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It's a boy....feel overwhelmed

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WeGoAgain123 · 01/12/2021 00:14

Hello!

As the title states, I'm having a boy!

Before anyone thinks I'm unhappy about this I just want to put you straight that there is no gender disappointment here.

In fact I have 2 daughters, aged 11 and 10 and before the 20 weeks scan me and my partner where quietly hoping to have a boy, partially due to the big age gap and also to experiencing the other side.

Now it's not hypothetical anymore I'm feeling very overwhelmed at thr thought of being 40 and not knowing anything about baby boys!

For those that have had girls and then a boy, what did you find to be the most different? I've been warned about nappy time already 😆

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grace1991 · 01/12/2021 01:20

Boys seem to be a hell of a lot more stroppy and whingey I think in the first year or so. That's the only difference I've noticed !!!

grace1991 · 01/12/2021 01:21

Sorry. Congratulations 🎉🎉🎉

Winniemarysarah · 01/12/2021 01:28

@grace1991

Boys seem to be a hell of a lot more stroppy and whingey I think in the first year or so. That's the only difference I've noticed !!!
Complete opposite in my experience, plus in the vast amount of posts I’ve come across on mn. I’ve found them easier going, more loving, less argumentative and FAR less stroppy and whingy! I’ve got two girls and one boy. I love my girls more than life itself, but if I could guarantee another boy I’d start trying again tomorrow.
Ikeatears · 01/12/2021 01:32

Practically, the nappy thing is the main difference. Other than that, after a girl and 3 boys (all very different from each other), I'd say it all comes down to personality rather than gender.
Just enjoy, go with the flow and he'll be who he will be, just like your girls 🙂

Jobennna · 01/12/2021 01:37

Boys in the early years are much less hardy than girls- more likely to be sick, fail to thrive etc, slower to pick up skills.

It’s interesting- in premature babies the number one best prognostic factor a baby can have is being a girl.

It might be worth knowing that (prematurity hopefully aside) so you’re not comparing unfavourably to his sisters.

MrsTerryPratchett · 01/12/2021 01:41

it all comes down to personality rather than gender

This.

Aquamarine1029 · 01/12/2021 01:41

Don't label your baby with any nonsense preconceived notions before he's even born. He will be his own person, that's all.

TurboTheChicken · 01/12/2021 01:46

Congratulations! I wanted girls and was secretly disappointed when my first scan revealed a boy, turns out I was completely wrong, boys are amazing. (Actually turns out girls are too as I had one next).

Based entirely on my experience, boys are less complicated and more loving. You do need to have conversations about Minecraft and frame rates and footballers you have never heard of but it's worth it.

Derbee · 01/12/2021 02:37

@Aquamarine1029

Don't label your baby with any nonsense preconceived notions before he's even born. He will be his own person, that's all.
Exactly this. Damaging nonsense before he’s even born is silly and pointless
Driposaurus · 01/12/2021 02:40

Practically, apart from the nappy, there’s no difference.

People’s reactions border in the sexist though. That can be hard to deal with politely (so I don’t tend to).

Weatherwax13 · 01/12/2021 02:48

You honestly can't generalise. It just feels a bit funny as you've had years thinking of yourself as a mother of girls. Congratulations

Notdoingthis · 01/12/2021 03:32

I had a boy then two girls and found no difference whatsoever when they were babies. All happy, calm, bright babies who didn't sleep.
Two of mine were easygoing toddlers, one (girl) was not.
They are all different now, because people are. Sex makes no difference until society drums into us it must, possibly by secondary age, unless as a parent you treat them differently.

birdglasspen · 01/12/2021 03:39

Nappy changes are different, everything else is personality. Every child is different I wouldn’t put his differences down to his sex!

sjxoxo · 01/12/2021 03:41

I’m also pregnant with a boy, my first! My DH is a huge person and I was hoping for a a girl so not to risk a huge baby & also only boys in our family, but alas he’s on his way! Not small either, 2.6kg at 33+4 🤣 the nappy changing thing yes (I have several brothers) but I think that’s the only difference! Oh and be prepared to make enough food to feed a zoo during teen years! Congratulations xo

leahwyn · 01/12/2021 03:46

Hello there! I’m really new to this so I’m really sorry if I’m posting in the wrong place, I’m just needing some help.

