SI Graduates - From pots to bumps

[eloiseislost]

@AdriannaP
@ComebackQueen

I think it's just us at the moment (sorry if I forgot anyone) but hoping that more and more of us will be joining soon!
I figured it would be nice to stay in touch here too, throughout the exciting yet nerve-wracking next stages! 💞

How are you getting on? 🙂

@Makingnumber2 Tuna subway is amazing! 🤤 I don't know if it's because the midwife said I can only have 4 cans of tuna a week (which is a lot really), but all I want to eat is tuna in this pregnancy! 😄

@primrosechill I waited until the second trimester to get my second dose, mainly because I didn't want any side-effects, however mild, on top of the fatigue and constant nausea. You're only 4 weeks away now, so may as well hold off!
I would just tell a 'white lie' to the friends that you've already had it. Everyone is so excited and hopeful about the vaccination programme, it's odd if you think about it -normally people don't talk about jabs that much! 😁

I'm 22 weeks tomorrow, I have a proper bump now and my bottom has expanded by 3 inches! 🍑🙈
My friend from Holland sent me a package with lots of 0-3M baby clothes and OMG my heart is melting!!! 💓💓💓

@eloiseislost I am really craving tuna too! So weird. I guess our bodies must be fancying the protein. Your bump is lovely! I am all bloat and also flab. Can't wait for a proper bump to pop at some point. The clothes from your friend are so sweet too- bet you can't wait until bubba is here to fill them Also love your cat's face in the bump pic- it's almost like they've suspected something big is coming very soon!!

I agree with eloise @primrosechill just lie and say you've had first dose. If anyone asks me I will either say this or say it's booked for 2 weeks time as I needed a Saturday appointment and they're hard to come by in my area.
My booking appointment was good- saw the same lovely midwife as before and we re-used my blue book of notes from March so the whole process was very speedy! Also she managed to get all my bloods first time which was amazing because last time the student midwife didn't manage to get anything despite several (painful) attempts. I'm just waiting to hear when my 12 week scan is now and have my next appointment booked in for 16 weeks which feels ages away but hopefully will come round quickly.
I also showed my mum the scan video from Monday which she was very excited by so that was nice to share too- it's so amazing you can see the start of tiny arms and legs waving about!
No idea what has happened to the weather but it's rained since 9 here! I feel like a terrible mother as sent DD to nursery in shorts, t shirts and jelly shoes. Luckily there's a cardi and spare leggings in her rucksack but the staff must think I'm insane Gonna blame it on baby brain

@eloiseislost what a lovely bump 🥰 and yay for baby clothes. How's the nursery coming together?

And @Makingnumber2 so glad you had a lovely midwife and that you were able to share your wonderful news with your mum. My mum knows because she knew when I was going through IVF but we haven't told my husband's parents yet - we're waiting for the 12 week scan (booked on 1st July)

I booked my harmony test (together with a private scan) for 15th June - can't wait to see the little one again (I wish I could buy myself a home scan so I could see the bean every day 😂) and I should hopefully see some proper baby wiggles in there!

I really dont want to jinx it but now that I'm 8+5 I feel like my anxiety and MC fears are slowly starting to go away - I am very cautiously optimistic that this one is here to stay 🥰 @Makingnumber2 how are you doing anxiety wise these days? X

@primrosechill Thanks! 💞
We haven't started on the nursery. We just moved to this house and it's a new build, so the walls should not be painted for another 9-12 months. Our bedroom is very big (the entire second floor is basically a bedroom + en suite), so I'm thinking we will keep the cot here at first and, once we can properly decorate and she is old enough to sleep in her own room, we will set up a proper nursery.
The plan is to go shopping for a travel system today, we need to find one that fits my tiny Fiat 500! 🚗
I should be excited about shopping but today I feel very anxious. 😥 I don't know why, I'm just feeling a bit overwhelmed today. It doesn't help that I'm 22 weeks, with anterior placenta, first baby, and the movements are not yet settled into a pattern. I can definitely feel her now, but maybe twice a day in short bursts only. 😔
Sorry to be a downer, after you said you feel more optimistic today!! Pregnancy related anxiety is a given imho, but it's so much less as the weeks go by -it's never as bad as the first few weeks. 🙂

Hello all, I seem to have missed lots of news. I was in hospital for a bit as I'm still really sick and needed fluids. Lovely to hear all the brilliant news re scans 🥰. And oh my goodness you have a lovely bump @eloiseislost

Treated myself and DP to a private scan today so he could meet baby as they are still really strict with restrictions at my hospital. 17+2 today. Very healthy looking baby and he's a boy 😍💙. I can't believe it, I was convinced I was having another little girl but we are both thrilled.

