September 2021 - Thread 6 is here!

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Can you Adam and Eve it we are are on Thread 6! Hope I included everyone on the update!

@Noodles4Me - 26th Aug 💙
@Scotti84 - 30th Aug 💖

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@Holly91 - 22nd 💛 tbc
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@ams92 - 30th 💖

@Kirky658 thank you, I've been sleeping on and off today. I hope your headache has shifted now. 💛

I'm very lucky that my friend is a sports massage therapist! I bought a block of sessions from her in the run up to London Marathon... but then Covid hit, marathon cancelled, she closed down... then eventually, when I could use them, I was pregnant.
She's qualified to massage pregnant women, thankfully. Although this wasn't a relaxing massage, this was a "dear god woman, fix my hips and back!" kind of massage.
I'm happy to say I got my money's worth as my entire body was in so much pain, everywhere! I feel a lot better even straight after, so it's well worth doing!

I found my piles only hit me after birth... but cleared up fairly soon after. The joys of pregnancy!!

Another joy of pregnancy, I watched an episode of Hospital on iPlayer whilst having lunch this afternoon... I spent most of the episode sobbing over a lady who had an awful cancer diagnosis. There is nothing that doesn't make me cry on TV right now!!!

Oh don't! I heard about that series on 4 called like baby surgeons or something. The waterworks were on a lot! I thought I'd done quite ok with feeling fairly level with hormones but stuff like this....!
Also had a meltdown today when found the builders helping themselves to using our stuff in a room we didn't give them access too! With covid i was so mad!! I'm thinking am I just being irrational?!
Massage sounds amazing, love a painful glute and low back one....glad u got your moneys worth and a satisfying amount of pain haha!

Perhaps the hormones just kick in now because I've been fairly level the entire time thinking I'd got away with it, but I was so teary and low yesterday!

We've just had a bar built in our newly landscaped garden and my DP has been in it non-stop til all hours of the morning every weekend for the past couple of weeks it feels. He keeps inviting people over and I'm exhausted playing the hostess, then can't even join in and end up in bed early. Then the next day he's just hungover and I spend all day by myself pretty much. So I feel like I've barely left the house recently and so yesterday morning while he was sleeping off a hangover I was just moping about and couldn't stop crying! Anyway when he came down he could see I was upset and he asked me what was wrong, gave me a big cuddle, suggested we take the dog out somewhere nice AND is taking me out for dinner tonight lol. His behaviour is very annoying, but I know I'm more sensitive to it because I can't join in, and also I know it's novelty with the bar being new etc and we have loads of nice plans coming up so I am being a bit hormonal/unreasonable... that said, he also seems to realise he's been pushing his luck a bit so maybe it's not all just in my head after all!

Sorry for the rant but it's good to see others hormones are a bit all over the place at the minute too! 🙈

Ps. The thought of looking into nurseries now scares me to death as I don't have a clue what I need/want. Thankfully round here waiting lists only seem to be a month or two, if at all, from what people have told me so 🤞🏼

I wish I had had the calmness some of your hormones seem to have been haha I've been up and down since I got my BFP! Always been super sensitive to hormones though.

@mrstd88 sounds like a much needed rest. I've had a late lunch break today and spent it napping. Feel a lot better for it. Going to go take the dog a little walk with DH when he's home to try and shake the sleepiness.

I'm seeing the consultant for the first time on Thursday, no idea what to expect!

My hormones are all over the place. I cried eating a bacon sandwich on Saturday for no apparent reason 🤣🤣.

Had my 22 week Doppler ultrasound today to check blood flow of my arteries to the placenta. Wasn't great news but growth scans booked in starting 28 weeks.

Movements have gone through the roof in the last week. He doesn't seem to keep still and he's started waking me up with them now too 🙈

I'm joining everyone in the hormonal and emotional zone today... not helped by a lack of sleep plus a call from my midwife which reduced me to tears!

I had my 25 week appointment with one of my midwives last week and fundal height measured 21... she re-measured a couple of times and then double checked that I was having growth scans but didn't seem overly concerned... however she called me this afternoon to say that she'd asked for a second opinion and she's trying to get my 28 week growth scan brought forward as a result. I asked whether it was very unusual at this point or a big cause for concern and she said there was potential for concern but also tried to reassure me that fundal height is somewhat subjective and it could just be the position of baby etc...

I'm no stranger to measuring small during pregnancy (I measured 30 weeks at 40 weeks last time round 🙄), and I know everything was fine last time (although baby was a low birth weight for gestational age he was otherwise healthy)... but I'm sure I was measuring larger by this point in my last pregnancy... and this time around I've had consultants telling me about what could go wrong/risks/etc.! Last time there was no obvious cause and there's no real reason, (yet!) to think anything serious (if at all) is wrong now, but I guess it's in the back of my mind that there might be something serious going on and I'm finding myself getting really anxious about it.

