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Comments people have made to you while pregnant

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Tryingandhoping2020 · 11/04/2021 16:35

I’m only 14 weeks but it’s starting already! Have been told today by an acquaintance I’ve met a handful of times that not only is my bump massive, but so are my boobs Hmm

She’s not wrong to be fair, nothing fits me Grin but I can’t imagine commenting on someone else’s boobs pregnant or not 🙈

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WaitingForNormality · 12/04/2021 18:38

Also had a lot of "was it planned" with both my pregnancies. With this one (#2) I even had a colleague I barely know say "is this one planned because the last was a 'happy mistake' wasn't he?"..... erm no. Both kids planned thanks. Unsure why anyone would jump to the conclusion either wasn't planned given I'm married and early 30s and never hid the fact I wanted two kids!

Sceptre86 · 12/04/2021 19:13

"When is your bump going to get bigger than your backside?" Possibly never, my backside is Kardashian sized but all natural! I was a bit shocked when I heard this one, my dh actually commented with keep your eyes off my wife's backside.

"Don't see why you wouldn't find out the sex?" It is possibly our last and my dh would like a surprise and I am on the fence.

"You'll be wanting a boy, your kind always do." I'm asian and have a dd and ds already, we have a slight preference for girl actually just because our dd is so keen for a sister but will be happy either way.

Sil said she hopes I have a girl. I was like, "yes would be nice for our dd as she is the only girl on dh's side of the family". She said, "no, I would rather be the first one of us to have two boys". I keep my distance from her for a reason.

WeavingWandering · 14/04/2021 11:55

I literally just got ‘ ooooh well I suppose you learnt your lesson how babies are made’ ... ‘ yes thank you, multiple rounds of ivf and heart break.’

WeavingWandering · 14/04/2021 11:57

@Sceptre86- I confess I had was secretly thrilled when the bump finally matched the bum... only took 7 months 😳

itwillallbeokay · 14/04/2021 12:01

@Tryingandhoping2020

Oh and let’s not forget the well meaning concerns over safety etc. Yes I am three months pregnant, and yes I am still capable of stepping down a 30cm high platform 😂
Seriously people are concerned for you and you are moaning? I've gone through 5 pregnancies and had loads of differ comments. People in general are just trying to be nice/ make conversation. Why get so offended and be intentionally rude back?
BeeyatchPlease · 14/04/2021 12:46

Lots of comments about how huge I was, asking if it was planned and wtf is it with unsolicited bump touching?!?!

A vile, bitter woman I worked with revelled in asking me daily if I was sure it wasn't triplets as she'd never seen a pregnant woman so huge. "You stomach enters the room about 30 seconds before you do, tee hee". Fuck off, Jean, before I sit on you.

One guy I worked seemed to have no qualms in saying "jeez, you had a formidable rack before you got yourself up the duff but fucking hell Beeyatch, you'll be able to feed a crèche when you drop that sprog." Needless to say I tore strips off him and he made a complaint about me!

I didn't have any specific cravings, I just ate ALL the food. My brother watched me work my way through a side of ribs at a BBQ (and picking clean the remnants of DH, DM and DF's finished portions) and likened me to a pig at a trough! Also baby had to be a boy given the amount of meat I'd just devoured. To be fair, I sat at the table and didn't so much as utter a word to anyone for an hour, I was in the eating zone. 🙈

I had other comments asking if my nose was also pregnant (is it just me who had a nose that grew massively towards end of pregnancy?), my cankles, my bellybutton that popped out and was visible through clothing and my personal favourite "I thought pregnant women were supposed to glow?"

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Tryingandhoping2020 · 14/04/2021 13:50

@itwillallbeokay Confused this is all lighthearted, not sure why you have assumed that I am offended or that I have been rude to anyone. Of course I know that most people are just being nice/making conversation. This is just a place for us to have a bit of a giggle over the things people think are okay to say to pregnant women! Hmm

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Rutennotou · 14/04/2021 14:09

I'm 33 years old, my daughter is 14. I'm currently just shy of 39 weeks pregnant with another girl. Lady in the shop asked me when she was serving me if I had any other children and said I do, she's 14.

"Was this one planned?!"

Yes, very much so. Then I got a speel about how I'm crazy and they wouldn't do that when I already have a teenager and "nearly have your life back" 😳. Really rude! I'd had MMC at 12 weeks before this pregnancy, she is a very very wanted baby!

SummerHouse · 14/04/2021 14:19

[quote Tryingandhoping2020]@itwillallbeokay Confused this is all lighthearted, not sure why you have assumed that I am offended or that I have been rude to anyone. Of course I know that most people are just being nice/making conversation. This is just a place for us to have a bit of a giggle over the things people think are okay to say to pregnant women! Hmm[/quote]
You were not rude at all OP. I also had to remind my very kind boss that I was fully capable of stairs when he was questioning when I was going on maternity. Grin

ReggaetonLente · 14/04/2021 14:23

I was 100kg at the end with my first and so swollen - no medical problems, it was that really hot summer in 2018.

