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All restrictions are going. I'm gutted 🥲

148 replies

Girlmama3 · 12/07/2021 15:59

Anyone terrified of catching covid more now then ever? I've had both jabs but am aware that's not full protection.

I thought this was the right year to have our last baby. If I'd known about the delta variant I would have waited 🥲

OP posts:
breadbinbaby · 12/07/2021 18:44

23 weeks here, double jabbed and absolutely delighted things are opening back up!

mummyh2016 · 12/07/2021 18:46

@CrouchEndTiger12

So what do you suggest happens?

Se all put our lives on hold and live with endless restrictions because you've chosen to have a baby in a pandemic?!

You didn't out your lives on hold and delay having a baby did you?

I'm pregnant and I agree with this. Enough is enough.
JackJack84 · 12/07/2021 18:49

I'm also due in November but I'm not worried at all. I'm doing everything I can to keep myself safe, getting vaccinated, practicing hand hygiene, avoiding large gatherings etc. I can't control what other people do. Life is full of risks, I could step out tomorrow & get hit by a bus. I refuse to live in fear.

Sparechange · 12/07/2021 19:02

@Scirocco

I don’t think anyone is being blamed or judge for being pregnant, but more for the ridiculous assumption that the whole country would bend to their will and stay locked up longer than is necessary.

babynameneeded · 12/07/2021 19:06

Let me just lock myself back into my house so you can safely have your baby.

miltonj · 12/07/2021 19:07

@Longislandicedteaplease

You can still put restrictions on yourself, you don't need the rest of us to be locked down. You decided to get pregnant at a time like this Hmm honestly
Your first sentence, I agree with. Your last sentence is daft and vile.
Tinydancer321 · 12/07/2021 19:10

Ok how about the non pregnant people that will die, 37 people a day at the min only to increase. I will miss my grandparents if they are one of them numbers tbf.
Also looking like we will be in lockdown over winter to pay for this freedom. There was getting rid of restrictions and totally getting rid of everything. They have already gone back on what they said as last week said no need for masks this week asking everyone to still wear them.
Couldn’t go to me kids sports day but look at all the people watching the football. It’s not just about being pregnant.

Dogsandbabies · 12/07/2021 19:14

@CrouchEndTiger12

So what do you suggest happens?

Se all put our lives on hold and live with endless restrictions because you've chosen to have a baby in a pandemic?!

You didn't out your lives on hold and delay having a baby did you?

Absolutely agree. We can't keep waiting and hoping. We have to learn to live with the minute risk that it poses.
Tinydancer321 · 12/07/2021 19:16

I also don’t mind keeping myself safe. However when the kids are back I can’t control what happens then. August/September due are struggling to get their jabs in time. Also there was a lot of professionals against the jabs.
CEV are still CEV . 100000 people catching it a day looking at the figures will be about 100 people a day dying and a Nhs that can’t cope. But As I have seen on many posts that the world shouldn’t stop for them and they are dying because they have other illnesses and it’s not to do with Covid.
I think pregnant women are allowed to go on a pregnant forum and moan.
Should pregnant women not moan about
Feeling sick, back pain, hip pain labour etc. As it’s clear that will happen when pregnant so you shouldn’t moan 🤦🏼‍♀️

Mrbay · 12/07/2021 19:31

@CrouchEndTiger12

So what do you suggest happens?

Se all put our lives on hold and live with endless restrictions because you've chosen to have a baby in a pandemic?!

You didn't out your lives on hold and delay having a baby did you?

I've waited 5-years to finally say I'm pregnant, so are you suggested I continued to wait until this all disappears? As we are going to have to learn to live with it. Sadly due to my age, I was pregnant when my vaccine window opened and I wasn't prepared to put my unborn child at risk.

Pregnancy makes you more at risk of respiratory problems, due to reduced lung capacity.

Regarding managing risk, whilst queuing on Friday I had a gent who didn't give me space, despite moving forward he was determined to stick to my arse. When I explained I wanted space, he told me he was simply keeping up with queue - I was the only person in front of him and no one behind!

I'm worried for all, there isn't a perfect answer that suits all, all we can do is manage our risk.

Tinydancer321 · 12/07/2021 19:36

@Mrbay I had a similar thing this morning at the hospital it was so sureal as was a queue to get in (temp checks). I was anti bac gelling my daughters hands and mine and she was so close her body touched mine to get to the gel!! I couldn’t go forward as someone in front! She could of got to it when we all moved up.

SW1amp · 12/07/2021 20:55

Sadly due to my age, I was pregnant when my vaccine window opened and I wasn't prepared to put my unborn child at risk.

Do you mean you haven’t had the vaccine?

You realise that puts your unborn child at far greater risk than having the vaccine, right..?

Tinydancer321 · 12/07/2021 21:02

@SW1amp wow I’m glad you know more than the scientist about the effects this vaccine can have on our children not just now but 20 years down the tracks!
I actually asked 2 midwifes and a consultant, who said they can’t advice it, they know nothing about it, it hasn’t been tested. I was told to google…..
Then when I had my first vaccine (because I realised the world was going to open ) I have to listen to the nurse read a scrips “this is in its trail stage and not been untested on pregnant women and so on”….
Not a easy decision.
Sadly due to age to I still have a 7 week wait until I can get my last dosage if I’m lucky.