I was also really hoping that I might measure more 'normally' this pregnancy (this being baby number 2 - I was certainly showing earlier!)... I felt like public property last time with everyone telling me I didn't look big enough for my dates... which added to the stress of unexpected growth scams etc. The comments have already started for this pregnancy.

Big sigh. I've come home from work and flopped under the duvet with my lovely cat (who thinks he's a dog in disguise and always seems to know when I need him) who is now giving me lots of snuggles and TLC.

Haven't been on in quite a while and there's a lot to catch up on!

@MrsTD88 have you had your re-scan yet? When I went for my 20 week, there was 1 measurement they couldn't get as baby wouldn't move so had to go back 2 weeks later. I just felt so deflated and not relieved, I did cry a bit after. At the re-scan, I had to move around and eventually baby started moving.....too much. Things my sonographer said repeatedly 'quick, quick', 'stop moving', 'this one is a monkey' haha! Fortunately they managed to get the measurement and all well. We are also having a surprise in regards to sex, because they couldn't see!

@Newmum110 are you on medication for your sickness/have you tried different medication? Not ideal being sick every day still. My midwife told me to up my meds because I was still being sick whilst on them. I'm haven't been sick for a while but haven't been able to go off my meds yet!

@GWhiteley I ordered bras from Matalan and I'm wearing them now as I can't cope with underwired bras now
www.matalan.co.uk/product/detail/s2795839_c120/2-pack-seam-free-maternity-bras-multi

Joined a free baby labour workshop this evening, it had great information and the lady who run it was fab! Considering paying to join the other classes they run. I've added the link in case anyone was interested
letstalkbirthandbaby.co.uk/

Anyone struggling with very sore swollen feet and got any suggestions to ease? I'm trying to sit down more in work and bought new insoles for my shoes but by the end of the day I'm practically limping.

@Poppins2016 they don't start measuring fundal height until 28 weeks here.
Amazes me how different each trust is.

I’m so glad to read of the hormones!
I have been essentially an arsehole today at work and they’ve been patient but I can tell they really want to say ‘what the hell are you on about?!’

I just can’t help it, if something is frustrating gaaaahhh I’m telling them all about it. Loudly.

@Scotti84 I have them but they don’t hurt ☹️ Can you use any of the creams on them? I’m not sure if they’re ok in pregnancy. I have bad news though, the piles turned into a fissure after labour last time which was a whole new world of pain. Like everything else tho, it passed eventually 🙋🏽‍♀️.

Glad you massage was worth it @SillyBry

@KH512 I have signed up to that free workshop also! I’m looking forward to it! I’ve also paid for the ‘Complex Labour and Birth’ workshop and also a ‘Hypnobirthing’ workshop with the same group.

I’m also really short tempered/impatient with everyone that I work with! It’s a good thing I’m
Working from home so I can swear to myself before I reply to their emails! 🤣
I don’t think it helps that my 4 year old has lost the ability to listen at all in the last week. I feel like I’m spending forever counting to 5 and talking to her about “listening ears” and not just running around like a lunatic! It’s just endlessly exhausting!

@Poppins2016 Sounds super stressful, especially with the added comments from others and comparison to last time! Fingers crossed you've just got a lovely neat bump and that the extra scans are just bonus baby viewings 🙂

I'm intrigued to know how the fundal height thing works with everyone being different sizes to begin with! Surely they need a starting reference?

I’ve always found the fundal measurement so random. Measuring from groin to bellybutton to decide on the size of baby... least medical method there is surely? 🤣

Hahaha, I think you have a point there, @SillyBry! I often wonder why they bother doing it, when the accuracy is often so far off (but I suppose it's cheaper than sending women off for lots of scans... then again, even the scans aren't always accurate)!
...I am also having issues with 'listening ears' although I'll cut my DS a little bit of slack as he's only 2.5... 🤣 I completely relate to the lack of patience and trying to deal with a small child running around like a lunatic! It's exhausting! I'm also finding that I ache all over at the end of the day, having been climbed all over/cuddled/elbowed/requested to pick up... it's intense!

@SP2Bx I've often wondered about that (re baseline). 100% trying to see extra scans as a positive thing!

@Crobo87 I think it's quite strange how trusts vary so much. And even my own trust/midwifery team seems to be contradictory (I was told they wouldn't bother with fundal height as I'm having extra scans anyway, but then they changed their mind and decided to measure after all)!

