But breast isn't always the best thing for babies either. How many times do you hear on here where mums have felt they had to continue breastfeeding when they were actually not managing and their baby wasn't thriving, but they ploughed on because "breast is best", or people who end up exclusively pumping, sometimes with relative ease, but sometimes where it means they actually lose out on some time with their baby when they could be bonding? Yes these are relatively rare things, but surely formula is better in these cases, or at least it isn't a clear case of breast being best. For me, it is only best as long as it really is working for everyone involved.
And obviously, babies, cannot easily communicate their wishes. So really it always comes down to the mother's choice.
And you're right, you have no business telling people how to feed. If a bottle feeding advocate popped up and told you your baby was being under fed and that you were using your baby for your own satisfaction and that babies don't want to be breastfed, you'd rightly be absolutely furious and you'd, rightly, have the backing of pretty much any HCP and most of the general public too.
You have no business speaking up for babies or telling women what THEIR babies want. None whatsoever. And I say that as someone who 100% committed to breastfeeding both my dcs. Unfortunately with dc1 it didn't work out for long, but that was down to some serious medical problems in both of us where it was quite literally impossible to breastfeed or even express, not through lack of wanting to give it a go. So we probably have similar views on how we wanted to feed our babies, except you believe your experience gives you the right to coerce and dictate to other women, whereas I don't. And you'll get support on here too, because breast is ALWAYS best apparently.