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June 2021 - Part 5 (nearly there)

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BlondePotter · 18/04/2021 10:58

This is the continued thread for June mums to be!

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Nesski · 12/05/2021 19:44

@Waitingforbabypage tell you partner to buy all the stuff he promised them new Smile, it's way too early to be offering stuff but maybe he wasn't thinking about it properly at the time. Don't worry about feeling precious, you're absolutely allowed to, make sure he knows too and don't apologise!

Waitingforbabypage · 12/05/2021 19:48

I think he thinks we'll be done with it by the time their arrival is here, baby is due mid November. But so far all I've heard this evening is "oh and we can give them the Moses basket and save the neutral clothes if they're having a surprise" or "I'm so excited, I'm going to be an uncle"
Yeah yea, but guess what? You'll be a dad in about 25 days, so let's focus on that. I've come for a bath before I cry at him.

AnxiousAnnie86 · 12/05/2021 20:52

@Waitingforbabypage I'd be so annoyed too!! Have you definitely said this will be your last? What's to say you won't want it for yourselves again?? I totally totally get the name thing too! I would even be tempted to bring that up, would you change your name by deed poll? X

Nesski · 12/05/2021 21:07

@Waitingforbabypage the baby will still need things like the Moses basket in November, unless it's a chunky one Grin just tell him how he's made you feel, I'm sure he didn't mean to!

TerryRose · 12/05/2021 21:45

@Waitingforbabypage oh that would annoy me too !! Not to generalise but men often say things before they think and I'm assuming the last thing he wanted to do is upset you but I would feel so annoyed as well ! I am married but didn't take my husbands surname so we are going to give the baby both our surnames, yes it means a long name but in my opinion my name deserves to be on the birth cert as much as his is and just makes it easier when going through airports etc down the line so definitely consider putting your surname on the birth cert .

Waitingforbabypage · 12/05/2021 21:52

@AnxiousAnnie86 it will be our last, its number 3 for me and number 2 for him. I think 2 of each is plenty for us. Doesn't mean I just wanna give the stuff away as soon as possible though.

I told him how it made me feel and he just thinks I'm being a bit over the top about it because it's only stuff.

I hate admitting that I feel somewhat overshadowed but I do.

As for the name thing, when I divorced my husband, I kept my married name so it was the same as my kids, OH a would prefer not to have that surname on his child's birth certificate so has asked me to go back to my maiden name. Which I'm happy to do, I was considering it anyway.
But if I do, I will have 2 with one name, 2 with another and I just look like the hired help.

AnxiousAnnie86 · 12/05/2021 22:15

@Waitingforbabypage if you go back to your maiden name, will you give this baby your maiden surname? X

Waitingforbabypage · 12/05/2021 22:55

[quote AnxiousAnnie86]@Waitingforbabypage if you go back to your maiden name, will you give this baby your maiden surname? X[/quote]
Nope, she'd be having her dads surname.

AnxiousAnnie86 · 13/05/2021 06:19

@Waitingforbabypage ahh I get you now! I have a daughter already, she's 14 now, she doesn't have the same name as me, and doesn't ever see her dad, to be honest it's never really bothered me too much. If I'd of given her my maiden name she would have a diff name to me now anyway as I'm married, she is changing her name by choice to my married name when she starts uni.

How you feeling today? Hopefully a little less stressed. Some days everything just feels too much doesn't it. Xxx

Waitingforbabypage · 13/05/2021 07:03

@AnxiousAnnie86 I'm more surprised that I feel so childish about it all. Normally stuff like this doesn't bother me, and I'm honestly so so happy for them to be expecting, but I do feel overshadowed- like my thunder has been stolen?!

I've told my OH that he's not to offer any more stuff to them, he's also already offering babysitting duties! Because I won't have my hands full enough?!

I talked to him about the name stuff again too and his response was "you'll probably end up with the same surname at some point anyway, why does it matter?"

Going to go to our new house today and blow off some frustrations with painting and cleaning I think.

Thank you all for understanding and the empathy- it's nice to know I'm not being entirely irrational.

AlRRRR · 13/05/2021 10:05

My children have taken a double barrelled surname, so have mine plus their fathers 2 surnames as he is chinese and portuguese and in Portugal you don’t change your name in marriage. The children take 1 surname from each parents, so I decided to give them mine, and 2 of his so they have all 3 heritages 🤣🤣🤣🤣

AlRRRR · 13/05/2021 10:06

I’m 34 weeks today and I’ve hit my first wall of tiredness and feeling sick.

