Late October - thread 6

[DressingGown87]

Thread 6 ladies! And the final one

Girls: @DressingGown87 @Jaffas22 @DogCatDex @EmmaA96 (twins) @Parks11 @LadyB90 @Strawberries4days @LST87 @sls668 @plentyofplants Uppsydaisy (Girl twin)

Boys: @sunbreak @FirstSurprise001 @WaveStreet @roarfeckingroar
@Mc3209 @KitKatKit @1990shopefulftm @Lolllyf @HelenMarie1001 @Freddie1987 @BS9790 @hmeadow24 @Ghostworld @roarfeckingroarr @Glooorb @mamavee @UpsyDaisy1234 (Boy twin) @Samk93

Surprise / Waiting
@60sPony @Monkeyseesmonkeydoesnt @AdventureAhead @Elizag20 @justtb @Clalou83 @SJR86 @Flora20 @Watersintheclouds @Jaffas22 @justtb

If I have missed you! Sorry! I did quickly scan through the start of the last thread, to add people and update the list, but only did this quick.

@Sls668 sorry baby is being stubborn, hopefully she has a change of heart. But glad your not too uncomfortable.

@Mc3209 thank you, I have them a call they didn’t seem to think there was any policy. Paige is at the doctors tomorrow, and has a midwife Thursday, so will ask them. I have steps too, I take the pram out first, and then take Paige. Hope you manage to get out, and the weather is kind to you both.

@1990shopefulftm hope that’s all a sign of things progressing! Good luck!

@FirstSurprise001 glad your little one is feeding better, hopefully that gives you a brighter outlook on the days.

@Lannie Congratulations on your little one! Your both safe, and hopefully recovering well. Hope the newborn cuddles soon make the labour a distant memory.

@Monkeyseesmonkeydoesnt hope your ok, and have enjoyed your relaxing day!

@sls668 hope your walks work, and things progress for you before the weekend.

@Plentyofplants hope this is a good sign for you, I would still see if the midwife can do a sweep tomorrow to try help things along.

@SamK93 hope your ok! I can’t imagine how hard it is juggling two DC on top of a newborn, on very little sleep. Are both your DC school age? Can you get rest in the day. Housework, do what you can, when you can. I think your DP is out of order, your trying your best and he quite frankly needs to take some of the load. Try take some time for yourself and maybe have a bath, go do the food shop. Leave him to try juggle things for a hour or so!

@WaveStreet @Plentyofplants i m still contracting at home, about 12 hours in now, I ve rang the birth centre a couple of times as the last time my contractions met what the nhs says you should speak to a midwife for but they ve said I m coping too well at home basically.

@SamK93 bluntly I think your DH needs a wake up call and it doesn't seem like you gain anything from him being there.

@1990shopefulftm glad something is happening for you and you're coping well so far. Hopefully that means that by the time you're ready for hospital your DH will be allowed straight in with you. That's my plan/hope!

@WaveStreet I m very lucky in that as long as they decided I should stay when I get examined, he should be allowed in relatively quickly with me.

The last midwife I spoke to was implying it could still be days yet but I had no idea that when they say that they meant contractions every 5 minutes, I d got the impression latent labour was supposed to be much less frequent contractions than that.

@SamK93 your DH is not helping!! Also isn't the whole idea during the newborn stage is that we do NOT leave the baby alone? I tend to my baby's every cry wherever possible, when he cries I pick him up. Yes there are some school of thought that will say that the baby becomes overly reliant and "spoilt" but I didn't think that applies to the newborn phase

@1990shopefulftm keeping my fingers crossed for you and hope you're resting as much as you can for now 🤞

@DressingGown87 yes my dd is 8 years old and my ds is 5. Every time I try and get some rest during the day something comes up, or my dh will just be banging around the house. He has the mentality that women should do all this anyway.

@1990shopefulftm I've actually said that to his face so many times, that I literally don't need you as I do everything myself, light heartedly but deep down I've actually meant it! He just makes my load heavier!

@Glooorb babies will not stay babies forever, if I want to hold him or pick him up when I please I bloody well will do. They grow up so fast and you can't 'spoil' a baby with love! I have backwards in-laws that seem to think picking the baby up will spoil him. I did it with my other 2 and I'm not still walking around holding them am I 🙄

Bad news, after 24 hours I ve gotten to 1cm, going to have to change my birth plan as I rang the hospital in tears due to the pain so I don't think gas and air is going to cut it anymore.

@1990shopefulftm bless you it does sound like it’s going to be a long one for you 😭 mine was 21 hours in the hospital total and about 8 at home so I feel for you already! All I would say is focus on your breathing as much as possible - in for 4 (imagine you’re blowing up a balloon) and out for 8 (imagine you’re blowing out hundreds of candles - do the side up side action with your head). I don’t know why but it distracts you massively. My birth plan completely went out the window and I think you just know what pain relief you’re going to need when the time comes. Don’t be a martyr, get the epidural if you think you need it - I couldn’t have got through the last few cms and pushing without. Good luck lovely - have everything crossed for you ♥️

Day 4 with Finley and I guess my milk has come in because I’ve woken up like bloody Pamela Anderson 😂

Interested to hear how you’re juggling the night with your partners.. DP has been incredible in the day, doesn’t stop cleaning/feeding me/ changing and washing the baby so I kinda feel like in the night when he can’t do a lot I should just let him sleep. He’s told me to wake him up from about 5am and he’ll take over but Sod’s law Finley normally had a feed about 5 and then sleeps through until 8 so I don’t really see the point in waking him!

