🍼👶🏼👣 MAMAS DUE OCTOBER 2021 👣👶🏼🍼

[MyGrassIsBrowner]

Hey ladies, thought I'd start a thread for all us mamas due October 2021! Whether you're on your first or your tenth child, let's share our journey together!

My due date is officially 8th October and this is my second baby girl 💜 My DD is 15 months old so I'm gonna have two under two.. god help me 🙉
I'm actually booked in for an elective section this time (reason being is that I have low grade rectocele prolapse and I'm petrified that another vaginal birth will make it worse) my first labour was 4.5 hours from start of initial contractions to birthing her - textbook waterbirth on paper pretty much. I am however starting to reconsider my decision and go for my original plan of a homebirth. DH has just landed a new job only 15 mins away so it changes a lot. Any other ladies looking to try for a homebirth? I know for me personally it takes a lot of the strain off finding childcare, given how quickly I laboured first time round!

Cant wait to hear your stories and share these last few months of our pregnancies with each other! ❤

you must be going mad @summerhillgang
Have you had a sweep before now or were just holding out for full natural?

So for the past 2 hours or so I have had aching in my pelvis kind of like period pain. My period pains never 'cramp' as such so its more like a dull ache that gets worse when the baby moves (Can feel her moving and it puts pressure on the ache which hurts). My bump doesn't tighten and it isnt really a wave or coming/going which is obvious as least so I don't think I am there. Do we think this could be my body prepping though? or just generic pains :(

Also broken out in spots today, which i never get so that is odd plus feeling generallu groggy this early eve. Probs wishful thinking so please give me a reality check! 😂

Hi All!
Everyone seems to be in the same ‘waiting’ boat 🙈😂
38+3 here, I was the same thinking I’d go early after a few pains last week but after not doing anything but chill on the sofa for the past couple of days I think the baby is staying put for the foreseeable. Been for a walk yesterday but knackered me out and my legs/hips were so restless last night after it.
I did say to OH I hope I don’t go in to labour this weekend I’m too tired and chilled to give birth 😂
Feeling so excited to meet the little one but need to find some energy from somewhere to actually give birth!
Just trying to do things that keep the oxytocin high and not stress over things.
Hoping to book in for a massage next week (due date week) to get me even more relaxed.

@summerhillgang hope you’re feeling a bit more relaxed and not anxious! And hoping the sweep worked! Got everything crossed for you!

@Juicytoot287 sorry I posted before I seen your post!
I had very similar last week!! Dull pains right under my bump and in my groin/legs. Wasn’t waves and went after a while. I assumed it was either braxton hicks or just my body getting ready?! But FTM so actually have no idea 😂🤷🏼‍♀️ Had them for a few days in a row at night.
My back is killing me today as well but again I think it’s just pressure of bump/baby now and the fact I’ve been on the sofa for the past couple of days 🙈

@NW2021 Omg we are in such a similar position- especially as we have the same due date lol I just feel ready to meet her now and so does DP. I know it is very selfish when many mums go overdue or are in agony and I am actually coping ok. Just impatient!!! I get up for my 2am wee every night and wait to see if my waters will go 😂😂 Safe to say my wishful thinking has had little impact and it is sofa chilling with netflix for another week I assume

@Juicytoot287 I wonder who will go first! 😂 I bet I’ll end up going 2 weeks over! 🙈 it just seems so long away another 2 weeks!
I’m exactly the same! Fortunately I’m doing alright coping ok at the moment.

Every time I go the loo im looking out for ‘a show’ or part of the mucus plug, just anything 😂 really is the waiting game this part of pregnancy!
I’ve enjoyed having a week of chilling but getting kinda bored now 😂 we’re going to go out tomorrow and just do something for a few hours just to pass some time.
I suppose getting the rest in now before baby arrives is a good thing! 🥰

Haha it's (in a way!) nice to know there are a good few of us in the same boat! The "is this something?!" game is hard even if I knew he was going to be really late, I think I could cope fine knowing when he was coming. It's the uncertainty that's tough!

Trying to plan some nice things to do during the week to keep the days ticking by. Every day is another day closer to meeting our babies, ladies!

Oh planning nice things sounds good. Unfortunatelly DP is working still so that is 11 hours at home alone. I am still working too which will give me something to do at least but not for 11 hours a day thank god. I just keep hoovering and keeping on top of washing so that I am ready to be overwhelmed when baby comes!

What nice things are you planning to do?

Wow I can't imagine still working at this point @Juicytoot287, you must be superwoman! My DH is still working too but it's kind of nice having the house to myself for a bit of the day 😂

I'm not planning anything too exciting unfortunately haha! Just meeting friends for coffee, dog walks etc.

