Positive stories after a MMC?

[AMS19]

Hi ladies

I suffered a MMC yesterday at 9+5 and really feel like I need some positive stories to get me through this time. It was my first pregnancy and I fell first cycle trying. I'm waiting on next steps but hoping to have either surgery or medical management in the next week and would then be keen to start trying again. I know the advice to wait for a fresh cycle but i don't believe there is any evidence it is higher risk not to, and it is more to help time the pregnancy. Obviously we won't start trying until I get negative tests.

Does anyone has any positive stories after a MMC and falling again successfully and quickly?

Sorry appreciate this is a highly selfish post! Just feel I need something positive to focus on...

Xx

@ThirdTimeLuckyIHope so glad you had good support. I've not told many people but it helps me that way. Hope I follow in your footsteps xx

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage/4119053-Support-thread-for-those-experiencing-or-recently-experienced-a-MC-MMC?watched=1

I've created this thread so those of us going through this that want a little support group and to stay in touch can.

@dmt1982
@Rtmhwales
@Seasalt1984
@Pixieandpip
@mia2201

No pressure at all to join. I totally appreciate some need to deal with this alone. But it is there if you feel going through this together will help.

If anyone else ends up reading this and is going through the same thing, please join us on the above thread too.

To all the wonderful ladies who have commented above. Thank you! You've helped more than words can say xx

A miscarriage is always heart breaking. But one thing you must realise is....IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. My first pregnancy led to a miscarriage at week 6. I felt devastated and thought I won't have any kids again (I.e. something was wrong). I waited for my next cycle before we started trying again. And 5 years later I have 2 beautiful DD's. So MMC is very common, don't beat yourself up. Come back and share good news

Aww thanks so much @dchange I've let my head run away with me and am now convinced I'll never have children. I know I sound ridiculous and millions have it so much worse, but I'm such a negative person sometimes and always expect the worst of myself. Thank you for sharing your story these help SO much, as awful as it is to hear others have suffered. I'm so happy you have your girls ❤❤❤

Sorry to hear of all your losses .

I had a mmc in April 2019 and had surgical management; it was 100% the right decision for me. I fell pregnant again in December 2019 and my daughter was born in September! She's now almost 15 weeks old and babbling away on her tummy time toy.

I was petrified during the first trimester and still anxious throughout the rest of the time I was pregnant! I was extremely depressed after my mmc but if I had to do it all again to get my dd I would in a heartbeat.

@Chanel05 that is amazing. I'm so sorry you went through that. I'm definitely concerned about how my mental health will be following this but so determined to get my baby. It is the hardest thing, the lack of control. I'm so so happy to hear your little girl is thriving 💗 x

I had a miscarriage in May this year. My period returned in the July and I had one more in August then was pregnant again. I'm currently 21 weeks and all is well so far.

That is amazing @GrandTheftWalrus thank you so much for sharing. Huge congratulations xx

Thanks. Unfortunately I wasn't allowed the surgical management due to covid. I also had to go through it all alone as my partner wasn't allowed to come with me. I had the tablets on 21nd May and it took till 7th June for it to actually pass fully.

My period was then 13th July and 11th August which was bang on for my cycle.

@GrandTheftWalrus if my surgery wasn't tomorrow I would fully expect it to get cancelled. I'm hoping it will still go ahead tomorrow just in time before they stat forcing people to medical management. I have to go alone though, my husband isn't allowed. Covid has definitely made everything so much harder, but the positive is being able to hide away from the world more easy during such a dark time

Sorry for your loss.
I had 3 miscarriages in 2019 May, August and December.
I found out i was pregnant again in July 2020 this was our last time, it was super hard to get excited and i have worried so much but i am now 24 weeks.
Due to research, my age, and what was found on one of the scans i started taking vitamin D, folic acid and a low dose of aspirin while trying to convince.

@Guest1233 I'm so sorry to hear what you went through. Amazing ending though. I was already taking a prenatal vitamin but am taking extra folic acid and vitamin D this time. I've also ordered the aspirin too. Did you just start taking it or speak to your doctor first?

@AMS19 I read on here about it then did further reading online. My 3rd miscarriage scan at 6 weeks found everything to be fine however they found a blood clot behind baby, that's why i chose to take 1 75mg aspirin a day.
The hospital now have me on 150mg aspirin and I have claxane injections too. Im classed as high risk.

Thanks @Guest1233 with mine there was a small haematoma inside. Everything I've read said it probaboy won't do any harm. I'm tempted to just take it and see. Thanks so much for replying I really appreciate it

@AMS19 yes stick with a low dose. Your very welcome and good luck with everything.

