His mum hates the name I chose

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I’m having my first baby soon ish and have been so stuck on names for my son. I found so many that I like but don’t love if you know what I mean.
Until last week I was scrolling through a list and saw Mars. I felt like this one was the one. Maybe just as a middle name tho bcos I did want something longer as a first name but at the moment it’s all I’ve got.
I told my sons dad and he said he really liked it and even started referring to the baby as Mars. He asked me stuff like, ‘has Mars been kicking?’
Yesterday evening he went his mums house. I spoke to him after he left his mums and he said she hates the name Mars. He told me she said I should ‘come better’ that it’s ‘cruel’ because he will get picked on at school and other kids will call him Mars bar. My sons dad told me he agrees with her and wants me to keep looking at names.
This did make me sad. Because I never want to chose a name that would attract negative attention on my son but it also never crossed my mind that Mars was a name that would do that. I’m aware the name is a little out there but when I hear and see it I don’t automatically think chocolate! Mars is the planet of action and means God of War.
I feel like kids will be kids and can find a reason to pick on anything, it’s unavoidable, and I want to reach my son to have high self esteem and not be phased by it if this was to happen, or has she got a point am I being cruel to call him Mars?

I’m not a fan. But I think as a middle name it’s fine as most people don’t use their middle names. As a first name no chance as the kid would definitely get bullied sorry.

I didn’t think of the chocolate bar.

In my experience, kids who are going to get teased get teased, regardless of name, appearance, whatever. Kids who aren’t going to get teased don’t, regardless of name, appearance, whatever.

I quite like Mars. And Lars. And I agree: don’t share your choice of name outside of the two of you. People will kick off about names in a way they won’t when it’s attached to an actual person. (Obviously there are exceptions.)

I'm not keen. Whilst you might like it just as it sounds, i think the god/chocolate associations are inescapable.

Conversely I've always liked Ares (Greek god equivalent) but it's something I'd name a goldfish, not a person.

Please don’t call your child Mars.

If it was my kid I totally would give them the nickname Mars bar 🤣

Sounds to me like your son's dad doesn't like the name and has chickened out of telling you by telling his mum so she can do the dirty work and he can just agree.

I do agree with her, but I also think it's not her place to comment.

Mars bar. Sorry. Would be doubly worse if he gets overweight

I clicked on this thread to say it doesn't matter what your husbands mum thinks it's none of her business. Then I saw the name. You can't do this to a kid. Mars bar, really?! This has got to be a wind up

Not keen at all- it made me think of war first and then chocolate. Probably ok as a middle name on the basis that no one ever knows your middle name so you could call a kid Mars or Ares or Snickers or Twix without it really being an issue, but why would you?

I’m sorry but I’m with your MIL on this. Sure, kids can be picked on whatever name they have, but choosing a name like this is just setting your child up for it. Have it as a middle name if you absolutely must, but it’s a terrible choice for a first name.

I'm with MIL, sorry.

It's a big old name to live up to. God, planet, one of the best known brands on this planet...

I was a shy child and would have hated the attention gifted to me by my parents with dreadful taste.

@Bluntness100 that’s a fair point about the potential for people to be seriously mean if the kid has weight issues. I think that’s the one thing that might put me off here.

As a middle name I think it’s reasonably safe though…

I know a few people who have names which you’d think could easily lead to a disasterous association but it just never did.

How about Miles?

I think of Mars the god when I hear the name.
I don’t love it but it’s a strong name

If you love it go for it…. My mother in law hates the we have picked (it’s a lovely girls name that is popular in Ireland —she not Irish and favours old fashioned Eastern European names— )

If I was able to get drunk right now I’d probably have sent her this on what’s app
awwmemes.com/i/behold-the-pield-in-which-grow-my-fvcks-lay-thine-64435beb9ffa4df9a090f7c3ff48ffed

I like it. A lot nicer than some of the names we consider normal. My MIL likes what we recently called our daughter, but she admitted after we named her she hated our backup name, which has pissed me off because we would likely use this if we have another daughter. I wish people just wouldn’t comment

It’s definitely fine as a middle name

sorry, chocolate bar here too.

I don’t like it but it is your baby and you can please yourself. My mother kicked up holy hell over my dd’s name

but it also never crossed my mind that Mars was a name that would do that.

Come on op, really? He's going to get crucified at school for that. Back to the drawing board please

Unfair on the child my nephew has a ridiculous name and I cringed when I heard it kids can be cruel and you got to consider when they start applying for jobs.

My first thought was the god not the chocolate bar until you said. I think as a middle name it’s great. I personally like to add a little flamboyance when it comes to middle names. Makes their name more unique but they don’t need to use it on a day to day bases if they don’t want to.
I’m not sure I’d go with it for a first name but to be honest it’s definitely not the worst name I’ve heard by far and at the end of the day it’s your child not hers!

I must admit I thought of the planet first. If you wanted something longer maybe Martian? 🤣 Martin or Martinus perhaps with Mars for short.

Wouldn't be my choice for a name but then it won't be my baby which is sort of the approach your MIL needs to be encouraged to take.

Tempting to go for ever more outrageous names then end up calling him something mainstream!

What about Aries or Ares instead? Means the same thing? Actually, not Ares - he would get called Arse.

Don’t do it! Mars bar