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Refused Antenatal Scans - Help

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MotherHubbard2020 · 12/02/2021 13:43

NC for this as it is pretty embarrassing.

Anyway, I attended my 12 week scan yesterday at the hospital and was accompanied by my exclusively breastfed baby.

I was refused the scan based on me having a child with me, I asked them to use discretion as my son is exclusively breastfed but the lady was completely dismissive and said it was policy. No children allowed to accompany mum for the unltrasound.

I tried to argue my case asking what the reasoning was, please use discretion and then explained that they had a duty of care and were now refusing my care based on me bringing an exclusively breastfed baby to the appointment. They argued that I had refused my own care as I could’ve left the baby. It got to the point where I asked them to make a note on my record that I had been refused entry to my scan based on me being accompanied by an exclusively breastfed baby. At this point I think the manager panicked and she told a colleague to call security.

As soon as I saw security walking towards me I just left.

Well today I attended my midwifery appointment, the midwife explained they couldn’t do much without the scan information but said the scan department was now refusing to scan me and an incident report had been logged, if I want access to this I need to file a freedom of information request.

I am totally at a loss, I have no idea how far gone I am because I am still breastfeeding and my menstrual cycles have been all over the place plus I’ve started having pain on my lower left side which I explained to my midwife today who advised A and E if it got any worse but explained that the ultrasound department at that hospital are refusing to deal with me so she doesn’t know what would happen.

I am totally at a loss, I have an immediate family member who is a consultant obstetrician but am reluctant to get them involved yet. Any suggestions?

OP posts:

Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

Covidcorvid · 12/02/2021 15:54

@MotherHubbard2020

I’m having antenatal care at the same hospital, security never escorted me out. I just attend my antenatal appointments but have been refused by ultrasound.

Have you been permanently refused by scan or just on this day?

You’re refusing to answer so many questions Inc the age of the baby. It makes the whole story seem exaggerated and shifty

Bluntness100 · 12/02/2021 15:55

I suspect I know who this poster is, and the child is two or three.

Jangirl03 · 12/02/2021 15:55

OP how old is your baby? Why couldn’t you leave the baby with someone else?

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MotherHubbard2020 · 12/02/2021 15:55

They’re going forward with my care without scans by the sound of it. I had my bloods done today but they explained I couldn’t have Downs Syndrome screening as there was no ultrasound. My son is the calmest, sweetest baby and I had baby’s car seat with me so baby would be no trouble if they were allowed to be with me through my care.

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Covidcorvid · 12/02/2021 15:55

I’m also going for 2yo.

Bluntness100 · 12/02/2021 15:56

Have you been permanently refused by scan or just on this day?

It’s permanent. Which they are allowed to do for non emergency care if a patient is abusive, aggressive or violent.

TinyTear · 12/02/2021 15:56

I say 18 months and that is being generous

katnyps · 12/02/2021 15:56

This thread is verging on bullying Op - I suggest you disengage and ask an actual breastfeeding forum for advice.

TheFairyCaravan · 12/02/2021 15:57

@katnyps

I would expect that the hospital's policy has no details of how the relevant department should assess just how long each individual patients baby is expected to reasonably go between feeds - just that reasonable efforts should be made to avoid separating a mum and breastfeeding baby. It shouldn't be on the patient to prove just how long their baby would be going without feeding if they had to, say, leave them with a relative over an hour away from the hospital and then end up waiting for a delayed appointment.

They don’t need to leave the baby with a relative an hour away. They could take the relative and the baby to the hospital and both could wait in the car. In these times she’d have been in and out swiftly.

It speaks volumes that you’re refusing to say how old your baby is @MotherHubbard2020

eloiseclay · 12/02/2021 15:57

@MotherHubbard2020 I understand where you are coming from but it would have been clearly set out in any letters you have received that no children are allowed to any of your appointments.
Unfortunately there are well within their rights to refuse to preform your scan

Bluntness100 · 12/02/2021 15:57

@katnyps

This thread is verging on bullying Op - I suggest you disengage and ask an actual breastfeeding forum for advice.

It’s nothing to do with breast feeding 😂

nellly · 12/02/2021 15:57

Oh dear you sound very entitled and not listening to anyone's else opinion about it! You've consistently ignored questions about how old the baby is. It's irrelevant that he's a good baby that's not the point of the rule.
I recommend you go private for scans, they have different rules, I had a scan yesterday with oh there which isn't allowed on nhs

atThecrossroad · 12/02/2021 15:57

It’s only EBF if baby is under 6m and not started weaning at all so if OPs baby is over 6m then ebf is irrelevant.

Was it a childcare issue as well OP?

stormy11 · 12/02/2021 15:58

Why does your baby need to be with you? Why can't you leave DS with your DP/DH?

Twizbe · 12/02/2021 15:58

You're still not saying how old baby is.

I bet you were rude, even if you don't realise it.

Children do not belong in certain medical appointments. If you need to take them you need to ask first.

BigBadVoodooHat · 12/02/2021 15:58

[quote MsHedgehog]@MotherHubbard2020

You're still not answering the question, and your refusal to answer a question that dozens of people have asked suggests your baby is far more than 6 months old...

How old is your baby?[/quote]
I suspect someone is playing a little game with us all now: 'name changed' regular with a couple of hot-button issues (breastfeeding discrimination, the NHS being meanies)

Covidcorvid · 12/02/2021 15:58

So they haven’t said they’re refusing scans for the rest of the pregnancy at all.

You can either flounce and sulk or you can ring up and sort out another appt. how many weeks gestation are you now, you may still be able to have a nuchal fold measurement scan. If beyond 14 weeks then no.....so it would be correct that there’s no point. Though they could still do it for dating purposes. But you certainly need to get the anomaly scan arranged.

TheFairyCaravan · 12/02/2021 15:58

@katnyps

This thread is verging on bullying Op - I suggest you disengage and ask an actual breastfeeding forum for advice.

Oh get a grip. Just because it’s only you who agrees with the OP doesn’t mean the rest of us are bullying her

TitusPullo · 12/02/2021 15:58

@katnyps - can you explain what your takeaway from this thread is that would require breastfeeding advice? I’m really confused by what you are reading?

PolarnOPirate · 12/02/2021 15:59

@Bluntness100

I suspect I know who this poster is, and the child is two or three.

Soooo not a baby then... although OP does say she had a car seat with her... I'm just imagining lugging a High Back Booster into the waiting room indignantly....

MsHedgehog · 12/02/2021 15:59

@katnyps

This is nothing to do with breastfeeding. Why don't you get that...?

The fact her baby is breastfed is irrelevant. The hospital policy is no babies at scan. She ignored that policy and demanded the hospital make an exception to her. She was so aggressive and / or abusive to staff that they called security and banned her. OP is in the wrong, no question about it.

Nothing whatsoever to do with breastfeeding... You seem to be obsessed with that point...

MangoWeetabix · 12/02/2021 15:59

@MotherHubbard2020

Your son is not special! Do you really think you’re the only mother breastfeeding who had to attend for a scan? Yet everyone else makes arrangements to attend alone.

Covidcorvid · 12/02/2021 15:59

suspect someone is playing a little game with us all now: 'name changed' regular with a couple of hot-button issues (breastfeeding discrimination, the NHS being meanies

I agree, I think I recognise the poster.

CrazyCatLazy · 12/02/2021 16:00

Your belligerent attitude and refusal to answer basically questions throughout your own thread shows exactly why you’re having issues with your care.

eloiseclay · 12/02/2021 16:00

Even before the pandemic they asked you not to bring other children with you

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