Do you think “oh they’ve had sex…”?

[mummatosquish]

Is it normal to think that when someone announces their pregnancy- even when being extremely happy for the couple?

No...

Why are so many posters implying that following a logical train of thought implies that they are judging said adults for having sex

Is it that though? I don't think anyone is implying that those who think about the couple having had sex are judging. Just that a pregnancy announcement does not make some of us turn automatically to the thought that they've had sex. It certainly doesn't me. Obviously, some hidden part of one's psyche knows that they must have had sex to be pregnant - but for many, the hidden part doesn't leap forward when a good friend or even your very own child announces a pregnancy.

One is either overjoyed (for the most part) or in some cases not so much when it's neither convenient or welcome. It's part of being a couple, and part of life. It can happen or not happen.

I am not saying that people who immediately go to the thought of pregnant women having had sex are being judgemental. They are just thinking it through.

There are some of us, like me, who don't even need to go there.
It's a natural, normal occurrence, and we just don't think " OH, They had
Sex!

On hearing from DH's nan that we were expecting, his uncle's response was 'ooh, they've done the deed'. We'd been married over two years

These was that moment when my mum explained the facts of life that I realised she and dad had done it twice! Yuck.

Then I realised the queen had done it four times! Yuck and beyond!!!!

Sometimes. Obviously you assume a couple has sex, but it does cross my mind for a second.

@thistimelastweek

These was that moment when my mum explained the facts of life that I realised she and dad had done it twice! Yuck.

Then I realised the queen had done it four times! Yuck and beyond!!!!

You'd have thought they might have struck a comemerative coin for that, or it at least a tea towel.

No, I didn't think about their sex life. The same way I don't think, you are breathing

Very well said. That's it exactly.

'scuse spelin'

I assume couples have sex, it's the pretty standard bonus of being together?

Kinda, yes!
I've always calculated back to conception in my head. I think there were two babies from my wedding
I don't do this in a judgemental way, just a [OK immature] process in my head.

I had great fun back in the day winding up uni housemates working out if they were Christmas /birthday /anniversary babies. So silly, but makes me chuckle when I think back to one who was so freaked out! She's a wonderful mother herself now.

Honestly? Sometimes.

And if people say they're "trying" I just assume he's sticking it ineffectually everywhere and never landing it correctly whilst they both lie there bemused.

@MimsyBorogroves

It's one of those weird random things that would pop into my occasionally.

It's quite odd to think that. I try not to give my friends sex life any thought, but assume they all have it regularly

No, no more than seeing a couple makes me think they are shagging. Clearly they are but it doesn’t cross my mind to think about my friends or acquaintances shagging

Yes I do, and I don't know why, it's really odd.

No, but then again, when someone tells me they’ve had a meal, I don’t ask if they’re going to poo later.

@VodselForDinner

No, but then again, when someone tells me they’ve had a meal, I don’t ask if they’re going to poo later.

Well, yes. Or if they’ve had a poo, you don’t speculate about what earlier biological processes caused the eventual poo.

@Thack

Kinda, yes! I've always calculated back to conception in my head. I think there were two babies from my wedding I don't do this in a judgemental way, just a [OK immature] process in my head.

I had great fun back in the day winding up uni housemates working out if they were Christmas /birthday /anniversary babies. So silly, but makes me chuckle when I think back to one who was so freaked out! She's a wonderful mother herself now.

I do know that 2 couples have our homebrew babies! Both due dates 38 weeks after (separate) parties at which the respective couples drank DH's home brew. Shame it never worked for us though!

Lol, yes, every time! I also found it hugely cringey telling my parents I was pregnant and my dad congratulating me and my husband and shaking his hand.....we were 30 and married but still felt like I was admitting to my parents we'd had sex and like they were really pleased for us 🤣

Pmsl. No!

I cringed telling some people I was pregnant because it was basically saying I've been having unprotected sex lol. Weird I know!

No, it really doesn’t cross my mind. Nor would it cross my mind to be self-conscious telling someone about my pregnancy for this reason. If they know I have a partner I would think they also already know I am having sex.

I don’t get why this would be any grown adult’s reaction? Like — are you sort of thinking we all wish nobody knew we were doing it, so there is some kind of weird thrill of catching people out?

No, but when people say that they’re ‘trying’ all that means is they are telling you that they are having lots of unprotected sex

When my mate told me he was going to be a dad I thought it, but only because I didn't realise they were in a relationship but I knew he was in love with her.
When people in relationships told me, no. I assume as a default adults in relationships are having sex.