I walked into a meeting with two guys at work i hadn't seen for a while and they each said 'bloody hell' and 'Jesus Christ' simultaneously Grin

I had to go to a specialist outfitters for obese people to get shoes wide enough to fit my feet!!!

Mammyofasuperbaby · 14/04/2021 14:26

" are you sure it's your partners and not someone elses" - from a colleague who was adamant it was someone else's baby.
Yes, 100% sure it's his baby especially since I hadn't slept with anyone else unlike her, who was sleeping with half the office.
Was hilarious when she told us she was pregnant and loads of men looked very panicked.

ReggaetonLente · 14/04/2021 14:27

Oh, and my boss asked me if this was my first pregnancy or if I'd ever had a miscarriage or a termination. This was at work drinks at a table of people! I got on with her well in general but i thought that was hideously inappropriate.

SunflowerOwl · 14/04/2021 14:28

Due in August and I keep getting people tell me how uncomfortable and hot I'm going to be towards the end.

I KNOW. But I cant exactly pop the baby on ice until autumn can I so stop mentioning it!

timeforanewnameagain · 14/04/2021 14:39

I had one man at work tell me when I was having my first, after asking me how long I had to go and me telling him two weeks, a horribly sad story about a lady he knew who had a stillbirth! I mean why oh why would you do that?!

mimofboy2 · 14/04/2021 15:27

Most annoying one was ppl telling me to get plenty of sleep whilst I still could with my first. I was uncomfortable so not able to sleep well anyway plus you couldn't magically store itHmm

LolaSmiles · 14/04/2021 15:29

I was asked by a colleague if a pregnancy was a surprise or not. It seems some people are very surprised that a woman might want children and promotions.

Sceptre86 · 15/04/2021 14:25

@BeeyatchPlease not just you. My nose gets bigger at the end of my pregnancies, at least it has with the last two. Nice to meet another person who has experienced this!

Mintjulia · 15/04/2021 14:32

When I told my boss I was expecting, he said "fcking hll, how old are you?"

And a strange woman standing in the queue at Tesco one lunchtime got all het up and told me I wasn't fit to be a mother, and then stormed off. I was completely bemused until the cashier said it was because I was holding a prawn mayonnaise sandwich.

People can be seriously weird !

Fleamaker123 · 15/04/2021 14:36

Are you supposed to be that shape?

LittleTiger007 · 15/04/2021 16:18

At just 10 weeks pregnant my dad told me I need to lose weight. He knew I was pregnant...
ok so I’m overweight. But why is it suddenly ok to be rude and say it once I’m pregnant?
“I’ll lose the weight once I’m breastfeeding dad. This is no time to go on a diet!”

LittleTiger007 · 15/04/2021 16:24

I’m in my 40s and DH is older still. We’ve been trying for years and had given up hope. Then I fell pregnant. People suddenly feel it’s their God given right to air their concerns about our age... like it’s any of their business.
Just because you wouldn’t want a baby at our age doesn’t mean we are wet behind the ears about what’s coming.
It’s as if a big pregnant belly removes the filter on some people and they all feel the right to voice their opinion however insulting.

Fleamaker123 · 15/04/2021 16:32

@LittleTiger007

I’m in my 40s and DH is older still. We’ve been trying for years and had given up hope. Then I fell pregnant. People suddenly feel it’s their God given right to air their concerns about our age... like it’s any of their business. Just because you wouldn’t want a baby at our age doesn’t mean we are wet behind the ears about what’s coming. It’s as if a big pregnant belly removes the filter on some people and they all feel the right to voice their opinion however insulting.
I got this too. Someone told me I was 'brave' having a baby in my 40's. A simple 'congratulations' would've done!
fastandthecurious · 15/04/2021 16:34

If I had a pound for everytime someone mentioned how big I was with DS I would've been so very very rich 😂 my bump was massive to be fair but it still drove me up the wall. Every time we went to visit DH gran she would comment and say 'oh it must be twins I've never seen a bump that big for one🙄'
Another weird one was a woman come up to me in the shops and just rubbed my tummy and said when are you due. I told her I wasn't pregnant and she was mortified, serves her right !

PinkPlantCase · 15/04/2021 16:44

A June baby - You’ll be able to dry the nappies on the washing line Grin

When arranging the length of my maternity leave - Do you actually want to be a mum?! Confused

KindnessCrusader · 15/04/2021 17:29

'Planned!'
I wish I could go back in time and react appropriately!

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