Rainbow Update

[MrsMGE]

Hi All,

It took me some time to post this, but I feel I need to say a big thank you to a number of ladies who have supported me in my journey to motherhood.

I was active on a number of chats on here back in 2019, particularly on the miscarriage board. I met some amazing people who have pulled me back up when I was at my lowest following the loss of my first baby. I went on to have another two miscarriages, then went through my local rainbow recurrent miscarriage clinic, had all sorts of tests and no answers. It was the hardest thing I've ever been through.

The amazing ladies who helped me went on to have their rainbow babies and I was still waiting for mine. Then I took a break, from TTC and in general, from stuff.

And now I could not be happier to say that I am writing this cuddling my two month old son. My heart is full and my arms are full. The wait is over. He is absolutely perfect.

In the most annoying of ways, it just happened. The phrase every woman suffering after baby loss hates so much - I know it all too well. My fourth pregnancy happened unexpectedly and progressed fine, with some complications, nothing out of ordinary.

I am writing this because I need to thank those of you who stood by me and lifted me up, cheered on me, read my posts when I was pouring my broken heart out and there weren't many people IRL who listened, and even less of them who truly understood. I will never forget what you've done for me. I don't know if you'll ever read this or if you're still active on this website, but I hope one day this message of thanks will reach you. I hope you and your little ones are doing well.

Sending lots and lots of love to @SunStruck @Catconfusion @Avocuddles @Kiki061190 and ladies from our threads at the time.

And to those of you still waiting, if anyone reads this - don't give up. It's so, so hard and it can feel like this journey has no end. But you are not alone and this amazing community will carry you through all the way till you find your peace, whatever this may take.

Love,
Mrs MGE & baby MGE xxx

Hi @MrsMGE! This is the first notification I’ve had on here for a long time.

I love this post so much. So delighted for you and glad you are keeping well. How amazing to hear your story!

I actually have just had a positive test today, 4 weeks! Here’s hoping all goes well ❤️ it’s funny how these things happen when least expected!

Wow, no way @Kiki061190! What a coincidence that I posted this today and got to share your lovely news! So happy for you! How is your little one doing? And did you end up getting married despite all the difficulties of the pandemic? So pleased for you, lovely news! xxx

Yes @MrsMGE we ended up getting married and we had a fabulous day! Little lady is doing fabulous she is truly in the toddler phase and quite a handful 😂😂😂

I’m so glad how things have turned out for you 🥰 how are you finding motherhood?

Brilliant @Kiki061190 ❤

I love being a mum. It's difficult, as I'm sure you know full well yourself, but I've wanted this for so long that I'm just absorbing it, every moment. My little boy is a very happy baby, he has his moments, but he's very good in general. We're lucky that he sleeps well at night and is bright and alert during the day. Also lucky to be able to breastfeed him, I love it (but didn't expect it to be rather difficult to begin with!).

How are you feeling now about the new pregnancy? xxx

Awww, what a lovely post! Congratulations

@MrsMGE oh Breastfeeding is definitely hard but it does get better if you stick with it. Amazing you have such a happy boy and you are enjoying every moment. It’s definitely hard and everything stage has its challenges but it’s all part of parenthood 🥰

I’m excited but cautiously optimistic about it. I know my chances are great after suffering a loss before but you know how hard pregnancy can be in these early stages. One day at a time!

@MrsMGE I’m so pleased to read this post. In fact it’s made my day. Just so happy you’ve had your beautiful son after all you went through. It must have been an absolutely gruelling time for you. They are such a blessing when they come, especially after a difficult journey. It must have been so frustrating to not get any answers but now you get to soak in your gorgeous boy. He sounds like such a dreamboat.

All is well with me. Our son is now coming up to 18 months and is an absolute joy. I went on to have another 3 early losses from January this year but in July one stuck and I’m 14 weeks pregnant today. Being 41 it likely was age related but I had just turned 42 when this one decided to stay so part of me wonders if it was just my body wasn’t ready.

