Due July 2022 (thread 4)

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Hi all another new thread as the old 1 was almost full!

Previous thread
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/4445441-Due-July-2022-thread-3?pg=1

Bloody hell @Fingerscrossedfor2021HK what a horrible doctor! Definitely get a second opinion

You sound completely healthy to me. Crikey, I started at 68kg and am now 81

You keep doing what you’re doing and feeling good about yourself - that’s the main thing

Thank you ladies. I have calmed down a bit and have promptly booked consultations with 2 alternative doctors.

I think focusing on weight in black and white terms when pregnant is so dangerous and unhelpful! I had been so proud of myself for focusing on the amazing little person that I am growing and ignoring the physical changes to my own body and in a flash today’s appointment changed that.

I am going to do my very best to focus on the positive: I am pregnant with a healthy baby and getting him here safely is all that matters. Now I just need to find a doctor with a decent bedside manner to help me do that!

@Fingerscrossedfor2021HK definitely a good idea to seek another doctor imo. I think the rule of thumb with pregnancy weight gain is around 10 - 15 kilos and you're well within that range. I would have thought 67kg was quite low for 5'11" to be honest, 6 kilos in 22 weeks is nothing. I've put on 7 in 24, weighed more than you pre pregnancy, am shorter and no-one has mentioned an issue with my weight- even though I'm concerned enough about it :D

@Fingerscrossedfor2021HK your dr is an idiot. I would ignore it. I was 73kg at my last weigh in (with the hospital consultant) and no one has said anything at all about my weight or commented. And I'm only 5ft 4".

@Fingerscrossedfor2021HK according to the website I use you're doing absolutely fine for your measurements!

@SPea I wish you hadn't posted that calculator 😂 I'm gonna have to ban myself from it I think! @Fingerscrossedfor2021HK what absolute nonsense. I'm glad you've sought advice elsewhere.

My maternity support belt arrived yesterday and I can already highly recommend to anyone who's been experiencing lower back pain when they exercise.

I walked 5 miles with the dog yesterday and for the first time in weeks I wasn't completely seized up by the end of the day!

I've also been thinking about getting a pregnancy pillow - does anyone use one? I've been sleeping with a memory foam pillow between my knees but wondered if the real preg pillows add anything more

Thank you again to everyone for making me feel better. I had a real panic yesterday and it made me sad because I’m so excited to meet my baby!

@KizboBaggins yes I sleep with a maternity pillow and it is the best! I am usually a stomach sleeper so I find it really helps me to get comfy. I got a sort of beanbag one from a mothercare store in HK. Highly recommend!

@KizboBaggins for my first pregnancy I had a dream genii. This time I've got a cheap v shaped pillow. I've found both work just as well, just depends on how much you want to spend.

Especially with summer on its way I opted for the minimal one rather than the massive ones as I find it too hot at the best of times.

@KizboBaggins haha sorry! I find it calms me down, I weigh myself once a week when the baby week changes so I can keep track and it stops me from panicking if I'm eating too much or too little.

I've also had a pregnancy pillow from about 12 weeks, I'm a front sleeper too, so it stops me rollin over and has the support between the legs for my hips as I'm not use to being on my side so much.

@Fingerscrossedfor2021HK so sorry you've had to go through that! I'm sure you'll find the second docs much more calming and useful.

I've been reading up on bmi in pregnancy and found this article really useful www.bellybelly.com.au/pregnancy/is-bmi-during-pregnancy-accurate/

I'm having small issue with my homebirth midwife. Everytime I go she's spouting off all the worst case scenarios, especially hammering home how deathly awful labour/birth will be! I'm not under any disillusions about it, but a few encouraging words like - you can do it, it will be an incredible experience, you're going to be a mum how amazing! Rather than constantly telling me over the hour how painful and awful it will be! And I can't change her, I'm stuck!

Also, last time I went she said my blood pressure has risen. I've never had blood pressure issues, and it was after an hour of doomsdaying all the worst case scenarios so it might be white coat syndrome. Has anyone else had blips in their blood pressure?

@KizboBaggins @SPea I’m going to bring up with my midwife at my appointment on Friday. I’ve been constantly under by nearly a kilo the whole pregnancy and just a bit worried that it might impact the baby (they were on the 39th centile at the 20w scan too). Maybe I should just count my blessings - there is ALWAYS something to worry about it.

@AppleTree16 There always is! From what I've read, the baby will take exactly the right amount of nutrients from you, so weight shouldn't really matter all that much, its more about you making sure you're building the right amount for your own energy levels. Always best to speak to the midwife though, they'll be able to provide you the right info for your personal situation, rather than my random google searches!

@AppleTree16 the worry definitely never ends! At my 20w scan my baby was in the 49th percentile so literally bang on average and I still worry. Especially as my weight gain is slightly on the higher side, but I was fairly slim to start with so I'm trying not to worry... easier said than done!

@DayToNight good point about summer, might look at a cheap thin v one.

@Hope3821 is this a midwife who is trained for home births who is telling you how bad it's going to be?! How strange. And unhelpful.