I'm back onto having period pains now but still not a regular pattern. So frustrating! I also can't stop eating 🤦🏼‍♀️

That still sounds nice! My friends all work weekdays and my dog is a lumpy 35kg so won't be walking her alone 😂🤦‍♀️ Struggling to find things to keep busy and relaxed

Hi everyone!

@MyGrassIsBrowner @MeadowHay @Peacefulspirit How are you ladies getting on? Haven't heard in a while x

@mooloop @NW2021 How is the waiting going for you ladies? I had period cramps last night - honestly thought it could be there start but they have gone by the morning and not returned despite a curry and a walk last night. Ugh.

@summerhillgang How are you! Any luck on the sweep?

I keep checking in to see how you’re all doing, this part is so tough, in retrospect I wish I’d thought more carefully about induction but it’s done now.
Orla is just a super baby, definitely sent to bless us, she’s like the last piece of our jigsaw. We were discharged by the midwife today and at day 10 way surpasses her birthweight, she loves the boob so not surprised!
Sending loads of labour vibes to those still waiting. I’m going to stick my neck out and say at least one of you are in the early stages right now!

@Juicytoot287 I'm the same, I get cramps every day but then they tail off into nothing and I wake up in the morning thinking oh well 😂 I've just got back from a long walk with DDog and I'm shattered. Time to rest with a cuppa 😴 how are you feeling today?

@Peacefulspirit aww Orla sounds like a dream 😍 fantastic that she's putting the weight on!

I can't wait to meet our baby son now, but at the same time I'm trying to savour these last moments before the whirlwind of parenthood begins. It's kind of nice having quiet days sorting out the house, dog walks etc. We've booked to go out for a meal with some friends on Friday evening and we're going to take the dog somewhere nice on Saturday, so keeping occupied til baby boy decides it's time!

@Juicytoot287 we’re doing good! No updates to be honest most of the twinges I was getting last week seem to have stopped. Had a period pain last night and thought this is it but nothing 😂 everything else seems to have disappeared, I’m now just chilling and waiting still 9 days till due date so we’ll see.
Baby feels like it’s got higher up rather than lower! Feel like I’m going in the opposite direction to labour! 🙈😂

@Peacefulspirit any advice on breastfeeding? Or any good sites to read up. FTM and I’m going to try BF but I’ve read so many stories at how hard it is I’m starting to worry a bit.

@mooloop that sounds like a lovely couple of days planned! Get that oxytocin high ready for baby boy to make an appearance 🥰

@NW2021 I think with breastfeeding the absolute best thing you can do is relax. Which is easier said than done! Ask for lots and lots of support. Getting the initial latch right is key. When people say it shouldn’t hurt that is fair enough but for me, in the first few days after your milk comes in it does nip for the first few sucks of the feed. Loads of skin to skin. Try not to put yourself under lots of pressure. Hand express if you can. I’m happy to answer any questions or help any time. BF is such a lovely experience (and so much easier!) once you get it established. Xx

Oh and it isn’t always hard!! Just like every aspect of parenthood people love to tell you the shit stuff! Orla has fed and slept like a dream so far. It might not last but so far, so good!!

@Peacefulspirit Oh what a dream! I second the advice on BF please. Been told absolutely 0 on this but would like to try but keep beinf out off by how hard it is with noone really saying here is how it works haha or whatever.
Also should I be taking formula bottles in baby bag if I want to BF?

@mooloop @NW2021 Seems we are all in similar positions lol. Baby seems to be sitting quite high for me, don't think she has fully dropped yet and by the feel on my breathlessness when I try and get comfy I would say defo not! Going to walk dog somewhere nice Saturday too for her birthday - sad I know but my first child was made of fur hahaha. I am just getting really lonely and bored because I am isolating à fair bit due to covid (my own personal worries I know, I am double jabbed etc just too anxious of a person). It is ruining my ability to enjoy this last bit of time and freedom :(

@Peacefulspirit thank you! I’ll defo be asking loads of questions once baby here. I’ve read a few things, feel unprepared but then also feel like it’s one of those things that I need baby here to understand the latch, feeding amounts etc. It’s lovely to hear that people actually find it easy as there really is so many horror stories! A lot like birth stories I suppose.
@Juicytoot287 I’ve got 2 of the pre made cow and gate ones just in case but I’m hoping I’ll be ok whilst in hospital and be able to start BF straight away.
Completely get the isolating before birth! I don’t feel as much pressure to stay in but saying that I have desire to want to go any where or see any one! 🙈 few of my friends have asked me to go out for cuppa/walk and I just don’t want to.
I’ve not had any nesting instincts (tidying etc) but I will say I’m getting the ‘stay at home’ vibe and just want to be around my partner, mum & sister. Don’t want to see any one else, I sound so rude but I’m guessing it’s a type of nesting?! 😂🤷🏼‍♀️

Is anyone else starting to get the texts of people as well? I know they mean well but I’m fully aware of how long I’ve got left 😂 & I’ll be sure to tell them once baby has arrived!

