Anyone due mid 2003?

[Ghosty]

Hello!

I told Katherine I would start this thread! Are you there Katherine? Am feeling shy now!!!

really well thanks Katherine, feeling a bit 'fuller' this week (now 14 wks) and boobs getting bigger! good news Miriam re: scan, keeping lots of things crossed for you

Hi all

back from my holiday which was great, but am walking zombie with jet lag. aaargh.

had scan today - just the one which i'm most relieved about as twins run in my family. plus have started to feel movement.

still no disappearance of nausea at 12 weeks, although funnily enough did feel much less sick on holiday. Maybe I am just allergic to family life and england????

Ooooh, lots of mums to be!! Hurray and welcome everyone to our little 'gang'!

Feeling like absolute poo right now - seems worse in the afternoons and evenings ... the only thing that makes me feel better is the actual act of eating ... will pile on the weight at this rate (put on 4 stone with DS!!!)

Having to go private for my 12 week scan - they don't seem to be into it yet here in NZ, they only offer it if you are over 35 and seemed very surprised when I said that where I lived in the UK everyone got it. The lady I spoke to seemed very reluctant to even let me pay for it - but I was adamant...

Feeling a little low (I remember feeling like this with DS) because it has come back to me that no-one sees your pregnancy as the important thing that you see it as (am I making sense) and when I rang up the antenatal clinic here the lady almost laughed when I said I was only 8 weeks. She virtually made me feel that I wasn't really pregnant... I cried when I came off the phone, especially because she didn't seem to understand that I wanted to be put under a consultant as I had had to have a C-Section with DS ... she kept going on about getting to know the midwife that would deliver me. I kept telling her that it was unlikely that I would be delivered naturally but she seemed to be deaf ...

Sorry, didn't mean for this to turn into a moan...I am happy really, I just don't want a repeat of last time ...

Sorry percy, meant to say welcome back from your holiday and glad the scan went well - twins only run in my husband's family so I think we'll be alright!!

Movement already, do you feel it earlier than No 1 then?

Hi Ghosty - sorry you are feeling a bit rotten. I usually pick up in the afternoon a bit but then crash in the evening. My stomach seems to expand at 6pm and I feel really bloated and sick. I'm sure its something to do with feeling so tired, but I haven't been able to eat my evening meal fully for the last couple of weeks. Frustrating at DH is trying to hard to satisfy my cravings for chees and potatos, bless him

I also know what you mean about not counting enough at this stage of pg. I read somewhere yesterday that MW don't book you in until at least 8 wks to reduce the numbers of mc. Excuse Me! It doesn't mean there are any less, just that people don't get the support they need. Made me really angry. I've not booked in yet as I can't bear to just fill in the forms and be sent away for another month as it seems so pointless.

Early pg is hard. You feel rotten, your emotions are all over the place and you don't even look pg and very few people are aware of how you feel. Hang on in there, I will be 9wks tomorrow - time is ticking on slowely and hopefully movement will begin earlier this time too and we can all start to get really excited. We all now what we have in there and are all pulling together to get through these first, sometimes exciting but often gloomy weeks

Hi Ghosty and rest of gang
Sorry you are having a hard time at moment ghosty. Sometimes I want to shout I'm pregnant on the bus so I'll get a seat - it is rubbish that this is one of the most tiring times in pregnancy yet no-one really knows.

I honestly cannot remember when I first felt the baby move last time round. Plus all my pregnancy/ childcare books are stored in the basement since our recent move so I can't look any thing up. Anyway, it could be indigestion - who knows???

Thanks for the kind words Katherine and percy ... feeling a lot happier today, must have been one of those days yesterday!

Percy, I have heard that you feel movement earlier than with the first baby as you know what you are feeling...so I am sure you are right and it is not indigestion! I was sure I felt DS at 18 weeks, but it was more a shift of weight from one side of my tummy to the other rather than the 'butterfly' movements that I had read about. I was in the middle of teaching a lesson to a bunch of rowdy 10 year olds and was in the process of telling them off when I felt it and I just went all silly and told them all what I had felt ... they were so sweet about it!! Needless to say they got away with murder on that day!

Hi everyone, hope it's not too late to jump in on this one. I'm 6 wks gone with second pregnancy and worried I don't feel ill enough! Felt terrible from 5 and a bit wks with DD but this time - so far at least - am feeling pretty well, just slightly sick and a bit more tired than usual. ALso very few aches and pains down below which I had loads of last time. It sounds mad to complain but I can't help worrying there's something wrong and keep wanting to do another test to check it's still positive (this baby was conceived on my 40th birthday !! and I'm really conscious of all the possible problems "at my age".

