How many pregnancies, how many babies? (TW)

[Tucancrossing]

Not starting this thread to scare or upset anyone, so please don't read any further if talking about miscarriage might upset or worry you! Only asking because I've seen a couple of high profile people talk about their MCs recently and it's highlighted to me how common they are and that people just don't talk about them so they feel rare. I sort of knew this in theory, but it's really hit home. It seems there are very few (lucky) people who have had several healthy babies and no losses.

So, if you're comfortably answering, how many pregnancies have you had and how did they end?

I count myself as having had 1 pregnancy which thankfully gave me my little boy. I also had an unplanned CP but it was such an early loss (my period started just 3 days late after 1 faint line) and I was so emotionally unattached that I really didn't feel like I'd had a MC at all, so I don't really count it.

7 pregnancies
2 children

MMC at 10 weeks
MC 8 weeks
MC 7 weeks
DD1
MC 8 weeks
MMC 12 weeks
DD2

Gave up after MC 5 as I couldn’t bear it anymore, was devastated when I got pregnant again by mistake with the thought of going through another loss. Huge surprise when everything went smoothly. Strangely feel no pain or distress looking back, feel oddly disassociated from it all.

1 pregnancy 1 baby.

I'm so sorry for everyone's losses. It is so important to talk about this subject so people do not feel so alone and without support.

7 pregnancies
1 child

2 pregnancies, 2 live and healthy babies. Conceived naturally first time of trying with both. I am incredibly blessed and very grateful, especially as I have health issues.

3 pregnancies
4 embryos conceived
1 live birth (just! It was touch and go!) dd

The ONLY 2 women I know who've never had even 1 loss are my mother and one of my aunts. Everyone else I know has had at least one loss. Some have had so many I'm amazed they managed to survive the pain.

It is a lot more common than people realise and rarely talked about (understandably so)

I previously answered but for the PP who wanted to know age:

1st pregnancy- MMC - 26

Next 2 pregnancies- healthy babies

Next 3 pregnancies - MC, MC, MMC -32 & 33

Last pregnancy- healthy baby -34

I've had 2 pregnancies, both ending in healthy babies.

I think I've been very lucky, as 1 in 4 does seem quite high really.

5 pregnancies

3 MMCs
My dd
1 MC

It was a struggle but totally worth it.

2 pregnancies, 2 babies.

3 pregnancies, 3 babies. All in my early to mid 30s. I know I have been lucky.

4 confirmed pregnancies. 3 live births and 1 termination. Possibly a very early miscarriage but not confirmed.

5 pregnancies: 3 babies, 2 miscarriages (one at 7 weeks and one at 9 weeks), and my little boy died of congenital heart defects at 10 days old.

I try to talk about my miscarriages to my friends, and about Henry too of course. I barely shut up about him. The only people I knew who talked about getting pregnant were the ones where it happened immediately with no problems. I am still really happy for those people and why should they not talk about their experiences, but it made the wait to get pregnant and then the miscarriages before I had my first daughter feel like such a personal failure. But it isn't a failure, each pregnancy is a miracle in itself. From childhood, having children is presented as a natural and easy thing to do but it's not.

Love to all of you who have lost a pregnancy or child

@doadeer

Does anyone mind answering how old they were when they miscaried?

24 32 36 38

6 pregnancies
2 kids
2 early miscarriages (under 6 weeks, just a heavy period really)
2 terminations (one by choice when young, one due to abnormal scan)

1 healthy normal pregnancy in my 20s
2 healthy normal pregnancies in my early 30s
1 mmc and 1 chemical in my early 40s

Sorry

That should read
24
32
36
38 - became pregnant with current pregnancy. All going well and at 36 weeks.

@Tucancrossing

I read that since accurate early pregnancy testing was developed and particularly as it's got cheaper, the number of miscarriages has doubled, whilst there are other factors such as older parents, it's most likely the majority would have been considered a late period in years gone by. Consequently very few people I know haven't had one, by the time I was 3 days late I tested and was positive, 8 days later I miscarried, if I hadn't have tested I wouldn't have known for sure.

This thread should be read by all these people who insist on asking "when are you having another DC/why is your DC an only" etc. Most people don't have a clue how common pregnancy loss is.

On the other hand, the statistics say that 1 in 4 women will experience pregnancy loss - so you're still far more likely to never experience it.

I had my miscarriages at 27, 29, 29, 35, 36, 36. My children at 28, 30, 38.

“Statistics say that 1 in 4 women will experience pregnancy loss” - is that right? I thought it was 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage, which is a totally different (and much higher) number...?

I think it’s 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage, not 1 in 4 women.

movingonup20 I miscarried at about 6w, and around that time I was reading a parenting book from the 1950s, which talked about how pregnancy was confirmed after you’d missed 2 periods. So in 1950 I wouldn’t have necessarily identified myself as having miscarried, my period would have been late. Although many women would have known they were pregnant by recognising the symptoms, there would have been a doubt, wouldn’t there. And of course before reliable contraception many ‘late periods’ may have been welcome.

6 pregnancies, 3 children.

4 pregnancies, 2 children

DC1
DC2
MMC + ERCP after 12 week scan
MC at approx 12 weeks

2 pregnancies, 1st a twin pregnancy and second a mmc anembryonic at 8 weeks. Ive got one DS from the twin pregnancy. Absolute love of my life

My sister also had 4 pregnancies and 2 children except hers were;

MC at 10 weeks
DC1
MC at 9 weeks
DC2 (placenta previa and EMCS followed by breast cancer so they didn't try for any more kids)