Anyway please keep in touch. Would love to hear more about how you’re getting on. Xx

I don’t know your story but just wanted to say congratulations! What a lovely post to read! I’m currently cuddling my 3 month old rainbow baby too 💙

@MrsMGE
Congratulations on your rainbow.
I have had 4 miscarriages and 1 cp myself ttc num one did you get progesterone or anything different in the successful pregnancy 💚

Such a lovely post! Congratulations and it is lovely to read that those posts make a real difference to people. I hope you and the baby continue to thrive, x

Exactly @Kiki061190, one day at a time and today you're pregnant were my two mantras in my last pregnancy too. I am keeping everything crossed for you and it would be lovely to hear updates from you ❤

@Catconfusion Hello! So happy to hear from you! Delighted to hear your little boy is doing well and what fabulous news on your new pregnancy too! You're all making me feel like trying for another one soon and looking at my boy is definitely making me want another one!

I'm so sorry to hear you went through more losses too. It's so hard. I hope everything goes well for you in this pregnancy ❤ It really is such a mystery how these things work sometimes and there's no logic in it, it seems. I know how much you hoped for 2 DCs and may this dream come true for you now. Hope your lovely hubby is well too and that you'll feel well in this pregnancy- was it hip pain/arthritis that you've struggled with before?

Please keep me updated ❤ xxx

Congratulations OP! We are strangers here on mn, but your story struck a chord here, after a difficult and complex journey of my own in becoming a mum.
Enjoy your little one, and all the other women out there, please keep hope.
To the poster who asked- not giving up, a referral to the recurrent miscarriage clinic, tests there, weekly scans, low dose aspirin, progesterone, very high vitamin D supplements, fetal medicine specialists, and being induced at 40 weeks on the dot helped my baby arrive safe and well.
💐 to all who need them

@DramaAlpaca @gluenotsoup @AutumnVibes @LouLikesLollies Thank you all That's very kind of you. I don't know how I would have got to where I am now without my MN village. I had progesterone in my third pregnancy which also ended in MC. I had it again in my last pregnancy, as well as 75g baby aspirin daily until I was 36 weeks pregnant. Neither was recommended by my consultant for a particular reason because there's nothing wrong with me according to the tests. So it was on a "it can't do harm" basis. I can't tell you if this is what's made a difference or whether my fourth pregnancy would have succeeded anyway. However, do speak to your consultant (I assume with your history you are now a patient of a rainbow recurrent miscarriage clinic?) and if they approve this, go ahead. Very best of luck to you, it's a challenging journey, but definitely worth the pain and sacrifice we sometimes sadly have to endure. xxx

@Babyghirl So sorry to hear about your losses.

Sorry @Babyghirl I somehow put the opening sentence to my second para right at the end and the whole post now makes no sense! I've responded to you regarding what treatment I had above - sorry, the tag should have been much earlier on in the post xxx

This is such a Beautiful post and I am so pleased that things worked out for you. It's so heartwarming to read you thanking those that helped whilst at the same time giving so much hope to others. Thank you and all the best with motherhood 🧡

Oh my GOD I am so happy to hear this!!!!! Felt so sad when you left Mumsnet but I obviously understood why! So so happy for you and your hubby ❤️ baby sounds like a dream! What is his name (if you don't mind?).

Leo is turning 1 today(!) what a coincidence I just saw this post too! Big celebrations later 😄 6 am now and thank GOD for some new toys he can play with to keep him occupied haha!

I will read all the posts later and reply more as he is walking everywhere at the moment, and climbing the cat tree is one of the favorite pastimes

Hey @MrsMGE thank you so much. I’m 15 weeks now and we just had our final scan with EPAU. Baby is looking great so we’re starting to get a little more excited. It’s so hard after loss. We’ve booked a gender scan which is something I didn’t think I’d do but I’m so desperate to bond a bit more with the baby. I’m still protecting myself a little bit just in case. You’re right, these things are such a mystery. Some people, even later in life don’t have any issues and others struggle.