I'm due 9 April with no.2 and had my scan last Thursday - everything as it should be with the sonographer even able to point out lenses forming in the eyes!!

Definitely felt worse this time than last. With no.1 my only symptoms were sore boobs, fatigue and acne (nice!). This time I've been depressed, nauseous (but not actual puking), tired, bloated, constipated, needing to pee, greasy hair etc. but fortunately not so spotty and boobs not so sore. With no.1 they used to wake me up it was so sore.

Hope that everyone who is/was feeling rough is now feeling better. The first 12 weeks for me seemed to drag but looking back the time flew.

Next appt. is 31 Oct. for AFP bloods.

Hi Jodiesmum, Congratulations and welcome (and also to Tigerfeet ) . It so difficult early on isn't it. Either you feel absolutlu awful and can't function and get miserable about that, or you don't feel bad enough which is scary in itself. I feel terrible this time and have to admit it is SOOoooo reassuring. But with my last two I had very few symptoms early on and everything was fine. Just take it one day at a time and eventually time will pass until you can be reasurred with scans, movement etc. Until then I know its hard.

I am 17 weeks just now - due end of March with #2. #1 will be 3 at the beginning of March. Is this too far gone to join this group?

I hope not,as for this one, I am a full time Mum, and miles away from family (I'm in London, they'r in Edinburgh) so it completely different.

Feel more realxed this time, although definately more tired, although I can remember with #1 coming straight home from work and going to bed. God what luxury, AND lying in bed past 8am!

Thank god to see, others are bigger in second pregancy, I think I have been wearing my Asda Maternity jean forever!

Hope to hear from all over the next few months

Hi Deegward, congratutions. I'm dead jealous you know , terrible to wish our pg away isn't it but I can't wait to be at the point you are at. Starting to feel more human again, being able to show off a bump and feeling movement. Have you felt anything yet? I felt my first at 17 weeks when we got on the Ferry to Ireland for a holiday. I think it must have been the vibration of the engines. It was such a lovely way to start the holiday and by the time we came home DH could feel it too. With no2 it was slightly earlier about 15 weeks I think - so I've still got another 6 weeks to go, although from reading other threads about extra padding "muffling" the kicks I think it'll be about 30 weeks this time. By evening my bump is so big already that I look like I'm about to pop! Know what you mean about the tiredness though. My two little angels let me go back to bed this morning and played quietly to let them sleep. I didn't get up till 10am. A record (although I was up at 6am to take DH to the station). They are my favourite people right now (DH being least fav. )

deegward, hi, I'm 15 wks this week, due 8 April, glad you could join us. my dd will be 2 yrs 9 mths by then..so similar sort of age gap. how's your little one received the news?

Bundle, #1 saw baby in scan at 12 weeks, and point sit out to anyone who passes our fridge. Although he has resorted to saying Mama, which he never said even as a baby it was always Mummy, so expecting reverses to nappies etc. We have said that he will have to give the baby his dummies, but I know that is just a pipe dream.

Katherine, its hard enough with one little one, how do you cope with two?

It seems everywhere is different for scans etc, I just seem to be left to get on with it this time, as have only seen Midwife twice, or was this the same last time, and my brain has finally gone.

Anyhoo, great to see we are all due around the same time, god scary thought. Just think of those nights ahead when you can't make it throught hte night without a pee!!

Deegward, there are 18 months between them so it was hard when they were little (you have to cross a footbridge to get to our house and I'll never forget lugging two babies plus shopping over there. Had bulging biceps and lost loads of weight! But after the first few months it got easier and now its great as they look after one another and play together,leaving me in bed (occassionally). The youngest will be 3 when no3 arrives so it should be easier this time and I'm hoping I'll have a gang of little helpers running round after me ( )

Mws never bother with you much early on do they. I've not even bothered booking in yet but I suppose I should now so they can organise my 12 week scan. I seem to remember going along all excited only to be told to come back in another month. Bit of a let down really.

Hi Jodiesmum, tigerfeet and Deegward - glad you've joined in too!

This pregnancy malarky is funny isn't it? I mean, when I was pg with DS 1 I thought 'How could anyone do this more than once?'. I felt the same for about 2 years after he was born but strangely all of a sudden I became madly broody - hence pregnancy No 2! Now, my point is ... although I feel much worse than I did the first time around (more tired, more sick, more weepy etc) I don't have those feelings of 'What on earth possessed me to do this?' I surprised myself the other night when I looked in on DS and just thought 'Wow, I'm going to have another one of those!'