@NW2021 I started getting texts too. Not even at my due date so that is a bit annoying. I don't mind people that care but it is irritating coming from people who really don't care for how you are. Also feel like a walking womb at the moment but I think people forget I am the one who wants her out the most and has to carry her still 🤷🏻‍♀️😂

Might go buy some premade bottles then ahh. Panic!

Hey lovelies still hanging on in there! Your times will come soon enough!! It's probably the worst part of pregnancy imo is this final bit, but you ladies have got this far, you'll have babies in your arms soon!

It's been a bit of whirlwind for us, Macy has been a little diamond but has had quite bad jaundice which meant BF went down the pan and mama has been sick with worry for the past two weeks. We finally got referred for a blood test which has THANKFULLY shown her levels a little on the high side but not enough to warrant any treatment. We've been discharged today which was bittersweet as apparently we were the talk of my midwifrey team and we'll be missed 🙈
As the midwife was leaving she said "please have more babies so we can see you again!" I swiftly booted her out the door lol.
It's not as big of a transition adding another addition to the family home, but the sleep deprivation is definitely a killer. So you FTM's.... SLEEP WHEN BABY SLEEPS. Sod the washing, the cleaning, the house. Just sleep! 😌 it makes for a happy mama and baby! Xx

Hi! Am not great tbh, part of my episiotomy stitches have broken down so spent the whole of this PM in the hospital. Doctor isn't sure if it's infected or not so has prescribed two different antibiotics anyway and I got them to prescribe me more dihydrocodeine as the pain is awful and clearly won't be resolving any time soon. This happened to me last time too albeit much later on and in a less significant place so they didn't even give me antibiotics that time. Also finding breastfeeding horrifically painful, same as with my DD. I don't have advice because with her I fed her for 12 weeks and sought so much help from midwives, health visitor and breastfeeding peer supporters and she was checked by the tongue tie nurse and not one person could sort the permanent, terrible pain my nipples were in .

I got the texts soo much once I'd hit my due date. Wasn't something I experienced last time because I had her by then haha. It is so annoying but I know they were coming from a good place. The funny thing is that almost none of those people have expressed any intention on coming to see him now he's here anyway! We've not had anyone meet him yet except my DPs and DB - it's true that people are so less arsed when it's not your first!

@MeadowHay blumming hell that sounds horrific so sorry you're suffering. Hope the antibiotics kick in for you pronto.
Totally agree when it's your 2nd baby, no one gives a toss! We didnt even get any presents bought for her by anyone. I'm actually kinda angry about it as my DD1 got spoilt. I wasn't expecting much and wasn't with DD1 but to actually get nothing was a bit of a kick in the teeth I wont lie.

Gosh @MeadowHay sorry you're having a tough time of it! Glad you've managed to get some decent painkillers. One day you'll look back on this as a distant memory, you will get through it! 

@MyGrassIsBrowner fantastic that you've been discharged, that's great news! Hopefully it will just be smooth sailing for you and Marcy from here

My SIL asked me last week if I'd had any signs yet, and my friend thought I was in labour because I was 5 min late to meet her for coffee (stuck in traffic) - I was only 37+5 at the time!! 😂 I told them both not to start with all that already when I'm not even due til the 30th

Argh sorry @MyGrassIsBrowner blooming autocorrect changed Macy's name there!! I'm not that ignorant I promise

@mooloop hahaha that typo made me chuckle, dont worry! 😆
Aww I cant wait to see some more baby announcements, so excited for you all!
Think I was particularly glad of my section this time, nobody messaged me as they all knew when I was having her 😆 I remember being inundated with my DD though. Tell them all to just be bloody patient! 😆 xx

@MyGrassIsBrowner I remember you were so convinced she would appear before the section though! Seems so long ago now. Glad to hear she is doing much better now. Jaundice is so common isn't it but doesn't stop the worries anyhow.

@mooloop Literally! Anytime I call my mum she is like IS IT TIME. this has been since 37 weeks at least. Worst of it is they make you think that they are taking ages whereas like you said, not due until 28th so no reason to start this flapping yet 😂🙈 38+5 today though