I hope everyone is doing well, I know the anxiety can be so rough. Thinking of you all xx

@Bluey18 awww yay congrats on the healthy boy! Seems to me like recently all the babies that my friends are having are girls - a boy seems like a rare species 😆 sorry you've been feeling so unwell and needed to be hospitalised though!! Are you a bit better now?

@eloiseislost I think it's so completely normal to experience ups and downs and have these bouts of anxiety! I hope that the shopping managed to put you in a more relaxed and excited mood after all but don't be too harsh on yourself if it hasn't - just big breaths and one day at a time ❤️

@Bluey18 Congratulations!!! 💙💙💙
Sorry to hear you are still struggling with sickness, how are you feeling these days?

Thank you both, I'm a bit better now, still medicated and I've kinda resigned myself to the fact I might be sick all the way through. Between SI, sickness, pain, this baby will have been very hard earned 😅. All worth it though 💕

I hope everyone is doing well, time seems to be flying 😊

Hello ladies and bumps! ❤️💗💙
How is everyone?
23+4 here, time is flying! Does anyone else count the time left in weekends and panicking? I keep telling DH that we have a maximum of 17 weekends until she's here minus the one we will be on holiday and a few of others that we have plans with friends! So we better get organised!! Is this nesting? 🤣
We have bought most of the big things we wanted: the travel system, an extra car seat, the cot, the changing table/chest of drawers, a moses basket and a baby carrier. I will look into clothing, bedding and smaller stuff a bit later.

Hi @eloiseislost sooo exciting about nesting and preparing for the little one - I can't wait for that phase, too. Meanwhile, we're still searching for a house 😱

I have some news today! I'm 10+1 and had my harmony test today and also got a scan with it. Baby is measuring exactly what it should by now and also apparently being very active haha - we saw it wiggle its limbs and move around loads. Can't believe how much has changed since the first early scan already! I'm over the moon and excited to be out of the first trimester very soon. I should get my harmony results back next week and find out the gender too, eeek!

How is everyone else doing? It's been quiet on here! xx

@primrosechill It's a nice phase to be, less anxiety compared to the first trimester and less fear of childbirth compared to the third trimester. Plus all the cute baby stuff!! 💕 You'll be there before you know it! 😉
Such wonderful news from your scan! We also did the harmony test at 10 weeks and found out the gender. It was well worth the money, extra peace of mind and extra time to pick the name! 😃 By our 12-week scan we know her name and she was no longer "it". 💓

In other news, I've gained 20lbs already… I'm now officially overweight per BMI. My appetite is literally insatiable! We were out at a restaurant last Saturday and I started crying after finishing my meal because I still felt hungry. Poor DH didn't know what to do! 🥺
Midwife told me to stop weighing myself but I'm so used to doing it daily, it's hard to stop.

Hi everyone- I've been hopeless responding on the thread- sorry!
@Bluey18 what wonderful news- a beautiful baby boy on the way! How exciting! So sorry you're still feeling so sick though. Has it eased at all?

@primrosechill oh wow what a brilliant scan pic- so clear! So pleased everything is looking good and you saw baby wiggles! I'm so jealous you'll get to find out the gender so soon too!

@eloiseislost definitely sounds like nesting to me! You sound very organised though so I really wouldn't worry too much. It is so lovely and exciting to be choosing all the new bits though!

