Is 48 too old to get pregnant naturally?

[FatyCat]

Hi all I am 48 years old and have been trying to get pregnant for the last 5 years. I have had 2 miscarriages. I am regular and ovulating. My hubby is 50 years and we have 2 girls 18 and 16. Is it too late for me? My hubby does not want to get checked as he thinks we are too old but deep down I know he would love another child but does not want to go down the ivf route.The GP has checked my bloods and says I have not reached menopause yet but my AML levels are high for my age (got checked privately). He said if my hubby's count is low nothing much can be done.

I would consider if it's best for the child - he/she will have a much older mother's than most of their friends, less energy and motivation (inevitably) and you will be mid 60s when they're 18. I personally wouldn't do it- it's too big a difference in age imo. My grandparents were 50 year age gap to me and they felt very old in attitude and outlook on life compared to my parents

Your odds are very low and it hasn’t happened for 5yrs so think realistically that ship has sailed. Also, I am not sure if you’ve considered how much harder and more dangerous it is to be pregnant and go through childbirth at 48+?

Finally you stated
“My hubby does not want to get checked as he thinks we are too old but deep down I know he would love another child ”

This worries me as it seems you are engaging in a bit of wishful thinking and mind reading. Most people who say they think “we are too old” for a baby actually do think that. They are not usually lying about it with “deep down” feelings that they’d actually “love another child”.

I think you need to take your DHs words to you at face value because in my opinion, if one partner has said they don’t want another baby, the other partner should respect that.