So sorry for your loss. You will feel a bit better as each day passes if that helps.
I fell pregnant our first month of trying and was incredibly surprised. Unfortunately I had a MMC. We had it confirmed that the baby had died at around 10 weeks. I was so incredibly sad.
I read up on miscarriage and did my best to get my iron reserves back up, made my DH take vitamins. We got pregnant again the next cycle. He is now a teenager and brought such joy.

@JingleCatJingle thank you so much for sharing your story. Great to hear you got your little boy! Im praying I follow in your footsteps and fall with my rainbow baby next cycle xx

Thank you so much @AMS19 for forwarding the link to this thread. My story is two mc that happened naturally, one at 5 weeks before I had DD who is now 14 months, one at 6 weeks in August and this one, a mmc discovered at 9 weeks but the baby was only measuring 6.3 and no heartbeat. I was left to see what happened over Christmas- unfortunately I had a massive haemorrhage Christmas morning and ended up in hospital.

A scan Boxing Day showed about 2.5cm of retained placenta. Boxing Day eve I had another massive bleed and assumed I had passed the last of it as barely had any bleeding since.

Unfortunately at my follow up scan today it's still there, despite so much blood and tissue loss. I've been given the option of medical management or the ERPC under general and I can't make my mind up. Not at all. I keep switching between the two constantly.

I'm nearly 40 so time isn't on our side and I'm worried that MM won't work or I'll have another terrifying bleed again at home. With surgery I'm scared I won't wake up and will leave my beautiful DD or that I'll end up damaged and the fact we seem to get pregnant easily will be ruined.

I'm really funny about any sort of unnatural interference up there- I don't even really like using tampons and had no pain relief giving birth as I was terrified of 'unnatural' interventions.

I just don't know what to do.

@glowingtwig ❤❤❤

@glowingtwig sorry to read your story. It brought memories back for me. I was told with the medical management you can bleed loads again. Especially if you are a bleeder anyway.
I opted for the operation more so because the massive bleed I had scared the life out of me. My clots where as big as my hand and I wasn't far from going into shock.
Also without sounding insensitive i just wanted it all over and done with.
Hope you get sorted soon xx

Sorry for your loss OP.

When I chose medical management not surgical it was because I was told with the shape of my uterus surgery had risks that meant if it went wrong it could leave me infertile, so as it was my first pregnancy I just couldn't risk it. I'd do the same again, even though it didn't work and I had to go through it twice in 10 days.

I am now pregnant again and going for my 12 week scan Monday. Be careful taking aspirin without medical indications. I booked a one off consultation with a private specialist who told me it would have increased the miscarriage risk for my then 5 week embryo for reasons I couldn't possibly have known.

I really hope everything goes well for you and you do get to have a baby next year.

Thanks @Flittingaboutagain amazing news on your pregnancy. Huge congratulations!! What a lovely start to the new year.
You're right about aspirin. I'm so torn as it is such a simple fix but if it could put the baby at risk I don't want to do it. How did you find a fertility specialist? I live in London so sure we must have loads, just not sure where to start!

An update from me in case anyone who commented sees this or any future ladies read this. I had been booked in for surgery Wednesday. After waiting around all day it got cancelled at 4pm. Back in at 6.30am yesterday and at 11am it got cancelled again. All due to covid and lack of theatre space! In the end, my hospital managed to courier a MVA kit (they don't usually offer it) and I had it via MVA. Unfortunately, given it was all such a rush and the ward I was on before didn't know much about the treatment I had no pain relief (except the local anesthetic gel) and no gas and air. This made it unbearable at times and very painful. But...they scanned to check to make sure they got it all and meant I avoided going under. Ive woken up today fine with zero cramps so far and minimal bleeding. My advice for anyone would be MVA could be a perfect option as it is not as scary or serious as surgery and avoids going under, but insist on painkillers before and ask for gas and air to help you through it. I suspect a few hospitals during covid might switch to this option!

Wishing everyone a very Happy New year xxx

I'm glad you're OK. Don't over do it though.

If you don't feel comfortable asking friends for a recommendation then I'd look for recommendations from women for the clinics close to you that you can find on the HFEA website search function.

Pleased to read you are feeling OK and what a stressful scary time you've had I really hope this is a better year for you now!

Re the clinics - I googled it and then asked Mumsnet if they recommended my local one. I really wouldn't risk it if you can't get a doctor to OK it.

I had a mmc in April this year after trying for our first for 18 months, didn’t know until 12 week scan where there was no heartbeat and baby measured 10+6. I opted for surgery as soon as I was given the option as just wanted it over with and find it easier knowing what to expect. Was in for the day, put under for surgery and when I came round just had quite a lot of bleeding but absolutely no pain whatsoever. They did prescribe codeine incase of cramps but I didn’t have any at all.
Got pregnant again in July and only 12 weeks left until he’s here!