Due March/April 2022 Thread 3. Third trimester and babies!!

[Dyra]

Didn't quite realise we were so close to the end of the second one. So let's have another one! I'll post the due date list in a moment.

@Lovebug06 another thing is to try a different position which might lift the baby off the nerve that's causing the pain. But it might mean trying quite a few different things...

@MiracleBaby2022 ah I see what you mean about weekend staff. It’s worth asking. I know in my hospital they’re not great at changing dates. Good you have a date. My c section is likely to be 24th/25th so we’ll probably have our babies at a similar time. Xx

@Lovebug06 have you spoken to the nhs physio? Do you have a support belt? It sounds a lot like pelvic girdle pain or the ligaments stretching. It’s so hard when you can’t get comfortable. I hope your midwife can refer you for some meds. I’m struggling too at the moment. My pelvis is burning across the front. Just can’t wait until baby is here! Xx

@Catconfusion it's not actually booked in yet, so I'm thinking my request should be pretty straightforward. It was just during my appointment today with the obstetrician that she said my midwife would book me in for 39+3 when I see her on Thursday. In which case I'll definitely ask to go in maybe first thing Monday that week or instead which would be 21st. Let's see what she says, but hospitals are terrible on weekends - and I want all the support I can get!

Thanks girls.
I have the midwife tommorow I am hoping she will help me but she generally is no help at all.
Its the thought of this for weeks.....
Hoping she refers me or does something.

Oh that sounds awful @Lovebug06. Everything crossed your midwife can do something for you, or at the very least set you up with some strong painkillers. Don't worry about work. If you'd had your baby early, they would have just had to cope. I don't see this as being much different. Get yourself signed off if needs be. Hoping your pain greatly reduces, or better yet, stops altogether.

@MiracleBaby2022 @Catconfusion Eeek! Dates soon! I think I'll be getting my induction date tomorrow. Unfortunately history has repeated itself, and I have pre-eclampsia again. I'm now in hospital now until delivery. I'll be having a baby sometime in the next week! 😱 All feels like it was an inevitability the second protein came back in my urine. Since this is probably my last child, I'm a bit sad as I would have loved to go naturally, or even just to make it to my due date, but I guess it just wasn't to be.

As for the breech aspect, midwife thinks baby might have turned head down, but they'll scan to be absolutely sure before doing anything. Fortunately, pre-eclampsia isn't a contraindication for an ECV, so that's still an option. I think induction itself for a breech birth is, but all options will be discussed at some point.

A question to the room: has anybody had experience of "period pains" mostly in the crease between leg and belly? I had a lot of braxton hicks yesterday evening but also this weird, but not terrible ache. The ache (like a pre-period warning pain) is back this morning. No blood or anything, baby is moving fine. 34+6 today. Hoping it's just ligaments.

@Lovebug06 when you see your midwife tell her you don’t feel listened to! It’s not good enough to leave you feeling like that and in pain! As for work let them get on with it, like others have said you could have your baby soon and they’d have to deal with it so don’t worry about it.

@Dyra hope you and baby are ok! Sorry to hear you’ll be induced again especially if you was hoping to just go on your own but it’s best for you and baby. And hopefully a speedy safe delivery!

Just wondering am I being unreasonable, it’s my fathers birthday day before my due date and we’ve arranged to go out for a meal for him. I’ve said to my family I’m happy to go if baby is still tucked away but if I have baby around that time or even week before that I would like to stay indoors until I feel well enough and that we could rearrange. But some of my family aren't getting my point and are like well you may have a little baby coming to the meal…no one’s been horrible about it but they don’t seem to be willing to change the date🥴I just feel it’s a little unfair to expect someone who potentially has just given birth to go out if they don’t feel ready. I made that mistake with my first running around visiting everyone and delayed my recovery.

@Cxjai792 I think it is completely out of the question for you to go out for a meal when you've just had a baby, it's really important to spend those first few weeks bonding with your baby and recovering. If you're still pregnant and feel up for it then that's great, but I wouldn't commit to anything.

I'm 36 weeks today, got a midwife appointment later, I haven't really spoken about my birth plan at all yet, so hoping we'll cover that today. Feeling a bit in the dark!

@easybreezy586 I had my 36 week appointment yesterday and that's when we went through my birth plan

@easybreezy586 your right, think I just need to put my foot down a bit more instead of people pleasing all the time!

@Cxjai792 Thanks. It's a bit of a wrench, but it's for the best. Absolutely don't go to the meal if you're not up for it. Whether the baby is here or not by then. I wouldn't want them to change the date though. Have a smaller celebration with your dad when you are ready to.

@easybreezy586 Yeah, it's usually the 36 week appointment you start to discuss birth plan. Have a look online at birth plan considerations, but I wouldn't make it too detailed. Consider what you definitely do and do not want. Things like would you want forceps, or active management of placenta.

@GeorgiaMcGraw Yes, I have. I've put it down to the same thing that it's probably ligaments.

