anyone found out the sex of baby and kept it a secret

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im going to hopefully find out on monday the sex of our baby but we was going to keep it a secret. sis in law says "you cant do that to us is teasing". anyone done this

I think think of many duller things than a new baby being born.

I saw the thread title and I was just about to post ggglimpopo knows and she won't tell me, miserable fat cow.

I see she beat me to it.

Would K be up for a few weeks of minding DS in the summer bearing in mind our proximity to the town of G. ???

I think it's entirely up to you whether you find out and decide not to tell anyone but please please don't do what one of my closest friends did as I found it incredibly irritating..... We were both pregnant at the same time, I was a few weeks ahead and didn't find out the sex. She asked me if i'd found out the sex then told me she definitely wanted to know the sex of her baby, and would definitely find out - fair enough. Then after her scan she told me that she hadn't found out. I knew she had, given what she had previously told me but she swore blind she hadn't (although after the baby was born she told me that yes, indeed she had).

Anyway, what irritated me was the way she so blatently lied to me. We are great friends and I would have respected her decision either way and to be honest I didn't really care that much anyway, any baby is a blessing! But I found the fact she lied to me v iritating (it was weird, she kept on going on about it!), why didn't she just say yes she'd found out but she and DH wanted to keep it to themselves? Or better yet not mention it at all!!

I agree with jackaroo. WHen you ask someone if they know the gender you're trying to share their joy and excitement, when they say they know but wont tell you it feels like some weird control thing and you feel like they don't want you to share the fun. As Jackaroo said, noone cares if it's a boy or girl (that doesn't sound right but you know what i mean). I don't mind if you have a sense of humour about it like the person with 4 boys who wanted to keep people guessing, that's a laugh and doesn't sound like you're excluding people. I guess it's all in the delivery of how you tell people it's a secret. I guess it also depends on your friends and family. I couldn't imagine my baby feeling like other peoples property and I couldn't imagine any mean comments like "it's a shame he's a boy". AS for everyone already knowing all the details taking away the fun, for my personal experience it doubled the fun discussing him while pregnant and talking about possible names and I don't think any one could argue that the moment of entry was a let down (not for us the parents anyway, didn't really think about if others were let down!)

Yes - K or A would both be delighted to do so...

lispy, that's exactly why I'm going to find out and tell this time. I had 2 dss, and I had found out, but not told anyone, so when ds3 was born, I was inundated with comments like what a shame, don't you mind, oh well, you can always have another, don't you wish you'd had a girl etc etc.

That's why this time I will find out and I will tell everybody, so they can get their crap thoughtless insulting comments over and done with, and just spoil my pg and not the arrival itself.

Will also know the dob in advance, but we'll at least keep the name till after. If other people don't apporve, tough shit. Feeling bolshy today

After DDs 1&2 were born everyone was asking if we wanted a boy next-grrr. Like Ernest I felt forearmed is forewarned re moron's kind relative's crass comments. Third time around DH was away when I had the dating scan where they could tell me the gender; the nurse wrote on a piece of paper 'congratulations its a boy' and sealed it in an envelope with a question mark. We then kept the envelope for months before we opened it, can't remember if we told anyone though!

yes ernest - being the mother of four boys i get those comments all the time it is so so so hurtful and downright rude tbh

I did this with my second child. I lasted about 9 weeks before I slipped up with my SIL and said "he" Kind of gave the game away Had to tell everyone else after that!

I can empathise.

now, added to the crap gender comments, there's general shock at the sheer number of children I'm daring to churn out (this is 4th) so all the inappropriate, are you mad/was it planned/you have to feed and clothe them, you know comments as well grrr

yes ernest i have more than you - the silly comments astound me!

so paula, are you hoping for a girl this time

When my friend told me she was having a baby girl, it took the excitement out of the actual birth announcement. Personally I don't like knowing.

I agree. I never want to know what someone else is having a baby.

We have done this this time (am now 30 weeks). We've just told everyone we didn't ask if it was a boy or girl. We actually didn't find out last 2 times so it seems normal to everyone when we say we didn't find out this time. Also although I do sometimes refer to baby as he I just say that to me babys are he's as we have 2 already!! It's quite funny when people say I'm a different shape this time so must be a girl!!

the only thing I've noticed that drives me a bit mad is that as soon as you tell people which flavour you're having (and they give their opinion on whether you should/shouldn't have found out, whether they did/didn't/would/wouldn't...)

then the next question is ALWAYS 'names????' 'what are you calling him????'

this is the only bit we are refusing to tell, and only cos we discovered that people's opinions on the names we had chosen for our LO got a bit wearing. We had a lot of 'Oh no, I knew one of those when I was 12 and I didn't like him!!' etc etc...

We decided that they can be introduced to the baby by name once he's born, will be harder to be negative then surely (have told my family tho, my mum can get anything out of me! )

In the meantime my dp tells people the lo will either be Mongo or Norbert- tends to shut them up!

apologies to any Mongos or Norberts out there

Haha I was supposed to keep the sex a secret from my gran but after speaking to her for a grand total of about 3 minutes I let the word "he" slip.
It's too hard!

After having 3 girls dh told me he didn't want to know, if I was told during the scan (he didn't attend), the sex of the 4th if it was another girl.

So I failed to mentioned anything after the scan.

Surely my lack of information would have been a slight hint?

yep i am doing it at the mo, this is baby no 4 and dp and i found out the sex at the scan but havnet told anyone, well except for those on the same preg thread in mumsnet and bmc

we havent even told our boys, and people do keep asking etc, but we havnet told, i am now 27wks and tbh i have been suprised how easy it is to keep it a secret

plus dp and i are really enjoying having it as our little secret

meant to say, we didnt find out the sex for the first three, but this time i felt i wanted to know, this may be my last pregnancy and i thought it would be nice to know.

also i have been fairly upfront and said that we do know the sex but we are keeping it a secret, some people are and a bit pissed off at this, but tbh i dont care, its my baby and its what we want to do

OMG hatrick, congratulations!!! If it is another girl, you'll have to change your name, won't you?