I’m getting period pains. BH type things and spasms in my back,

Is anyone else feeling strange and is around the same gestation as I? x

Sitchervice · 13/05/2021 10:36

@Waitingforbabypage I don't think your being childish. He's probably not thinking. Have you spoken to him about how he's making you feel?

@AlRRRR I feel tired to. No cramps yet. I fell asleep for an hour after work yesterday by accident

Waitingforbabypage · 13/05/2021 10:49

@AlRRRR I've been out of sorts for a while now, I'm 36 weeks. Nausea has kinda returned, tiredness of the first tri has come back and I'm just feeling blegh in general. Also, as I said in an earlier post, hormone wise I've been alright up to now but teamed with the tiredness, constant pain and heaviness, I'm a right cranky bear!!!
Been having BH for a couple of weeks, notched up to having back pain at the weekend.

sundowners · 13/05/2021 11:17

Waitingforbabypage you are perfectly entitle to feel and behave like a "spoilt brat" at this late stage in pregnancy!! You OH should be making a fuss fully over you and focusing on you and your baby not extended family and their situation! I'd be really firm - and tell him how you're feeling and with so much for you to think about with due date approaching- to have him bang on about someone else's baby/situation is just not even close to being on your radar or relevant to your life right now. He needs to shift his focus ASAP and be fully "present" for you. Show him my post!

Nesski · 13/05/2021 11:24

@airrrr exactly the same as you on both fronts.... Ours will have three surnames as baby will take mine plus his two Portuguese ones!

I'm so just so tired, it's literally taking everything to stay pleasant at work right now

AlRRRR · 13/05/2021 11:34

@Nesski Haha so you’re will have 3? People thought it was very strange but if portuguese children and women do not loose their names, I thought, I’m / the children certaintly aren’t either 🤣🤣🤣

My partner does have 5 surnames though as he had to take a chinese one as well as his mums 2 so luckily the children only have 3 🤣🤣🤣🤣

AlRRRR · 13/05/2021 11:36

@Nesski I only work 1 day per week but I do do 8 am till 11pm (all hours in 1 go) and that is bloody tough. We work in 2’s though and it’s doable with 1 so I’ve just been falling asleep in chairs etc 🤣🤣🤣 When it gets to 7pm and the lady sits down to watch TV, I’m a goner but Wed / Thurs i feel those long house and hard seats

Nesski · 13/05/2021 12:13

@airrrr that's a long old day!!! Yes three surnames, I told my sister and she was like 'what??', hence why I told her her reaction is the exact reason I don't tell people what we are going to call him. 'why don't you use one as his middle name'.... Cos that's not his name? Hmm

Has anyone told anybody what they will make their sprog yet?

Nesski · 13/05/2021 12:13

*name!

AnxiousAnnie86 · 13/05/2021 12:29

@Nesski so we told our parents a name we liked in the very beginning and the hated it so much it actually put us off! So now we swore not to tell family anything! Husband and I narrowed it down last night to two names, and we are going to see what she looks like! Her middle name will be Amelia after my Nana I've promised my gramps!!! So she will either be called

Juniper Amelia
Beatrix Amelia

So Trixie or Pip as a nickname when she's little x

AlRRRR · 13/05/2021 12:34

@Nesski Yes, We found a name as soon as I was pregnant, I chose portuguese name for my 1st Lua, (moon) and Sol (sun) for a boy for this ones as I was convinced it was going to be a boy🤣🤣🤣

She’s now callee Hara (means joy, happiness in Greek) but also means similar in lots of other languages too :)

Couldn’t care less what anyone thinks of it, just announced it as ‘this is Hara’ with the scan pic

AnxiousAnnie86 · 13/05/2021 12:38

@AlRRRR love Hara!! We loved Hera for a while! X

Sitchervice · 13/05/2021 12:40

I have a name too!
Eland James. We've had our names for a few years.

AlRRRR · 13/05/2021 12:41

@AnxiousAnnie86 I used to live in Crete and then Athens and always loved the name. During the scan when they said she was a she, I turned and said it’s Hara to partner and he went great, cool 🤣🤣🤣🤣