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His mum hates the name I chose

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Tokyo21 · 28/11/2021 11:43

I’m having my first baby soon ish and have been so stuck on names for my son. I found so many that I like but don’t love if you know what I mean.
Until last week I was scrolling through a list and saw Mars. I felt like this one was the one. Maybe just as a middle name tho bcos I did want something longer as a first name but at the moment it’s all I’ve got.
I told my sons dad and he said he really liked it and even started referring to the baby as Mars. He asked me stuff like, ‘has Mars been kicking?’
Yesterday evening he went his mums house. I spoke to him after he left his mums and he said she hates the name Mars. He told me she said I should ‘come better’ that it’s ‘cruel’ because he will get picked on at school and other kids will call him Mars bar. My sons dad told me he agrees with her and wants me to keep looking at names.
This did make me sad. Because I never want to chose a name that would attract negative attention on my son but it also never crossed my mind that Mars was a name that would do that. I’m aware the name is a little out there but when I hear and see it I don’t automatically think chocolate! Mars is the planet of action and means God of War.
I feel like kids will be kids and can find a reason to pick on anything, it’s unavoidable, and I want to reach my son to have high self esteem and not be phased by it if this was to happen, or has she got a point am I being cruel to call him Mars?

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DickyT · 28/11/2021 12:47

Oh as a middle name its fine!!

DickyT · 28/11/2021 12:48

What about Miles? Also, his mother has no say!

Scirocco · 28/11/2021 12:48

I've heard weirder middle names tbh. I don't think it would be a great choice for a first name, but a somewhat "out there" middle name isn't that uncommon.

If you love it, keep it under consideration for middle name options and reassure people that it's not going to be his first name.

WallaceinAnderland · 28/11/2021 12:51

Mark or Marcus and call him Mars as a nickname

ILoveYou3000 · 28/11/2021 12:52

What about Marshall or Marcus with the nn Mars?

Not one I'd go for personally but if you really love the name this could be an option.

DeadoftheMoon · 28/11/2021 12:56

Mars isn't so bad. But don't call his little sister Snickers.

Allsorts1 · 28/11/2021 12:59

I love it and I’m pretty sure the PLANET Mars has come before and will be around much longer than a chocolate bar. Also, if he is brunette maybe Mars Bar will be a term of endearment and a cool nickname - not everything has to be bullying and kids will get bullied if they will be bullied, it’s not name dependent. Kids at school briefly rhymed my name with “washing machine” but it hardly scarred me for life Grin

BourbonScreams · 28/11/2021 13:01

I actually really like Mars. But I do think there's a fairly high chance he'll get teased for it. Kids can be really mean sometimes.

PegasusReturns · 28/11/2021 13:01

He will definitely be called Mars Bar. Or possibly snickers. Without a doubt.

stingofthebutterfly · 28/11/2021 13:02

It never crossed your mind that calling your child Mars might make him a target for bullies? Are you for real?!

Give the poor kid a normal name.

SleepingStandingUp · 28/11/2021 13:04

I've picked unusual names op so I'm normally on team "if you like it...." but no, don't name him after a chocolate bar. Kids in primary school will eventually learn planet names and may even learn about the God of War but he'll just be a chocolate bar.

Moonshine160 · 28/11/2021 13:07

Middle names rarely get used so I think it would be ok as a middle name, but I do agree that it would be a little cruel for his first name to be Mars.

KatherineJaneway · 28/11/2021 13:08

He'll be asked how he can help them work, rest and play

Nanny0gg · 28/11/2021 13:09

Is the baby's father your partner? (You say 'my' baby) and is he having any input into the name?

It's still none of his mother's business though

Wildrobin · 28/11/2021 13:12

I don’t think it matters what you use as a middle name so it’s fine for that but your MIL is right if for a first name

NovemberNovemberDarkNights · 28/11/2021 13:13

I’m aware the name is a little out there

🤣🤣

Much like the planet!

I wouldn't choose it, but it's YOUR baby, not mine! & it's far from the worst name you could choose.

However, Mummy's Boy would be my bigger issue. He liked it well enough before his mummy got involved! Where is his loyalty to YOU? Does he think Mummy is going to be allowed to make all the decisions regarding your baby?

nothingcanhurtmewithmyeyesshut · 28/11/2021 13:17

You're naming your child after a planet? Or a chocolate bar? You might as well call him Snickers because that's what he's going to get when he starts school.

I'm sorry, OP but it's cruel to give kids weird names. They have to apply for a job with that name, come on!

AnonymousXXIX · 28/11/2021 13:24

Don't think my opinion should matter, but I love it! It has great historical significance yet it's easy to spell and pronounce.

Sometimes names have to grow on people. And anyway they have no right to be so rude about it.

M0rT · 28/11/2021 13:30

I think you should explain to your babies Dad that his mother's opinions are irrelevant to you so you don't want to hear any more of them. The next time he says "Mum says" start calling him Mummy's little soldier for the rest of the day. He obviously didn't dislike the name until she did, so you need to nip that type of thing in the bud now.
Best of luck with your labour and new baby 🍀

CendrillonSings · 28/11/2021 13:34

For gawd’s sake, keep the embarrassing name as a middle name if you have to. Otherwise it’s going to be a lifetime of “What should I call you?” “Morse. Just Morse”.

Tsubasa1 · 28/11/2021 13:35

Only as a midfle name imo.

Tsubasa1 · 28/11/2021 13:35

Middle*

BiBabbles · 28/11/2021 13:37

When reading, I thought Mars would be a good nickname for Marcel or Marcus.

It can also work as a middle name-nickname, but I can see why some might think it's not something they'd want their child to go through school with.

Tokyo21 · 28/11/2021 13:40

@DeadoftheMoon

Mars isn't so bad. But don't call his little sister Snickers.
This made me laugh so much 😂
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Branleuse · 28/11/2021 13:41

@ButEmilylovedhim

What about Lars instead?
I thought that too.