

Got my fingers crossed for you @Bridgey8

Hope all goes well at the scan @Bridgey8 🌈♥️

Thanks for making the new page @Cruz86 xx

Congratulations
It's scary not knowing how my pregnancy is going I've underactive thyroid too on 150mg eltroxin

Hi ladies, could I join ? Currently 9+3 natural pregnancy after almost 7 years of secondary infertility and also ivf and clomid treatment. I have pcos and recently diagnosed with protein S deficiency. I had a mmc in November after an ivf frozen transfer. It's really traumatised me. I understand compared to some ladies I've not been through alot.
I'm just so so anxious. I feel like my anxiety is out of control at the moment. I also have ocd for checking things, so things like checking the oven, plug sockets, windows etc, and recently I've started checking if my boobs are still feeling swollen/larger. I will actually stop what I'm doing to go and check my boobs. Like they're going to be able to predict if anything goes wrong. I just feel stupid. I don't know if I should make my midwife aware ?

Hello. I've had a mmc recently. I had a scan at 6 weeks (I thought I was 6+1)Does anyone have experience of scans at this time? My CRL was 4.8mm and HB 125bpm. I keep getting conflicting info online. One page will say 5mm and another will say 4mm. Anyones experience would be appreciated. I'm trying to take heart that the midwife said it was a very reassuring, positive scan but also completely over thinking measurements etc. Is 125 bpm too fast etc.. I guess like everyone else here, I'm just looking more reassurance that I have good odds this will be a healthy pregnancy.

@Bridgey8 thinking of you this afternoon, let us know how you get on 🤍

@aesgriff hope your scan goes well today too xxx

Welcome new ladies, sorry you find yourself here but great that you’re all pregnant again. I can’t comment on individual scenarios but try to remember that every pregnancy is different. Hoping you all find reassurance from this thread & that we’ll all take home our rainbows 🌈🤍

@aesgriff
Thank you ❤ this is my little rainbow baby praying 🙏 all goes well for all us ladies

Good luck today @aesgriff and @Bridgey8, thinking of you both ❤️

Welcome to all the new ladies! I'll reply to you all shortly xx