I had low blood pressure when I last went to the midwife and she just said "do you feel ok?" And I did, so she wasn't concerned. I think generally they expect BP to be higher when they measure it than it would've been had you measured at home (because of the potential elevation in stress levels I presume). Did the midwife seem concerned?

@KizboBaggins I’ve got a cheap pregnancy pillow from Asda. It’s like 6 ft long and I sleep in it like a little cocoon! It goes in a u shape around me so no matter what side I lie on it’s already there

In other news I had a glucose tolerance test today and cursed my “tricky” veins as it meant I had to get jabbed a lot with needles to get the two blood samples. I’m definitely going to have bruises later!

@KizboBaggins yeh weird right! She's been doing it for like 20 years or something. I would've got a different midwife but she was the 3rd I went to as the others were fully booked, there's no more to chose from now in their local group.

When she said my blood pressure had jumped, she only seemed concerned to launch into loads of talk about preecamplsia and all the big worrying symptoms I should look out for. I mean all in all I feel great. Sometimes I could forget I'm pregnant if it weren't for the sore hips and popped belly! She also told me not to bother to measure my own blood pressure, as the home machines are inaccurate - well I did anyway and it's now perfect, so I'm going to keep measuring and taking notes each week and take them to her next time (in about 5 weeks). But I just want some positive encouragement from her! This is such a special and important time right!

Heya all!

Hope everyone's feeling well!

I wondered what your hospital is allowing birthing partner wise. We're now allowed 2 people.

Will you be having your partner and a mum for example?

My mum was present when my niece was born and my mother in law hasn't seen any births yet so wondered if she would like to be present..

What do you all think and/ or what are you doing? If you're happy to share x

For anyone wanting a comfy bra crop top
Just bought this from sainsburys and it's sooo comfy

I won't wear bras now for the rest of my pregnancy

I have bras with no underwire for work but these for home and I also sleep in crop tops as I have. A large chest and so uncomfortable

I'm 32F before pregnant god knows what they are now!!

Anyway i bought large and normally medium so large and xl seem to be the right size

So just thought I'd share

£9 great price too

X

@Capricorn8990

Heya all!

Hope everyone's feeling well!

I wondered what your hospital is allowing birthing partner wise. We're now allowed 2 people.

Will you be having your partner and a mum for example?

My mum was present when my niece was born and my mother in law hasn't seen any births yet so wondered if she would like to be present..

What do you all think and/ or what are you doing? If you're happy to share x

My mother is the last person on earth I would want in the delivery room 😂. She’d need more looking after than me. It’s going to be just me and my husband. He’s going to tell me the sex of the baby and cut the cord (hopefully!).

@strawberrysummer19 that's a good tip thanks, if bought a few interim bras after the first trimester as the growth seemed to slow down a bit, but I'm now starting to outgrow those and could do with some comfortable ones for wearing around the house!

I'll be happy when I'm a bit further on and feeling the babies movements stronger; keep panicking thinking I haven't felt anything then feel it moving but it's like in a different place (more inside??) than it was a couple of weeks ago.

Will definitely only have my husband in the delivery room with me, and even then that depends on if he can hold it together haha. I'd probably be quite happy just getting on with it myself, but will be nice to have his company if it drags on! Definitely wouldn't be comfortable with either of our mothers there though.

@Capricorn8990 we’re allowed 2 birth partners as well. I’ll be having my husband and my sister. I really missed not being able to have her last time.

For me, being in labour is not an activity for spectators, I'd only have people in the room that would be my cheerleaders and help me along, not because they'd enjoy the experience, but that's just me!

@Capricorn8990 is it your first baby? I wouldn't be comfortable with anyone except DH in the room to be honest. As another poster put it, it's not really a spectator sport. There will be staff in and out checking things and it doesn't exactly run on a schedule

@Capricorn8990 it will be just me and my husband, there is no way I'd be having either my Mum or my mother-in-law bossing me around 😉! But seriously though I would really only have those people you are happy have see you at your most vulnerable and likely in pain for some of it. That's not to say it's an awful experience, it most likely really won't be but I would say think about who you have there carefully which I'm sure you will.

@Capricorn8990 I've basically wanted silent and not to be touched for my last two births! I had my eyes shut throughout my whole last birth. I was at home so my husband was doing pool and I occasionally dispatched him to fetch me water/hair ties/blankets/take blankets off. He put on the music as I'd told him to beforehand then I shouted at him to turn it off! I liked knowing he was nearby but I also was most content just being in my own bubble really focussing on my breathing and staying in the zone.

Personally I definitely wouldn't want my mum there and never my MIL in a million years ! I had brilliant midwives who tiptoed in and didn't speak either and I really was barely aware they were there, they just gave me a couple of little prompts at the end to shift position a little (I hadn't even taken my knickers off it was all quite fast!) just to give him space to pop out.

We didn't call anyone at all for an hour or so after either, it was just me and my husband and the baby and we just had skin to skin and marvelled at him and I felt like I was the most powerful woman on earth. It was really special to have something just ours.

A tip we kept hearing in antenatal was who would you be comfortable pooing in front of...

@Effram who you would be comfortable pooing in front of is great advice although in my case that would exclude my husband but I can’t really kick him out!

I would definitely hate to have either of our mums there (luckily my sister is much less annoying than either of them!)