@KH512 would you mind letting me know what meds you are on? I'm on Cariban but it's so expensive that I can't afford full dose, maybe there is another option for me.......

@FTEngineerM ive had one for a while now, it was just sort of there and i noticed it would swell a bit after id been to the loo but then go down again after, but last week i had a weird feeling like my whole backside was swollen after id been, then the next time there was blood and now theres two of the things. I know theyre common, but they're just so unpleasant. Im on the epsom salt baths and have some cream that is ok as long as I don't overdo it, but the fear of needing to go is not fun, i hope they can at least go back to just sitting there quietly until they disappear after the birth.... cross my fingers!

@poppins2016 I spoke to my midwife about the FH measurements. Our trust starts at 25 week appt usually but she did mine at 23 weeks last week. I said to her how often are they out she said a good proportion of the time the bump size has no bearing on how big or small baby is its just a guideline they use. She said she'd prefer it if they did a couple of growth scans on every lady to make sure! So I hope that goes some way to reassure you. Xx

Is anyone else getting sick of comments from others about their weight gain? Have gone up from an 8 to a 10/12 maximum and family and some colleagues are acting like I've turned into a whale! I've never been weight conscious in my life until now. Unfortunately I come from a culture where it's normal and ok to tell people they've become fat! It's starting to annoy me though and can't exactly tell family to bugger off with their comments as I'll be labelled too sensitive which I've never been. Wondering if I'm being unreasonable to be so cheesed off?! I'm growing an amazing human being inside ffs. Sorry, rant over! 😤

@Taybz yes!!
I was always a bigger girl until the last 6 years or so I've been an 8 and very active, worked so hard to get there after so many years. Now obviously it's coming back on but like you, only a 10/12 and still fitting in some 8s.
It started last week and I found it funny then but it's carrying on now and getting a bit dull to be honest! I've always had a weight complex so it's hard to try and ignore it.
Not about weight gain but one of my directors asked when I was going on my 'jollies' as in my mat leave. I wanted to punch him. Is that what some men seriously think it is 🙈 he's only 2 years older than me, can't wait until his wife has kids.
I've realised being pregnant gives people free reign to literally say/ask anything now.

Unfortunately that doesn’t stop when the baby comes. For some reason, people think it’s ok to pass judgment on you during pregnancy and with a baby. Everyone knows best and has to “pass on their wisdom”... it’s very annoying 🤣
Luckily I’ve barely seen anyone to get them to pass judgement on my weight at least. But it’s so hard when you feel self conscious anyway and then again people make “funny” jokes.
Im 25 weeks today and I have to say, I’m feeling aches and pains already and feeling a bit down about how much longer I have left! It’s just depressing me!!

@Kirky658 I hope you're feeling better today.

@crobo87 sorry to hear you didn't get good news. Great baby is moving about lots though.

@Poppins2016 sorry to hear the midwives have made you feel worried. Hopefully an early growth scan will put everyone's mind at ease. Were your measurements okay at your 20 week scan?

@KH512 my re-scan is tomorrow evening, hoping they get everything they need this time! That's great they managed to get everything they needed at your re-scan. Our daughter was a surprise and it was so exciting not knowing. We only found out this time as our little one was keen to know. My fingers are swollen at the moment, I've had to take my wedding and engagement rings off which makes me sad. I'm definitely dehydrated with being ill so hope the swelling goes down soon. Hope your swelling eases too.

@SillyBry my four year old is the same at the moment! I don't know if it's all the changes coming up.. turning 5, starting school and a new baby or just being testing! Hoping it's just the thought of all the changes coming as she's usually such a good kid.

@mrstd88 feeling slightly more human today thanks but still exhausted and really pale. Going to see consultant on Thursday and going to ask if they can maybe do my 28 week bloods earlier as I wonder if I could be a bit anemic. X

I'm just back after my 25 week appointment. I'm another one having growth scans so they didn't do the measurements on me - it seems like such a throwback from a time before ultrasounds! Can't imagine it's very accurate.

This was my first time hearing the heartbeat so that was amazing! I need to go back later today though because I did the world's smallest urine sample 🤦🏻‍♀️

@SillyBry that's something to look forward to 😂 I feel like I've had a lot of people already giving me their words of wisdom.
I'm definitely having a down week, probably why the comments are bothering me. I seem to have 2 great weeks of being really productive and managing loads of exercise, followed by a week of feeling down, not being able to do anything and wanting to eat everything. I haven't slept well since I found out I was pregnant. Either bad dreams or being really uncomfortable in bed. I think the tiredness must be the crux of it. That worries me as it's only going to get worse 🙈🙈