Mrbay · 12/07/2021 21:31

Minimal data has been produced regarding the vaccine, pregnancy and birth. If I wasn't pregnant I'd get it, but given they aren't planning on vaccinating young children, why would I want to potentially pass the antibodies to my baby? No health organisation in the UK has said that is it 100% safe in my situation.
I've waited so longer for our baby, been through 3 cycles of IVF so if anything happened, it's not like it would be easy for me to get pregnant again.
I don't judge those who have had the vaccine whilst pregnant, it's a bloody hard decision to make.

@Tinydancer321 - I just understand why people cannot wait, it's not like they are going to get seen or served quicker!!!

EssentialHummus · 12/07/2021 21:41

Pregnant, double jabbed and in the "happy to be opening up" camp. Principally because I want the baby classes, cafes etc running when these babies turn up. I'm sorry if that sounds flippant but it was the difference between coping and not coping with DD1.

We TTC'd knowing that the pandemic was on (obvs). We waited a year. That felt like a balanced risk. Obviously I'm as unhappy as the next person about the gov't's handling of things but on balance I'm happy to be expecting, and happy for things to open up.

Sparechange · 12/07/2021 21:54

@Mrbay

Minimal data has been produced regarding the vaccine, pregnancy and birth. If I wasn't pregnant I'd get it, but given they aren't planning on vaccinating young children, why would I want to potentially pass the antibodies to my baby? No health organisation in the UK has said that is it 100% safe in my situation. I've waited so longer for our baby, been through 3 cycles of IVF so if anything happened, it's not like it would be easy for me to get pregnant again. I don't judge those who have had the vaccine whilst pregnant, it's a bloody hard decision to make.

@Tinydancer321 - I just understand why people cannot wait, it's not like they are going to get seen or served quicker!!!

I’m not trying to make this top trumps but I’m pregnant after my 17th round of IVF so I’m really not taking flippant risks but all the wider data sets, especially those from the US, show there is far greater risk to mother and baby from catching covid than the vaccine

And if you catch it, you’ll pass antibodies on, surely?

And no health authorities can say anything is 100% safe
Not the flu jab, not the anti d jab, to the covid vaccine
That’s how risk and statistics works….

Tinydancer321 · 13/07/2021 06:58

@Sparechange so if you catch it at the time
Of birth and your husband can’t attend the birth , or even worse your don’t have the energy for a normal birth so need a c section on your own, you will be happy and not mind?

Sparechange · 13/07/2021 07:01

I’m fully vaccinated so the chances of me catching it are much less, and if I do catch it, the chances of me being too ill to give birth are also much less.

Surely another reason to get the jab?!

Kittyswhiskers · 13/07/2021 08:50

I’m double jabbed - but there were 4 months between doses because the guidance wouldn’t let me have it any sooner (it changed multiple times in early pregnancy)
I wish people were more responsible. I don’t think we should be locked up forever but I DO think people should be more careful and stop being so flippant.

Zhampagne · 13/07/2021 08:54

I feel for those who are pregnant at the moment and your feelings are valid. I hope it helps to know that your vulnerability is by definition finite.

If you are pregnant and unvaccinated then I think you might be wise to re-evaluate your previous decision about the jab.

CornishGem1975 · 13/07/2021 09:08

@EssentialHummus

Pregnant, double jabbed and in the "happy to be opening up" camp. Principally because I want the baby classes, cafes etc running when these babies turn up. I'm sorry if that sounds flippant but it was the difference between coping and not coping with DD1.

We TTC'd knowing that the pandemic was on (obvs). We waited a year. That felt like a balanced risk. Obviously I'm as unhappy as the next person about the gov't's handling of things but on balance I'm happy to be expecting, and happy for things to open up.

I can understand this. I had a baby at the start of lockdown 1 and my entire maternity leave was basically spent alone in my house. It was awful.
minatrina · 13/07/2021 09:22

There's some nasty folk in this thread. OP isn't issuing a rallying cry to stop the lifting of restrictions, she's just saying she's anxious. Because she's worried about her unborn baby at a time when she's clinically vulnerable during a pandemic that's gathering speed again. It's not really unreasonable, is it? Why do the anti-lockdown brigade have to barrage her with nasty comments? No empathy whatsoever, I'm so glad to not know anybody remotely like some of these posters in real life.

OP, I'm also pregnant and share the same concerns. I've only had one jab so far and looking at end of August before my second is due. I'm just keeping all contact I can to a minimum but there's only so much we can do. Pregnant women are always forgotten about, and the pandemic is no exception.

Viviennemary · 13/07/2021 09:28

I shall be doing what's best for me which is not wearing a mask. Which I have found stifling and very uncomfortable. Ive had over a year of obeying rules and now they ard lifted I will be making my own choices.

Sleepiebeauty · 13/07/2021 09:50

In my country pregnant women can’t work after 20wks, unless they can work from home. They still get paid.

Rose2108 · 13/07/2021 10:16

OP, I do feel for you, your feelings are valid and it is a scary time. You probably had naively or optimistically thought things would be better now, with the vaccination programme etc. So many of us thought the same as it was easier to cope!

However, I am 24 weeks and cannot wait to actually have a mini break, see my friends and family around the Country I have missed so much, and get some normality before baby arrives in November. I have had one jab, second in a few weeks. I may be wrong but I am seeing this as a flu which we will have to live with. I choose to wear my mask in enclosed public spaces and avoid busier tube times etc, but overall... give me freedom!! I feel like I have four months until life changes forever, so am so up for a bit of normality and freedom for a while :)

I think when you do go out, you will enjoy it. I fought to get back to the office in April (am lucky I can do this at off peak times). Be brave!