My husband is great thanks. A little ragged from doing all the housework while I’ve been in the sicky phase but he’s excited about the baby.

Yes it is arthritis in my hips. I’m so pleased I had an elective last time and hoping too again. We seem to make big babies so it’s probably for the best.

If you want another baby it could be completely different for you next time. I really hope it is. It’s not fair to go through so much. I’m so pleased you got there though with baby 1. Fingers crossed for next time! Xx

@SunStruck great to hear from you. Happy birthday to the lovely Leo. Are you still in the middle east? I’m so pleased you got there in the end. So that’s all of us I think from our original thread with babies. It’s such good news! Xx

Hello @Catconfusion, what wonderful news that all is well. I had a planned section too and would have it again, 100%. Not thinking about it just yet, of course! But my son is growing up so fast, it's scary. I wouldn't like to think I won't have a tiny baby at home ever again once he's a toddler, but I've also learnt not to plan pr expect these things, I'm sure we've all learnt the hard way, sadly. How are you feeling this time, do you have HG again?

@SunStruck Well, hello, hello! So happy to hear from you. Thank you for the lovely message and happy belated birthday to your son! I am so delayed with replying, we've had a busy week full of visitors and he's feeding so much too. I know what I'm doing a bit better now, but it doesn't make it any less tiring! Joining Catconfusion's question, are you still in the ME? How have you coped with covid restrictions? So lovely to hear from you! xxx

And thank you @Quadrilingual, that's very kind of you. Xxx

@MrsMGE @Catconfusion so good to hear from you both! Omg you're pregnant again @Catconfusion, congratulations 🥰 all well so far? How old is your baby now? We are going to try again in the new year! Fingers crossed it's gonna go well, at least I won't be as naive this time... and to be honest I feel more mentally prepped for it, especially since we already have one so there's not that much pressure!

@MrsMGE how old is your little boy now? I know bf is exhausting... I did it for 8 months, stopped when he went to nursery really! I was still pumping at work and saving when I went back at 6 months, such a hassle. And Leo was also eating loads!

Yes I am still in the Middle East, we have had much less restrictions here than you guys so it's not been that difficult! Obviously seeing family has been more difficult, but we did go back for Xmas last year (when Leo was 2 months) and now in the summer. Just had to go to Spain for 10 days before going UK. Paid loads for test to release early 🙄 but great to see family and friends. Luckily restrictions are now lifted when fully vaccinated so we have lots of people coming over to visit in the next few months, and we're going back again at Xmas 🥰

@Catconfusion will you find out sex this time too? ☺️ @MrsMGE how long will you be on Mat leave for? So happy for all of us, we got there in the end!

@SunStruck yes I’m 15 weeks now. I had a scan on Friday and everything is looking great. Beren is 18 months now so he’ll be turning 2 just after the baby comes.

Yes I definitely think it’s less pressured the next time. There’s a good chance it’ll be easier next time. Unfortunately for us we had three very early losses. It was tough but I think having been through it before helped.

I’m glad you’ve managed to see your family and friends despite the restrictions. It must have been such a difficult time to live away.

We have a gender scan in a couple of weeks. I’ve struggled to bond with the baby this time. I think it’s being older. I’m 42 and will be 43 when the baby comes so it’s a bit more scary to think what can go wrong. Hopefully knowing the sec will help. Xx

@MrsMGE yes I think an elective is such a good way to do it. We’re hoping for it again unless we get an early surprise.

I guess just take it one day at a time when you try again. It might be much easier next time.

Yes I had hg again and it was even worse than with my son. It started at 5 weeks snd I’m only just feeling better. The last few months are a blur. Hopefully I can start enjoying it a bit more now. Xx

Huge congratulations. I wasn't around for your story originally but I am so happy you got the ending you deserved to such a sad story

Just a little update from me. We’re having a little girl this time. We’re getting excited now. Everything looked great on the scan. Feeling very grateful to be having our second healthy baby in our 40s. The losses have been hard going but we got there in the end. Xx