Due March/April 2022 Thread 3. Third trimester and babies!!

[Dyra]

Didn't quite realise we were so close to the end of the second one. So let's have another one! I'll post the due date list in a moment.

Hi, I keep trying to post and it doesn't work!! And I bet this one well now. Glad you got the tongue tie cut, really hope it helps.

Your post has been successful at long last @easybreezy586! I wonder if this is why Mumsnet seems to be much quieter atm. Other than the dreadful new update ofc.

Max got weighed today! He's 50% heavier than his birth weight. Up to 12lb 2 from 8lb 1. Round 3 of antibiotics and now some dressing to try to help the open portions of the wound heal.

@Dyra that's a good weight gain. Elizabeth was 9lb 7oz on Friday up from 7lb birth weight.

I called the doctor today to book a 6 week appointment and they told me they aren't doing them any more. They want to see us both at 8 weeks instead.

This little lady has slept well the past 2 days but come 4pm onwards she just doesn't seem to settle she just wants to feed constantly. If she isn't feeding she's screaming. Joys 😅 feel I can't get a minute to do anything

Thanks everyone - and sorry for the slow reply.

I've been through a nightmare of a week with blocked ducts, engorgement and extremely sore nipples, a complete catch 22 scenario when you HAVE to pump to relieve the pressure and yet pumping is agony 😭...

But the good news is we've got a tongue tie consultant coming over to our house on Saturday and if it is that, she'll cut it there and then.

I'm putting all my hopes into that 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

This is my little girl - we've called her Rafaela

@MiracleBaby2022 she’s gorgeous! Really hope the tongue tie specialist helps. When we had Morris done on Saturday, he cried when it was done, and then stopped crying as soon as I fed him. He was then absolutely fine, and slept all day, so really not traumatic.

Apparently they don’t develop nerve endings in the frenulum until they get their teeth, so it’s not a painful procedure like it would be on an older child or adult.

@Derbee that's good to hear. Have you noticed any difference with the feeding?

@MiracleBaby2022 it’s made a big difference to feeding. Much less painful now. Still have feeds that are shallow latch and painful, but not all of them anymore. She said it’ll take a couple of weeks for him to really improve his latch.

She sent me this video which I’ve been practicing

Thanks @Derbee ! We saw the consultant today and sadly, because my baby has a really bad twist in her neck, which affects the tongue and mouth function, she wasn't able to tell if it's a tongue tie. If she has, it's a submucosal one but we'll first have to see a physio to try and straighten her out. If that doesn't improve the feeding, we will see the consultant again. I'm a bit gutted to be honest, but I've already contacted my physio - I really hope she can help. It's been such a long 8 weeks, it feels like 8 years...

@Miraclebaby2022 You've had such a tough time of it, hopefully this is a step towards getting some help that will make a real difference for you🤞

George is 3 weeks old now, I feel like the last couple of days have felt easier, he is sleeping a bit longer and think my boobs are toughening up now!

@easybreezy586 glad things are settling down a bit. My little one had a big growth spurt at 3 weeks and was unsettled. She's 6 weeks on Friday and pretty sure the trifecta is in full swing - growth spurt, peak of fussiness and sleep regression. She was sleeping 4 hours at a time at night now she's up constantly and not really sleeping during the day either. The only way I can get her to sleep is on my chest at night which means very little sleep for me. She just needs extra cuddles and very clingy. It's exhausting 😅

Anyone else's 6 week babies like this?

On the plus side I've seen the beginnings of some proper smiles and little babbles from her which is incredibly sweet. Pretty sure she's even chuckled in her sleep a couple of times.

@MiracleBaby2022 you’ve really had a rough time. Hope the physio helps, and you’re on the way to resolution.

@Caass45 our baby (4 weeks) likes to be fed and held all the time. So we’re just obliging 😂 He currently sleeps in our bed, but falls asleep on my chest first. When I can finally put him down, he needs to hold my finger, or be touching me in some way, so he knows I’m there. I know it won’t last forever, so I’m just going with it.

@MiracleBaby2022 oh no. 😟Torticollis on top of everything?

Bad new Mumsnet format!

Anyway... I really feel for you and hope physio helps get Rafaela sorted, and there's no more problems after all this.