I had such a bad time giving birth to DS, followed by PND and even that isn't making me upset ... I just think that the human race is amazing that we think that way ...

Jodiesmum, I was worried like you about not feeling sick at 6 weeks as I had done with DS but I did start feeling bad just after that so don't worry ... also my SIL had two very healthy pregnancies and NO sickness at all in either one ...

My scan is booked for the 12th November ... we can't decide whether to take DS with us (he will be 3 at the end of Nov). He has no idea that Mummy has a baby in her tummy (no signs yet at 8 1/2 weeks), he only knows that Mummy feels poorly most of the day ('Have you got a tummy ache Mummy? Did you drink your milk a bit quickly? Shall I rub it for you?' - how sweet is that?)... Sorry, rabbiting again, what I meant to ask was, is he too young to know yet and should we take him to the scan?

Laters ...

THanks Katherine and Ghosty, it's great getting some feedback on this as I haven't told anyone I'm pregnant yet - except dh who isn't particularly helpful (looks at me like I'm mad - "are you saying you WANT to feel ill??). Tme seems to be going very slowly at the moment, can't wait to get to 13 wks.

Hi Ghosty, when I was pg with DD, DS was only 10 mths old so too young to understand. When my pal had a baby some time later, her DD was 3 and really into the pg. So this time round I told the kids as soon as I knew, I felt so rotten they would have worried about me. When I had the mc scare I told them the baby was poorly. DS has been so sweet ever since. Tells me he loves the baby, cuddles me and strokes my tummy and definielty wants to come to the scan (how do they open your tummy to see the baby mummy?). DD is 2.5 and although she is not so into it she does has some understanding. The scan can be a magical thing so if you feel comfortable sharing the news then I'm sure your DS would love to be a part of it. I think its good to make them feel involved early on.

It's crazy isn't it. You hate feeling crap any time but especially if the norm is feeling well it just darkens the mood. But then if you don't feel crap you just worry about why you don't. Can't win either way. I have to say for me that things improved greatly from week 12, then I had a minor 2 day blip around 14 weeks but am now feeling good. Still a little tired (prob more to do with 2.5 year old) and have to watch quantity and timing of meals but not to the same extent as before.

I told ds 1 after my scan but I had been putting the thought in his head with his baby pictures and a friend had a baby 7 weeks ago. We have the scan picture on our computer and he can recognise it is a baby and knows I have one in my tummy. He kisses and strokes my tummy and this morning helped me put cream on! Awww! He tells everyone I have a peanut and a baby in my tummy (the baby is called peanut for the moment) but only if people ask. He hasn't yet volunteered the info. I want to involve him as much as possible so we'll see.

10 weeks today. Quarter of the way there already. Wow! Also feeling much better - less sick, more energy, not sure if I feel happy about that or not. Made an appointment with the MW at last (Wednesday)

Wahay Katherine - well done!

Just read your post on the thread about sex in pregnancy and added to it.

I am feeling just like you in terms of hyper sensitivity - can't bear to be touched and so NO nooky is being had in the ghosty household! DH is feeling very frustrated about it and is convinced that we will never have sex again as we have conceived our second child ... you see my libido left me after DS was born and never really came back (except when we were trying for this baby). Not sure what to do about it ... hopefully some kind of normality will come back eventually ...

ghosty, IKWYM! having said that, 16 weeks on Weds and starting to feel vaguely normal again...apart from almost going to hospital for consultant appointment this morning when the date is actually for Weds...nappy brain strikes early!
how's everyone else feeling?

Hi bundle,

The last couple of days I have felt a bit better - beginning to manage the nausea now ... can't go longer than 2 hours without food (little tyke is starting 2 hourly feeds already ) so if I remember that I can ward off the sickness ... it is still awful in the evening though ... not morning sickness, evening sickness, that's what I've got!

ghosty, I had that too..especially if we ate late (ie after about 6.30pm!) so I snacked a lot on crisps, bread and other healthy things. my stomach looks huge now, much bigger than last time probably due to thick layer of fat and absence of stomach muscles. feeling much 'fuller' too and woke at 4am for no apparent reason, couldn't sleep and pottered for a bit, listened to some music and finally dozed around 6.45...so frantic rush to get dd to nursery when woke at 8.15! you had a c-section too last time, didn't you? I'm seeing my consultant tomorrow..presumably about my 'options'!