Who did you tell when in labour?

[Tilly18101]

DH and I have very different opinions on this, I am very firm that I don’t want people to find out until baby is here other than a friend who is going to look after the pets whilst in the hospital.

I’ve said this because I don’t want anyone worrying, or ringing or texting when there’s nothing they can do, and if they don’t hear for a while I just know they’ll be very worried - id rather keep them from any extra stress and then tell them baby is here and when they can visit etc! DH says it’s my choice but he also thinks our parents/siblings should know, and he’s happy to keep them up to date?

My question is who did you tell, and how did you find it when people knew? Was it nice to have them knowing or did you find it a bit overwhelming? I just know my family are worriers, and I just couldnt bear them stressing and not knowing if it took a while, or there an emergency situation?!

@LadyDanburysHat a daughter of a friend of MIL’s was in labour. The daughter was updating her mum during labour who was then very ‘kindly’ updating some of her friends, including my MIL, with how the labour was going. For some reason my MIL thought I would be interested too (I have never met this poor woman) so was passing on these updates to me. I’m sure this woman was really happy that I knew the state of her cervix

[quote ineedaholidaynow]@LadyDanburysHat a daughter of a friend of MIL’s was in labour. The daughter was updating her mum during labour who was then very ‘kindly’ updating some of her friends, including my MIL, with how the labour was going. For some reason my MIL thought I would be interested too (I have never met this poor woman) so was passing on these updates to me. I’m sure this woman was really happy that I knew the state of her cervix [/quote]
Oh no, that is awful. It seems from the comments on here that it very much depends on the family. However, I am a private person and would have hated anyone to know about the state of my body.

Would they expect to know how many stitches I had for my 3rd degree tear too.