Time sadly does not feel like it's flying my end- in fact it feels like it's moving at snail's pace. I am 11w2d today and have my 12 week scan next Wednesday which I'm so anxious about. So scared I'll go and it'll just be a black hole staring back. My DH has managed to book time off work to come which I'm relieved about because I think I will struggle to hold it together tbh before we've even got in the room. The good news is my nausea has eased up a tiny bit- which I'm so grateful for but the disgusting excess saliva issue has sadly not resolved yet. I'm so exhausted every day from work and struggling to sleep well at the mo due to heat- so I cannot wait for tonight's predicted rain and thunderstorms and a cooler couple of nights! I'm also trying to eat a GD diet to avoid developing GD which I feel I am at real risk of due to my weight. If I do develop it it would mean I cannot birth in the birthing centre again, in water etc. and I am so desperate to birth there like I did last time so that's my motivator! It has made me feel quite stressed and miserable but think I'm finally getting into my groove with it and have been enjoying lots of smoked salmon so cannot complain

Hi everyone! @Makingnumber2 I hope you've been able to get a couple of good nights' rest in since the temperatures have dropped! I'll be keeping my fingers crossed that your 12w scan goes well, I'm sure it will ❤️ keep us posted on here on Wednesday.

@eloiseislost have you given much thought to how you would like to give birth? It's still a very long way to go for me but I'm torn between wanting to try the natural way at a birthing center and going straight to hospital for an epidural - because of my vaginismus, I am quite petrified of the pain. I am going to speak to a consultant in a few weeks to get their thoughts. @Makingnumber2 it sounds like you had a very good experience with a birthing center before?

I'm 10+5 today and I have to say overall I have been lucky enough to have a pretty seamless forst trimester so far - my only real symptom is INSANE tiredness at the moment, slept 10h last night and could go for another nap right about now - I guess it's to be expected as I'm growing both a human being and a placenta ha.

Hi all! Hope everyone is keeping well! I’m 19+3 today. No movement and hardly any bump over here, I’m a bit put out about it as it’s my second baby but I do know I have an anterior placenta which explains why I haven’t felt anything yet! 20 week scan is actually at 22 weeks next month and feels like a lifetime away! I’m still throwing up most days, feeling like I’m in groundhog day a bit!

@primrosechill Oh my goodness, look at that sweet little baby. I love seeing them at that stage when they are wiggling and look like little humans, I can never work out what I’m seeing at the earlier scans. Congrats! So exciting to find out the gender too, thrilled for you that all is going well.

@eloiseislost I’m really behind on planning this time. Our move in date for new house has been pushed to two weeks after my due date!!!! And I really didn’t want to buy more stuff until we moved but will have to now. Thankfully have a lot of the big things from DD. Please don’t worry about the weight. I put on 4 stone with DD despite being quite slim before hand. I just had to look at food and I put weight on. It all came off slowly but surely after she was born. I’ve put on 15lbs this time so far and I was a bit heavier starting, but I’m sure it will come off again! Try to put the scales away if you can. Oh, but I do suggest weighing yourself before you give birth and after, that’s quite fun to see the difference haha.

@makingnumber2 Hello lovely, I’m sorry to hear time is dragging for you. I hope the time until Weds flies for you. It’s great that your DH can come with you. Will be thinking of you Weds xx.

And I hope everyone else is doing well too :D

@primrosechill My midwife mentioned birthing options at my 22-week appointment. She was really pushing a home birth or at the birthing suite. She talked about epidurals delaying labour and increasing interventions, blah blah blah. I'm actually not sure what I want! The midwife said to think of home birth as "labouring at home" which is appealing, but I'd hate to occupy the time of two on-call midwives, only to end up wanting to go into the hospital for an epidural anyway. We will have another discussion at the 28-week appointment, maybe I'll have more of an idea of what I want by then.
Good idea to speak to a consultant! 👍🏼 And it's never too early to start preparing for such a major life event! 😉💓

@Bluey18 DH mercifully hid the scales from me! 🤣
So are you going to move potentially 2 weeks after the baby is here?! Might I suggest a packing service? It's an extra cost but, by God, its value is actually priceless. We moved from a 4-bedroom property and everything was perfectly packed on the day, within 4 hours, while we were watching TV. Unpacking is still a work in progress 2 months later, but that's a story for another day. 😅

I don't know why I agreed to this but I'm currently on a canal boat holiday with DH and his family. I blame the fact that I'm not British so I had no freaking clue what a narrow boat is!!
It's day 3 and it's been a LH absolute nightmare, with the highlight being that yesterday one of the toilets blocked and the whole boat stank to the point that DH and I spent the night in a Travelodge. I dread going back to the boat today, but at least DH and I are in agreement that if the toilet is not fixed, we would just head back home. I secretly wish that is the case to be honest. 🙄

Hey ladies

Sorry it seems I only use this thread now to moan and rant.