We're out the other side of the 6 week fussy phase. I'd forgotten that when they have a growth spurt they can stop pooping for a couple of days! Max is 8 weeks on Saturday (flown by!), so he's got his jabs next week. Touch wood, but he's extremely chill about most things. Hopefully he'll take them in his stride. He's got a bit of a cold atm courtesy of DD, but he's not complaining about it.

Hi All.
I hope everyone is getting on ok with their lovely new babas.
As a 1st time mumma im just wondering when my little man will start getting into a bit of a routine? He will be 7 weeks tomorrow and sometimes he will go 3-4hours between feeds then others its 2, so i never really know where we are upto. He is also bottle fed.
He also only really settles on me in the day and wakes as soon as i put him down.
Any advice welcome please 🥰 xx

First time mum here too. The inconsistency in feeding gaps, and the napping on me sound the same as your situation. It’s completely normal. If you subscribe to the idea of the “fourth trimester” then our babies will need at least 12 weeks to gently adjust to life outside the womb. Their circadian rhythm will likely be almost non existent until at least that point, so the sleep will be random at the moment. It won’t last long, so I’m just enjoying the nap snuggles and not putting him down/having him in the sling

Hey Scoaf! I was literally wondering earlier how everyone was getting on. Time has flown by so quickly this time. Can't believe it's been 2 months already....

Truthfully, I don't remember when DD got into any sort of routine. DS certainly isn't in one yet, other than his best and longest sleeps are at night. People go on about the fourth trimester, so I guess I wouldn't expect anything until 12+ weeks.

As for the day sleep thing, you might be entering sleep regression territory. I think we're coming out of one now, but up until a day or so ago, when Max wasn't attached to my boob, he was attached to me. A big change from where he would fall asleep on me, but then I could shove him his basket/pram. My only advice is repeat "this is a phase" until things change and, if you haven't already, invest in a sling. I'm not getting much done, but what I am getting done is solely down to the close caboo.

Sorry not much in the way of advice, but things will change.

Thanks ladies.
Im glad Teddy isnt the only one who wont be put down. I've also had numerous people ask if he is in a routine yet and given me THE look when i say he sleeps on me in the day.
I love all the cuddles with him but it would be nice to have a wee now and again 🤣
I cant belive how quickly the time is going.

They'd be given THE LOOK right back. I can barely manage to be in a routine myself. How the hell do they expect a very young baby to be?....

I forgot to mention that I couldn't put DD down in the day until she dropped to 1 nap. Fortunately that was ~9-10 months. Thank goodness she was my first. DS seems to made of more chilled stuff. Tbh, unless DS will scream for hours after he's put down, or he's very difficult to get back to sleep, just shove him in his basket/pram/wherever he sleeps at night, have your wee, then deal with him afterwards.

Ignore the looks from people who parent differently to you.

As my friend (who is a breastfeeding counsellor) put it… if you were at a zoo, or on a safari etc and you saw a monkey put down their WEEKS old baby, and walk off whilst it slept etc everyone would be horrified about how vulnerable that little thing is, and be worried about it being on its own etc.

Why are people so different when it comes to human babies? It’s weird

We can’t love or cuddle our babies too much, it’s impossible. So do what feels right for you

I was just wondering how everyone's been getting on. Our little one sounds the same as everyone else. About 6 weeks she went through a phase of not wanting to be put down even at night. We swaddle her now and she sleeps great, last night she slept nearly 7 hours. Putting g her down during the day is harder though but that's OK.

We just went to baby sensory class and she fell fast asleep half way through. Wish she slept that easy at home.

We've had a bit of a week, as we're in hospital. I'll preface by saying that Max is absolutely fine. We're only really here for monitoring, and we should be home tomorrow.

As for why we're here, Max's breathing has been rattly due to bronchiolitis for a few weeks now. It's also the reason he hasn't had his vaccines yet. Otherwise, he's been feeding, sleeping, weeing, pooping, growing, and generally babying all fine. But he started sucking in his neck and chest early Sunday morning (he literally woke up minutes after Eurovision finished). One call to 111 and a paramedic check over later we wound up here. His chest is fine (had an x-ray to be sure), and his observations have been perfect, but his breathing is still very noisy. He's had a couple of nebulisers which have helped, but only temporarily. His breathing is just as rattly as ever. He's having a scope tomorrow morning to see if silent reflux is the cause for all the gunk in his throat.

So yeah... Hope everyone is doing well!

Oh @Dyra, how scary. Glad Max is ok, and you’re in good hands. Hope he’s better soon.