Me and my husband have been trying for a baby for a couple of months now - there’s nothing more I want than our own little baby. I came off the depo provera injection last December and my periods came back 4 months later which was good. I haven’t as of yet fallen pregnant (we started trying in august) however… I took a HCG strip test on Saturday night, it looked like a negative result so I just left it (must be honest I got impatient and went downstairs) I came back up later on and a faint second line appeared which was pink… I panic anyway that it’s not true and that it’s an evaporation line. So I leave it, I did a test yesterday and the same happened, didn’t look like second line to start with, however checked later on and it’s a pink faint second line.

I’m due on my period this week so it might be mega early for the test to even detect anything but I’m just really worried. I had a miscarriage a couple of years back and I’m desperate to be a mum, so I find it difficult getting excited about any of this in case it isn’t a true result. Has anyone experienced evaporation lines? When I check online people say they’re faint with no colour but this definitely has pink in it.

The only thing I can do really is just wait and see if my period comes but just wanted to hear if anyone else has had that and if it can even detect it this early

Scottishskifun · 01/12/2021 03:54

From having a boy and multiple friends with girls the same age only difference so far was nappies but also potty training. He was quite a few months later despite showing the signs he wasn't ready and this seems common. Not dry overnight as this is hormonal related and tends to be later in boys.

Personality wise he's more of a whirlwind but I also know boys who are quiet so think it's just individual.
It's difficult to avoid the stereotypes especially in clothes but toy wise we have found it OK and he has a love of cars but also of his play kitchen and a doll.

TarasCrazyTiara · 01/12/2021 04:19

As babies are all pretty different (or similar) it’s pretty hard to say. Aside from nappy time it’s not until they’re toddlers that you start to notice big differences personality wise.

ToastCrumbsOnAPlate · 01/12/2021 04:33

The only difference I've found with the personalities of boys compared with girls is that girls throw a more impressive tantrum! Probably just my experience thoughSmile

In general , just make sure you cover his nappy area quickly when changing. You will get peed on if you don't!

Congratulations op.

garlictwist · 01/12/2021 04:42

How is this stuff helpful in this day and age "boys are more loving"?! Haven't we got passed all this gender nonsense. I think your child will be them, warts and all, whatever their sex and will have their own qualities and flaws like every other human.

4amstarts · 01/12/2021 04:54

I've got boy girl twins and an older girl so seeing the whole nature vs nurture and gender stereotypes from a unique vantage point

Boy twin is definitely more whingey and whiney
Boy twin is very physical - likes to bash things, fiddle with things, generally get in places he shouldn't 😂
Boy twin needs wearing out - we joke it's like having a dog we have to walk 3 times a day so he'll go to sleep
Boy twin is a dustbin at meal times and shovels it in
Boy twin much stronger - girl twin will gently pat your face, stroke the cat etc. boy twin goes for a nose grab and wrestling hold of small animals 😂
Boy twin was first to say "mama" 💙 - the girls are all about daddy and definitely seeks me out for attention like a little shadow

TarasCrazyTiara · 01/12/2021 05:26

@garlictwist

“Haven’t we got past all this gender nonsense”, I’m no and we won’t because it exists.
Any mother being honest with herself who has raised both girls and boys (and seen other young ones grow) can tell your their is a difference which happens quite naturally very young.

AllSinging · 01/12/2021 09:45

@TarasCrazyTiara

Exactly!

4amstarts · 01/12/2021 10:01

Also agree! I'm uniquely qualified to agree too since I raising boy/girl twins 😂

MrsCtobe91 · 01/12/2021 10:18

I had 4 girls then my boy and well it was so strange dealing with a boy. There isn't much difference between them except my son keeps his room clean even at his age (6) he has seemed more loving compared to the girls but he doesn't like to listen to anything i say, it's almost like his ears are plastic 😂. I have found my girls easier to raise compared to my son. But that is about as different as it has gotten apart from the obvious. Xx

Donebeingitchy · 01/12/2021 10:21

What is the nappy thing people keep referring to (someone with 1dd and no ds) Hmm

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