Do you think “oh they’ve had sex…”?

[mummatosquish]

Is it normal to think that when someone announces their pregnancy- even when being extremely happy for the couple?

@DoorAjar
Or if they’ve had a poo, you don’t speculate about what earlier biological processes caused the eventual poo

I don’t think I’ve ever had an adult announcement to me that they’ve had a poo.

This thread strikes me as quite childish. Oh look at her. She's pregnant.
She must have had sex. Unremarkable really.

I don’t think I’ve ever had an adult announcement to me that they’ve had a poo

My husband always announces that he's going to have one. More of a warning than anything else.

Yes, I do think this sometimes!

I always find it weird to think that other people, like my friends, colleagues, family members, have sex! And that it's perfectly normal for this to happen.
I always sort of think the only people who can possibly have sex are me and the people I have done it with! 😂

I remember my friend being uncomfortable telling her dad that she was pregnant because then 'he would know I have had sex'!

Yes! I don’t think it’s that surprising given that sex is such a private topic for many people and how there is still a stigma about it. Of course sex is natural, and as you say happening in every couple but positive confirmation of that can be a bit odd initially, especially if a family member.

Mainly I think it about myself though like others said, especially having a miscarriage and getting pregnant almost immediately after. I often think that people are going to think gosh she got right back to it then.

@Carrotinthesky

This thread strikes me as quite childish. Oh look at her. She's pregnant. She must have had sex. Unremarkable really.

So mature of you to never have any fleeting thoughts. Nobody here said they were judging. It's literally just a thought, that's it

Not unless it was an under 16 year old, in which case I'd be horrified rather than offering congratulations!

I don't think that's a normal thing to think unless you are thinking about other peoples sexual habits on a daily basis

Yes lol

When I was 12 I might have!

@mummatosquish

Is it normal to think that when someone announces their pregnancy- even when being extremely happy for the couple?

”…even when being extremely happy for the couple?”

What are you actually asking us OP, and what does ‘even when being extremely happy for the couple’ have to do with it?!

Sometimes, yes. Lots of things pop into my head through.

No, why would anyone automatically think that when it is so obvious, it goes without saying.

I remember my mother telling me that in her day, and even more so in her mother's day, women were coy about being pregnant; didn't go out and about more than necessary because "..everyone would know what they'd done" :-).

We've moved on a bit since then.

No, I have genuinely never thought this 🤣

This is reminding me of a post I saw on Reddit.

A great, great grandmother at a family party suddenly started giggling and when her grandson asked what was funny she said:

"I just realised everyone in the room exists because I got laid"

Normally I would assume they're sexually active/trying anyway unless it's a surprise. It's more about wondering when they will announce.

One time I did learn someone I knew had a child though and it did cross my mind because they were literally the most nonsexual person you could ever imagine.

"I remember my mother telling me that in her day, and even more so in her mother's day, women were coy about being pregnant; didn't go out and about more than necessary because "..everyone would know what they'd done" :-)."

Yes, and if people guessed despite the big coats they'd whisper 'she's in the club' :)

@Maggiesfarm

No, why would anyone automatically think that when it is so obvious, it goes without saying.

I remember my mother telling me that in her day, and even more so in her mother's day, women were coy about being pregnant; didn't go out and about more than necessary because "..everyone would know what they'd done" :-).

We've moved on a bit since then.

I don't think about it in a judgy way. It's more of a thought that pops into my head, like 'oh, other people have sex too, that's weird' sort of thought. Irrational and silly, but that's private thoughts for you......

One time I did learn someone I knew had a child though and it did cross my mind because they were literally the most nonsexual person you could ever imagine.

I know of a woman who's asexual who only has sex to conceive. The trouble is, her DH isn't.

Someone asked me how many times a week I was having sex when I conceived!