Did the midwife just let slip my babies sex?!

[backacheandleakyboobs]

I don’t know whether to laugh or cry!!!

I’m close to 31 weeks pregnant with my first baby and I haven’t found out the babies sex as we wanted to keep it a surprise.

I had an appointment today at the antenatal clinic for a consultation following my growth scan I had on Tuesday. Whilst the midwife was finding babies heartbeat with the Doppler she said “and you’re having a little boy aren’t you”. I said “I don’t know we were waiting for a surprise” and she kind of stalled and said “ah well it doesn’t matter what you’re having as long as they are healthy”.

On a phone call last week the midwife referred baby as “he”.

So I called my husband and told him I think
I know what we are having and he said if I know - however I said I will tell him face to face when he gets home from work tonight instead of on the phone and I might do a little gender reveal 😂

When I got home I called the antenatal clinic as thought I’m here now I might as well confirm and the receptionist said “oh I’m so sorry that happened, you are taking it surprisingly well” then put me on hold and a midwife told me it would have been a figure of speech as babies sex is never recorded and unless a sonographer me, they wouldn’t have a clue and the midwives always will use “he” or “she”. I said she specifically said that I’m having a little boy but I felt like she was playing it down.

I don’t know what to think now!!! What does everyone else think? Does anyone know if it’s true that nothing about the gender is recorded?

At the end of the day all I care about is that my baby is healthy and I don’t mind what we have, girl or boy, but this is just not the way I wanted to find out if so 😭

IME midwives are orally incontinent and largely incapable of reading and applying what is plainly in the notes for all to see. Much much of what natters out of their mouths cannot be relied upon and if anything of concern or that causes upset lands it needs to be escalated to somebody more senior.

I have to be honest op, for someone who doesn’t want to know you sound mighty pissed off that you likely still don’t.

I also thought the gender wasn't recorded and with my first baby I didn't want to know. However, when j got back from my 20 week scan the word 'girl' was scrawled across the corner of the last page. She was indeed a girl.

[quote backacheandleakyboobs]@rbetty I think you've missed what I've written, they've referred as "he" before but specially said today "you're having a little boy aren't you", which can't be mistaken?[/quote]
My experience of prenatal appointments, NHS 2018-2019... I had a new midwife at every appointment, most of them started the appointment with “oh you’re having a little girl/boy aren’t you?” They changed between the two most appointments, I knew it was a boy. I wrote it on the front page of my notes... I still got asked “you’re having a little girl aren’t you?” After that.
So probably just making small talk based on bump/mood/vibe/whatever... if you swiftly killed the conversation ofcourse she’ll be flustered.