@Cxjai792 I didn't get home from hospital until 5 days after my delivery so just tell your family that you won't be coming if your baby has been born.
It's a massive thing for your body to go through, you need to focus on yourself and your baby and hopefully they will understand that.
Also presumably you won't want to be going to crowded restaurants that late in your pregnancy as there's a real risk of catching covid and then implications for having your partner at your delivery etc.
Most people I've known be pregnant lately have only met up with others outdoors in the last couple of weeks of pregnancy

@Dyra that is an option, I think because nothing has been actually booked or even where we will go is why I think they could just be a bit more flexible. My mum has already said we should just wait and see because I could go into labour on his birthday anyway😂

@SouthwestSis similar to me, I spent 5 days in total at hospital left after 2 days giving birth and I made the mistake of visiting people the next day, it wasn’t until my daughter was a week old that I actually spent time at home with her and I deeply regret that now. Yes I’m not really up for going out much as it is now and I’ve got 4/5 weeks left.

@Dyra I'll be getting my induction date tomorrow as well when I see my midwife. Oh gosh, so you're already in hospital? Hope you manage to get some sleep while you're there, I know with my insomnia issues I get 1 hour at most so I hope you're not like me! I totally understand that you're gutted about it not being a natural birth with your last one, but the most important thing is that everything is safe - for both you and baby. Keep us posted!

So slightly more eventful midwife appointment than usual for me, heart rate was low so I was sent into hospital for monitoring, all fine thankfully and I'm home now, but meant we had no birth plan chat at all. Going to see her again next week now.

Also, I was having a couple of Braxton Hicks contractions when I was on the monitor, they were so mild I wouldn't have realised that's what they were if not for the monitor.

@Dyra that's tough that you're in hospital, hope you're comfortable and can get some rest. So exciting that you'll get to meet your baby soon though! How many weeks are you?

@Cxjai792 They've not even booked anything yet?! That makes them extremely unreasonable then. Seems daft to have the date set in stone before actual plans!

@MiracleBaby2022 Yup. Since 8pm last night. Though, pending results of upcoming blood test on Thursday/Friday, I might be let out for good behaviour over the weekend. I did get some sleep, but not much. Mostly owing to being right next to the changing room, which inexplicably has a partly boarded window right next to my bed. As the light was left on, it made it very difficult to sleep. I'm moving beds tonight though, so I'll be next to the window instead. Should sleep better.

@easybreezy586 I'm 36+3 today. Keeping everything crossed my bloods further improve, so I might get to go home.

Gah! Message got cut off and didn't realise!

Glad you and baby are ok, and that you're seeing the midwife again next week. Hopefully you'll get your birth plan chat at long last!

@Dyra I know all a bit silly really I’d understand if it had been booked months in advanced!

Hopefully your bloods improve so you can go home and get some rest. Would they still induce next week if your bloods were better or keep a close eye on it?

Hello everyone! Hope it’s ok to come to this chat. Can’t believe it’s March already 😯 @easybreezy586 if you don’t mind me asking are you due around March 30th? I’m 36 weeks today too. Hope everyone is ok

I've missed so much 😅

@Catconfusion this is going back a bit but yes my little one gets hiccups a lot. 2 or 3 times a day usually. Mentioned it to midwife last week she said its totally fine.

@Dyra sorry to hear about the pre-eclampsia and the induction but atleast you'll have your little one in your arms soon 🥰 thats the main thing.

Ordered my tens machine for when I'm at home today so will see how that goes

Also hired someone today to cover my mat leave at work so that's a weight of my shoulders! So next Saturday is My last day 🤗

Everyone's talking about their 36 week appointment I had one last week at 34+6 my next isn't until the 14th so I'll be 37+6? Didn't think it would be so long between appointments should I be phoning to check if this is correct? 🤔

Can't believe its baby month already

@Caass45 Ty. ❤️ Can't believe it's March already either. Hope the TENS machine works for you. My one and only experience with TENS was a painful, but hilarious, one. Very curious to know how effective they are.

With your appointment, I would confirm with your midwife. 37+6 could equally be a 38 week appointment instead of 36 weeks. However, it seems there might be a baby boom starting up. I couldn't get a midwife appointment for this week as they were fully booked. I was scheduled in for Tuesday next week at 37+2 instead. Does that mean you'll get an appointment for the following week for 38 weeks, if it is your 36 week appointment? Otherwise that's going to have a knock on effect for the 40 and 41 week appointments should you get that far.

@Naomixx yes I'm due on the 30th too

@Dyra I'm glad you followed the word painful with hilarious there 😅 was concerned. Yeah some folks say they help some don't but I'll give it a bash.

Oh really? I did wonder cause the only days I'm off at the moment are Sunday Mondays so Mondays are the only real day I can attend appointments so I thought maybe it was a scheduling issue like they couldn't squeeze me in the week before. Just worried about missing out on things as we won't go through my birth plan until then. Also I'm one of those mild paranoia type first time mums who feels a sense of relief after the appointments when they say everything's good with me and baby. Was told I was higher risk for gd but my test at 28 weeks was normal. Also not been feeling 100% the past week. And got swollen ankles for the first time the other day so I do worry waiting 2 more weeks for q check up. But I know i can ask to be seen earlier even at triage but the one time I went there the super long wait to be seen put me off 😅

Anyways just trying to relax and starting to get excited about the birth qnd meeting my little daughter