@SamK93 seems like he needs a reality check of the real world. I would honestly tell him to get out the house, so you can At least have some sleep. Your not doing anything wrong, as you said they don’t stay babies forever. I hope it gets easier for you, but as you said may be easier on your own. I have moments where I wish she had her dad here, so she could have more attention, I could have more help. But by his attitude I don’t think he would have done anything, and I would rather do this alone than try and force co parenting with an idiot with no interest.

@1990shopefulftm aww sorry to hear things are taking it’s time. Try and rest as much possible at home. It’s your labour and your body, and you will know what is right at the time. Hope your little one is here soon.

@FirstSurprise001 Pamela Anderson 😂 can’t help on the DP situation 🙈 but would say if Finley is happy asleep and not needing a feed then leave him to it. But it sounds like your DP is being very supportive.

@SamK93 how are you feeling, lovely? I remember you saying your little one was cluster feeding as well.. I feel like a zombie with cluster feeds and that's me with just one baby and no other DC to look after.

@1990shopefulftm best of luck! You will have your little one here soon 😘

@FirstSurprise001 I don't wake DH in the night. He is doing a lot during the day and will need his sleep especially when he goes back to work. Other than change a nappy, there is not much he can actually do really.

@1990shopefulftm you're so close to meeting your baby now, even if things don't go to plan A you have time to think of a plan B that works for you.

Still nothing happening for me!

@FirstSurprise001 @Wavestreet
i ve taken my birth plan out of my notes now and am now just going with ideally I d like to avoid an epidural and have delayed cord clamping and leave the rest to whatever happens there and then rather than what I was going for before, I m currently booked in to go to the midwife unit but if I did need an epidural it's right down the corridor to get to the ward.

Contractions have slowed right down today so I think this is a days rather than hours labour for me. Incredibly grateful the midwifes let my DH in with me to be checked out last night, my pulse and BP were getting too high for a bit so I d hate to think what they would have hit if I was alone so anyone still waiting on babies, make sure you re drinking plenty as if not the pain and dehydration isn't good for you.

Just had my sweep, I'm 2cm dilated and cervix is 50% effaced. Midwife could also tickle baby's head. Fingers crossed it gets things going! I'm now back bouncing on my ball!!

@1990shopefulftm sorry its dragging on for you how many days overdue are you now?

@Monkeyseesmonkeydoesnt glad your sweep was possible! Hope it kicks things off for you. Mine wasn't so successful today she couldnt quite get into the cervix so will try again on friday 🤞

@WaveStreet I m 9 days overdue now

When I was struggling on Tuesday and we thought baby could be imminent DH started his paternity leave, today I would have been able to manage on my own so feel a bit sad for him that this slow labour has used his leave when perhaps we should have held off.

@1990shopefulftm it’s so frustrating isn’t it? My partner has 4 weeks off but it started last Friday (my due date). It’s been nice having him at home and I’ve felt safer Covid wise but still super annoying that we’re nearly one week in with no baby!

Waters broke at half 4 so rang the birth centre, been on a ward contracting alone for two hours as my blood pressure is too high and waiting on a doctor's opinion as to what happens now. I want to scream at all the people who haven't listened to covid guidelines

Good luck @1990shopefulftm

I had some cramping at 4am for about an hour but nothing since

@1990shopefulftm hope your husband has been allowed in to join you now and labour goes well for you today!

Hope all is well with the others still waiting...

@60sPony unfortunately he hasn't been able to still , been contracting for 3 hours on just paracetamol. Taking everything I ve got not to walk out of the hospital so I don't have to be alone anymore

@1990shopefulftm sorry to hear you’re on your own. Have they said at what point your DH will be able to join you?

I’m 1 week overdue today - I always thought baby would be early but now I’m facing the very real prospect of an induction on Tuesday. I feel like we keep having false starts. The last 2 nights I’ve had tightenings and what I think are contractions starting at about 9pm but they fizzle out by around 1am. It’s so frustrating but I’ll spend another day bouncing on my ball today and try to get the oxytocin flowing.

@1990shopefulftm good luck! Sorry it’s been such a tough start for you, and it’s so rubbish that your husband can’t be with you just now. Hopefully they let him in soon! Will they let you go for a bath? The warm water really helped me last time.

@Monkeyseesmonkeydoesnt glad they managed to do your sweep, and hope things start happening again soon.

For everyone else still hanging on in there, hope you’re all doing ok. Still nothing happening for me! Seeing the midwife on Sat, and she’ll hopefully manage to do a sweep.