HG shows no signs of abatement, zofran is one of three anti sickies Im currently on three times a day. Still feel absolutely miserable tbh and I’ve been crying no end and, sometimes I don’t even know why.

I’ll start with the positives, I’ve now had my 20 Week scan and We are having a boy! I kinda felt I would because there’s like no boys on either side of the family bar one so, plus based on heart beat range at 12 week scan, it indicated most likely a boy. I just want him to be as healthy as possible.

Now, the worrying bit which has sent me over the edge.

So on the abnormalities scan or whatever the hell it’s called, my artery which is connected to the placenta shows extremely high resistance on my right hand side and the left is within the range but upper end.

I need extra scans at 24/28 & 32 weeks but sonographer said consultant might change this to weekly.

I’ve googled over the weekend and it all looks really gloomy. Low birth weight, premature and some even, I don’t even want to type it out.

I’m waiting for the midwife to call me back to discuss but feel so hopeless at the moment.
Does anyone know what this high resistance regarding uterine means?

I’m tempted to ring my GP who I think, since my pregnancy have offered better care than my midwife.
All the best medication came from either a hospital stay or my GP.

I’m supposed to start work next week as well because I’ve been off forever and a day but don’t think I have the mental capacity to do so.

Sorry to be a Debbie downer whilst everyone else has fabulous news.

Hi @Comebackqueen, sorry to hear you are still so ill. I know how you feel, it just saps absolutely everything out of you and I honestly wonder if I’ll ever feel normal again (which is silly but it is a very long time to feel so sick!). So lovely to hear you are having a boy, welcome to Team Blue .

I’m sorry to hear about the findings at your scan, what a horrible shock to have. I don’t know an awful lot about it but my friend had it with her last pregnancy. She ended up having her son at 36, nearly 37 weeks. He was 5lbs 12oz which was really good as she is very petite and all her other babies were just over 7lbs full-term! Both were home 3 days later. She had been put on some sort of medication (sorry, I don’t know what) and had been told there was a chance it would resolve itself, in her case it didn’t and she had other complications as well which meant they decided to induce her, but you can see, she still had a really good outcome and her son was just fine. I would stay away from google, talk to your GP or midwife instead xx. And take as much time off work as you need, your’s and baby’s health is most important.

@eloiseislost You have just blown my mind with the packing service suggestion, that had never occurred to me, I will be definitely looking into that! That or calling in a lot of favours with friends in exchange for newborn snuggles!! Sorry to hear about the boat trip, that sounds hellish. If ever there was a time to stamp your foot and say bring me home, it’s when you’re pregnant… Just saying!

@Bluey18 how apt is your username then, glad there’s someone having a boy too.

Thanks for your lovely reassuring words, glad to hear a reassuring story with a happy outcome.
I’ve already requested a telephone appointment with my GP and the booking system shows I’ve got it scheduled tomorrow afternoon. I find my midwife takes a while to come back so rather speak to someone earlier and with, more expertise? LOL

I’m going to just try avoid stress and see if I can get my sick note extended for another few weeks. By then I’ll have had or be close to the next scan.

I’ve read stress makes this worse and to be as positive as possible. I’ll be forcing myself to get out of bed now for walks as that releases endorphins. I’ll also up my diary and vegetables intake as HG means I could only keep carbs down & even then, it would be vomited out at some point 😂

Hi all- lovely to hear from everyone!

@eloiseislost you poor thing the boat situation does sound hellish tbh especially with this weather too! Hope the holiday comes to a swift end for you...

