anyone found out the sex of baby and kept it a secret

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im going to hopefully find out on monday the sex of our baby but we was going to keep it a secret. sis in law says "you cant do that to us is teasing". anyone done this

yes i did 3 times!

im not sure if to keep it a secret till babys born or tell everyone on christmas day

I did, and so did my SIL. Maybe it would be better to pretend you haven't found out.

why would you do this? Surely the only people who are bothered enough to make it worthwhile keeping it a secret from are the parents? Never understood why people do this, just wondering. Not beinbg rude

im thinking if we find out its a boy dp will tell people anyway even if i say let keep it a secret

If you don't want to be pestered, just say you decided not to find out - had a mate who did this, & none of us clocked that she'd found out (despite the fact that she painted her nursery blue

i kept it a secret each time as dh didnt want to know

sorry cloud... what dont u understand

funny....

Yep. I did it with BabyDragon. Everyone knew I knew too

i think the best idea is to say they couldnt tell the sex as the baby had legs curled up, then weve got till christmas to decide if we want to tell people

Am thinking of doing this! I really want to know but MIL was horrible when I say I'm going to find out and said "Oh, you're one of those"

Lots of women do this. You just tell people that you didn't ask otherwise peolpe will keep going on and on trying to get you to tell them.

Finding out the sex is one of those subjects that is divisive.

I personally liked the surprise myself and some health boards still won't actually tell you incase they are sued for getting it wrong or women then seek abortion (can happen).

As I said, just tell SIL you don't know and then decide whether to keep it a secret or not.

Ooooh, ll but how do you know it's not a girl and she's "slipping up" saying "he" to confuse you, LL?

we made a very last minute decision to find out the sex at our 4d scan, she was about to turn the machine off and said " if youwant to k ow then nows ur last chance". Despite having agreed we wouldn't find out we decided to... I had really been dying to know for so long- have always been bad at peeking at Xmas pressie too!! We found out but told everyone that we didnt know and didnt want to- it was our , very big, secret and was lovely to keep it to ourselves. We made plans anddreams for our DD... And I returned all thebeige stuff and swapped itfor pink! I think DH found it hard to refer to baby as it or baby as opposed to she!

I don't see why you would find out the sex, tell people you know and then refuse to tell them what it is??? I think you should say you didn't ask or they couldn't tell otherwise people will just badger you. Why do you want to keep it a secret anyway?

I have one experience of this, I was doing a relief teaching day a while back and shared a room with another teacher who had a family photo so to be polite i said "oh you have 2 kids" and he said the third was coming soon. Because I had nothing to discuss with him I asked if he knew the sex and he said "yes". I looked at him expecting him to continue and another teacher said "they're keeping it a secret" so I wondered very politely why and he said "we think it's personal and not anyone elses buisness". THere was a very awkward moment for all involved! I still wonder why you'd find out if you had no intention of sharing the news - not being rude, genuine interest!

if you can keep the secret, then fair dos just do it!
we found out and have told everyone. our prob is keeping name secret. she's be caled E*** since we found out she was a girl but havent told anyone. family are gagging to know and know we've decided and we keep almost slipping up! SIL is convinced we cant make the last three months

Yes, with DS2. My mum guessed before he was born though (because I bought something that was very obviously a boy outfit, not a "neutral" one).

yep. we found out this time last year at the 20 week scan and kept it quiet. we felt that so much of pregnancy and having a baby is shared with others - that this was our special secret.
i am so glad i did that - findign out the sex made it seem more real for me.

you do whatever you want to after the scan. do not be pressurized into saying as once word is out there - you cant take it back.

good luck for monday. enjoy

I think lots of people do this. Just tell other people you didn't find out then they can't keep pestering you. You just have to be careful about refering to the baby as he or she.

Dh knows the sex of ours but I don't. He keeps alternating between calling it he or she so I never notice on the occasions he might slip up. And no-one else other than dh gets to know the sex until I do no matter how much they ask

I have found out sex both times and told people - I know I would let it slip if I didnt..In my opionion if myself and DH know whats the big deal other people knowing - its still a big surprise seeing your new born for the first time even if you know the sex!!!

So why don't you tell people if you know? You like having a secret?
Agree Turtle, seeing a real baby makes the sex irrelevant anyway!

My sister's dh called me the day she gave birth to tell me i had a nephew, yeah congrats- when were you preggers-she was living in sweden then- i felt she was just a selfish cow for not telling us she was pregnant. Nine whole months and not a word!
So what did she get out of the secrecy nothing!
Sorry for the rant!!!