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His mum hates the name I chose

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Tokyo21 · 28/11/2021 11:43

I’m having my first baby soon ish and have been so stuck on names for my son. I found so many that I like but don’t love if you know what I mean.
Until last week I was scrolling through a list and saw Mars. I felt like this one was the one. Maybe just as a middle name tho bcos I did want something longer as a first name but at the moment it’s all I’ve got.
I told my sons dad and he said he really liked it and even started referring to the baby as Mars. He asked me stuff like, ‘has Mars been kicking?’
Yesterday evening he went his mums house. I spoke to him after he left his mums and he said she hates the name Mars. He told me she said I should ‘come better’ that it’s ‘cruel’ because he will get picked on at school and other kids will call him Mars bar. My sons dad told me he agrees with her and wants me to keep looking at names.
This did make me sad. Because I never want to chose a name that would attract negative attention on my son but it also never crossed my mind that Mars was a name that would do that. I’m aware the name is a little out there but when I hear and see it I don’t automatically think chocolate! Mars is the planet of action and means God of War.
I feel like kids will be kids and can find a reason to pick on anything, it’s unavoidable, and I want to reach my son to have high self esteem and not be phased by it if this was to happen, or has she got a point am I being cruel to call him Mars?

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stayignorant · 28/11/2021 17:34

What other names do you have in mind? X

dopenguinsdance · 28/11/2021 17:50

What about a name with the same stem meaning? Miles or Milo for example?

ScabbyHorse · 28/11/2021 19:51

I like it but think it should be a middle name and then if he likes it he can use it as a first name.

Kitkat151 · 28/11/2021 19:57

I’m with your MIL on this one....it’s not a good name

TenPenceMix · 28/11/2021 19:58

It's awful. Might be the hormones playing havoc

SleepWhenAmDead · 28/11/2021 20:07

I have a fairly unusual name. People do comment/tease about it.

When I was very small, all my friends used to get the items with their names on like stickers, purses etc and I never, ever could because they never had my name.

As a child and as an adult, when I have to tell people my name, they will quite often act like they didn't hear properly and assume I have a rhyming more normal name or ask me to repeat. So I predict, he will spend lots of time saying "I'm not Mark, I'm Mars" (or similar).

DillDanding · 28/11/2021 20:08

Mars? I'm not surprised tbh.

drpet49 · 28/11/2021 20:09

Mars? Is this some kind of a joke? What an awful, awful name.

HopefulRose · 29/11/2021 00:07

@Tokyo21 you like the name, your partner likes the name, I also like the name .. but that’s beside the point because me and every other person apart from you two including his mum are irrelevant in this situation.

Stick to your guns if you like it and if I were you, I’d refrain from discussing names with any family members until baby arrives. Everyone has an opinion before your little one gets here and they will be more than happy to share. But once he is safely here and named by you both, they won’t say a word. Trust me!

Tokyo21 · 29/11/2021 00:14

@HopefulRose thankyou! I will keep that in mind for sure. I feel like my closest family will love whatever I name him, when it comes to his mum tho, it was never my idea to tell her the name I didn’t know he was going to tbh!

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