@primrosechill I know what you mean about the tiredness! I am asleep by 8.30 most nights which is only an hour after my 3yo! Yes I did birth in midwife led birth centre with my first-it was at end of corridor from delivery suite in the hospital so it felt nice to know if things did go awry then I could be easily wheeled the 10m for more medicalised support. And Eloise that’s the exact reason why I didn’t opt for homebirth because I didn’t know how I would cope with only
Gas and air and knew how much an ambulance transfer would stress me out and stall labour etc. I would say birth centre for me was perfect half way between homebirth and hospital delivery. The rooms at my local birth centre are particularly lovely- all en suite, all have birth pools - it was more like a spa 😂

@Bluey18 gosh all go at your end with house moving things. I second what Eloise said and think look into a packing and removals company- take some of the stress out of it for you.

@ComebackQueen lovely news about your little boy but so sorry to hear the sickness is still going and also about the latest news. I really recommend Tommys helpline- you can ring them about any worries you have in your pregnancy and qualified midwives call you back and are so lovely and explain everything. I’m sure they would have more info about what you’ve been told. Keep us posted on what you find out.

I’m 12 weeks today and am counting hours till wednesdays scan!

Sorry it’s me again! I’m having a little wobble about the vaccine after reading all the press reports about 4K women reporting heavy and disrupted periods after the vaccine. I’m due to get mine Saturday but am just stressed about these reports coming out. I know my risk factors are high because of my weight and my job and I need to be vaccinated but I’m also terrified after reading this stuff that it could cause heavy bleeding and therefore MC? Anyone got any helpful links to reassure??

Hi @Makingnumber2, it's such a personal choice I feel. I am in Ireland and we are a bit further behind with vaccines but I've been thinking about it an awful lot and personally i will be getting it when I'm eligible. There are known associated risks of catching Covid in the third trimester (including in rare cases preterm birth and stillbirth) and I could find no verified study about a link between the vaccine and miscarriages etc, so for me I feel the vaccine is the better option.

Someone sent me this thread on twitter from an immunologist and I found it very reassuring, she links various studies. Best of luck making your decision xx. mobile.twitter.com/VikiLovesFACS/status/1393107478632714240

Hello ladies, I missed quite a bit on here in just a couple of days!

@ComebackQueen I'm so sorry to hear about your news and that it's adding to your stress levels at the moment - I would be the same as you, googling loads and getting worried about the worst case scenarios but like someone else on here said it can also pan out okay ❤️ maybe seek out some forums on mumsnet that talk about this in particular to get some peer support? And as someone else said, there are organisations like Tommy's with some wonderful medical experts to talk to!

@Makingnumber2 thank you for sharing your birth experiences. Same as you, I definitely wouldn't be brave enough to give home birth a go - I just need to know that medical health (and epidural lol) is one short roll away! @eloiseislost it's interesting that your midwife is actually pushing for home birth a bit, I would have thought if the midwife-led unit is an option, there would always recommend that unless the mother was really keen on home birth.

On the vaccine front, I've decided to have mine in second trimester (didnt want to do it in the first even though I'm already eligible because the pregnancy is still so wobbly in early days, although I know there is technically no evidence against it). The risks of getting covid in third trimester for me outweigh the potential unknown risks post pregnancy, but it's so tough - it's all so new and you're so scared knowing you're making a decision for two!

I got my harmony results back today and just read the email saying it's all within norm 🥰 but I'm not opening the attachment yet as my husband is not home and the document includes the baby's sex eeeeek!! So either later tonight or first thing tomorrow (he's not back until 11.30 which is like 2 hours past my bedtime these days lol) we'll know if we're having a boy or a girl!!!

THanks @Bluey18 for that link I’m going to sit down and look at that in my lunch break. I think my anxiety generally is just sky high because of the scan tomorrow- and reading those articles just sent me over the edge! Logically and rationally I know the risk of not being vaccinated is far greater. I just need this scan done and then I can tell work and get a risk assessment in place because right now I am afforded zero protection from covid. About 5% of teens in my school are bothering to wear masks and even staff members of my team aren’t bothering and aren’t distancing. It’s so stressful.

@primrosechill eeek that’s such great news about the harmony test showing everything looking good and how exciting you’ll find out the sex later today!! Update us when you can- I’m excited for you! 🥰

Update: We're having a little girl 🥰

@primrosechill

Update: We're having a little girl 🥰

Congratulations on all the results coming back ok and on a baby girl! So exciting :)