Do you think “oh they’ve had sex…”?

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Is it normal to think that when someone announces their pregnancy- even when being extremely happy for the couple?

We had IVF to have our first child. I’m now pregnant with our second. When we told my in laws FIL actually asked how that had happened.

Literally never thought this, and when I told people I was pregnant it didn't occur to me that they would think it either. Because they're, you know, adults.

@shangelawasrobbed

I don't think that when others announce their pregnancies, but I was really conscious of it when telling my dad I was pregnant.

I've been with my fella for 17 years and we've lived together for 13 so it's not exactly a secret that we're having sex, but I still felt a bit awkward for some reason!

Same! It was a while ago now mind, so a bit silly, but I remember thinking not really wanting to say.

@yourcakes Why are so many posters implying that following a logical train of thought implies that they are judging said adults for having sex. It’s just an automatic thought!

I suppose it depends on their genders.

Are you thinking about turkey basters, and never having Xmas dinner at their home?

When we announced dcs impending arrival to a certain group of friends, it was done with a tongue in cheek “well guys we’ve had sex, and it’s resulted in a baby!” Since then it is something I do think too haha

Yes I’ve thought that too 😂 I also thought OMG my parents know I’ve had sex when I announced my first pregnancy even though I was married! 😆

@WallaceinAnderland

Try teaching sex ed in primary school when you're visibly pregnant. That moment when the penny drops...

I remember my SIL telling me about how one of their girls had just had sex ed in school snd come home horrified at the thought of her mum and dad doing THAT. So SIL dobbed everyone else in and said “well it’s not just us you know, your aunties and uncles do it too” I’m not sure who was more mortified at this point 😂😂😂

Literally never thought this, and when I told people I was pregnant it didn't occur to me that they would think it either. Because they're, you know, adults

The act of sex between two people would never enter my mind, either, when someone announces they're pregnant. Just the idea of a cuddly sweet smelling (usually) baby.

The only time I consider the biology of it is when someone says "We're pregnant". Cos they're not. She is.

I used to think this as a teenager and thought I could never imagine telling my parents I was pregnant.

only if one of them is interesting enough to make me wonder what they'd be like in bed.

This for me too. Though I remember looking around the room at the couples in my NCT class and thinking “You’ve had sex with each other!”

Ha ha ha yes sometimes I actually do

As a teenager I did but not anymore. Now I'm more interested in working out when they conceived, and if there are any special occasions/birthdays around that time. It just amuses me as there's lots of "coincidences" in my family

No, I didn't think about their sex life. The same way I don't think, you are breathing. Unless, said person is not in a relationship I'm aware off, then I might ask who.

I however, felt like I was announcing I had sex every time I announced a pregnancy.

No but my nephews looked disgustedly at DH and I for at least six months after I announced my pregnancy.

I think it's weirder when people post pics of their babies the minute they were born and they're covered in vaginal slime, but you're supposed to find it adorable!

@Tiddlywinkly

No, but when I was pregnant and working out at the gym I remember getting a fair few pervy stares from some guys. I'm not sure if it was a fetish thing or a, I know you've had sex thing. Either way, it was unpleasant.

I was suddenly getting the eye from male passersby all the time once I was visibly pregnant. And despite throwing up a lot, I think I had very nice, glossy hair throughout pregnancy (which promptly fell out four months postpartum), and looked relatively glowy, but I was certainly getting more attention than usual. It freaked me out completely.

Yes

No as I assume most adult couples have sex anyway

Slightly different, but I’ll never forget the look on my 16 year old son’s face when we told him I was pregnant. We’ve been together for all eternity, married for 8 years, but I honestly think that was the moment it dawned on him that his parents had sex! He looked traumatised! 😂

Yep, and I make a diary note, and then work backwards and think 'Oh that must have been when the final episode of Doc Martin was on.'

Or is it just me?

Not so much the pregnancy announcement but 'trying' yup, pass me the brain bleach 😂

@whatinthenameofhen

What I did find quite intrusive was when my new new neighbour and announced she was ttc and followed it up with 'hope you don't mind me asking but how many times did you have to try?' Was a bit much!

God yeah. How long were you trying for would be the usual question.

Yea, I wish I didn’t!

I often wonder if it was his birthday. On a quick poll of friends when we counted on three months from theirs or siblings birthdays and a surprisingly large number were within range of their fathers birthday being conception day... the result of birthday treats perhaps.

I dont think it of others, but I always thought it would be awkward to announce you're pregnant to my parents and work colleagues because how that happened is quite personal! I'm quite a private person though.